“I Thought The Spelling Was A Joke”: Parents Angry After Friend Gets Honest About Their Baby’s Name
Parents nowadays are determined to make their kids’ names as unique as possible. Mostly because they want their children to stand out instead of fitting in in our individualistic society. However, in the process of searching for unusual names or their spellings, their vision might get clouded, making them forget how giving them such a name will affect their child in the future.
It happened with this mom too. Luckily, her friend was there to warn her about it. But she didn’t want to listen to her, as she thought she was being mean and even called her “the worst friend ever,” putting their friendship in jeopardy.
When picking a unique name for their child, parents don’t always think about how their children will be affected by it
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This woman tried warning her friend about picking a very unusual name for her kid, but she refused to listen
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“Parents are really, really worried about their kids being ordinary”
“I think in past generations, parents were much more concerned about their kids’ names fitting in. But in the past 20 years, the focus has been 100% on standing out,” says Laura Wattenberg, founder of Baby Name Wizard. “Parents are really, really worried about their kids being ordinary.”
Indeed, during previous centuries, people impulsively followed tradition, giving children the names that were given before them. “Parents simply did what had always been done,” she says. Funnily enough, Wattenberg points out that in England, boys names John and William remained in the top two for more than 700 years. This can be explained by the fact that naming conventions were rooted in religion and ancestry. As a result, names from the Bible or those associated with other moral attributes were popular.
Over time, the weakening of ties with culture, religion, and family meant that parents had more freedom to choose the names of their children. A person’s name started to become a form of self-expression and society moved towards celebrating individuality and its freedom.
Interestingly, the generation of Boomers was the first one that wanted their children to have cool names. Research has noticed a steady decrease in common names in the US from the 1950s and an analysis of 348 million American baby names across 137 years found that Baby Boomers generated 4 times more new names per thousand people for boys and 2.75 for girls.
With the rise of the Internet, this desire to stand out was amplified, and millennials took it a step further. The introduction of baby name statistics made them feel even more competitive and instead of wanting to be at the top, they preferred to avoid the charts. Nowadays, parents also want their children’s names to signal feminist values and honor their family history in a way that is compatible with modern-day times.
“Pick a name that will last the test of time and that won’t go out of fashion”
One simple way to make a name stand out is to mix up the spelling. Let’s take ‘Sean’ as an example. Alternatively, it could be written as Shawn, Shaun, or even Shawne. Even though it’s spelled differently, its pronunciation remains the same and allows for a more distinct and trendier look.
However, something that parents should keep in mind while doing so is not to make the name too hard to spell for others, as it might have an impact on the little one as they grow up. In her study, psychologist Jean Twenge found that children who have common names with complicated lettering have slower spelling and reading capabilities. “You have the child named Jennifer spelled with a ‘G’ — her teacher says, ‘Are you sure your name is spelled that way?’ That can be incredibly hard on a person’s confidence,” Twenge illustrated in her study.
A person’s unusual name can also impact their career. A study by New York University revealed that hard-to-pronounce names were favored over those who weren’t. In general, familiar, easy-to-pronounce names seem to be more likable and trustworthy. People with more common names even have better luck at being swiped right on dating apps.
Noticing similar challenges Bounty.com research found that a fifth of British parents regret giving their children a unique name and wish they would have chosen a name that was easier to spell. 8% reported being tired of others not pronouncing their children’s names right.
Some countries even regulate names that can be used out of concern that children may face embarrassment, bullying, or even violence. For instance, in Iceland, parents can only choose from an approved government list, and in Germany, names have to be approved and be indicative of gender.
Ultimately, parents should look beyond giving a unique name that makes their child stand out from the crowd and spend more time thinking about the long-term implications for their children. Parenting educator Michael Grose suggests trying the boardroom test to see if the name is suitable for their little one. “Imagine your kid walking into an important meeting and introducing themselves, then picture the reaction of others,” he said.
If the parents sense that the name might raise an eyebrow or a few, it’s best to reconsider it. “Pick a name that will last the test of time and that won’t go out of fashion. Think long-term,” he said. “You get one chance to make a good first impression and a name has a lot to do with that,” he concludes.
