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“He’s an overgrown child” is one of the usual complaints wives have about their husbands. It isn’t new among women to share stories about their spouses leaving used socks lying around the bedroom floor as if expecting someone to pick up after them.
Today’s post highlights these frustrating moments as women around the internet share their experiences. You’re about to see photos of dirty clothes a few inches from the laundry basket, pairs of shoes on a clean bedsheet, and screenshots of text messages from men wanting a “traditional wife.”
Ladies, we recognize your exasperation. Gentlemen, we can definitely do better.
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#1
I Did That All The Time When I Was Married
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#3
And Expected To Do The Cleanup
Nitka Tsar 2 months ago
Just laugh and let him do all that alone while you go out for an hour… although that might have the risk of coming back to a destroyed kitchen
The unequal division of labor is one of the common themes in this post. According to licensed marriage and family therapist Kate Engler, it’s also one of the top complaints from her female clients.
In an interview with Fatherly, Engler says wives feel burdened by obligations seemingly dropped on their laps, from running errands to scheduling appointments.
“They feel like they have to be the manager of all of those things,” Engler said of her clients.
#4
The Problem With A Lot Of Dudes Who Want A Trad-Wife Is That They Refuse To Be A Traditional Husband
Jessica Cooney 2 months ago
Ah yes, he wants a trad wife who does EVERYTHING in the house AND works a full time, 40 hr a week job making 6 figures while he plays video games and watches football.
#5
I Don't Ask You If I Should Do The Washing Up, You Shouldn't Either
#6
If Equality Starts At Home, Maybe You Could Actually Help Your Wife With The Chores And The Baby Too
The “overgrown child” comment was from one of Sam Marion’s clients. In the same interview, the Georgia-based marriage counselor shared how many women are frustrated by how their husbands expect them to do house chores after a long workday.
The husband then becomes another “kid” that the wife needs to take care of in addition to her motherly obligations.
#7
My Answer To That Has Always Been “No One Asked Me To Do It, So Why Should I Have To Ask You?”
#8
This Is What Happens When I Get Sick. Dishes And Other Housework Don't Get Done
#9
Last Night I Asked My Husband To Put Some Spaghetti On The Stove So I Could Start Dinner When I Got Home
While some posts are framed humorously, this unequal division of labor can have hefty consequences. A study published in the Brazilian Journal of Epidemiology revealed that wives who feel burdened by their home lives may experience more depressive symptoms.
These burdens may also affect a person’s physical health. Another study published by the American Psychosomatic Society saw a link between people who feel more responsible for household chores and worsened cardiovascular health. These findings apply to both men and women.
#10
My Husband Decided To Trim His Hair This Morning Before Leaving For Work And I Am Really Tempted To Just Ignore This And Use Bidet And Bath Faucet And See How Long This Stays Here
#11
My Husband Will Never Close A Draw Or Shut A Cupboard
#12
Husband Leaves His Dirty Clothes And Boots On Just Changed Sheets
Other studies have revealed that housework inequality may affect the relationship’s stability, increasing the likelihood of separation.
Experts point to traditional gender roles as one of the primary reasons for the uneven distribution of labor around the house. Men tend to see housework as “mundane” and “repetitive,” often dismissing it as “women’s work.”
#13
Yeah Real "Funny"
#14
Anyone Else’s Partner Put Empty Dishes Back In Fridge? Not The First And Definitely Not The Last Sadly
#15
So Men’s Brains Actually Are Not Wired Differently To Be Bad At Noticing Dirty Towels On The Floor
Relationships are teamwork, and both people involved must pull their weight to keep the ship afloat. For husbands, a good start would be to take on any tasks they can, such as bathing the kids and putting them to bed.
“Don’t make a grand proclamation to your partner about what you’re going to start doing differently ― just start doing,” therapist Dr. Kurt Smith told HuffPost.
