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Woman Finds A Ring In Her Boyfriend’s Nightstand, Posts It To A Ring-Shaming Group
Read any article or book on marriage, and most will tell you that a good marriage isn’t about the wedding, the honeymoon or the diamond rings, but not everyone shares the same values – enter wedding ring shaming groups. This popular embarrassment phenomenon has spread across the internet, where women get to air their ‘grievances’ of not getting the engagement ring they feel they deserve or wanted. Well, recently one woman did just that about her cheap engagement ring (mind you that it is actually not inexpensive at all) but was not met with the response she expected.
The anonymous shamer shared the post on her diamond wedding ring in a shaming group on Facebook, which ended up spreading to Reddit. Instead of finding people to ‘roast’ her boyfriend with for his gold wedding ring choice, she was met with appropriate backlash, doubting that she deserved the marriage proposal in the first place. Scroll down below to read her post and see how people responded.
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Recently a woman turned to a Facebook ring-shaming group to roast her boyfriend
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After the post went viral, the comments continued to roll in
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stellermatt 6 years ago
when I proposed to my wife, I was skint, I bought a ring for £15, but it wasn't the size or the cost of the ring that mattered I just felt that I needed that part of the proposal to do it properly. Spoiler: she said yes. In time I got a pay rise, things improved for me and I went out an bought a more expensive ring to replace the original one. She didn't ask me to, she didn't need me to, I just wanted to do it. couple of years later we got married, and next year is our 10 year wedding anniversary. we don't have much, but in a way, because we love each other, we have everything.
Anouk 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost £50 coz we were both broke but we've been together for 25 years. This new attitude of ring shaming is truly disgusting. Anyone who does this, and feels this way about something that a loving partner has bought for them, doesn't deserve to be with anyone. They deserve to spend their selfish nasty little lives alone, with a very large, cold, shiny rock to keep them company as they grow old.
Carly Kirn 6 years ago
I don't think this is a new attitude. We're just at a place, technologically speaking, where there are forums for it. As long as engagement rings have been a thing (and DeBeers dictating how much they should cost) I'm sure there have been girlfriends that get together to trash their engagement rings (or mothers of). It's a s****y attitude for sure, but probably not new.
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Hans 6 years ago
The depicable attitude notwithstanding, how could you be so dumb to put this on social media? Why not directly print pamphlets with this and hand them out in the neighbourhood...
danielw 6 years ago
I believe she probably said something like 'hold my appletini,' immediately prior.
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Sam Mandley 6 years ago
My fiancé proposed to me with his grandmothers ring, whom which had passed away recently. His mother, uncle, aunt and basically everyone else, had approved of him proposing with that ring. He got the ring resized and 2 tiny middle diamonds, out of the 4 tiny diamonds, taken out and replaced with green diamonds because he knows green is my favourite colour. I've never felt so lucky in my life to be presented by such an amazing form of love and I can't wait to marry the love of my life in 2020.
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Naomi Armitage 6 years ago
I'm still trying to wrap my head around $16K-$20K engagement rings. That's a decent new car. That's a down payment on a house, or a year's worth of rent, if that's your thing. It's just SO MANY other things than a hunk of metal on your hand.
Anne 6 years ago
Plus the metal/diamonds value combined is never worth the price you pay for it.. (I mean it's not a good investment)
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Bob Beltcher 6 years ago
When all you think about are the things you want, you'll never be satisfied with what you have.
Jaguarundi 6 years ago
Actually, I bought my first wedding set myself, my husband had a crappy job and no money sense nor credit card. We picked them out together, they cost $259.00 for the set. The store was broken into that night and the safe was cleaned out completely. Fortunately, my rings had already been sent out to be sized. Needless to say, after all of that trauma and drama, we did get married. We had 5 wonderful years together, he passed away the week before our 6th Anniversary. I would give any amount of money or any gemstone in the world to have one day of those 5 years back again. That ungrateful b*tch complaining about "her" ring needs to get a soul!
John Lyttle 6 years ago
You just reduced me to tears. Sorry for your loss and thank you for your wisdom.
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Ashlee Rudolph 6 years ago
My engagement/wedding ring is a $500, small cute little diamond, that I picked out. My hubby begged me to pick something bigger but I didn't want to. I would have rather spent the money on a vacation. We've been married 8 years now and he still asks me once in awhile if I want a new ring. I always say no.
