Concerned Parent Asks How To Make Their Daughter Stop Crying After They Yell At Her, Gets The Best Response

My father was an angry man who used to take out his frustrations on me. I was later diagnosis-ed with PTSD. Yelling and screaming only builds resentment. I suggest getting an outside opinion from a professional you trust. Sometimes you need someone who is removed from the situation and has wisdom and experience to help you navigate the forest from the trees. Parenting is a skill and just because you love your kids does not mean that your skills can't be improved on.

My mother yelled at all of us for the littlest things, like not doing something quickly enough. I never really knew what would set her off and lived in constant fear that I would do something wrong. The yelling and the accompanying put-downs ("Can't you do anything right!") could be so brutal; it would simply reduce me to tears. I totally get why anyone, much less a child, would cry when she gets yelled at. My question to the mother : why are you yelling? And does it solve the issue at hand? I don't know about you, but it's never fun to be yelled at. In fact, it can be downright terrifying. If she's crying because you are yelling at her, then the simple answer is to stop yelling. Find another way to express your disappoint, anger, or fear.

I so with my English could be better to express my feelings at this moment. This post almost made me cry in a ramen restaurant. I have been yelled at, kicked at, slapped at, spanked by hangers (until they broke) from maybe 3-22 (I'm going to be 23 in July) . I'm doing great, doing my master's in a prestigious university in Europe, having friends and hobbies etc. But few know that I've always been struggling deep in my heart. I have depression and anxiety. I have nightmares and flashbacks of my parents abusing me. And I know that I've always been seeking for appreciation no matter how much I already got. My therapist said it's like a blackhole of mine. You know what is the worst? I still don't fully believe that my parents

It doesn't matter if you talk or yell. If all you do is reprimand and criticise, you destroy self esteem and breed resentment. And when you're gone, you're child will feel guilty for being grateful and knowing their life is easier and happier without you. Trust me, I know. Treat your child with respect, educate them in right and wrong but above all make them feel valued and loved.

Nobody likes being yelled at. Yelling is dominating and aggressive. We train supervisors not to yell at employees but claim it is a matter of "context" when it comes to children. Yelling at your children is destructive. My mother was a screamer, and i became one. I would take a brief break and come out and apologize to my children, then we would talk about the real issue. Eventually, thank god, it became a very rare occurrence. https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/yelling-at-kids#1 https://www.webmd.com/parenting/features/stop-yelling-at-your-kids https://psychology-spot.com/screaming-to-children-damages-their/