29 Celebrities Who Revealed They Had An Abortion And Talked About What It Was Like
The United States just went back in time half a century into the reality before Roe v. Wade as the Supreme Court overruled it on Jun 24, 2022. Now there is no national law protecting women’s reproductive rights, leaving that decision to state governments. More than half of them already have plans to ban abortion completely or have strict requirements under which it can be carried out.
The decision caused much agitation in the United States and women are speaking up about what consequences it can have as well as their own experiences demonstrating that abortion should be considered a fundamental right.
Through the years, many celebrities have also opened up about having abortions and what it was like for them. It was never an easy decision to make and these women had consequences to deal with, such as experiencing judgment from other people and coping with their own thoughts. But they did it, no matter if it was legal or not, because it was their lives and their decisions to make.
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Ashley Judd
I'm very thankful I was able to access safe and legal abortion. Because the sexual abuser, who is a Kentuckian, as am I, and I reside in Tennessee, has paternity rights in Kentucky and Tennessee. I would've had to co-parent with my sexual abuser.
If only these pro-birthers cared about the mental and physical health and safety of the woman.
Or the baby's, for that matter. Can we image the brilliant parental skills of a f**** RAPIST? Even if we ignore the woman altogether, how the heck could it be in any way in a kid's interest to be parented by such a "man"?
Load More Replies...There was an article recently where a man raped a minor, heard that he'd gotten her pregnant years later, went for custody got it and she had to pay him child support... it's unbelievable how little the wellbeing of a female human matters
Thank-you for sharing your story Ashley and not shirking. This time in history is the hour that the progressive side of the world needs you and all the other women standing brave.
That's f****d up! Imagine being that child who gets to know his "father" is actually his mother's rapist!
Years ago I was friends with a girl who was Sikh & her parents came from India. She told me her mom told her she had an abortion when newly married to their dad (arranged marriage- they seemed happy) as they were trying to get their stuff together & were not ready. It was not a big deal or shame to share this with her daughter. It really does tend to be “Christians” who make a big deal out of it
As an American (and a Kentuckian), yes. Yes they are.
Load More Replies...Whoopi Goldberg
I found out I was pregnant when I was 14 years old — I didn't get a period. I talked to nobody. I panicked. I sat in hot baths. I drank these strange concoctions girls told me about — something like [Johnnie] Walker Red with a little bit of Clorox, alcohol, baking soda — which probably saved my stomach — and some sort of cream. You mixed it all up. I got violently ill. At that moment I was more afraid of having to explain to anybody what was wrong than of going to the park with a hanger, which is what I did.
Omg, how horrific. Sadly it's gonna happen again. My heart aches for all those women who have and will go through these extreme measures to make a choice that directly affects them, no-one else. This is not about pro life, it's about controlling women. If they want to save lives the now about they start saving the lives of all the children being killed at school for a start. Followed by better health care so people don't die from not being able to afford care, have better sex education, mental health services, more support/services for the MILLIONS of children needing loving homes, help the homeless etc. In other words help the ones that are living and breathing people, with their own identity, personality etc.
How is this happening in the leading country of the 'free' world. These people are fully prepared to go to war (literally murdering health care providers) but I don't see them being so keen on paying for these children, or more importantly showing them love, affection and stability. In fact, when unwanted children grow into hurt and damaged teenagers and adults, they are the first to want to lock them up and throw away the key. No woman takes the decision to end a pregnancy lightly, but even if she did, isn't that proof that she isn't ready for a child? No one can prepare you for the change a baby brings to your life. You'd better REALLY want that child and all the responsibilities they bring.
Load More Replies...What annoys me most is the sheer stupidity. "Pro-lifers" seem to think that if abortions are made illegal they won't happen.
Exactly. They're only stopping safe abortions. The home-jobs will continue and women will die.
Load More Replies...Thank-you Whoopi for sharing your story and never shirking. This extremist court has taken away the legal rights of over half of all american women to be custodians of their own bodies - right now - today and still counting - TWENTY MILLION AMERICAN WOMEN of birthing age have less legal rights too thier own body then their grandmothers and great grand mothers had.We must view all these attacks as a collective Global move of the mad right extremists to take global power.