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Ghiulyette looks like a Gillette's knockoff. Mahriya looks like a drunkard trying to remember Bill Maher's last name. Just how badly did those kids mess up in their previous lives for them to be stuck with parents like these??
Honestly, I would believe it was a newly-discovered strain of bacteria if someone showed it to me. Das bad.
Load More Replies...You just know her house is beige af and has a "live love laugh" sign framed in the lounge room.
I got teased as a kid for being named "Crystal". It's the normal spelling, too, not a tragedeigh-spelling. And yet the kids still mocked me, because it was an unusual name when I was growing up. I wanted to change my name the second I hit 18. I got over it by the time I turned 18 (also because "Crystal" isn't THAT weird of a name) but I got enough of the experience to GUARANTEE you that "Ghiuliyette" is going to get mocked and teased and isn't going to be "soooo happy" that her parents gave her a "unique" name. She will want to change her name, if only to the simpler spelling, so she doesn't have to keep spelling her name for others.
I'm sorry that you were teased. I had a girl in my class in elementary school named Crystal and I always thought it was a cool name.
Load More Replies...My first instinct is to say Gilly-ette? Gh isn’t like J in English. These parents are ridiculous.
God bless this woman. It’s hard to speak sanity to the insane. And they end up hating you for it.
New parents want to be unique.with their kids names. Read unique as brain dead. If they really want their kids to be mocked and bullied, they succeeded. Gillylyette? Seriously, that's how some will pronounce it.
that's a stupid name and makes me think of "Gillette" (as in, the shaving brand) rather than "Juliet/Juliette" and Mahriya is not normal either. its. MARIA. (but hey, at least Op's friends kid will be the best a man can get... /s)
Good on you for having the guts to tell these fantasy-dwelling parents the truth. I’ve lived with a “unique” name for nearly 50 years & although I’ve never been bullied, it has meant a lifetime of frustration having to constantly spell, pronounce & explain it, not to mention endlessly correcting people who can’t spell or pronounce it. Children are not pets & yet many parents seem to treat them as such when deciding on names.
My first name and surname are both spelt in a slightly different way than most people would assume. Ever since I started school 40 years ago I have had to spell out my name and had to have official documents and accounts sent back numerous times; it might be a "first world" problem, and despite being resigned to it, I can tell you it's a nightmare, pain in the a**e. OP shouldn't have continued to argue their point, but the parents should have realised that it isn't your name that makes you unique. The husband is annoyed because someone dared to question him. The poor child will almost certainly end up feeling some resentment and will probably change the spelling of their name as soon as they are able.
My married named is Knutson. It has been mispronounced every way possible. I don't correct people and never have. The K is pronounced, so it's Kah-noot-son. I miss my maiden name.
Load More Replies...Just saying, the "unique spelling" of your kid identify them immediately as coming from a specific social-economic class. Teachers, employers, acquaintance WILL have a preconceived idea of the type of person the person is and unfortunately, they might be right. There are sociology studies about name. They matter.
I have a very unusual first name, and I have to explain it to every person I meet, pretty much every day. It's annoying and tiresome. I get the same jokes about my name by every person who thinks they are being clever. They are not being clever. Please give your children a simple name.
I think kids need to know that if they hate their name, they are allowed to go by one of their own choosing. That won't fix official documents, but it will make their lives more pleasant with people who actually care about their feelings.
Stupid spellings of names literally have a severely negative effect on a person's life. They get bullied, get less respect from teachers, are less likely to be chosen for extracurriculars, less likely to get the best jobs... and on it goes. Have people NOT read Freakonomics? OP is trying to save a child from a lifetime of misery from stupid parents.
I had to change my name. Ridiculous spellings are incentives for bullies. Those parents need a wake-up call!
Dear pregnant couples: if you want a clever, creative, unique, "cute" name for something, GET A DAMN DOG. Do not saddle another human with a stupid name for life. Your clever name will be a bully magnet when they're a kid and a future-killer when they're an adult. There will never be a CEO Ghiuliyette Mahriya. There will never be a General Ghiuliyette Mahriya. There will never be a President Ghiuliyette Mahriya. Stop ruining your child's future because you want to be some of THOSE parents.