#16
As If It Is Not Also His Responsibility
Stephanie Did It 2 months ago (edited)
I just moved into an apartment that formerly housed a single male tenant. He didn't cook; he barbecued. The owner cleaned BBQ sauce off the stove, walls, and ceiling. It took me days more to get the stove and floors *actually* clean.
#17
A Month After Moving In With My Boyfriend, I Find This In The Fridge
#18
Red Flag
TruthoftheHeart 2 months ago
My 8-year-old son already knows how to do laundry from washing to folding.. it's not rocket science
Women often have to balance household chores with their personal and professional lives, which can be exhausting. As a doting spouse, recognizing these efforts and showing gratitude can go a long way.
As Los Angeles-based couples therapist Katlin Kindman LCSW explained, a genuine display of gratefulness can help strengthen the bond between the couple.
“[It] can fuel more motivation to take over some tasks with increased eagerness and ease!” Kindman said.
#19
Dear Husband, Is It Too Much To Ask That You Sort The Silverware When Unloading The Dishwasher?
#20
My Boyfriend's Dirty Clothes And Basket Are Just 10 Centimeters Away
#21
How My Mum's Husband Leaves The Kitchen After His Breakfast Every Day
We’d like to hear from you, too, readers. Are any of you going through these experiences? How are you handling the division of household chores? Let us know in the comments!
#22
My Husband Decided That This Is Clean Enough To Put It Back With The Clean Dishes
#23
The State My Husband Leaves Our Kitchen In
I don't even understand the mindset that allows you to leave the cabinets like this.
#24
"Don't Put The Socks Away, I'll Still Wear Them"
#25
Can't Do Anything By Themselves
#26
Where My Partner Thinks Empty Rolls Go
#27
The Morning After A Summer Party I Was So Proud That My Husband Remembered To Put Away The Leftover Pulled Pork. I Should've Known There Was A Catch
#28
Dog Destroyed Trim
Left my husband in charge of our dogs while the kids and I visited my family, he chose to stay at his brothers and only let our dogs out once a day. Yesterday he sent me this picture and proceeds to blame it on me.
#29
This Dude Slept Through Our Lunch Date And Blames Me (Because I Don’t Exchange Numbers Until Meeting/Vibe Check). Because, Apparently, I Should’ve Woken Him Up And Waited
#30
The Definition Of "Weaponized Incompetence"
#31
My Husband's Empty Contact Cases. And The Garbage 2 Ft Away
#32
I Haven’t Spoken To My Ex-Husband In 2 Years. Looks Like He Should’ve Included "Access To HBO"In The Divorce Proceedings
#33
He Can Build Me A House But He Can't Change A Kitchen Roll
#34
Husband And Kids Always Leave Their Shoes In Front Of The Shoe Rack
This truly annoys me to no end. I'll often trip on the shoes or they'll block the door.
#35
When You Ask Your Husband To Put A Heater In The Bathroom And He Does
#36
My Mom Was Texting This Guy On Bumble
#37
I Asked My Husband To Hang Up My Dresses, Not Quite What I Meant
#38
Dude, It’s The Dirty Socks! They’re On The Kitchen Counter, The Bed Headboard, The Dining Table, My Desk, The TV Stand, In The Dog's Mouth. Anywhere But The Laundry
Kelly Scott 2 months ago
I just don't understand this. Why would any woman choose to live with a five-year-old in an adult's body? And then put up with this s**t? I guess if you are the type of woman who likes running a boarding house for delinquent teenagers, including the one you're married to, fine by me, but any man who expected me to pick up after him would have his a*s kicked to the curb in five minutes straight. Life is too short to play mommy to an adult man.
Vanessa Steis 2 months ago
Cause things like that don't annoy you that much at the beginning of a relationship. and a lot of those you only notice when moving together. When you already invested years in a relationship and love the person you don't immediately break up because of such things. Sometimes there's always the hope that they'll change.
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Dusty's mom 2 months ago
Kick them under the furniture until none are left, and look puzzled when he asks where they are. Socks? What socks?