Damn, I never knew. That's horrifying what Whoopi went through! So glad she survived.
What exactly is "inappropriate" about mentioning and talking about other forms of living and loving? I work with children, from kindergarten to 9th class and over. When it comes up (it's not a regular occurrence but it might come up when talking about nature), I also mention that there are some people who have two fathers, or who love other boys and not girls (or girls who love girls). Or that, for example, Mrs Miller has a wife and not a husband. It isn't about going into a kindergarten-class and starting with the genetics of sexual development and where things might go haywire! It's just a casual "Oh, and sometimes people get born into the wrong body and are really a boy and not a girl and that's okay, too." It isn't about making those kids aware of every aspect of gender. Kindergarten is about teaching children how to be tolerant and nice to others, even if they're different. It's about teaching them that not every child looks like your siblings, that there's different colors (cont)
Load More Replies...If sex wasn't meant for pleasure, then people wouldn't feel pleasure when engaging in sex. But I understand that you've never experienced it, so you don't know what you're missing.
Load More Replies...Billie Jean King
Anyone seeking an abortion [in the early '70s] had to obtain approval from a hospital committee — that is, tell a panel of strangers why they believed their pregnancy would 'gravely impair' their physical and mental health. Arguing to a dozen or so people I had never met why I qualified for an abortion remains one of the most degrading experiences of my life
Horrifying. I just want to hug each of these women, and tell them I understand. I went through the same process in 1970 NYC. To this day I can remember everything.
Just thinking about the kind of situations faced by women makes me angry and sad. And it is still happening in many ways. Explaining a group of strangers and being judged for why you want to do something for your own body and own life must be so painful. Also I am sure the questions would be enough to make one feel nauseous.
My own mother, who forced me to have the abortion, which caused other issues, decided to tell a STUDENT about this. She swore she would never tell a soul. VERY small school. Took about 30 minutes for everyone to know. Jackie Nell Smith, I still hate you. My mother died in 1993, and I am still angry.
Load More Replies...It was the same in my country until the early 90s. I'm so thankful we have made so much progress since then.
Laura Prepon
Our neonatal specialist told us the brain was not growing and the bones were not growing. We were told the pregnancy would not go to full term and that my body was at risk carrying any longer. We had to terminate the pregnancy.
A dear family member of mine and his wife had to abort a badly wanted child because the brain was growing outside of the body. The day they went to the clinic was one of the worst days of their lives and there were protesters calling them murderers. "Pro Life" is quite possibly the biggest oxymoron in the english language. They are pro fetus, they have zero care for the lives of the women and sometimes men this effects. They know the repeal of Roe will end lives, established, non-parasitic lives, real lives, women will die, they have no care for life.
I love the government officials that are running around saying that they will provide assistance to the women and children they are forcing into untenable situations. What a joke. I find it even more distasteful when it's a woman making these promises. I guarantee that the morons making these pledges are the same morons who fought against universal health care and raising the minimum wage to something close to a sustainable living wage. At some point, they are going to go too far (as if this isn't far enough) and civil unrest and uprisings are going to start becoming the norm and hopefully these bastarrds will start to feel even one tenth of the anxiety and fear the rest of us are feeling. Personally, I would delight in any situation that puts these hypocrites into a state of fear and anxiety.
Load More Replies...This is what "pro-lifers" conveniently forget: it's not always about an unwanted child. Often, it's about the life of a woman and about a child that is sadly not meant to live.
The term 'pro-lifers' is a real anachronism and dosnt at all reflect the monsters that mis-use and advocate the term - all over the globe these people have behaved like terrorists bombing, burning and committing many killings of ordinary health workers,
Load More Replies...And that was a child she wanted, they were purposefully trying for that baby. Abortions don't just occur because the woman doesn't want a baby. Frankly, it's none of your business why. But it's a medical procedure!
No, she couldn't. Multiple states now have a total ban on abortions, no matter the circumstances.
Load More Replies...Busy Philipps
It's not brave for me to say I had an abortion at 15, because it's a medical thing — a thing, a choice that I made, and I don't regret it at all. This shame [was] perpetrated on me, but I don't have a shame. I'm glad I didn't have that guy's baby. I'm OK. ... We hold on to these things as to not make men uncomfortable, but I'm ready for them to start holding it.