Another Tragedeigh! Too many people are condemning their poor kids with their foolish idea of being eweneek. You are 100% right. Unless the kid gets too used to the name,they will most likely change the spelling as soon as they are legally able. Sorry the spelling sounds like a newly discovered disease. Lol
Gh does not make the same sound as J in English. She's called ghoul-iette.
Poor kid, her parents are immature idiots. She will probably hate her name. The 1that really bugs me I Nevaeh... Dumbasses spelling heaven backwards for little girls the last 3 or 4 years
My name is very unusual, (think found in a Jane Austen novel or a historical duchess) but it's a real name. So many people get it wrong and call me similar but incorrect names. I used to hate it, because I genuinely love my name, but I've given up correcting people. I'll answer to any variation, so long as they're in the right direction. This kid though? Oooooh she's gonna be so bullied. I have to explain that my name is derived from my grandad's at least three times a week (public facing job) and mine is at least legible.
this reminds me of my 7th grade math and science teacher, who i will call mrs crow. one of my deadnames(i have 3 of them) was melisa, spelt with one s and not two. it was because it was pronounced in spanish and my great aunt was named melisa. mrs crow would put some of my classmates names into our math word problems that we would do in our zoom classes(this was in either 2021 or 22) like for example "louis has 7 apples and gave 1/4th of them to chloe". one day she gave us a problem that was supposed to have my name but it was spelled "melissa". i HATED it when people would spell it with two s because i felt it disrespected my great aunt, who passed away when she was 53. so i told mrs crow that she had spelled my name wrong and that it was spelled with one s and not two. and mrs crow decided that this was a good time to tease me, and she put down "melisssa" and i was like "no not like that" and then she put down "melissssssssssssssa" and she laughed at me as i cried. good times /sarc
I pity any child who is named by selfish parents with a handful of Scrabble tiles and no common sense. And I really hope someone somewhere gets a grant to track the increasing incidence of legal name changes over the next few decades.
My first name is usually spelled Annick, with a c. My parents decided to make it Annik. Plus we had an unusual last name. I found myself having to spell it out all the time. Even now many people misspell my first name, including some of my inlaws. Not counting all the people who get my email address wrong. So I may be unique, but I wouldn't wish it on any child.
Haha, how anyone could even think smashing their keyboard to come up with a name is beyond my comprehension. That name looks like it woud be "Gee you let," which could be a ripoff of Gillette. Or a sound you make while puking. Mahriya? Yeah... "Maw ree eye uh?" Definitely someone worshiping at the porcelain altar. Combining Maria and Mariah does not work, nor does respelling either of them.
My first AND last name are spelled weird. My first name is always spelled wrong even by people who have known me for years. My last name is mispronounced wrong all the time. It gets very tiresome. Don't do that to your kids
Sometimes people need a harsh reality check before making a bad decision. Someone has to do it, and everyone else is grateful.
Ghiulyette.....are the parents stock owners in Ghirardelli chocolate or something? Ludicrous and setting the child up to struggle with gaining employment (I've worked so many places where they see a name on a resume/CV that they can't pronounce, so they chuck it straight in the trash).
I've dealt with both sides of this in the naming of my children. My first was a wake up call for sure. We picked a name with a spelling that paid homage to relatives (who had slightly more unique names) and as soon as her dad and I divorced when she was 10, he took her to change it because she was so unhappy. It hurt me at the time (I was a teen when I got pregnant with her) but now after another 5 kids I realize that I was 100% the a**hole.
No, no. no. I speak as someone with a 10 -letter last name, It was 3 syllables & easy to pronounce, but people never got it right. The ending was "bach," like the composer or Ringo Starr's wife. After mangling up the first, part people would end it with "back," "bach." or "bock." When people see a lot of letters, they freak. I cant imagine what they would do with Ghiulyette.
ONE OF THE DUMBEST NAMES EVER...as dumb as Syminall Tree Johnson..in my grandsons class...guess what..?? ITS A BOY..
I'd assume the name was pronounced "Ghoul-y Yeti" which is a great name if your a Sasquatch in a Halloween special but not so much if your a normal human girl.
I HAVE known ppl named Maria, spelled Mahriya... I pronounced it wrong until I was corrected. Apparently, it's Indian or something, but I honestly never dwelled on it long enough to look it up. The first name, however, I am SO glad the OP explained it. I was totally reading it as Ghoolie-yet, like some kind of Halloween pun.
