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40 Bartenders Reveal The Worst First Dates They’ve Seen That Range From Cringe To Heartbreaking
Going on a first date can be exciting. You’re getting ready wondering how the night is going to go, and whether or not you will hit it off; and while many couples do, others - not so much.
It’s no surprise that bartenders are the people who get to witness many first dates—both good and bad. So when the redditor ‘gilesvg’ addressed the bartenders in the ‘Ask Reddit’ community, asking them to share stories of first dates going sour, they had plenty. If you’re curious about the fairytales that ended before they even began, too, scroll down to find them on the list below.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with a certified love life strategist, dating and relationship expert, Lisa Concepcion, who was kind enough to answer a few of our questions about how important first dates are.
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#1
Witnessed a high school reconnection/date where the girl showed up before him, dressed to the nines and obviously still infatuated with the idea of the football star. He shows up in a wife beater and a ball cap, scruffy/balding and not at all dressed for a date. Now its not a five star restaurant but a decent beach bar. She seems a bit put out but the date stumbles along.
I can't help but hover as things go from awkward reintroductions to attempts at conversation. She's trying desperately to convince herself this date is a good idea and he's a great guy and it's obvious he's not.
He's oblivious. Going on and on about how she'd make a great mom because she's a teacher. She replies joking "oh no, I love the kids but I get to give them back at the end of the day" etc and he doubles down. She changes the subject to fishing, he says she can't really enjoy fishing. She repeats herself and shares a story about fishing with her dad. He repeats its a man's hobby and she can't possibly actually find it fun. It just goes on like this and I can see she's getting more and more upset.
At one point, he leans over and says something into her ear. Her face contorts in disgust. She says something like "that's how you think this date is going?"
He goes to the bathroom (still oblivious, this man, gotta hand it to him), she takes her chance and waves me over.
"Two shots of fireball and the check, please."
I shoot over to her, shots in hand. She knocks them back one after the other and I start giggling.
"Can I just say something?" She nods. "This is in no way my business, but you seem really sweet and are way out of his league." She looks at me in shock and says "really?"
"Yes. 100%"
She decided to pay the whole tab and jetted off before he got back. He looked at me and the empty seats and tried to hand me cash, I waved him off saying she had already paid. His utter confusion was so precious. It's still my favorite awkward first date story. So uneventful but just -chefs kiss-.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 7 months ago
So this turnip thought it was going well? Such an awful attitude. If someone is a traditionalist don't be a tool about it. The fishing comment was very strange.
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#2
Not a bartender but saw a dude at the theater I used to work at. He was dressed up and had flowers for Valentine’s Day. He sat in the lobby for over an hour and quietly came up to the counter and asked if he could return his tickets.
#3
Not witnessed but heard girl and guy go on blind date. They've been talking on phone before to get to know each other and here comes first Date. Met at a bar. He was there first waiting and she came in. They talk for minute and he says "oh let me get the flowers I got you. It's in the car" he walks out and doesn't return. Felt bad for her. You can at least finish date or drink and then gracefully leave.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 7 months ago
Even if you find that you are not physically attracted to your date, have the decency and respect to at least have a drink or a bite to eat. Let them know that you two might be better off as friends, if that's true, but don't be rude and not say anything. If they ask for another date, tell them you're dating others and but maybe wouldn't mind hanging out again but amongst friends.
“The first date is all about the first impression,” the dating and relationship expert Lisa Concepcion told Bored Panda, discussing the importance of a first date. “This is when we are evaluating if the other person is a match to us. If a person is rude, distracted, lacks manners, isn't presentable and seems disheveled, it will impact our decision as to whether or not we choose to see them again.”
#4
A young couple, no more than twenty. He ordered for her (red flag #1). What he ordered for her was a salad (red flag #2, and a nice big "oof" to pair with it). He ordered a standard, meat-and-potatoes entree for himself.
Before the food arrived he went to the washroom, and she flagged me down, saying she was leaving and asked if she could pay her half. I told her no - he ordered everything, he could pay for it. She thanked me and bailed.
Took him probably 30 minutes to ask if she had left, and I explained that she had, and why.
And in the end, I got to eat the salad he ordered for her.
#5
Some old guy was describing some "oddities" of his childhood and why his kids and grandkids weren't raised to believe in Santa Clause (because he wasn't either) and this old lady just would not drop the issue and when he gently requested that they change the subject, she started raising her voice calling him spineless, useless, a disappointment of a man, and by that point I'd had enough and just told her she needed to hit the road because she was being an a*****e and scaring off customers. Told the old guy his tab was on me and that I'd arrange for either a cab for him or for his "date". He didn't take me up on it, just left me a few $20 bills and they walked out together before he sheepishly thanked me.