‘The shame was perpetrated on me’ - so incisively accurate. I had no shame.
"We hold on to these things as to not make men uncomfortable" That is it, right there. My husband is a pretty forward thinking guy but for years he has argued with me that the eminent destruction of my rights, and overall poor treatment of my sex was in my head, I have never been so sad to be right. He didnt see it though, and i think its because on a day to day basis we make a point to keep it hidden. Went to the doc and he didn't believe me, received a hate filled message on social media because you could see my female shape, got catcalled on the street, am nearly doubled over from menstrual cramps but dinner still needs to be made, these are daily things that most men don't approve of, but don't notice either. We need to make the men in our lives walk a day in our shoes, tell them when these things and more happen, make a big deal, because it is a big deal. We are used to being treated as second class citizens, we need to start getting loud, really really loud.
I was watching (of all things) a horror show on HBO. And one of the characters says to her husband (a very loving husband who cared for his wife deeply), that she always had to make herself smaller inside, so that he could be big. I am paraphrasing, and her monologue was much more eloquent than I said it here. I think about that a lot though with my own marriage. Are there things that I'm doing to quietly make my wife smaller for me? Things that maybe neither she nor I even notice. Things that she does notice, that she hides from me. I think about that a lot in hope that I will be a better husband, or if not that, at least a more self-aware one. I want her to be as big as she can be, and I want my daughters to see her be big, so that they feel empowered to be big as well. It's not my place to speak to anyone else's marriage, please don't think I'm judging as I cannot, but I hope that you get to be big too. The show is called Lovecraft Country, BTW, I recommend it.
Load More Replies...Thank-you for sharing your story Busy and not shirking. This time in history is when the progressive side of the world needs you and all the other women standing brave.
Gloria Steinem
I was in London because I had a fellowship in India, and I was awaiting my visa. So I was living in London [and] working as a waitress in order to support myself. I had all the usual fantasies [to terminate my pregnancy] — maybe if I go horseback riding, maybe if I throw myself down the stairs. Our minds race through all possible alternatives, and it was sheer luck of going to a doctor whose name I found in the telephone book. It was due to his kindness [and] due to his looking at me and saying, 'If you promise never to tell anyone my name, I will help you.' So he sent me to a woman doctor who actually did the procedure
🎵 saved my heart, cholesterol was to blame, you give medicine a good name 🎵
Load More Replies...Oh, those termination fantasies. I and my teenage friends had those in high school. Most of us planned to commit suicide just to avoid pregnancy and childbirth, etc. Listening to our plans was like attending a horror show.
Phoebe Bridgers
I had an abortion in October of last year while I was on tour. I went to Planned Parenthood, where they gave me the abortion pill. It was easy. Everyone deserves that kind of access.
Pro lifers seem to think that planned Parenthood only does abortions. My best friends in Florida went there for free pap smears ( remember no insurance) and when my friend got pregnant they provided a midwife and birthing plan for her. I thought it was a great experience as I was her birthing partner I got to see just how much they did for her. They even had classes on breastfeeding.
A lot of the clinics don't even have the set up to preform abortions there. One of my aunts got all sanctimonious about the fact that her dentist moved to an office in the floor above her and now all she can think of is "what they are doing to all those poor babies" while she's getting her teeth cleaned. And when I tried to tell her that 90% of what they do there is family planning and care she got offended. You cannot explain anything to these people because they are willfully ignorant.
Load More Replies...Well they need to make birth control for the males. Men can get a different woman pregnant every day of the month when that woman is pregnant she cannot have another baby for almost a year MEN SHOULD be the ones to use birth control
This rabble who calls themselves pro-life, and lie in wait outside Planned Parenthood, hurling epithets and waving their signs make me sick. The worst people I've ever met were the ones who were convinced they held the moral high ground. I've never met a more narrow-minded, superstitious, ignorant bunch of people.
Rose Mcgowan
I have had an abortion and I support this message. I am not ashamed, nor should you be. That 60% of those who choose to have abortions are already mothers says a lot- they understand more than anyone. I was on birth control and it failed.
Not sure about her acting (I've honestly never seen anything she's been in), but she's one hell of a human being. The strength of this woman is incredible.
