I'm 64 my husband is 53. We've been together for 30 years. He has two sons from a previous marriage. He began drinking about 7 years ago. One day four or five friends called me out of the blue asking me if I was okay. Are you and hubby still together? Yes. The fifth call I said okay what the hell is going on? She said you need to see what your husband posted on his Facebook wall

I went on Facebook and saw my husband drunk posing with a very attractive young barmaid. She's the epitome of everything he said he hated about women. He doesn't like skinny girls, he doesn't like makeup. She is short, skinny with long fake fingernails and tons of makeup. Now I feel like he's been lying to me for the past 30 years and he was never attracted to me at all. The caption he wrote said I woke up this morning and got myself a beer with Susie. When I saw it I burst into tears. I asked him to take it down. He said no because they're just friends. He said nobody would think they were sleeping together, those are just song lyrics. I said it's not appropriate for you to post pictures of yourself drunk with another woman and saying you slept with her. I got five phone calls today everybody thinks you're cheating on me. You're humiliating me with this picture. He adamantly refused to take it down. I told him I was going to divorce him because of his blatant disrespect and disregard for my feelings. Up until this happened he never even looked at another woman in my presence. He was always a decent honest man until he began drinking. A few months later he got really drunk on his birthday and said I can't believe you got mad at me over a stupid picture. Donna is the one you should worry about. Donna is the one with the chubby curvy body, the kind of body I like. In the morning when he was sober I calmly explained to him again how that picture hurt me. I raised his children every weekend Friday Saturday Sunday for 16 years. They are now adults living in another state. We had not seen them in at least 2 years. When they came to visit he told them to meet him at the bar. The next day he posted pictures of him and his children with Susie the barmaid. The caption said We are family and Susie has a heart of gold. He never even told me they were coming! I was heartbroken and so was his brother. Even though neither of us drink we would have gone to the bar to see the kids. Susie told me she has no interest in my husband other than a friend. She thinks of him as a father figure. Anyone who thinks otherwise is crazy, and why would people think he's cheating with her? I said well look at you and look at me. I'm three times your size and 25 years older than you. Please don't take any more pictures with my husband, it's humiliating me. Previous to this I was never jealous of anyone. I was always self-confident. I became so insecure I sat in the parking lot of a Halloween store crying because I remembered the sexy costume Susie wore last year. They don't make sexy costumes in my size. I dressed as Cleopatra and went to the party. As soon as I saw Susie in a playboy bunny costume I burst into tears. I hid in my car and the bathroom. Washing my face so no one would know I was crying. A few months later they did it to me again. This time she posted a picture of my husband drunk squished in between her and another hot young bar maid doing shots. I told him I don't love him anymore. I have to deal with seeing that barmaid on every holiday, at every party, every time I go there. He asks Donna to go outside and grab a smoke with him leaving me sitting alone at the bar. I don't drink and I hate going there to begin with. He simply does not care about my feelings. I think he wants all of his men friends to think he's screwing Susie even though he's not. He never posted a picture of me on his Facebook wall. I'm really good looking for my age, sweet, funny and I'm very successful financially. I've always worked hard and retired early. I never had kids. Several of my family members say there's nothing wrong with what he did. They are just friends. I have to get over my own insecurities about being tall, fat and old. It's not her fault that she's short, thin and young. Am I the asshole?