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The term “mansplaining” is a relatively new one. After first being innovated by the author Rebecca Solnit in 2008, it allowed women to describe a common experience they share for which they never had the terminology. “Mansplaining” went beyond the generics like “patronizing” and “presumptuous” and shed light on a profoundly negative side that men explaining things to women has.

Unfortunately, unsolicited explanations from men who are neither your teacher nor your manager are all too common. But to see the level of absurdity and obviousness of the things women have mansplained to them, we have to look at the actual instances that happened to them in real life.

So when Twitter user Nicole Froio, who’s a PhD on sexual violence and masculinity, asked women to share “the most obvious thing a man has ever mansplained to you,” the answers started pouring in one after another. Both ludicrous and plain irritating, they speak thousands of words about power imbalance and gender bias, which shouldn’t be the case when we live in 2021.

Read more irritating mansplaining cases as shared by women in our previous article right here.

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    LuckyL
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean... You push the same way - everything else is completely different (yes, I've done both)

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I witnessed an American man trying to explain a Spanish girl's name to her. He was insisting that one of her names was a 'middle' name, and she was patiently saying that names work differently in Spain. She finally snapped and said 'I know what my own name is'. He was also manspreading in the worst possible way. It was quite hilarious to watch.

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    Bored Panda reached out to the author of the thread, Nicole Froio, who is a feminist writer and researcher. Nicole explained that “mansplaining is one of many daily aggressions women go through in a sexist and misogynistic society, so it has to be understood as a part of a larger system of oppression rather than an isolated incident.”

    It comes from the assumption that “women and other non-men don't have the intelligence to understand the topic at hand, which is a sexist and misogynistic assumption. The mansplainer will explain something that the woman probably already knows already, usually in a condescending and infantilizing way.”

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I never understood why men feel the need to say balls hurt more. That might be true, but it's a pain that lasts 30 seconds at it's most intense then subsides... childbirth is constant for a longtime

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    According to Nicole, it depends where the act of mansplaining happens. For example, when it’s in a professional setting, “this can result in the woman in a professional setting feeling disrespected and/or inept for doing their job, they could feel like they've been publicly humiliated in front of their colleagues and feel a general loss of respect for her expertise."

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    Paul K. Johnson
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don't know the situation there and it sounds like he was a moron. I've written a lot of code and at least a couple of times someone told me what it was really doing which wasn't what I thought it was doing. So they were right. I wrote in a bug and they caught it.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My ex. "I am right and if I'm not, well, let's pretend it didn't happen, let's not ever talk about it."

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    For the men who’re wondering about not coming across as mansplainers, Nicole says that simply asking can go a long way. “Instead of assuming a person doesn't know about a certain topic, why not ask 'Do you know how this works?' or 'I'm not sure if you're familiar with this, but if you do, feel free to stop me.'” These simple questions can correct the behavior that might accidentally harm someone.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn't that be great, though? Like an inner emergency guillotine.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Niall, a birthmark is when part of the skin pigments differently than the rest.

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    Even though Nicole said that mansplaining is not one of the worst things experienced by women in a patriarchal system, she sees it wrong because “it rectifies the gender structure on an interpersonal level.”

    “For example, you might be a woman in a male-dominated industry where your expertise is already undervalued because that field is male-dominated, and then one of your colleagues mansplains a simple concept everyone in the office is familiar with.”

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    Stille20
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh noooooo... it's one thing when it is a random a**hole... but that's her a**hole

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Awesome job. I loved when I worked in one for a while.

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    Such cases can do long-term harm to women. “This can lead to things like imposter syndrome and an unwelcome work environment for women, where people's suspicions about the woman's supposed lack of expertise are rectified by the mansplaining."

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    blugeagua
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It IS mansplaining. Its a man literally telling a woman something that only happens to cis-gendered women. It's something he'll never know or experience. That is mansplaining.

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    Lara Verne
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My father always got mad at me when I took painkillers because if painful cramps. He mansplained that I might get addicted. (Yeah, because taking 1-2 pill per month makes you addict) l

    Hehehehehehehehe (ve/ver)
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yee you don't get to tell me that menstrual cramps don't hurt that much until your laying on the couch not able to move because your in so much pain, and guess what, you get the nausea bonus so your constantly afriad your going to throw uo

    Ozacoter
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Right? I had plenty of accidents and periods are the most painful thing I experienced. My 8+/10 pain doesnt even go away with 200mg of Tramadol (I dont even take it anymore because it does nothing).

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    hehe time for one of those electrical pain simulators <3 https://www.cnet.com/news/menstruation-machine-teaches-men-about-well/#:~:text=Well%2C%20now%20we%20men%20can,of%20Mother%20Nature's%20monthly%20gift.&text=The%20Menstruation%20Machine%20is%20an,by%20her%20own%20monthly%20cycle.

    Tiny van Pouderoyen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    OMG! My dear father told my brothers to leave me alone cuz I was menstruating. I didn't know how he knew, but there it is... <3

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    yep, my pops is like that too. real stand up dudes.