My name is Mia pronounced Maya but spelled Meeah. I love the name and I hate every second of every interaction over the last forty years where I have to explain it yet again ahhhhhhh
I think OP was an AH for being so rude in declaring the name would 'ruin" the child's life- it would have been much more kind and less drama inducing to say the unusual spelling would make the child a mark for bullies and teachers would mispronounce the name all the time- and then leave it at that. Then let the idiot parents slowly come to that realization as well, with no bad blood between two former besties.
In Italian it's Giulietta. In French, Juliette. If you want something original, just change the language. 25 years ago, a friend of my mom's told us she would name her baby girl Gwendolyn. We're in France and the name is accepted (the law here can forbid names and I think it's a really good law !). My mom immediately asked her friend how the girl would learn to write her own name at preschool. So she decided to name her Manon instead. When I told Manon the name she should have, she laughed and said thanks to my mother.
This is how they write now. Just how it sounds because they don't teach them anything any longer. The person is right about this being a nightmare for this child though. On any important documents she is going to have to make it is spelled right and she will continually be telling ppl how to spell it and pronounce it.
Parents need to stop thinking their children are objects to display. The name should be about the child, not about you, the parent. You can't go around thinking about how you feel about your unique object. Think about the needs of the kids, and the kids can be unique through something far less superficial.
Both my first and my last name are one letter off from what people in my country would assume - cue a lifetime of intense pronunciation and spelling. The kicker though is that my name is unique IN THE WORLD and it's a good thing I never ventured online under my own name because AI would have a field day.
This- the legal document nightmare! Imagine registering this name in ER for example? Travelling abroad? Banking?
Reminds me of “Mad About You” when Paul and Jamie name their girl Mabel (acronym for Mothers Always Bring Extra Love) and the girl eventually changes it to Tanya (Try Another Name You A$$holes).
My rather pithy & elegant post disappeared - I can't even find the particular post under which I was replying & don't have the energy to start over. Suffice it to say, I've got some experience with whatever her name is will go thru & her parents are stupid AF, not to mention cruel. The last sort of unusual name I was told had been decided on if the baby were a girl ..... came from "Game of Thrones." TG the baby was a boy but his name isn't much better, & the reasoning for choosing it was absurd.
My niece in law is named Guilia, its simply the Italian speĺling of Julia because they are, Italian. Don't know about the H in Ghuiliette but are these people of Italian heritage? If so, this is well overblown.
If they are Italian her name is Giulia.
Load More Replies...thankfully ridiculous spelling looks like mostly english language problem
My first name is normal, albeit really old fashioned, and I was teased relentlessly when I was growing up. Mary, Mary quite contrary...how does your garden grow? I used to hate it til I came up with with silver bells and cockle shells and one goddamn onion. Pretty much shüt that one down, but there were others. Doesn't matter what you name your kid, there are ALWAYS gonna be arsehole kids who will happily take the pïss out of you if they want. ETA: really BP.....you censor shüt???? That's just insane!!
YTA, NOTS your child, NOTS your decision, and NOT your place to berate the mother for her choices. I say this for simple reasons. I have common names, with just slightly different than the average use of the names in question, people ALWAYS spell my name incorrectly when compared to my birth certificate. My middle name too. I am so amused to see more and more females with the same spelling for what is my middle name. As for adding your name to an email or document, so what would be stopping her from singing G.M (surname), NOTHING THATS WHAT, the girl might chose to do what I do, use the short form of her name, vast numbers of people do, then she only has to remember the spelling for her short form name. as for prononuiation, HA, My step father when he uses my full name DELINERATELY choses to pronounce it in a offensive mispronounciation kind of way. The spelling doesn't matter, all she has to do is state how its pronounced. your other arguements, IRRELIVENT, not your kid.
Oh FFS. "Ruin" a kid's life? I think not. I think it's dumb to needlessly mangle the spelling of a name, and ya it will be a pain in the a**e to live with at times, but let's not be hyperbolic.
Okay. You're right. It will probably not ruin the child's life. However, it will make it more difficult than it needs to be, and for what reason? Because the parents think it's "cute"? If they think it's so cute they should change their own names.