Abbey Impson 6 years ago
hells bells my Mom didn't get an engagement ring and bet their wedding bands didn't cost $100 combined and they are going to celebrate 50 years next year
Amber Edwards 6 years ago
I mean my husband proposed to me with ring pops 🤷♀️Don’t understand why people need to have giant a*s diamond rings. If your that materialistic that you’d rather worry about a damn rock then the sentimental value of the act a loved one is carrying out, then you probably aren’t ready for marriage.
Stille20 6 years ago
...It's a ring shaming group? How is this woman so horrifying. She is part of a group! So clearly she is not alone in her gripe, petty or not.
Tricia Evans 6 years ago
Anyone that is part of that group is horrifying.
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Enuya 6 years ago
Are these women real? WHO the hell acts like this? Shame on her that she even went through her boyfriend's pockets. Snooping through someone's things is one of the behaviors that I hate the most. And, I don't understand these "rings shaming groups". So, basically, your loved one wants to give you gift and you are all like: "f**k you, this diamond is too small, give me something better"? And other people approve this and even support you? God, this world is crazy...
Jenifer Cavanaugh McSwain 6 years ago
Her ring looks like my 10 year Anniversary ring. Ma'am. Be happy with what you are given. It's the thought that counts.
A Dyke From The Dreamworld 6 years ago
A girl could propose to me with a ring made of goddamn plastic and I would cherish it like it's my soul.
Jay 6 years ago
As a woman, this kind of attitude sickens me so much. I just proposed to my girlfriend with a ring & tbh I only did it because I knew she wanted to propose to me with a nice ring, but didn't have the money. I don't want to wait. I don't need an expensive ring. Actually, I don't need anything besides commitment. True commitment. She keeps trying to steel a ring she gave me a year ago, so she can "transform" it into an engagement ring. This sickens me because God knows the anxiety I went through to 1) deciding it's gonna happen 2) stress of looking for rings 3) stress after deciding on the ring (will she like it? will she say yes? SO many questions 4) the absolute STRESS of having the ring in the nightstand (I did the same as this guy, apparently) 5) Anxiety on deciding HOW and WHEN you're going to propose... If I saw anything similar to what this girl did... I can honestly tell you I'd throw the ****** ring at her stupid face and drag her out of the house stat. My heart breaks for him.
Naomi Armitage 6 years ago
Probably the same females who will go on to demand $500 gifts from their wedding guests and b*tch when the guests don't pay for her honeymoon (See: Past articles on BP about insane brides).
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ZombieGirl5591 6 years ago
She is in for a rude awakening when she finds out what marriage is really about! It is hard work but worth it. It is real life and good times and bad times and nothing about marriage is shallow and superficial like worrying about what ring you get proposed to with. I feel sorry for her marriage if she goes into it with that attitude because it will be hard to make it last. Unless that's what the guy loves about her, I guess.
Nubmaeme 6 years ago
When my now-ex proposed, we didn't have a lot of anything. He gave me a double heart friendship ring and I was very happy with it. I'm not graceful so I would have damaged a fancy diamond engagement ring. Even our wedding bands were plain gold. That marriage lasted nearly 36 years. We both changed after retirement from the military and grew very far apart, but at least we're still friends.
Taryn Wallace 6 years ago
My bf could literally propose to me with no ring lying next to me in bed and it would make me so happy I don't understand what the hell is wrong with these people who feel the need to shame the person they "love" into buying something more expensive for them.
Eliyahu Rooff 6 years ago
My wife helped me pick out her ring. It's a lovely white gold ring with a 1.5K stone that happens to be CZ and only cost a couple hundred dollars. No one can tell it from a real diamond, and we used the rest of the money it would have cost as down payment on a house. Thirteen years later, we're still happy together. feeling compelled to sink a fortune into a ring is part of the DeBeers marketing strategy; not something that intelligent people would do on their own.
Paul Mitchell 6 years ago
To the poor bloke .... RUN! You have a greedy, entitled psycho on your hands.
varwenea 6 years ago
Even if she doesn't like it, doesn't mean she has the right to be an a*s online. Hope he finds out and dumps her. On different note, I have a 3-stone ring in a classic carved platinum band which I absolutely love. He had great taste and she doesn't. 😜
bob 6 years ago
Well, at least you'll be able to pay for your divorce if you sell it.
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Ruth Beaty 6 years ago
After almost 40 years of marriage I have no ring. We had to sell our wedding bands, that cost way too much, for very little just to feed us and two kids one time. I never felt like I needed a replacement, I knew I was married and loved and I loved him dearly (see almost 40 years above). He died this year and a ring just wouldn't mean anything to me now. It was a damn good almost 40 years.