Wendy Neumeyer 2 months ago
Go to a thrift store or wherever stuff is cheapest. Buy a bunch of laundry baskets and place one anywhere you find dirty clothes discarded. If they are in the way of cooking meals, serve cold food until the message is received. Anything else left laying around gets one polite reminder to clean up after themselves. Second time it goes in a bag in a closet. If they don't stop thr bag goes in the garbage. They only get those things replaced through normal gift giving such as birthdays, holidays, etc. Works for husband's and children.
Sara Harvilla 2 months ago
My husband left his inside-out socks by his recliner in the living room. The dog left hair balls accumulated on the floor on the way to the laundry. Those socks worked so well to pick up all that hair. I just had to remember to turn the socks right side out before they went in the wash.
#39
There Are New Toilet Paper Rolls Right There
#40
When Your Husband Is Looking For Something While You Are In The Shower And Seemingly Can't Shut Any Draw He Opens? Either That Or We Have A Ghost
He is nowhere to be seen, so maybe they were making a quick escape from something? Or going out to buy bacon?
Sarah Matsoukis 2 months ago
I like the slowly self closing ones, this is a habit that won't die
#41
My Now Ex Boyfriend Has Been Sending Me Texts Non Stop. I Sent Him A Message Saying Me Moving Out And Us Breaking Up Is For The Best, And This Was His Response
#42
Husband Who Is Struggling To Make Ends Meet Gets Mad At His Wife For"Lowering Herself" Because She Found Coupons In The Trash To Feed Her Kids
#43
Women Explains Why She Doesn't Do Her Husband's Laundry And Gets Called Selfish
#44
Where The Toilet Paper Goes vs. Where My Husband Chose To Put It
Kelly Scott 2 months ago
That's a man just asking to wipe his butt with his hands on account of there's no more toilet paper.
#45
My Husband's "Bottle Graveyard". Only 4 Bottles On His Shelf Actually Have Soap In Them
Kelly Scott 2 months ago
I'd be so tempted to buy ten more, empty them, and stack them on there.
#46
I Mean Seriously? And My Husband Complains I Leave Dishes In The Sink Not Rinsed. At Least They're In The Sink
#48
Apparently, This Is My Punishment For Going For A Run
#49
Weaponized Incompetence
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Yu Pan 2 months ago
My roommate also leaves a mess everywhere he goes and I always pick up after him. But he's cute and cuddly and has the best meows in the world. What do these men have?
The Doom Song 2 months ago
This makes me appreciate my partner even more. We usually try to go 50/50 on the household chores. The only thing he doesn't do is walk the dog because he starts work really early so I'm the one who has the time in the morning to walk the dog
Simba 2 months ago
When their parents coddle and spoil them, without teaching them life skills when they were younger like cooking, cleaning, washing, doing household chores, initiate common sense in doing daily things, this is what you get. So ladies & gentlemen, if you dislike this in your life, make sure they are domestically trained before agreeing to marry them or co-habitat.
Ionescu Popa 1 month ago
same when they persecute them, and they spend all their childhood avoiding the kicks.
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qkppyrxvfx 2 months ago
Every single one of these posts reminds me why I am so very, very single.
Rose the Cook 2 months ago
My first husband's rules; Anything to do with the house or children is women's work. Supporting your husband and his extended parasitic family is also women's work. Men's work : zilch! Both my sons cook and do laundry etc.
Rens 2 months ago
Throughout my life I have lived with three different men in three different long-term relationships, one of them was my marriage. Not once was it ever beneficial to me to live with a man. It didn't matter if I was working full time, part time, or a stay at home mom, I still had to do every single thing around the house despite suffering from chronic illnesses which took everything out of me. My current roommate, a beautiful green-eyed brunette, takes care of me: she reminds me to take my medications, eat or go to bed, never leaves my side when I have flares, comforts me with her purrs when I'm in pain, hangs out with me when I'm feeling unwell and she doesn't even leave hairballs anywhere!
Multa Nocte 2 months ago
I am going to sincerely hope that this is just a minority of boyfriends and husbands. Call me naive, but I have to cling to something.