Load More Replies...Ghiulyette looks like a Gillette's knockoff. Mahriya looks like a drunkard trying to remember Bill Maher's last name. Just how badly did those kids mess up in their previous lives for them to be stuck with parents like these??
Honestly, I would believe it was a newly-discovered strain of bacteria if someone showed it to me. Das bad.
Load More Replies...You just know her house is beige af and has a "live love laugh" sign framed in the lounge room.
I got teased as a kid for being named "Crystal". It's the normal spelling, too, not a tragedeigh-spelling. And yet the kids still mocked me, because it was an unusual name when I was growing up. I wanted to change my name the second I hit 18. I got over it by the time I turned 18 (also because "Crystal" isn't THAT weird of a name) but I got enough of the experience to GUARANTEE you that "Ghiuliyette" is going to get mocked and teased and isn't going to be "soooo happy" that her parents gave her a "unique" name. She will want to change her name, if only to the simpler spelling, so she doesn't have to keep spelling her name for others.
I'm sorry that you were teased. I had a girl in my class in elementary school named Crystal and I always thought it was a cool name.
Load More Replies...My first instinct is to say Gilly-ette? Gh isn’t like J in English. These parents are ridiculous.
God bless this woman. It’s hard to speak sanity to the insane. And they end up hating you for it.
New parents want to be unique.with their kids names. Read unique as brain dead. If they really want their kids to be mocked and bullied, they succeeded. Gillylyette? Seriously, that's how some will pronounce it.
that's a stupid name and makes me think of "Gillette" (as in, the shaving brand) rather than "Juliet/Juliette" and Mahriya is not normal either. its. MARIA. (but hey, at least Op's friends kid will be the best a man can get... /s)
Good on you for having the guts to tell these fantasy-dwelling parents the truth. I’ve lived with a “unique” name for nearly 50 years & although I’ve never been bullied, it has meant a lifetime of frustration having to constantly spell, pronounce & explain it, not to mention endlessly correcting people who can’t spell or pronounce it. Children are not pets & yet many parents seem to treat them as such when deciding on names.
My first name and surname are both spelt in a slightly different way than most people would assume. Ever since I started school 40 years ago I have had to spell out my name and had to have official documents and accounts sent back numerous times; it might be a "first world" problem, and despite being resigned to it, I can tell you it's a nightmare, pain in the a**e. OP shouldn't have continued to argue their point, but the parents should have realised that it isn't your name that makes you unique. The husband is annoyed because someone dared to question him. The poor child will almost certainly end up feeling some resentment and will probably change the spelling of their name as soon as they are able.
My married named is Knutson. It has been mispronounced every way possible. I don't correct people and never have. The K is pronounced, so it's Kah-noot-son. I miss my maiden name.
Load More Replies...Just saying, the "unique spelling" of your kid identify them immediately as coming from a specific social-economic class. Teachers, employers, acquaintance WILL have a preconceived idea of the type of person the person is and unfortunately, they might be right. There are sociology studies about name. They matter.
I have a very unusual first name, and I have to explain it to every person I meet, pretty much every day. It's annoying and tiresome. I get the same jokes about my name by every person who thinks they are being clever. They are not being clever. Please give your children a simple name.
I think kids need to know that if they hate their name, they are allowed to go by one of their own choosing. That won't fix official documents, but it will make their lives more pleasant with people who actually care about their feelings.
Stupid spellings of names literally have a severely negative effect on a person's life. They get bullied, get less respect from teachers, are less likely to be chosen for extracurriculars, less likely to get the best jobs... and on it goes. Have people NOT read Freakonomics? OP is trying to save a child from a lifetime of misery from stupid parents.
I had to change my name. Ridiculous spellings are incentives for bullies. Those parents need a wake-up call!
Dear pregnant couples: if you want a clever, creative, unique, "cute" name for something, GET A DAMN DOG. Do not saddle another human with a stupid name for life. Your clever name will be a bully magnet when they're a kid and a future-killer when they're an adult. There will never be a CEO Ghiuliyette Mahriya. There will never be a General Ghiuliyette Mahriya. There will never be a President Ghiuliyette Mahriya. Stop ruining your child's future because you want to be some of THOSE parents.
