I love how the top two replies were people wanting the recipe or asking for tips on upping their lasagna game. Clearly the priorities are good.

It may seem a little thing but her "just exaggerating" was exaggerating a comment meant to tear OP down. She lied to make OP feel bad. Sure, people exaggerate. If someone's exaggerating to give someone a lavish compliment or make a story extra funny, they may not be strictly truthful, but they're being positive. We tend to give that kind of untruthfulness a pass. Being untruthful so they can make you feel bad? Run.

Jesus woman, you're 24, "the world is your lobster", dump her.

If you don't care for my food, fine. You INSULT my food, I never make food for you again.

i saved that recipe cause dang that looks good

"praise be lasagna" lolol Absolutely right! Run away! (Also, dump those friends who took her side.)

I'm drooling just reading your recipe. Keep the lasagna; 86 the GF.

And I would've just cut my losses and ditched that brat

Your girlfriend is an ungrateful b***h! Who criticizes a delicious homemade meal put in front of them? I wouldn’t even have her over for frozen lasagna ever again. And who are these “supportive” friends who don’t call the other one out for her rudeness? More entitled people.

I totally understand this woman. My mom also has a special Lasagne recipe where she does everything from scratch and my whole family ADORES it, but it takes so much time and work that my mom literally only makes it for Thanksgiving and we're BLESSED if she makes it more than once a year. We're also a family of 5 so she makes a huge one. I understand the time and effort it takes and it's a labor(literally) of love. Just on that I can't believe the girlfriend would pretty much spit on that time, money, and effort, and belittle her work like that only to be surprised and ungrateful when her words are taken for what they are and she isn't made it again the next time. What a jerk! Much like the sentiments of everyone here, throw the whole girlfriend away.

Your girlfriend showed you who and what she is. I hope you’re paying attention.

NTA gf is definitely TA. The rude childish comments about the lasagna are RED FLAG! The fact she compared your dish to a throw together one is beyond rude. Personally, when she requested another meal I would have refused and suggested she take her sorry entitled a*s to a restaurant, alone, as she clearly doesn't like homemade food! Seriously, you need to reevaluate this relationship as she's toxic 😤. As for the rest of the people who sided with her, feel free to spend hours cooking for this ungrateful twat.

she doesn't love you a slight.

Honestly, with 2 hours notice, I'd barely be able to make the basic lasagna. Between shopping, assembly and then cooking it would probably take me like 1.5 - 2 hours. So if it were me, I'd be happy to not have Stouffers with 2 hours notice.

She insulted it than asked for it again? WTF yeah not a keeper.

Somebody cooks just for you and you complain???? Nah. It costs nothing to be nice.

OP needs to learn what the signs of abuse are and leave if she picks up on any other with this girl. She can find a real woman who appreciates her cooking.

The OP took her girlfriend at her word. She doesn't get to complain about it. I wouldn't make either version of it for her again. Something similar happened to me and my ex. He made a mean comment about my lasagna once so I told him he'd never get it again and he didn't even when he asked for it.

Anyone else save the recipe? Super nice of her and the author to slip it in, but that gf is straight trash hope she dumped her

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One of my criteria for a future life partner was that they had to make a decent lasagna. My hubs, who I was dating at the time, not used to cooking from scratch , had a go and made it with love and nerves. Tasted fine. By that point in the relationship he could have served my a M&S one, as I knew he was the guy for me. But I appreciated the time that he put into it. This person is NTA as the response shows that they can do nothing right. Showing love by lasagna is alright by Garfield and myself and if they don’t appreciate it. Ta ta.

She should be your ex! She's ungrateful af there's no way that I would waste my time on an ungrateful ah like her. If she's hungry she should cook for herself! You need to make her your ex and move on with your life NTA

I had a similar situation, minus the entitled brat attitude. I had a friend who wanted to make something special for me, and I requested lasagna. I had only ever had lasagna with ground beef and didn't realize how common it was to add sausage, but I get sick when I have sausage (not sure which ones, but some of the spices make me nauseous). They made me a lasagna and I was excited and eating it then made a face when I realized it had sausage. Apparently they had spent $45 on making it special from scratch for me, and I felt so incredibly guilty about it. They figured I should have mentioned I couldn't have sausage because "that's how you make lasagna" but I'd only ever had my own I made with ground beef, or cheap frozen that also comes with ground beef. I tried to eat it anyway and just pick around the sausage, but it was all in the sauce. I still feel bad they went through all that effort specifically for me and I couldn't even enjoy/appreciate it the way it deserved to be.