Lilly 6 years ago (edited)
i know someone like this (a relative, actually). husband bought her an 'upgrade' to the ring she currently had (for Christmas, no less!). She didn't like it & made him get her something 'better' (bigger). they are still together (as far as i know) after more than 30 yrs, but i lost some respect for him for caving in. materialistic people are way down on my list of folks to include in my inner circle...
Donna Flynn 6 years ago
I don’st have any rings at all - but my husband is the best and kindest of men whose first wife’s cancer treatment left him in a real bind. I don’t care about c**p like jewelry but I completely understand the tradition is precious. Just that paying for rocks makes little sense to me.
Tammy Ralph 6 years ago
WTF is a ring shaming group? Seriously, stop the world I want to get off.
Peter Couse 6 years ago (edited)
Yep and it is not exactly Cartier... more gaming storefront trinket
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Jolijn Njamin-Geurts van Kessel 6 years ago
I didn't even get a ring at the proposal, we only got rings for the wedding (and they were something around 300 euro's, combined, not a piece) I really don't understand the need to spend thousands on a ring (unless you're rich, of course)
Charlotte Jarrett 6 years ago
The ring is beautiful it so it doesnt match your personality. I hate that shitass attitude
Wyndmere 6 years ago
Shame on her; picky lady. 1. You snooped. 2. You assumed alot. 3. You were ungrateful. 4. You posted your disapproval on a public forum. 5. You judged him. 6. You asked absolute strangers shame his gift of love on a public forum. 7. Its no one elses business, but now you know how the "world" sees and judges your attitude, judgment, and actions. 8. You showed Major disrespect for both the man you think you will marry, and his intended gift. Its a lovely ring, but it seems that you are clearly not ready to make a life-long comittment to This man. I hope he never places this ring on your finger until you have had a Major attitude adjustment, and sincerely apoloized to him; in person, and as publically as you have disrespected him and his gift.
Patty cake ;3 6 years ago
The ring isn't bad at all, but that shouldn't even matter. What matters is that they love each other, and that they are ready for a committed relationship. If that girl is asking people to shame the ring her boyfriend got her, then she is not worth his time, and he should find someone who is.
Saints of Sins 6 years ago
Excuse me? That guy went out and beyond to get you a damn ring, pretty expensive, and you act like a doosh when it might not be for you? You just say no like that because of a ring? My father gave my mother a $.50 ring, only 50 cents. Clearly my mother was more than happy. It isn't some damn ring that matters, it's your connection. I bet that guy worries because of you. So shut up and learn to be grateful. No one is made of money. We are made of love.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
I've never owned diamonds in my life and I don't have a boyfriend. I'm going to be in a bad mood for the rest of the day now.
Michèle Gyselinck 6 years ago
My mom got an engagement ring 10 years after my parents were married. My father couldn’t afford one when he proposed. Some women are too greedy for their own good.
Joseph Roberts 6 years ago
If you buy a sapphire ring, it’s cheaper but still a hunk of carbon, you can also get it in a variety of colors.
IWishIWasBob 6 years ago
God my ring was string...I loved it. Especially since he said that it symbolized the thing holding us so tightly together. He’s calls it “the string of love” and it’s the strongest thing out there :). Of course we did get real rings later. But I still love it.
Krásnoočko Zelené 6 years ago (edited)
Excuse me but f**k this jewellery obsessed culture. My partner and I got engaged by proposing to each other, mutually, spontaneously, honestly and with no rings or money involved. I'm marrying them - not buying them, and they are not buying me. I just don't understand why should one of the partners invest so much money (money they usually don't have!) just to make a "gesture" and why would their partners actually want them to do so and shame them for not complying with this wasteful custom. How is the relationship supposed to be fair and equal when it starts by one of the partners spending a fortune on a luxury item for the other one while they just sit on their butt and act like they are some kind of royalty who deserves grands-worth of gifts while giving nothing of similar value in return? What the hell? I just resent this culture and am really proud of my husband, myself and the circle of our friends not taking part in this b******t.
Mae 6 years ago
I'm not sure if I'm more disgusted by this woman or by the fact that a ring shaming group is a thing?! I hope that the ring isn't for her but shouldn't the guy already be aware that he's dating a total douche.... My boyfriend could propose without a ring, with a piece of string or a plastic and I'd be happy. Why are some people so materialistic. "I'm better than you, I have a bigger diamond" UGH!