Uma Thurman
[My abortion] has been my darkest secret until now. I am 51 years old, and I am sharing it with you from the home where I have raised my three children, who are my pride and joy. ... I was just starting out in my career and didn't have the means to provide a stable home, even for myself. We decided as a family that I couldn't go through with the pregnancy, and agreed that termination was the right choice. My heart was broken nonetheless. ... It hurt terribly, but I didn't complain. I had internalized so much shame that I felt I deserved the pain.
Can often become poison. Sometimes I think we punish ourselves way more than anyone else could.
Load More Replies...Stevie Nicks
If I had not had that abortion, I'm pretty sure there would have been no Fleetwood Mac. There's just no way that I could have had a child then, working as hard as we worked — and there were a lot of drugs. I was doing a lot of drugs … I would have had to walk away. I knew that the music we were going to bring to the world was going to heal so many people's hearts and make people so happy, and I thought: You know what? That's really important. There isn't another band in the world that has two lead women singers [and] two lead women writers. That was my world's mission.
Well Heart was another band that had two lead women singers and writers, but I still love Stevie Nicks and respect her very personal decision.
Milla Jovovich
I went into pre term labor and told that I had to be awake for the whole procedure. It was one of the most horrific experiences I have ever gone through. I still have nightmares about it. I was alone and helpless. When I think about the fact that women might have to face abortions in even worse conditions than I did because of new laws, my stomach turns.
That's why we have to fight this. It's so much easier to lose your rights than to get them back. I wish the Democrats would pull a trump and elect some more liberal justices to the supreme Court. As far as I know there is no law on how many can serve at one time. I think Republicans are too heavy-handed and Democrats don't do enough.
Alyssa Milano
I knew at that time, I was not equipped to be a mother, and so I chose to have an abortion. I chose. It was my choice. And it was absolutely the right choice for me.
Never an easy choice, Sometimes the right choice, Always the woman's choice.
And it was the right choice for the child. Because what a child deserves is to be wanted
Minka Kelly
When I was younger I had an abortion. It was the smartest decision I could've made, not only for myself & my boyfriend at the time, but also for this unborn fetus. Having a baby at that time would have only perpetuated the cycle of poverty, chaos and dysfunction I was born into.
I was date raped. If my dad had found out he would have put me in a juvenile center or beaten me to death.
Nicki Minaj
I thought I was going to pass away — I was a teenager. It was the hardest thing I'd ever gone through. It'd be contradictory if I said I wasn't pro-choice — I wasn't ready. I didn't have anything to offer a child.
I still think this at 42. I just know that I have always had financial issues plus depression and anxiety not to mention fibromyalgia so I just never thought that I had enough to give a child but that doesn't mean I wouldn't spoil my friend's children to death!
My fibromyalgia turns out to be sinus infection, my anxiety turns out to be infection behind my root canal.
Load More Replies...Nicki told her story early, way before this crisis compelled women to share their experiences. She was incredibly brave and honest. She never asked for sympathy, but it's obvious that she was hurt by the experience, and will never forget it. She made the only decision available.
It’s interest how none of these people seem to regret the choice even years later. Would appear their choice was correct
Jameela Jamil
I had an abortion when I was young, and it was the best decision I have ever made. Both for me and for the baby I didn't want, and wasn't ready for, emotionally, psychologically, and financially. So many children will end up in foster homes, [and] so many lives [will be] ruined.
Jameela Jamil is such an amazing person, she always gets her point across clearly
Agreed. She's brilliant, as an actress and as a human
Load More Replies...The sad thing is ... there are no foster homes available where I live. They're all full. They send foster kids to live in psych wards when there aren't enough homes. When all the facilities are full they send children back to their abusers , and often times end up dead at their abusers hands. This is one of the biggest tragedies in this mess my government is making
Heartbreaking! My aunt was considering trying to be a foster parent after her youngest left. Her friend, whose a social worker, really advised against it. The friend said that so many of the older children are hardened by the experience of being in foster care most of their lives. It just so sad.
Load More Replies...Chelsea Handler
Of course, the idea that I would have a child and raise it by myself at that age, when I couldn't even find my way home at night, was ridiculous. My parents recognized that, so they acted like parents for one of the very first times in my life and took me to Planned Parenthood.