Another Tragedeigh! Too many people are condemning their poor kids with their foolish idea of being eweneek. You are 100% right. Unless the kid gets too used to the name,they will most likely change the spelling as soon as they are legally able. Sorry the spelling sounds like a newly discovered disease. Lol
Gh does not make the same sound as J in English. She's called ghoul-iette.
Poor kid, her parents are immature idiots. She will probably hate her name. The 1that really bugs me I Nevaeh... Dumbasses spelling heaven backwards for little girls the last 3 or 4 years
My name is very unusual, (think found in a Jane Austen novel or a historical duchess) but it's a real name. So many people get it wrong and call me similar but incorrect names. I used to hate it, because I genuinely love my name, but I've given up correcting people. I'll answer to any variation, so long as they're in the right direction. This kid though? Oooooh she's gonna be so bullied. I have to explain that my name is derived from my grandad's at least three times a week (public facing job) and mine is at least legible.
this reminds me of my 7th grade math and science teacher, who i will call mrs crow. one of my deadnames(i have 3 of them) was melisa, spelt with one s and not two. it was because it was pronounced in spanish and my great aunt was named melisa. mrs crow would put some of my classmates names into our math word problems that we would do in our zoom classes(this was in either 2021 or 22) like for example "louis has 7 apples and gave 1/4th of them to chloe". one day she gave us a problem that was supposed to have my name but it was spelled "melissa". i HATED it when people would spell it with two s because i felt it disrespected my great aunt, who passed away when she was 53. so i told mrs crow that she had spelled my name wrong and that it was spelled with one s and not two. and mrs crow decided that this was a good time to tease me, and she put down "melisssa" and i was like "no not like that" and then she put down "melissssssssssssssa" and she laughed at me as i cried. good times /sarc
I pity any child who is named by selfish parents with a handful of Scrabble tiles and no common sense. And I really hope someone somewhere gets a grant to track the increasing incidence of legal name changes over the next few decades.
My first name is usually spelled Annick, with a c. My parents decided to make it Annik. Plus we had an unusual last name. I found myself having to spell it out all the time. Even now many people misspell my first name, including some of my inlaws. Not counting all the people who get my email address wrong. So I may be unique, but I wouldn't wish it on any child.
Haha, how anyone could even think smashing their keyboard to come up with a name is beyond my comprehension. That name looks like it woud be "Gee you let," which could be a ripoff of Gillette. Or a sound you make while puking. Mahriya? Yeah... "Maw ree eye uh?" Definitely someone worshiping at the porcelain altar. Combining Maria and Mariah does not work, nor does respelling either of them.
My first AND last name are spelled weird. My first name is always spelled wrong even by people who have known me for years. My last name is mispronounced wrong all the time. It gets very tiresome. Don't do that to your kids
Sometimes people need a harsh reality check before making a bad decision. Someone has to do it, and everyone else is grateful.
Ghiulyette.....are the parents stock owners in Ghirardelli chocolate or something? Ludicrous and setting the child up to struggle with gaining employment (I've worked so many places where they see a name on a resume/CV that they can't pronounce, so they chuck it straight in the trash).
I've dealt with both sides of this in the naming of my children. My first was a wake up call for sure. We picked a name with a spelling that paid homage to relatives (who had slightly more unique names) and as soon as her dad and I divorced when she was 10, he took her to change it because she was so unhappy. It hurt me at the time (I was a teen when I got pregnant with her) but now after another 5 kids I realize that I was 100% the a**hole.
No, no. no. I speak as someone with a 10 -letter last name, It was 3 syllables & easy to pronounce, but people never got it right. The ending was "bach," like the composer or Ringo Starr's wife. After mangling up the first, part people would end it with "back," "bach." or "bock." When people see a lot of letters, they freak. I cant imagine what they would do with Ghiulyette.
ONE OF THE DUMBEST NAMES EVER...as dumb as Syminall Tree Johnson..in my grandsons class...guess what..?? ITS A BOY..
I'd assume the name was pronounced "Ghoul-y Yeti" which is a great name if your a Sasquatch in a Halloween special but not so much if your a normal human girl.