Janelle Collard 2 months ago
My ex MILs were the BEST cuz all my ex-hubs were *taught* to do this stuff.
MeowMix 2 months ago
I'm so glad my husband isn't a man-child like the ones in this list. He and I equally share cleaning, yard work, and chores, I cook more than he does but he'll always wash up and he does ALL of the laundry even though I offer. The only silly thing he does is he sometimes leaves the microwave door open after using it. I'm even more thankful for him now
kkrq2vk4tm 2 months ago
Now lets see one about women who make their partners lives harder than they need to be because they are out there and as a mother who raised two boys I'm getting tired of all the articles demonising men, the majority of men are decent human beings.
Skogsrået 2 months ago (edited)
What annoys me the most is the fücking attitude that men help their partners when they do chores around the house. No, if we both have jobs then you should do your fair share and pull your weight 50/50! And that is without me having to tell you what to do and when to do it you giant baby!
Tony Chambers 2 months ago
Try to find a firefighter. They know cooking, cleaning and, (big bonus) CPR.
N. 2 months ago
My unpopular opinion: most of this stuff isn't a big deal to me. I'd assume the husbands love their wives and are generally trying. And I would also assume the men's homes looked like that before the woman came along, so it shouldn't be a surprise. But I think going on the internet to disparage your partner because, even though he built you a house, he left the paper towels next to your ugly a*s paper towel holder? You might not be the catch you think you are. Your partner isn't YOU, and they have different standards of cleanliness. It's up to you to decide what matters in the end, and I think this is (generally) sweating the small stuff.
Ovata Acronicta 2 months ago
Dad set a good example for me. Except for this side of the family having the emotional maturity of a potato, things that need to get done often do, because, duh, they need to get done. He's recently taken up cooking (more in-depth cooking) and I'm proud of him for it. Grandma never let him in the kitchen... but he always made a hella good scrambled egg regardless.
Rebekah Fuentes 2 months ago
Couldn't even finish this. This. This is one of the many reasons I will never marry and will only choose to take care of myself and my dog. I'm done raising children.
WonderWoman 2 months ago
I don't understand why women allow themselves to be disrespected like above. The first time they do any of these things you call them out on it and refuse to tolerate their laziness.
Lara Verne 2 months ago (edited)
Remind me of my ex. Before we moved in together, he was living alone. He was cooking, cleaning, washing his clothes, everything. His studio wasn't messy at all. But once we moved in together, he didn't even bother to put dirty dishes in the sink. he just left them on the table....
Arabiata Arabiata 2 months ago
These are not man / husbands but selfish, lazy, children. When I told a grown woman that I can cook, do the chores, and go grocery shopping, she asked me if I'm a man anyway. Women do not appreciate independent men who take care of themselves.
Rebecca McManus 2 months ago
Yeah, all these men should be single, my ex husband used to brag about doing the housework when he did it maybe once a year, that's not why he's my ex but it's one of the reasons why I'll never let another man move in
BrunoVI 2 months ago
Does anyone else sense a way of telling a nice guy from a "nice guy" emerging from this?
Yu Pan 2 months ago
My roommate also leaves a mess everywhere he goes and I always pick up after him. But he's cute and cuddly and has the best meows in the world. What do these men have?
The Doom Song 2 months ago
This makes me appreciate my partner even more. We usually try to go 50/50 on the household chores. The only thing he doesn't do is walk the dog because he starts work really early so I'm the one who has the time in the morning to walk the dog
Simba 2 months ago
When their parents coddle and spoil them, without teaching them life skills when they were younger like cooking, cleaning, washing, doing household chores, initiate common sense in doing daily things, this is what you get. So ladies & gentlemen, if you dislike this in your life, make sure they are domestically trained before agreeing to marry them or co-habitat.
Ionescu Popa 1 month ago
same when they persecute them, and they spend all their childhood avoiding the kicks.
Load More Replies... qkppyrxvfx 2 months ago
Every single one of these posts reminds me why I am so very, very single.