Another sad one, a guy showed up to the bar when it was a touch slow, I got him his first beer and noted he was dressed pretty nicely. Being the chatty guy I am, I asked him if there was a special occasion or something. He said he was waiting for a girl to show up for their first date and was pretty excited. Guy hangs out a bit at the bar top for a bit before milling around, comes back and orders some onion rings and another beer. Things got a bit busier so I didn't keep close tabs on him, but then an hour or two went by and I noticed he was still there alone, and he looked a bit confused and saddened, so I asked him how he was doing, he said she hadn't shown up yet. Because I've been there, I got him a drink on the house and asked if he needed anything else. Hour later, the date finally shows up, completely plastered and they walk up together to sit down and she tries ordering some shots. I know most bartenders in most places won't really stop themselves from over-serving someone, but I told her "perhaps you should slow down a bit, here's a glass of water and a free soda". She knocked both over, demanded shots. Guy was clearly embarrassed. They put in a small food order and about 30 minutes later I saw him pouring her into a cab with a to-go container. He came back in and we just chit-chatted when we could for the rest of the night.
Dan, I really hope you found the right woman for ya.
Anyone-for-tea? 7 months ago
Please someone make a pun about Santa “Clause” I don’t understand clauses enough to! I feel as if UK schooling let down anyone that went to school in the 80s/90s as I don’t think many of my peers understand it either! I can just about get my head around a verb, adjective, and noun 🤷🏻♀️
For many couples, a first date is enough to see if there’s potential for future interaction; especially when there’s probably not. “Typically it's because they got enough information to know the person isn't someone they can see having anything more with,” Lisa Concepcion suggested.
“I advise giving people three dates if you think you are attracted to them and like them after the first date,” she continued. “By the third date you can decide if they're a fit for you.”
#6
Wasn’t the bartender, was the guy… started at a nice Italian place, and then we went for drinks and dessert at the latin bar across the street in Bay Ridge, Brooklyn. Group of mid late 30s-early 50s women next to us. An argument broke out at the table next to us, a lighter got thrown and exploded under our feet, their table flipped knocking all the dishes and glasses everywhere, shattered. One woman pulled out a box cutter and slashed the other across the forehead.
So. Much. Blood. Far too much to come back from.
We couldn’t leave till we paid our check so we just kinda sat there in shock for the next half hour. I ended up walking her home, kissed her goodnight and called it. Violent crime really does ruin the mood…
It ended up on Citizen app as “woman slashed” and we were in the videos background lol. Worst part was we worked together and didn’t want people to know we went on a date so we had to sit the whole day the next day and not say anything about it. The good news was that I took it as a sign from god to stop pretending I was straight and came out a few weeks later and I’m happy to report I haven’t had any violence or crime issues on any date since!
Tl;dr - Fight at table next to us led to a slashing, so much blood, now I’m gay.
#7
Her husband walking in and taking her keys. Telling her not to come home. Then stopping right before he stormed out the door, turning abruptly and yelling “and f**k you mike, what the hell?!”.
#8
I was a bartender at a restaurant, and this teenage kid shows up, 15 or 16 years old, all nicely dressed up, a rose in his hands. Says he reserved a table for two people but wanted to wait at the entrance for his date. He stood there and waited and waited, ordered a coke at some point, and waited a little longer. The longer he waited, the worse he looked. After 45 min it was clear that she was not showing up. He didn't have to pay for his coke. Poor kid.
According to the dating expert, people are often willing to see a person more if they are aligned on values and worldview, plus are attracted to one another. As for the reasons they might not be willing to, she suggested that there can be quite a few:
“They didn't share the same dreams, goals, ambitions. They drank excessively. They lacked manners. They seemed immature and non committal. They were hyper focused on sex, all conversations led back to sex. They weren't a person you could imagine bringing around your family. You regretted leaving your pet alone 30 minutes into the date. You didn't find them attractive.”
#9
Was a bartender for over a decade, watched a guy leave the bar to use the bathroom, the girl he was with( first date) said to me,“ how many times do I have to bring a date here for you to finally hit on me?” I told her I was engaged and have zero interest , the guy was otw back from the bathroom and overheard her say that, proceeds to lose it on her in front of everyone, which is understandable, and they both scream at each other and leave the bar, that was their first date, and I have not seen anything worse since.
UpQuarkDownQuark (he/him) 7 months ago
How about go there without a date and stop playing stupid games?
#10
So I’m scrolling looking to see if I recognize myself in a story.
I was in a bar with a former Marine on our 3-4 date. He’d taken me shooting earlier in the week. I don’t even know how the conversation started, but it ended with him screaming that I needed to learn to shoot left handed because if I was shot in the right arm, how else would I be able to defend “our family”?!
We barely knew each other and there was no family. It was so painfully awkward paying the bill. I had to ride home with him but never answered a call from him again.
#11
I was witnessing what seemed like a great first date. So well they started making out at the bar. He had long hair but a 5 head and bald spot. His hat came off in the heated moment and I saw the look on her face.
I saw her weeks later and she used the phrase "hat fished" and I'll never forget it. Still feel bad for the dude, he was super nice and paid for everything.
The expert emphasized that it’s important to think certain things through before going on a first date and to be honest both with yourself and the date.
“The key thing is to be very clear with yourself about your purpose for dating. Are you dating for fun and nothing serious? Or, are you dating to attract your spouse or serious long-term relationship? Once you know exactly what your intention is for dating, you gain confidence and can openly and honestly express what you're dating for.
“This is a very important thing to discuss on a first date and if possible even beforehand through an initial video call. Why waste time? If you are dating to attract your spouse you're not going to want to go on a date with someone who is recently divorced and not looking to get serious,” she pointed out.