I HAVE known ppl named Maria, spelled Mahriya... I pronounced it wrong until I was corrected. Apparently, it's Indian or something, but I honestly never dwelled on it long enough to look it up. The first name, however, I am SO glad the OP explained it. I was totally reading it as Ghoolie-yet, like some kind of Halloween pun.
My name is Mia pronounced Maya but spelled Meeah. I love the name and I hate every second of every interaction over the last forty years where I have to explain it yet again ahhhhhhh
I think OP was an AH for being so rude in declaring the name would 'ruin" the child's life- it would have been much more kind and less drama inducing to say the unusual spelling would make the child a mark for bullies and teachers would mispronounce the name all the time- and then leave it at that. Then let the idiot parents slowly come to that realization as well, with no bad blood between two former besties.
In Italian it's Giulietta. In French, Juliette. If you want something original, just change the language. 25 years ago, a friend of my mom's told us she would name her baby girl Gwendolyn. We're in France and the name is accepted (the law here can forbid names and I think it's a really good law !). My mom immediately asked her friend how the girl would learn to write her own name at preschool. So she decided to name her Manon instead. When I told Manon the name she should have, she laughed and said thanks to my mother.
This is how they write now. Just how it sounds because they don't teach them anything any longer. The person is right about this being a nightmare for this child though. On any important documents she is going to have to make it is spelled right and she will continually be telling ppl how to spell it and pronounce it.
Parents need to stop thinking their children are objects to display. The name should be about the child, not about you, the parent. You can't go around thinking about how you feel about your unique object. Think about the needs of the kids, and the kids can be unique through something far less superficial.
Both my first and my last name are one letter off from what people in my country would assume - cue a lifetime of intense pronunciation and spelling. The kicker though is that my name is unique IN THE WORLD and it's a good thing I never ventured online under my own name because AI would have a field day.
This- the legal document nightmare! Imagine registering this name in ER for example? Travelling abroad? Banking?
Reminds me of “Mad About You” when Paul and Jamie name their girl Mabel (acronym for Mothers Always Bring Extra Love) and the girl eventually changes it to Tanya (Try Another Name You A$$holes).
My rather pithy & elegant post disappeared - I can't even find the particular post under which I was replying & don't have the energy to start over. Suffice it to say, I've got some experience with whatever her name is will go thru & her parents are stupid AF, not to mention cruel. The last sort of unusual name I was told had been decided on if the baby were a girl ..... came from "Game of Thrones." TG the baby was a boy but his name isn't much better, & the reasoning for choosing it was absurd.
My niece in law is named Guilia, its simply the Italian speĺling of Julia because they are, Italian. Don't know about the H in Ghuiliette but are these people of Italian heritage? If so, this is well overblown.
If they are Italian her name is Giulia.
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My first name is normal, albeit really old fashioned, and I was teased relentlessly when I was growing up. Mary, Mary quite contrary...how does your garden grow? I used to hate it til I came up with with silver bells and cockle shells and one goddamn onion. Pretty much shüt that one down, but there were others. Doesn't matter what you name your kid, there are ALWAYS gonna be arsehole kids who will happily take the pïss out of you if they want. ETA: really BP.....you censor shüt???? That's just insane!!
YTA, NOTS your child, NOTS your decision, and NOT your place to berate the mother for her choices. I say this for simple reasons. I have common names, with just slightly different than the average use of the names in question, people ALWAYS spell my name incorrectly when compared to my birth certificate. My middle name too. I am so amused to see more and more females with the same spelling for what is my middle name. As for adding your name to an email or document, so what would be stopping her from singing G.M (surname), NOTHING THATS WHAT, the girl might chose to do what I do, use the short form of her name, vast numbers of people do, then she only has to remember the spelling for her short form name. as for prononuiation, HA, My step father when he uses my full name DELINERATELY choses to pronounce it in a offensive mispronounciation kind of way. The spelling doesn't matter, all she has to do is state how its pronounced. your other arguements, IRRELIVENT, not your kid.
Oh FFS. "Ruin" a kid's life? I think not. I think it's dumb to needlessly mangle the spelling of a name, and ya it will be a pain in the a**e to live with at times, but let's not be hyperbolic.
Okay. You're right. It will probably not ruin the child's life. However, it will make it more difficult than it needs to be, and for what reason? Because the parents think it's "cute"? If they think it's so cute they should change their own names.
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