Well now I’m going to have to use DARVO

Your gf doesn't appreciate the effort and love you put into making your delicious lasagna. You need to run and run fast, don't look back. This is just an example of the what's to come. Next time invite me and I'll bring some garlic bread that will knock your boots off.

1 Someone doesn't have to like a meal you've prepared, regardless of your opinion on how well you've done, but, people should always aknowledge you for taking the time to prepare the meal for puting in work and care and unless untolerable, they should eat it without fuss. If asked what they think of it, they should be honest but one can simply say it isn't made to my flavor preference, I prefer sweeter or saltier more beans etc. Not, I could do just as good with less. 2 you still cooked a freaking home made meal, even if second lasagnia used partially made ingredients. You did it to prove a point, using the ingredients she specified and the point was proven. I think this is what she should take not of.. oh honey I thought id try it your way this time. 3 I would have made them make the lasagna, or in the very least, gotten a box of frozen lasgania and made it in the microwave. Its still lasagnia that you made.

What an ungrateful cow. You can do much better. Get rid of her.

At a work potluck one of my coworkers told me that my (60 year New Mexico resident, btw) red chile beef enchiladas ’sucked’. I grabbed a bottle of Heinz ketchup out of the refrigerator and told her (Dallas born and raised), ‘Here, dump this all over it. Then it will taste like that Tex-Mex s**t you’re used to!’ 1. Don’t trash food you can’t appreciate. 2. Expect the same treatment that you dish out.

This ia really unacceptable behaviour from a partner, cooking is showing love and care, even if it's not a 6 hour recipe, but even mire so then. Disregarding the time and heart in that is s****y. My mothers best friend sleeps at our place ocasionally and he's an extreme picky eater. He has found was to talk down or simply not eat everything I cook, this includes dishes that took me 3 hours of constantly staying in thw kitchen abd even my signature soup. Last time he even just asked to get himself a Pizza, because he had a rare appetite. After that visit I swore I wouldn't put on any effort for him anymore. He doesn't deserve it. And this is just some dude, having that come from your own girlfriend is just so much wirse

The one time my husband ever put down my cooking, it was over a cultural difference as he had never had meat with fruit before, but he still said, "I appreciate your effort" at the very least. And his family and friends, even the ones who agreed with him that meat with fruit was weird said he was being silly and to eat whatever I give him and be thankful! Now years later we have a little one and I have no time to put into cooking an ornate complicated meal and he says, "I miss your chicken and apple" Ha! I couldn't help but remember this instance and see all the differences. Please please someone tell me she left that manipulative demanding drama queen.

Dude I don't care if it's a trash pile on fire, if my other made me something that took that long (or anything at all) I'd be ecstatic. This lady's girlfriends a jackass.

NTA Hell , I'll pay you to make me one and overnight it to me. It sounds amazing. The gf is TA and needs to be kicked to the curb along with the two ahole friends that agreed with her.

If someone makes me food, even if I hate it and can barely eat it I will tell them that it's great and thank them for it because it's a gift and they obviously put time into it. It's the same idea as if someone, say, knits you a scarf. Even if you hate the colours and don't like the feeling, you thank them, act like it's the best scarf you've ever seen, and maybe try to wear it once or twice around them.

Run Forest, Run. Toss girlfriend to the curb. You deserve better.

NTA Your GF sounds toxic. Stating that "Your" lasagna was basic and then complaining when she actually received a basic lasagna. She's gaslighting you. Your friends are no help either, because she CLEARLY asked for a quick lasagna TWO HOURS ahead of time when she knew that your signature dish takes half a day. GF is manipulative, ungrateful and insensitive. Damned if you do, damned if you don't until you begin walking on eggshells.This is early stage abusive behavior. It will get worse. Run away. Run fast. Don't look back. BTW that recipe sounds AMAZING!

You are fine. She needs to go out to eat her lasagna since nothing you fix tastes right. IF you decide to continue visiting with her and she says she wants lasagna tell her to bring it and you'll provide all the side dishes and desert. If she continues to criticize you it's time to downsize your friends list.

Did no one else think of the 12th Doctor's quote, "Don't be lasagna"? Because the gf should definitely not be lasagna.

I'd plow her in the f*****g mouth and kick her a*s out. NOBODY insults my cooking. I hate the kitchen and spend as little time in it as possible, and I certainly wouldn't make something from "scratch" for a rude, ungrateful, gaslighting twatbag like "her." Dump the dirt bag.

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When my sister was in collage she would make a wonderful lasagna dish for her boyfriend. he requested it every time. she would go to Walmart and get the frozen lasagna dish and heat it up. he was never the wiser and they got married eventually. I really think he was just to cheap to take her out to dinner but that is a whole different story....