#12
I've been bartending for 20+ years and have seen A LOT of bad first dates but the one that will always stick out to me was the guy who had his mom vet his date for him. Like he was there at the other end of the bar but she had to sit and meet his mom first. They were the only 3 people in the bar at the time so it was suuuuuper awkward. I pretended to watch hockey but I was so intrigued I was eaves dropping the whole time. The poor girl seamed so lovely that she was too polite to just bail out of the situation so she actually did it! I immediately knew something was f***y when she walked in and got stopped by the mom on her approach to him. The guy seamed so comfortable that it clearly was not the first time it happened. So f*****g weird.
#13
Working at a craft beer bar, this guy asked me out right in front of his absolutely STUNNING date and kept winking at me throughout the night. She left, he did not get my number.
#14
Girl out with her friends ran into boyfriend who was supposed to be out with his friends...but was on a date. It turned into a whole thing in the parking lot.
“If you're both on the same page as far as what you want, then great topics are values-based topics,” Lisa Concepcion continued. “Asking open-ended questions such as ‘what was the last thing you splurged on for yourself,’ will give you a clear idea of how they are with money. Asking them how often they get to see their family will get you information on their family dynamic.
“It's very important to master communication and ask questions that encourage people to speak freely as you listen intently to gather data. Dating for data is all about engaging in meaningful conversation to learn more about the other person.
“It's also very important to have conversations about worldview, morals and values. You want to determine if you both are on the same page on important things that matter,” the expert emphasized.
#15
Was working a bar one weekday night. Woman comes in, orders a drink and sits at the bar. On the opposite end of the bar, a man comes in, orders a drink and takes a seat. An hour passes. They're sat in positions that block their view of the other. After an hour, I hear the man mutter, a f**k this, and put on his coat to leave. Heads for the exit near where the woman is sat. They spot each other, and realise what happened. Personally, if that happened to me I'd think it'd be very funny, but these two seemed annoyed with each other, didn't seem to talk a great deal and parted after about 45 minutes.
The biggest question of all really was, why didn't either text their whereabouts to the other hahahaha? Surely they had communicated beforehand.
PandaGoPanda 7 months ago
I had a first date many years ago where we waited on opposite sides of the big stone pillars at the town hall for 40 minutes before we found each other. Had both been stepping forward to check a few times, just not at the same time. Pre-mobile phone days.
_physically_insane_(he/him) 7 months ago
How did the date go other than that? Better than the one described there?
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René Sauer 7 months ago
I once met a Girl in a city that was about 1 hour from me and 3 hours from her. I told her we would met at the model train at the train station. My City´s Train station had a model train, so I thought every Train Station had one (because that´s make sense, right?). Well, turns out this City didn´t. So is was there like " Damn, what now? I don´t have her number." So I walked around, looking, thinking. After a couple minutes I noticed a girl standing to the side, looking around, too. So I went to her and was like "Want some candy?" because for some reason I had some with me. Turns out it was indeed her and yay! We proceeded to explore the City and went to see a Movie, x-men 2, I think.
Tiny Dancer 7 months ago
So, just how often has this, "Want some candy?", line worked for ya, Rene? Just curious! ;-)
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UncleJohn3000 7 months ago
I had a first date setup with what seemed like a cool lady. Then I got a very angry text asking where the 'uck I was and if I could tell 'cking time. "I can tell time, but our date was for tomorrow. Was."
I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 7 months ago (edited)
This could have ended in a funny story of how a couple first met! But apparently they weren't suited! Though considering both seemed passed at the situation instead of amused they seem quite alike.
Mimi M 6 months ago (edited)
I went on a first date. Sat down next to the guy who was in the spot he said he'd be and fit the description. Started up a charming conversation and ordered some tea. At some point I realized he was not the guy. The real guy (I called his number when I realized my mistake and explained and apologized, while laughing a bit) was not at all amused and stormed out. I sat with the new guy and finished my tea and we laughed together about it. I asked him why he hadn't said anything and he replied, 'a pretty woman comes and sits next to me, I'm not about to spoil it by saying anything'. I called the guy and apologized again but he didn't even answer - just let my apology go to voice mail. Funny story. Btw, actual date guy was the boss of a hedge fund, I don't think he'd ever had to wait for anyone and was used to ordering everyone around and having them defer to him. Ha.
michelle s 7 months ago (edited)
An ex colleague gave my address to his friend who sent me a valentines card and a date request And as i was young and sceptical about anybody fancying me I walked up to the meeting place, didn't recognise anyone I knew so went home. Ex Colleague phoned me the next day to say that I ditched his friend. Me and him arranged to catch up at the same pub and instead he tried to seduce me (ps was easily seduced as I had a crush on him). His friend I met up with and we just had nothing in common. Him I went to bed with and he could not perform and 10 years of hiding from him followed
Moosy Girl 7 months ago
This is my dad’s signature move, he did it to my mom on their first (blind) date and has been doing it to her (and us) ever since. However clear the meetup instructions, he’ll be there but standing somewhere unexpected and just out of sight, never moving. >.<
#16
Not bartender, but I was at a local red bird burger shop a week ago. Yum...
My wife and I are just chilling with a couple burgers and beer, watching a game. A couple comes in and sits next to us in a booth. Clearly a 1st date, both in late 30s early 40s.