Amber Tamblyn
In 2012, I had an abortion. It was one of the hardest decisions I've ever had to make. I still think about it to this day. But these truths do not make me regret my decision. It was the right choice for me, at that time in my life. I have not a single doubt about this
Sexual Education, Contraceptive Methods and Abortion Access goes a long way :D
Rita Moreno
Marlon took me to the hospital. I had what they told me was a 'disturbed pregnancy'. The doctor didn't do anything really, except make me bleed. In other words, he didn't do it right. I didn't know it then, but I could have pass away. What a mess. What a dreadful mess.
The world is glad that you are still here! You managed to survive despite that cretin/Dr.
Cheryl Burke
I was two weeks pregnant when I got an abortion. I remember rolling up to Planned Parenthood with picketers holding anti-abortion signs and that alone was traumatic. But, on top of it all, the whole process is traumatic and the fact that now, you're making it illegal for us women to make this decision about our own bodies is absolutely insanity.
F*cking people imposing their f*cking 18th century's beliefs on us >:I
Abortion was legal and common in the 17th and 18th centuries in the United States (even amongst the Puritans). At the time, Protestants believed that life began with quickening, so it wasn't seen as any big deal. Furthermore, the 18th century was near the end of the Enlightenment, and people put more emphasis on reason and logic, rather than religious fervor. It wasn't until the "2nd Great Awakening", with a revival of religious zealotry and an emphasis on emotional reactionism over logical reasoning. The good part of this period was the rise abolitionist movements, but we also saw the first anti-abortion laws in the 1820s, which limited abortions to only before quickening (about 16-20 weeks). Well into the 1850s between 15-35% of pregnancies were terminated in abortions. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/10297561/ - https://bit.ly/3OMupi3 (out of room for more citations)
Load More Replies...Seriously. Two weeks into "pregnancy" is the point in time when you ovulate. So by the end of week two of pregnancy, you're likely not even pregnant yet, and certainly wouldn't be aware of it. A missed period occurs at roughly 4-5 weeks of pregnancy if you have a regular cycle.
Load More Replies...Keke Palmer
I was worried about my career responsibilities and afraid that I could not exist as both a career woman and mother. Twitter is sometimes too flat and too short to express intimate sentiments — words without context [can be] very annoying. I am disheartened hearing about the [Alabama abortion ban]. I feel as if women's rights are going backwards, and individual choice is being taken. I'm truly so confused at the world and the policies that follow
I'm confused about the world now too. Feels like the US at least has been regressing. Every time I watch the news I feel like it's a nightmare that I just want to wake up from.
It doesn’t just feel like women’s rights are going backwards they ARE going backwards.
Vanessa Williams
Being pregnant is the most frightening thing that happens in your life. I knew in high school that's something that I was not prepared to do, or fight, or struggle with.
Jemima Kirke
My life was not conducive to raising a healthy [and] happy child — I just didn't feel it was fair. So I decided to get an abortion. Because I couldn't tell my mother that I was pregnant, I had to pay for it out of pocket. I did have to empty my checking account and get [some money] from my boyfriend. I've always felt that reproductive issues should be something that women especially should be able to talk about freely. I still see shame and embarrassment around terminating pregnancies
I'm from EU. Abortions are free (included in basic insurane everyone has). It is also performed by 97% of obgyns. What's happening in USA is horrible.
This sounds like abortion is free and legal in every single EU country. I am not so sure though. The EU currently has 27 member countries, and abortion is not part of EU law, but national law.
Load More Replies...Tess Holliday
My mental health couldn't handle being pregnant again & I made the best decision for ME & ultimately my family.
Naya Rivera
From the minute I made that first phone call to my mom, it was never a question of whether I was going to have the baby — I just knew I couldn't. And without even saying it, my mom knew it too. It made it easier because I felt like I never had to question if I was making the right decision, but, still, nothing about the next few weeks was even remotely easy.
Linsey Godfrey
I had an abortion. I just simply wasn't in a place, financially or emotionally to take that on. I was and still am glad I had that choice because that's exactly what it was, it was my choice, my body.
Lil' Kim
Most of the things that I talk about [in my lyrics], yeah, they're true. I talk about the pain of being pregnant and having an abortion. I talk about the things that women have gone through that they don't think I've gone through.