Wina Alkerchief 6 years ago
Why she is so care about somerhing materialistic and doesnt care about the most important thing that she has already? Like a person that loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her.. Isn't that worth more than the ring?
SykesDaMan 6 years ago
Are you alright title guy? No "And the Internet shut her down"? Do you need any kind of help? Are you going through a phase?
nano 3 years ago
Yea, its time to rethink the traditional diamond rings, as diamonds became very expensive and not practical to afford. Many are switching to diamond alternatives like Moissanites, which look like diamonds, however you can get a much bigger stone for 1/10 of a price and avoid embarrassing stories like above on both ends. One of the respectable brands is foreverwedbridal.com they have a great variety of moissanite gems and gorgeous rings.
James Anthony 5 years ago
Laughed a lot after reading this article. I bought this diamond ring while proposing my lover. https://infinity-london.it/solitario-diamanti-fidanzamento-anello-18ct-oro-bianco-R300.html
Deborah Brett 6 years ago
TBH, I wouldn't want an engagement ring with a diamond, and I'd expect anyone proposing to me to know that about me. If someone went down on one knee with a ring box, I'd be shaking my head..... not because of the size of the diamond, but because that person doesn't know me well enough to commit to a life together. And I'm thinking, the guy whose ring this is, doesn't know this lady as well as he needs to.
Holly Hobby 6 years ago
A ring shaming group? I'm confused why these people are shaming her when they're all in the same group with the same goal- ring shaming. What did I miss? What ring qualifies for them all to agree to shame it?
JohnnyMary Thompson 6 years ago
I remember when my husband got my engagement ring and I showed it to my 2 best friends. They looked at it and jokingly said "where is it?". This was in the 60s and he was in the army and didn't make but about $149.00 a month. It looked just like this one only on a much smaller scale. I couldn't figure out what they meant. I was just 18 and thought it was beautiful. That was 50 1/2 years ago and we're still married. Just goes to show you don't need a huge diamond to be happy. Mary T.
John McHenry 6 years ago
3 reasons why Men are leaving the dating field. 1) Ring shaming groups 2) Divorce parties and 3) Family Courts raping their bank accounts and taking their children away from them.
John McHenry 6 years ago
And then they have the nerve to wonder why Men don't want to get married anymore.
Vinniegret 6 years ago
I think she is greedy and picky. She doesn't deserve a man who would pick out a nice ring to please her. Shame on her. If she was disappointed, she surely should have kept it to herself, not plastered it online. I hope he sees it and finds someone worthy of his care.
Raven Hayden Rudnik 8 months ago
If she wanted so much a certain design, why not just Show him what she likes? Not even hinting at the Engagement Ring, just rings in General. For example I hate Gold, so I would just say it to someone instead of just being angry they gave me the Gold Ring. People dont read minds
Fixit Mann 6 years ago
My wife of 15 years bought our wedding rings. When I proposed, it was online. She still has the "ring" (virtual) on her desktop that I proposed with. My cost: Zero Dollars. Her cost: I don't know. Neither of us wear the rings anyway-- hers due to not having it resized, mine due to work.
Jim Price 6 years ago
My father proposed to my mother with exactly that ring (I inherited it after they both passed, so I know). They lived happily ever after until death they did part, and by death were reunited. Shame on her for her material mindset. I hope she said no, and avoided the inevitable divorce in three or four years. Money issues are the number one reason for divorces, and this is just screaming that outcome.
Ellisa 6 years ago
I'm torn because "ring shaming" is rude, and going through your partner's drawers is completely unacceptable. SHE even acknowledges this and not liking the ring is going to draw negative comments, aka her comment "please roast" and asking for advice on how to ask for something different. Is it wrong that she doesn't like the ring? Is it bad that she wants advice on how to say she wants something different? Seriously. I wouldn't wear any piece of jewelry I don't like (I actually like the ring but to each their own). Isn't it better he spend the money on something she loves and wants to wear? I have no idea how to say it tactfully to someone, except the "Thank you so much, I love you, I am excited to spend the rest of my life with you...". When I've been given jewelry I don't like I graciously say thank you but then I never wear it or consign it. I don't think that's much better and I know, I know, y'all will say it's different because it's an engagement ring, but still.
Naima Ivansdóttir 6 years ago
my ex boyfriend and i were talking about getting married and he informally proposed. he saw how puzzled i was and said, do i need to get a ring before proposing it - sorry i didn't think about it. i was puzzled because i wasn't expecting him to ask me, and i was like DON'T YOU DARE BUYING A RING WE'LL BE GOING ON VACATION WITH THAT MONEY! :D (we split up, didn't get married)
Octavia Hansen 6 years ago
Maybe this gal thinks it's the last ring she'll ever get . . . with this attitude . . . she's RIGHT!