Rose the Cook 2 months ago
My first husband's rules; Anything to do with the house or children is women's work. Supporting your husband and his extended parasitic family is also women's work. Men's work : zilch! Both my sons cook and do laundry etc.
Rens 2 months ago
Throughout my life I have lived with three different men in three different long-term relationships, one of them was my marriage. Not once was it ever beneficial to me to live with a man. It didn't matter if I was working full time, part time, or a stay at home mom, I still had to do every single thing around the house despite suffering from chronic illnesses which took everything out of me. My current roommate, a beautiful green-eyed brunette, takes care of me: she reminds me to take my medications, eat or go to bed, never leaves my side when I have flares, comforts me with her purrs when I'm in pain, hangs out with me when I'm feeling unwell and she doesn't even leave hairballs anywhere!
Multa Nocte 2 months ago
I am going to sincerely hope that this is just a minority of boyfriends and husbands. Call me naive, but I have to cling to something.
Janelle Collard 2 months ago
My ex MILs were the BEST cuz all my ex-hubs were *taught* to do this stuff.
MeowMix 2 months ago
I'm so glad my husband isn't a man-child like the ones in this list. He and I equally share cleaning, yard work, and chores, I cook more than he does but he'll always wash up and he does ALL of the laundry even though I offer. The only silly thing he does is he sometimes leaves the microwave door open after using it. I'm even more thankful for him now
kkrq2vk4tm 2 months ago
Now lets see one about women who make their partners lives harder than they need to be because they are out there and as a mother who raised two boys I'm getting tired of all the articles demonising men, the majority of men are decent human beings.
Skogsrået 2 months ago (edited)
What annoys me the most is the fücking attitude that men help their partners when they do chores around the house. No, if we both have jobs then you should do your fair share and pull your weight 50/50! And that is without me having to tell you what to do and when to do it you giant baby!
Tony Chambers 2 months ago
Try to find a firefighter. They know cooking, cleaning and, (big bonus) CPR.
N. 2 months ago
My unpopular opinion: most of this stuff isn't a big deal to me. I'd assume the husbands love their wives and are generally trying. And I would also assume the men's homes looked like that before the woman came along, so it shouldn't be a surprise. But I think going on the internet to disparage your partner because, even though he built you a house, he left the paper towels next to your ugly a*s paper towel holder? You might not be the catch you think you are. Your partner isn't YOU, and they have different standards of cleanliness. It's up to you to decide what matters in the end, and I think this is (generally) sweating the small stuff.
Ovata Acronicta 2 months ago
Dad set a good example for me. Except for this side of the family having the emotional maturity of a potato, things that need to get done often do, because, duh, they need to get done. He's recently taken up cooking (more in-depth cooking) and I'm proud of him for it. Grandma never let him in the kitchen... but he always made a hella good scrambled egg regardless.
Rebekah Fuentes 2 months ago
Couldn't even finish this. This. This is one of the many reasons I will never marry and will only choose to take care of myself and my dog. I'm done raising children.
WonderWoman 2 months ago
I don't understand why women allow themselves to be disrespected like above. The first time they do any of these things you call them out on it and refuse to tolerate their laziness.
Lara Verne 2 months ago (edited)
Remind me of my ex. Before we moved in together, he was living alone. He was cooking, cleaning, washing his clothes, everything. His studio wasn't messy at all. But once we moved in together, he didn't even bother to put dirty dishes in the sink. he just left them on the table....
Arabiata Arabiata 2 months ago
These are not man / husbands but selfish, lazy, children. When I told a grown woman that I can cook, do the chores, and go grocery shopping, she asked me if I'm a man anyway. Women do not appreciate independent men who take care of themselves.
Rebecca McManus 2 months ago
Yeah, all these men should be single, my ex husband used to brag about doing the housework when he did it maybe once a year, that's not why he's my ex but it's one of the reasons why I'll never let another man move in
BrunoVI 2 months ago
Does anyone else sense a way of telling a nice guy from a "nice guy" emerging from this?
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