Meadow Walker
It is a very private and personal experience - the way it should be. I was lucky enough to have a great doctor who supported me through the debilitating process - with their help, I am able to be the happy and healthy person I am today.
Toni Braxton
I felt selfish because I was thinking: 'I'm going through bankruptcy — there are things going on with my life, and I can't give this kid any future.' I was feeling hopeless for no reason, [and] when I look [back] at it now for no reason, what was I thinking? I am not really embarrassed about it — I am more ashamed of myself for doing that because I could've figured something out financially. That was just an excuse I was making for myself.
She shouldn't be ashamed she couldn't give the child everything it deserved without driving her self into the ground.
She is speaking HER truth. We should not tell people that their feelings are wrong.
Load More Replies...She says this but I bet if she had to do it all over again she would do the same thing
Rozonda Thomas (Chilli From Tlc)
I was 20 and my career hadn't really started, [and I got pregnant]. How do I do all that? How do I be a mommy? [The abortion] messed me up — it broke my spirit. I felt like I became not my strong self anymore. I felt like I gave in and broke [down] to what someone else wanted. I cried almost every day for nine years. And then I was caught up — I had to have a baby. I had to fix it, and the only way I could fix it was with [TLC producer Dallas Austin]. I could only have this baby with him because the baby I didn't have was with him
The best way to deal with a miscarriage was getting lied to that it was a fake pregnancy by my sis, who's a doc and immediately getting pregnant again 3 weeks later. My son wouldn't exist, if the other one hadn't gone to heaven. Saw her in heaven in a dream in a white dress, that made my wedding dress look pale in comparison. I know ppl who weren't over a miscarriage 10 years later. Sounds like she was forced to abort. That's way worse. With another miscarriage I felt guilty and thought that I killed him, because I biked. We once tried to help a woman online. Her bf kicked her in the belly, because he wanted the kid dead and she saw no other way but to have an abortion. She put a message on a site for ppl who had abortions. It was all messages like: bye little star, sorry.
Load More Replies...I was gang-raped in college by at least 3 men. (It was dark, but I know there were at least 3 from their voices.) It was a holiday weekend, and I didn't go home. The dorm was nearly deserted; I think there might have been one other person on my floor. They jumped me in the women's room after turning out the lights. The pregnancy was the result of violence against me, and there was no way I was going to even carry it to term, never mind raise it. That was nearly 40 years ago, and I still know I did the right thing.
All men should have a vasectomy, if we want it reversed, then the doctor should ask for confirmation from the partners in our lives. Once the woman confirms, in writing, and a panel of responsible women agree, the vasectomy can then be reversed. Any pregnancies due to the men cheating, the babies should be 100% the man's responsibility, as it is entirely their fault for be a lying, no good dirt bag. I say this as a man.
I was pregnant for the second time with my abusive boyfriend's child, I knew if I had to have another child with him it could cost me my life and it could lead to a horrible future for not only the child I already had but that one and myself. I also have a condition that makes pregnancy very dangerous so I would have had to put my life at risk to have the child with someone I could barely stand to be around because he beat me. Finally I'm free that wouldn't have happened if I had to have another baby from him
I'd like to add that deciding you do not want a child after all, your birthcontrol failing or you simply had a lapse of judgment in the heat of the moment (i.e. not using a condom or w/e) are also valid reasons for wanting to get an abortion. It's not only victims of abuse that should have access to safe methods of abortion, but any woman anywhere.
I was 16 and part of a multi-generational, substance-addicted, abusive and chaotic family living in intense poverty. I had to drive to a neighboring state. I was not taught that human life had value (mine or anyone else's). I knew I would HATE that baby. I knew I would hurt it. And I haven't regretted it for one minute.
Yet a lot of the anti abortion crowd are "my body, my choice" when it comes to vaccines.