    Emma C
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    9 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Kick him in the stomach repeatedly & tell him it's not that big of a deal

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh lord, my dad does this all the time and when I try to explain it, he just brushes me off. And it's so annoying because my mother has one of the worst cycles I've ever seen and they've been married for so long...

    WhatEvenIsLife
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ha. Still remember an ex of mine insisting that the most fertile time for a woman is when she's on her period. Argued insistently over it. Could not believe he was so convinced he was right and so completely ignorant of the concept of ovulation.

    Anne
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It shouldn't be though, not extremely painful. If it is, you should see a GOOD doctor to check if there isn't something off. Like, a tylenol should fix it to a bearable point and if it doesn't - get checked out!!

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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is very common for women to suffer pain during their menstrual cycle from abdominal cramps, backache, headaches and tender breasts etc. You only really need to get the pain checked is if no pain med helps or you are bleeding more than usual or clotting. Also women with endometriosis, fibroids, PCOS and other issues often suffer severe pain during their menstrual cycle.

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    When asked how one should react to being mansplained to, Nicole said that personally she finds being assertive quite important when responding to mansplaining. “I usually respond by saying things like 'Thanks for explaining, but I already knew that' or even interrupting the mansplainer and saying 'Sorry to interrupt, but I already know that, so we can move onto the next topic instead of wasting time?’”

    Your response can just be a gentle nudge to the fact that you are knowledgeable and that you don't need an explanation, Nicole concluded.

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    Raine Soo
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have noticed that people just don't listen. Whatever you have to say is inconsequential. It can be infuriating, but sometimes, I think "nevermind" and I walk away.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    seems like he might have an interesting view on the subject as he's seen the negative side of the education system.

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    Annika Jorgensen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maby it's more a case of he learned and read up about it and wanted to share it? My partner did the same for our son, not that he was be the breastfeeder xD. But i was happy that he took his time to read up and understand allot of things about having kids. And even if me and his mom already knew things. It's not hard to just listen, and be happy that at least they try instead of not caring about it.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm guessing piloting is a male dominated field? I never thought about it. Anyone know the breakdown? Is it because of military service? Are the numbers starting to even out? Have I asked too many questions?

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...and when you tell them your credentials/expertise/ or education they say you’re arrogant.

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    Carrie Laughs
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I said something about that very issue to my sister who had no idea of the direction one should wipe.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I didn't even know there were such things as trucks with 36 gears! Does it work like bicycle gears?

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In fairness I have met a lot of people who didn't know the political history of their home country. And no they were not just Americans. Some of my Russian students have said some really funny stuff too, like when one tried to tell me the statue on the main square was Stalin. Its a bearded bald guy who is pretty obviously Lenin. And my colleagues used to have students tell them in English about the history of their home town ( Kirov) and none of the students seemed to know who that was despite the town being named for him and us having statues of him dotted around. In fairness I study Soviet history, but they would say, "Let's ask the American" and then I of course knew who Sergei Mironovich was and students would study harder for their next dialogue.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd suggest he also go look up infant and maternal mortality rates in Africa and then report him

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be honest, that can be any art admirer, regardless of gender, interpreting a drawing, painting, or photograph.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do they get a kick out of wrongly declaring things for women? Alternate drug high?

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ahh yes they do know so much more than you of that topic, y'know.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is the first time I've heard of this one. I must be terribly sheltered.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No it is not. My Aunt told me that kidney stones hurt more than child birth, but I call BS on that because I've had kidney stones and I've seen childbirth. I'm glad I cannot give birth.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Let me guess, you have one stroke of ginger hair and have tried a beer once? Despite the ginger thing being way more of a scottish thing.. Fun.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I find that when I explain that my menopause is a factor in why I'm not interested in sex all the time I am ignored or im using it as an excuse to not have sex or I don't desire him. But when a guy has ED; THAT is a real problem and a more acceptable explanation for having sex issues than the menopause women go through. My boyfriend is like this.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    What is the logic behind these at this point? Stop being so prideful, men, accept someone has more knowledge in a field than you..

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It was a full service station. He was checking it anyway. Probably just thought he was being helpful. If this is one of the worst interactions you've had with a man, I'd say you're doing ok.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of course you don't know, that man is a professional reader and he read an article online!

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    To be completely fair being pregnant does not actually make you an expert on pregnancies in general. That's why we have doctors.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Probably one of many who think the Nazis were socialists. It's a common misconception, promoted by Glenn Beck and other rightwing propagandists.

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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Do they think it's like cow milk? I wonder.. Cheese?

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    That isn't mansplaining. That's someone looking out for your health, skin cancer is awful.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    He just wanted to look at your boobs. Lame excuse if I ever heard one.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Are you sure....? Really sure? He also read an article, from a totally legit website.

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't mean he doesn't know what he is talking about. You assume he doesn't know because he was working as a custodian. Seems a little small minded to me

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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is fine and Verena, she said he explained what she did for a living, not that he helped her with his ideas and thoughts. He literally told her how her job works.

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