Guy starts going on and on about himself and mid sentence, pushes his date out of the booth to stand, takes his hat off, and at full on attention, salutes the national anthem that just started at the game on the TV. He apologizes to everyone in the bar, (he is loud as s**t), and then tells his date that he's sorry, but as a former marine with buddies who died for the flag, he felt obligated to respect the anthem. Fair enough, I suppose.
The woman ordered a salad. He then critiques her choice, and then orders the exact same salad while letting everyone in the bar, again, know that he has all the allergies and if he eats, smells or even looks in the general direction of a tomato, he is bound for the afterlife.
He consumed his salad at Marine Corp bootcamp speed, and told everyone in the bar, again, that he eats fast because Marines.
He then continues to talk about himself the entire time, all the while the entire bar is now enjoying this s**t show. The woman never said a word other than ordering her food and asking for a box.
Turns out they rode together so the fun didn't stop after dinner. They rode off into the sunset in a mid 90s ram with no exhaust that would have garnered at least a participation ribbon at the County fair.
#17
I was bouncing one night when there was a first date going on. (Was in earlier than my shift start time). His date went to the bathroom, he went up to the bar, pounded a few shots, then attempted to grope a woman sitting at the bar. His date walked out of the bathroom as I was hauling him out.
While asking certain open-ended questions can help one get to know their date better, some topics are better left untouched on the first date. According to the certified love life strategist, they include complaints about work and your ex who is still driving you nuts, parents and friends.
“You don't want to treat a first date like a therapy session where you're complaining about what's wrong in your life. Avoid talking about how awful the dating scene is. Avoid talking about sex on the first date unless you are asserting a boundary. Sexual innuendo too soon gives off a predatory vibe. People want to feel safe.”
#18
There’s a bartender out there that probably tells people about the date I was on. Every day I suggested the guy had plans. We finally decide on a Sunday night, after I worked an 8 hour retail shift. I drove out of my way to meet him at the restaurant he chose. When I got there I texted to ask where he was and he said the bar. I had hoped for a table, but whatever. When I walked up he had 3 empty glasses in front of him. As soon as he started talking I could tell he was absolutely s**t faced. He admitted to drinking 2 bottles of wine before leaving his house. Needless to say, I was not impressed. When I asked if he drove, he said he took an Uber because I was going home with him and could drive. I hadn’t taken a break all day so I was starving and ordered an entree and a soda. He called me strange for not getting a drink. Then, when I wasn’t exactly thrilled to talk with a drunk, he kept saying “you’re so weird. Why are you so weird?” He kept trying to flirt with the bartender. She and I kept rolling our eyes. He finally got up to “take a p**s” and I asked for the check, paid, and left. He proceeded to blow up my phone calling me a n**ger lover and a wh*re. Super cool guy lol.
#19
I was a bartender HOWEVER, this date happened to me and I'm just throwing it here because I can. I was on a first date and things were OK. A little awkward but nothing beyond first date stuff.
The woman had ordered a drink but by no means was tossed . I made the horrible mistake of asking about her family and the first thing out of her mouth was "Well I'm pretty sure my dad was an uncaught serial killer."
She was the talker type and proceeded to tell me how he owned a cabin in the woods that was his man cave. Separate from the main house. Nobody was allowed there and nobody ever saw the inside. She said he brought her random jewelry after his trips to the cabin and she had to wear it nomatter if she liked it.
I was horrified. I think she was just trying to be interesting but when she told it she was so nonchalant about it that it freaked me out.
We never talked again after that date.
If you’re looking for more dating horror stories, we have quite a few in store for you; feel free to continue to this list of bad dates that ought to make you cringe or read about these dates that didn’t go well, or browse our romantic relationships category for more love-related tales.
#21
A guy pulled out a tech deck ( finger skateboards ) and was bragging that he was pro, showing tricks on the table. I felt so bad for the girl.
Sara Frazer 7 months ago
Hey, we all have our hobbies, at least she'd know he's good with his fingers!!/j (sorry, not sorry...XD)
#22
I was a bartender at a restaurant. A 13 year old boy came in for his first date with a 13 year old girl. His mom brought them. She planned on getting them seated at the table and then leaving them alone to come eat at the bar herself.
The boy would not let her leave. The girl hinted multiple times about the mom leaving. The mom hinted about leaving too. He just ignored them. Finally, the mom says she's leaving to give them some privacy. When she tries to get up, the boy reaches out and grasps her arm and tells her not to leave.
They all sat there awkwardly at the table. One of the servers heard the girl in the bathroom on the phone making fun of how weird he was being about not letting his mom leave then.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 7 months ago
Clearly at 13, this young man wasn't quite ready to date. I wonder why, he was so attached to his mother and so adamant she didn't leave him?
#23
I was bartending at a causal fine dining seafood restaurant on a Monday night. An older man probably in his mid 60s comes to the corner of the bar and asks me for a glass of our “best red.” I give him the wine list and he selects the most expensive glass which he cannot pronounce. He tells me he’s waiting on someone as he sucks down the glass. He pays for it, and continues to wait. About 20 minutes later he orders another glass, and tabs out again. Roughly an hour after he got to the bar, a woman probably 10 years younger than him shows up. The man turns around and loudly says in a disappointed tone “wow, you don’t look anything like your picture!” She sits down despite his comment and orders a glass of house Chardonnay. I checked on them occasionally but neither of them wanted to order food. Every time I tuned into what they were saying I noticed that only he was talking and it was mainly about all his surgeries.