Has anyone noticed the people who say "if you don't want a baby don't have sex" are the same people who say (especially of teens) that asexuals are lying and just looking for attention. They say access to abortion promotes teen pregnancy. So you acknowledge that there is a strong desire for sex because you can't wrap your brain around not wanting it, but also say ignore this urge unless you want a baby. You can't have both people, they are mutually exclusive. The only logical answer is that unwanted pregnancies happen and it's the peak of irresponsible behavior to force this child into the world and to force that burden on those that don't want the child or can't have the child
The fact that this is even a conversation infuriates me. It's none of my business. Period. End. Of. Discussion. Not "as a man, it's none of my business" because if I were a woman, it'd still be none of my business what other women do with their bodies and lives. Women shouldn't have to tell their story. There should be nothing to say but, I did a thing, it was the thing I wanted to do. No explanation should be necessary. No shame should be attributed. This is a procedure that has been open and available to women since the birth of civilization (circa 1500 BC). This is all so insane. We might as well ban wombs. God, I just want to kick people sometimes. Sorry, hats off to all of these women, and all of you who have come forward with your stories. I just wish you didn't have to.
We all know if men would be the ones who get pregnant there would be abortion clinics on every corner.
when people say, what if the man wants the baby? he doesn't have to go through nine months of pregnancy and go through labor or get a c section. he can adopt. it's a woman's decision, not a man's.
I was gang-raped in college by at least 3 men. (It was dark, but I know there were at least 3 from their voices.) It was a holiday weekend, and I didn't go home. The dorm was nearly deserted; I think there might have been one other person on my floor. They jumped me in the women's room after turning out the lights. The pregnancy was the result of violence against me, and there was no way I was going to even carry it to term, never mind raise it. That was nearly 40 years ago, and I still know I did the right thing.
All men should have a vasectomy, if we want it reversed, then the doctor should ask for confirmation from the partners in our lives. Once the woman confirms, in writing, and a panel of responsible women agree, the vasectomy can then be reversed. Any pregnancies due to the men cheating, the babies should be 100% the man's responsibility, as it is entirely their fault for be a lying, no good dirt bag. I say this as a man.
I was pregnant for the second time with my abusive boyfriend's child, I knew if I had to have another child with him it could cost me my life and it could lead to a horrible future for not only the child I already had but that one and myself. I also have a condition that makes pregnancy very dangerous so I would have had to put my life at risk to have the child with someone I could barely stand to be around because he beat me. Finally I'm free that wouldn't have happened if I had to have another baby from him
I'd like to add that deciding you do not want a child after all, your birthcontrol failing or you simply had a lapse of judgment in the heat of the moment (i.e. not using a condom or w/e) are also valid reasons for wanting to get an abortion. It's not only victims of abuse that should have access to safe methods of abortion, but any woman anywhere.
I was 16 and part of a multi-generational, substance-addicted, abusive and chaotic family living in intense poverty. I had to drive to a neighboring state. I was not taught that human life had value (mine or anyone else's). I knew I would HATE that baby. I knew I would hurt it. And I haven't regretted it for one minute.
Yet a lot of the anti abortion crowd are "my body, my choice" when it comes to vaccines.
Has anyone noticed the people who say "if you don't want a baby don't have sex" are the same people who say (especially of teens) that asexuals are lying and just looking for attention. They say access to abortion promotes teen pregnancy. So you acknowledge that there is a strong desire for sex because you can't wrap your brain around not wanting it, but also say ignore this urge unless you want a baby. You can't have both people, they are mutually exclusive. The only logical answer is that unwanted pregnancies happen and it's the peak of irresponsible behavior to force this child into the world and to force that burden on those that don't want the child or can't have the child
The fact that this is even a conversation infuriates me. It's none of my business. Period. End. Of. Discussion. Not "as a man, it's none of my business" because if I were a woman, it'd still be none of my business what other women do with their bodies and lives. Women shouldn't have to tell their story. There should be nothing to say but, I did a thing, it was the thing I wanted to do. No explanation should be necessary. No shame should be attributed. This is a procedure that has been open and available to women since the birth of civilization (circa 1500 BC). This is all so insane. We might as well ban wombs. God, I just want to kick people sometimes. Sorry, hats off to all of these women, and all of you who have come forward with your stories. I just wish you didn't have to.
We all know if men would be the ones who get pregnant there would be abortion clinics on every corner.
when people say, what if the man wants the baby? he doesn't have to go through nine months of pregnancy and go through labor or get a c section. he can adopt. it's a woman's decision, not a man's.