Ashari Caples 6 years ago
She dosen't have to like it, But saying "NO" because of the ring, that's twisted "newsflash find yourself a real WOMAN."
Squeaky Bear 6 years ago
Pretty ring. Ungrateful moo. Most couples I have ever known decide to get married then go out and choose a ring together. My first husband wasn't well off so we chose cheap rings, it didn't matter. We split up and I stopped wearing the rings. Then I got burgled, hope he found out how cheap the rings were! I have rings now which we designed with a Hatton Garden jeweller. They weren't that expensive but are what I want. That was 22 years ago, were still not married.
Just Carmen 6 years ago
What an ungrateful a*s. She should be happy she's even getting a diamond ring in the first place! My Mom never had a diamond wedding ring. When my husband proposed, he didn't even HAVE a ring (he shipped out to the Army the day after). Neither one of us had much money and I'd settled on a simple band with alternating small diamonds and sapphires. Would've cost about $300.00. But as fate would have it, I "found" a ring that I simply loved. I showed to him when he was home on leave over Christmas, told him I just wanted to show it to him as I knew he couldn't afford it. He looked at me and said, "I don't care what it costs. That's the ring I'll get for you." I couldn't believe it. I didn't demand it and was never expecting to get it. I would've been perfectly happy with the band because I loved it too. I found the right man and THAT was the most important thing, NOT the ring. 33 years later, he's still the right man for me.
Luisa Vasconcelos 6 years ago
Have a Facebook page for ring shaming !?!! What is wrong with people ?
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost $6, and it's perfect, because he's perfect.
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
Oh and what the f**k has the world come too, RING SHAMING, it's absolutely disgusting
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
The three stone engagement ring actually has the most beautiful meaning. "Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow." But obviously this woman would be far to shallow to know that.
Donald Holder 6 years ago
This is why my gf and I went ring "wish shopping" before I even considered proposing. That way I had an idea of what she liked. There was no pressure to buy one or when/ifid propose but it was fun and romantic to do it beforehand. And in the end, she says she absolutely loves the one that I have given her(26 yrs ago).
Francesca Annoni 6 years ago
My husband proposed with only the diamond, he said that he knew my taste and could never make me wear a ring that I did not like, he said he wanted to marry me and that I would choose the ring later, proved to really know me and I realized that he was really the right man ..
J Martin Jones 6 years ago
Bought my first wife (5/7/1991-4/22/2002) a $1,000 ring from Helzberg. A month into our marriage, my Helzberg $1,200 diamond and sapphire ring goes missing. So does hers. She had pawned them for a measly $200. I was so furious. I never again bought her any REAL jewelry. I didn't redeem them back from the p**n shop, I was so angry. She wanted "mad money" because we were on such a tight budget, there wasn't a lot left over after paying the bills. Some, but not a lot. Bought my second wife's) ring at Walmart for about $300. She picked it out. Was a good thing she went cheap because a week after the wedding, she disappeared. Took her (three!) kids with her. Found her in Texas. Left her there.
Roxy 6 years ago
Sorry to say this, but you girl deserve being roasted than your bf. I am not going to blame you for going through his drawer cause just to give you the benefit of the doubt, I'll think you were looking for something or he told you to grab something from his drawer and he forgot that the ring was in there.... That being said, your attitude sucks a*s!! Why in hell would you want strangers to roast your bf for getting you a ring? How do you know its even an engagement ring? Maybe it was for another reason, and NOT FOR MARRIAGE! You're a sad person and he doesn't deserve your a*s. Change your thinking girl and life will be better hopefully for you. To the bf, you deserve someone better! If she is like this as your gf, imagine what she will be like a your wife. I hope you changed your mind of proposing her and dumped her instead!
Glynis Lailann 6 years ago
A ring, what ever size or cost, is a Token of Love and Promise. Too many people today have lost their way in putting materialism above all else. True love and good intentions have no price or label. This woman is wrong. Her love interest would do better to look for someone else.
Ann Abdelzaher 6 years ago
jeez that is a gorgeous ring I didn't get a ring like that for my proposal .. the first ring was a silver cz and I still said yes... a year later when he had more money he upgraded to a 1/7 carat diamond solitaire that cost $249 we were broke college kids.... 9 years later on the 10th anniversary of our engagement he decided to upgrade my ring to a 1 carat and I love all of those .. this lady is so ungrateful.