When a bar table freed up behind them, the man looked at me and said “we are sitting here and I am having dinner.” He stood up and sat down before she could even answer. When I brought menus over to them he pointed at something random, and she ordered a small pasta dish. He continued to only talk about himself, and showed her pictures of his ex wife throughout the meal. She barely spoke. Towards the end of the meal he looked at her and said “have another glass of wine.” She declined. He replied with “what do you think I’m going to do?! Take advantage of you?” And turned to wink at me. She pushed her plate away, and asked me for the check. Once the man said he was going to pay, she grabbed her purse and left.
FoxEcoLimaIndiaCharlieIndiAlfa 7 months ago
Sounds like she definitely dodged a bullet, with this creep.
#24
Dude showed up an hour before his date and got hammered. Fell off his bar stool during the date at one point. She left with friends. Hard to watch. He seemed genuinely excited about the date when he got there.
#26
A younge man and woman walked in clearly on a first date. The woman proceeded to sit down on one side of the booth they were sat at. The man proceeded to attempt to sit down next to her, to which she got up and moved to the other side of the table. The man followed her again so he could sit next to her rather than across from her.
When their menus were brought over (the food was predominantly Indian food) , the man proceeded to loudly proclaim that he ate indian food all the time and that he could never find a place that served it spicy enough. When the server returned, he proceeded to order for both of them (terribly mispronouncing both dishes I might add). When asked if they wanted Naan, he asked what it was before saying no. While waiting for their food, he continued to brag about eating all different kinds of spicy food and barely let her talk. When their food arrived, he was struggling to eat the food and was visibly sweating. Afterwards, they quickly paid the checks and left. I do not think there was a second date.
Katie Lutesinger 7 months ago
You should always eat curry with Naan. In fact, invite the whole family!
#27
Some douchy guy came in and proceeded to hit on me and was super cocky in how he was amping himself up. Said he was waiting for his date to show up. She was a pretty but shy girl and it looked like the first time they were meeting. He proceeded to act like he was such a hot commodity and she was lucky to be on a date with him. Talked about how rich he was, how hot his exs were and what a good lover in bed he was. Made comments about how i was pretty right in front of her etc. made both of us extremely uncomfortable we both didnt bother to laugh or entertain. Sadly she seemed upset because he was critisizing everything about her. I shot him dirty looks all night and he tipped less than 10%.
funny enough he came back a week later with a conventionally pretty girl and all of a sudden acted like he was sophisticated and classy. Acted very mature and she looked like she didnt even want to be there. I noticed him catering to her every need like offering to buy her anything she wanted and buying an expensive bottle of wine. Absolute garbage of a man.
#28
It was a few years ago. They were hanging out at the bar, she was excited and they were chatting happily. They were classmates who hadn't seen each other while Covid lockdown was happening and clearly over the isolation. She went to the bathroom and he looks at me, sighs and says, "it's rough out there" He was faking all the interest in their whole conversation and left with her to get laid. Ugh. Gave me such 'ick' that he was so good at humoring her despite his entire lack of interest.
#29
Not a bartender but I remember I was eating at the bartop and there was a date going on beside me. I eat alone a lot and work long hours so I was watching TV. This dude interrupts my me time to ask me what he thought he did for a living pointing out how clean his hands were. "Oh IDK an accountant" there's infinite jobs you can do with spotless hands. Then he went on like a 15 min rant about how he has the best job in the world as a scrub nurse and how every day he gets to see naked women which is extremely creepy knowing he's talking about unconscious women about to be cut open... She noped out of there shortly after and I told him he's delusional thinking that he has the best job.
#30
I assume he was a finance bro. He did a line before she came, only noticed because he was rubbing his nose immediately when he came back. Told the girl that he’s on a biz tear and that if she plays her cards right she’ll get a YSL BAG. then proceeded to tell her that he wants to do c*ke of her t*ts. Needless to say she left and I laughed.
#31
I was working at a bar in my town when i was 22, some dude and this hot chick come in and ordered a few drinks, basic stuff but then after a while he got real drunk and intoxicated and starting throwing a hissy fit, The owner which we'll call Tammy had to come out and kick the guy out.
Few days later he came back apoligized and found out the lady he was going to date was a local gold digger, as he was complaining about it to his friend that lived next door he told Tammy "Thanks for kicking me out, might have not found out she was a gold digger if i hadn't have been kicked out" Then the man paid for the slight damages he caused to the bar seats and some dishes.
I_imagine_even_worse_w***s 7 months ago
Glad he did the right thing and came back and paid for damaged, even if it was a bit misguided considering he didn't sound apologetic just thankful he dodged a bullet! Still better than a lot of the a§shol3s here!
#32
Not a bartender, but I went to a pub with my then girlfriend around six or seven years ago. Guy comes in and sits down at a small table for two. Waiter brings two menus and a pitcher of beer with two glasses, even though he's by himself. It's obvious he's waiting for a date. Over the next 60-70 minutes, he kept checking his phone more and more. He ordered his food, he ate probably half of it. Around 90 minutes after arriving, he realized he'd been stood up and just started ordering what looked like jack and cokes. Powered through about seven or eight of them, while just staring blankly at the wall. He paid his tab, got up and stumbled out and walked down the street. Felt really bad for that dude.
