My father was an angry man who used to take out his frustrations on me. I was later diagnosis-ed with PTSD. Yelling and screaming only builds resentment. I suggest getting an outside opinion from a professional you trust. Sometimes you need someone who is removed from the situation and has wisdom and experience to help you navigate the forest from the trees. Parenting is a skill and just because you love your kids does not mean that your skills can't be improved on.

My mother yelled at all of us for the littlest things, like not doing something quickly enough. I never really knew what would set her off and lived in constant fear that I would do something wrong. The yelling and the accompanying put-downs ("Can't you do anything right!") could be so brutal; it would simply reduce me to tears. I totally get why anyone, much less a child, would cry when she gets yelled at. My question to the mother : why are you yelling? And does it solve the issue at hand? I don't know about you, but it's never fun to be yelled at. In fact, it can be downright terrifying. If she's crying because you are yelling at her, then the simple answer is to stop yelling. Find another way to express your disappoint, anger, or fear.