#33
I actually knew the girl from several years back, only realised after the fact after she'd left.
Her and her date seemed to get along ok at the start, but after about half an hour neither of them seemed to be talking. For another half hour they kinda didn't say much, looking at their phones a lot until the guy literally just got up and left. She decided to just take out her laptop and work on some Photoshop project for a while before heading off.
#34
They were talking about the angel shot/cocktail and it's implecations. Both knew what it was. She ordered it in front of him. He just got up and left. She ordered a pound of wings and cried while eating them.
#35
Not a bartender, but I order some hot wings with ghost pepper sauce from one.
As he watched me eat the first wing, he told me about the last guy who had ordered them. It was a young guy in a suit who was clearly on a first date with the girl he brought along. The guy boldly ordered the ghost pepper wings trying to impress her, took a couple of bites, got up without saying a word, and walked off. After 30min or so, the girl realized he wasn’t coming back and angrily got up to leave… but the bartender had to stop her and reminder her that she still had to pay for the wings.
Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 7 months ago
*grabs a wing in her teeth and dashes under the sofa to eat it*
#36
I saw an uptight dude with what amounted to almost a hippy chick. Our place had a thing where we would cut off your tie if you wore one in the establishment (we'd give you a free drink). It was just something neat to do to say work time is over. Well, this dude was in a suit and tie, when I came over with the giant scissors, he freaked out. He thought I was joking, and she was laughing her a*s off. He decided to take off his "$150 silk tie, a*****e" instead of getting it cut off. She thought this whole charade was the greatest thing ever.
I did my usual spiel offering food and specials, and he was rather indignant, all but mansplaining to me how he's here with a purpose, which just made her burst out laughing again. They ended up getting dinner, and more drinks, she was really into him for a while, or at least looked that way, but as the night went on, her body language definitely changed. I'd bust in with new drinks or whatever when they looked like they needed something. I'd make her giggle, and he had no sense of humor, it was such an odd pairing. Throughout the night, I did see him smile, and he was a handsome dude, but he was tight as a frog's a*s.
After about 90 minutes to 2 hours they had worked up a $140 tab. He decided to close out, I give him the tab, he frowns, I already know I'm not getting a tip. He ends up tipping like $20, so about 15%, so not bad, really. At least he didn't pull out a calculator to figure out the tip (this was long before cell phones, much less smart phones), he seemed like that type of dude., So I did get a tip, albeit a small one.
At least from him, his date left me a $50 bill and her phone number.
Man, do I miss being young and skinny.
#37
Not a bartender but right there. I was at a mom and pop shop. It had a stone fire pizza oven and the pizza station was right behind the racks for the alcohol. Some dude game in with an Italia shirt on and made sure to sit at the two seats that are three feet from the pizza guy (me). This guy was super Italian American and it was clear that was his whole personality, he looked and talked like a side character in the soprano's. They both ordered pizzas and he just sat there and talked about how traditional this pizza was and the art behind it (I had been working there for 2 weeks and had never worked a stone oven before that, also this is a small shop in the middle of Boston, and Cape cod, so not traditional at all, the owner and chef weren't Italian at all). The girl was clearly pretty shy and reserved and didn't say much. I was uncomfortable and I wasn't on the date. Eventually they ate and the guy asked if they should go back to his place. She just very shyly said that she would wait for a ride from her friend. He had already paid he got a bit upset by this but tired to play it off as her wanting to take it slow. As she waited alone I slid her a free garlic bread (I felt bad and I couldn't do much but it was something).
#38
The one I can distinctly remember involved her using the phrase "my ex" three times in the first five minutes.
#39
Ex showed up to the guys date, sat down while they were eating and introduced herself and started flirting with him in front of her.
The guy had friends there and they all could not believe it you could hear a mutual wtf being said when she walked to their table
The ex was pretty hot and was a Miss World Runner up.
He left with the ex lol.
#40
Best worst was the one where she went home with me instead.
What do you think ?
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
Happily married for 21 years; would probably have a story here if I found myself single again. Dating sounds terrible, especially as you get older. So glad I have my wife!
Be_ Heard 6 months ago
Aww it's wonderful you talk about her like that! I'm so happy you guys have been happy for so many years 💓
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Joshua Moore 7 months ago
I have a few worst first dates for myself, but this one takes the cake. This is January 2017. I’m divorced after 11 years of marriage, 12 years together and going out in my first date in almost 13 years. She and I meet at a restaurant, after work, I’m understandably nervous and my phone is in my pocket, on vibrate. I’m tapping my foot a little bit, nervous energy I guess, the conversation is going well, we order and the food arrives. Because I’m tapping my foot, I don’t feel my phone vibrating 13 different times over the course of an hour. My ex-wife was calling me to let me know my mother had passed away just a few hours ago. My date gets up to go to the restroom, I check my phone and see I have 13 missed calls. I listen to the voicemails from my ex and hear the news about my mother. Needless to say, I told my date what happened and I needed to go. I was about an hour from home. Definitely a first date I’ll never forget.
Irishwoman abroad 7 months ago
Oh Gid, that's terrible, bad enough to hear it on the phone, without having to explain it to a date as well! I'm sure you won't ever forget it.
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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 7 months ago
Read the relationship memes they've put up. Some of them will help.
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ElfVibratorGlitter 7 months ago
So the fact that most of these were about men and "girls" on dates. Come on. Woman isn't hard to use. And yeah, it might not seem like a big deal... but it is.
DC 6 months ago
Isn't "men" ond the same date as "girls" already ... somewhat suspicious? I'd assume that girl refers to an underage woman, so to say (or even younger), and that that's ... like, problematic, questioonable at least, unless the man in question qualifies to be called "boy" just as well.
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Tempest 7 months ago (edited)
For my first date my now ex took me to a bar-restaurant. It was a Friday night and around 9 pm (he didn’t have a place figured out until that late). The place was jam packed with people drinking and smoking. You couldn’t see few feet in front of you cause the air was thick with cigarette smoke. And I’m someone who can’t stand smoking. He knew that all along. It was also so loud that we could barely hear each other. We ordered by ourselves and he proceeded to order additional side dishes for the table. It was stuff I enjoy eating but it was way too much food for us. We ended up having so much food packed up to take home. Then came the bill. He wanted to foot it but, hear me out, forgot his wallet at home. So I paid (I don’t mind but it was so embarrassing with him doing a whole show of forgetting in front of the server). Few days later he proceeded to sneak in some cash to me as his payment. I paid by phone and didn’t like carrying loose change which was what he paid me back with…
ADZ 7 months ago
Ok.so my worst date as a person om the date (lol the anonymity of the internet is why I'll tell it): Im.gay, went on a date with a guy, met online, bit clingy but he was attractive and fit (I was 20 so shallow and h*rny). I'm inside him (don't know each other well but young and such) tells me he loves me, i hear the door open, his grandmother (he said he lived alone, was her house) opens the door. In tje morning says lets buy a house together. 😬
John Nelson 6 months ago (edited)
Craziest first date was back in my late 30's. Things were going fine, and her cell phone rings. She says we have to go, her daughter's in the hospital. I'm expecting the worst, but as we drive to the hospital, she explains her daughter's having her baby. So I'm expecting to be sitting in the waiting room for a bit. Nope. We arrive, and are both wisked into the delivery room, where all the women in her family, aunts, mother, sisters, are gathered, chatting, knitting, and just having a grand time. I'm the only guy there, and let's just say I was put in a position to see everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING! She was doing a natural childbirth, so I got to hear everything too. The obstetrician even offered to let me cut the cord, assuming I was the father. (I declined) Shortly after it was over, the father finally arrived, having been at work and driving a long way to get there. He, along with the family, thanked me for standing in for him! It was pretty surreal, but memorable!
megasmacky 7 months ago
Thank you for reminding me that I was never happy until I finally accepted that I like to be alone all of the time. I get whatever social interaction I might need with my business, but the rest of the time it's just me and the cat. Life is good.
Nanci York 6 months ago
My BF and I have been together going on 16 years now. We me through Match and met at a restaurant for dinner, then when it got too loud we moved to a bar nearby. Had a great time, a couple of drinks and chatted for a couple of hours. We said our goodbyes and went home. The next day I had a message on Match from someone I didn't recognize. Very friendly and said that he'd seen me around and would I like to go out? It was the bartender! He had eavesdropped the night before and thought that it would be great to hit me up. Creepy as hell! Told my now BF and we got an uncomfortable kind of laugh out of it. Certainly memorable!
Margo Evans 6 months ago
A sad date for me was a fellow who wanted sex so desperately he asked me to explain to him why women did not want to sleep with him. I know men who are very ugly that have married nice women so I told him that maybe he needs to make friends before asking for sex. I felt bad for him.
Mr.Li 6 months ago (edited)
I witnessed this: a couple came in, both around 20. They sat down, I brought the menus. The guy was kinda loud and I could clearly hear every single thing they talked. And it was all about his mother. His Mother would order this wine, and that soup and so on.... and whenever she tried to change the topic, he would dart back to his mother, for example: what are your hobbies? Well my mothers hobbies are.....After the maindish, she waved me over and asked for the check. He wondered why and she bluntly told him she dont want to date a little mommyboy. Clearly broke his heart with that statement
SheamusFanFrom1987 7 months ago (edited)
After reading these, if I am still in the dating scene, never will I bring a date (first or otherwise) to a bar, ever. I think I'd probably have to find a girl who'll settle for good food and drinks, and maybe a good movie after (provided I'm successful anyways...) -_-"
The Darkest Timeline 7 months ago
Happily married for 21 years; would probably have a story here if I found myself single again. Dating sounds terrible, especially as you get older. So glad I have my wife!
Be_ Heard 6 months ago
Aww it's wonderful you talk about her like that! I'm so happy you guys have been happy for so many years 💓
Load More Replies... Joshua Moore 7 months ago
I have a few worst first dates for myself, but this one takes the cake. This is January 2017. I’m divorced after 11 years of marriage, 12 years together and going out in my first date in almost 13 years. She and I meet at a restaurant, after work, I’m understandably nervous and my phone is in my pocket, on vibrate. I’m tapping my foot a little bit, nervous energy I guess, the conversation is going well, we order and the food arrives. Because I’m tapping my foot, I don’t feel my phone vibrating 13 different times over the course of an hour. My ex-wife was calling me to let me know my mother had passed away just a few hours ago. My date gets up to go to the restroom, I check my phone and see I have 13 missed calls. I listen to the voicemails from my ex and hear the news about my mother. Needless to say, I told my date what happened and I needed to go. I was about an hour from home. Definitely a first date I’ll never forget.
Irishwoman abroad 7 months ago
Oh Gid, that's terrible, bad enough to hear it on the phone, without having to explain it to a date as well! I'm sure you won't ever forget it.
Load More Replies... Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 7 months ago
Read the relationship memes they've put up. Some of them will help.
Load More Replies... ElfVibratorGlitter 7 months ago
So the fact that most of these were about men and "girls" on dates. Come on. Woman isn't hard to use. And yeah, it might not seem like a big deal... but it is.
DC 6 months ago
Isn't "men" ond the same date as "girls" already ... somewhat suspicious? I'd assume that girl refers to an underage woman, so to say (or even younger), and that that's ... like, problematic, questioonable at least, unless the man in question qualifies to be called "boy" just as well.
Load More Replies... Tempest 7 months ago (edited)
For my first date my now ex took me to a bar-restaurant. It was a Friday night and around 9 pm (he didn’t have a place figured out until that late). The place was jam packed with people drinking and smoking. You couldn’t see few feet in front of you cause the air was thick with cigarette smoke. And I’m someone who can’t stand smoking. He knew that all along. It was also so loud that we could barely hear each other. We ordered by ourselves and he proceeded to order additional side dishes for the table. It was stuff I enjoy eating but it was way too much food for us. We ended up having so much food packed up to take home. Then came the bill. He wanted to foot it but, hear me out, forgot his wallet at home. So I paid (I don’t mind but it was so embarrassing with him doing a whole show of forgetting in front of the server). Few days later he proceeded to sneak in some cash to me as his payment. I paid by phone and didn’t like carrying loose change which was what he paid me back with…
ADZ 7 months ago
Ok.so my worst date as a person om the date (lol the anonymity of the internet is why I'll tell it): Im.gay, went on a date with a guy, met online, bit clingy but he was attractive and fit (I was 20 so shallow and h*rny). I'm inside him (don't know each other well but young and such) tells me he loves me, i hear the door open, his grandmother (he said he lived alone, was her house) opens the door. In tje morning says lets buy a house together. 😬
John Nelson 6 months ago (edited)
Craziest first date was back in my late 30's. Things were going fine, and her cell phone rings. She says we have to go, her daughter's in the hospital. I'm expecting the worst, but as we drive to the hospital, she explains her daughter's having her baby. So I'm expecting to be sitting in the waiting room for a bit. Nope. We arrive, and are both wisked into the delivery room, where all the women in her family, aunts, mother, sisters, are gathered, chatting, knitting, and just having a grand time. I'm the only guy there, and let's just say I was put in a position to see everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING! She was doing a natural childbirth, so I got to hear everything too. The obstetrician even offered to let me cut the cord, assuming I was the father. (I declined) Shortly after it was over, the father finally arrived, having been at work and driving a long way to get there. He, along with the family, thanked me for standing in for him! It was pretty surreal, but memorable!
megasmacky 7 months ago
Thank you for reminding me that I was never happy until I finally accepted that I like to be alone all of the time. I get whatever social interaction I might need with my business, but the rest of the time it's just me and the cat. Life is good.
Nanci York 6 months ago
My BF and I have been together going on 16 years now. We me through Match and met at a restaurant for dinner, then when it got too loud we moved to a bar nearby. Had a great time, a couple of drinks and chatted for a couple of hours. We said our goodbyes and went home. The next day I had a message on Match from someone I didn't recognize. Very friendly and said that he'd seen me around and would I like to go out? It was the bartender! He had eavesdropped the night before and thought that it would be great to hit me up. Creepy as hell! Told my now BF and we got an uncomfortable kind of laugh out of it. Certainly memorable!
Margo Evans 6 months ago
A sad date for me was a fellow who wanted sex so desperately he asked me to explain to him why women did not want to sleep with him. I know men who are very ugly that have married nice women so I told him that maybe he needs to make friends before asking for sex. I felt bad for him.
Mr.Li 6 months ago (edited)
I witnessed this: a couple came in, both around 20. They sat down, I brought the menus. The guy was kinda loud and I could clearly hear every single thing they talked. And it was all about his mother. His Mother would order this wine, and that soup and so on.... and whenever she tried to change the topic, he would dart back to his mother, for example: what are your hobbies? Well my mothers hobbies are.....After the maindish, she waved me over and asked for the check. He wondered why and she bluntly told him she dont want to date a little mommyboy. Clearly broke his heart with that statement
SheamusFanFrom1987 7 months ago (edited)
After reading these, if I am still in the dating scene, never will I bring a date (first or otherwise) to a bar, ever. I think I'd probably have to find a girl who'll settle for good food and drinks, and maybe a good movie after (provided I'm successful anyways...) -_-"
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