Ann Abdelzaher 6 years ago
for the record DH and I will be married 20 years in June and have been together 22 years in March :)
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How do you measure love, well ladies, I say you don't know the meaning of love if it's the size of a diamond !!!
SarcasticGamer 6 years ago
Her bloke is lucky to find out now rather than years later that she's this type of ungrateful person. When you sit down to eat Thanksgiving dinner, do you complain the turkey's too small or do you give thanks?
SarcasticGamer 6 years ago
Her bloke is lucky to find out now rather than years later that she's this type of ungrateful person
Richard 6 years ago
I absolutely can't comprehend this proposing-ring-thin in US. Here if 2 people love each other and it comes up to a marriage nobody has to knee down (only a few romantics does it nevertheless) and usually there is NO engagement ring. My husband (again: I'm a woman :D ) simply said one day: I think, we should marry. What do you think? And I answerd: Yes, honey, let's do. A month before ceremony we bought our wedding rings and I think they were about 1.200 $. Both together.
Zet 6 years ago
to me it's not the ring that matters but much more who gave it to me and what it means to us.. obviously there are ugly rings....i think if i'll ever have a boyfriend i'd want us to go look for a ring together after he proposed... so we are both happy and have a memory of how we got to find it together
Lisa Owens 6 years ago
When my hubby proposed, I had a dainty yellow gold ring with a heart shaped pink ice & 2 heart shaped cut into the ring & had used wedding bands that matched because that's what we could afford. We almost lost our house when hubby lost his job & pawned/sold out rings. We have simple plain good bands, mine almost broken so I'm using a silver ring with small sets & a created aquamarine ( both his & daughter's birthstone) claudagh ring as an engagement ring. We've been married almost 24 years & it's the person you marry & the life you make together that makes a marriage, not the rings, the wedding or any thing else. If anyone is so materialistic as to be upset about that ring ( which I think is pretty) or any other, it shows what s truly important to her & she is not good enough for him or any man.
Lynn Noyes 6 years ago
Gifts should never be judged this way, but the problem could be avoided if she had a say in the shopping. Normally I wouldn't advise that for a gift, but in this case it is the woman who will be wearing it. It would be courteous and thoughtful to let her opinion count. If, during the shopping trip, she is critical then that's when to dump her.
Maggie Collins 6 years ago
I'm with the grass and twist tie ladies. Love is wonderful, being a classless b***h, not so much!
Chuck Lantz 6 years ago
The names of these groups should be changed from "Ring-shaming groups" to "Groups of people who have no clue what love is all about."
theresa williams 6 years ago
I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW THE REST OF THE STORY, I HOPE HE DUMPED HER. I WOULD LOVE ANY RING THAT CAME FROM A MAN THAT TRULY LOVED ME
Ruth Fichter 6 years ago
I had no engagement ring, and our wedding rings were very basic. Married 30 years. What kind of people care about such things except greedy, self-centered types no one should marry?
Christine M Quigley 6 years ago
I think some people need to get a grip on what's truly important in relationships and in life, in general. Personally I think the ring is beautiful. Her BF needs to dump her in a big hurry for 2 reasons- first, 'snooping' around in his stuff, and two, being so damn superficial and mean.
tuzdayschild 6 years ago
I absolutely love this! A man can't get a better sign that he's attached himself to a succubus. Disconnect and run for for your life sir.
Maria Bumbac 6 years ago
I think people are formatted to buy diamonds for engagement and this as a commercial manipulation. You don't need diamonds to be happy. Think of the poor indians or africans exploited in the mines. Don't buy diamonds any more, for God's sake!
madeline tansey bryson 6 years ago
Haha. My sister did the same. He got down on one knee in front of her friends i wasn't invited but that's another story. Held out the ring and she said i don't like the ring
James Grey 6 years ago
Loving those responses. That pathetic, petty b***h needs to go. I hope this guy found out what she did, and just how much of an ungrateful, materialistic piece of c**p she is and tells her to f**k off. Things happen for a reason. He might just have dodged that gigantic shitstorm of a life partner she would have been.
Anna Salerno 6 years ago
What an ungrateful b***h! That man is lucky that he found out before the wedding. He'll never be able to please her so he should tun as fast as he can away from her!
rita rayman 6 years ago
these women should all be ashamed of themselves for being so unbelievably shallow and materialistic at a time when it's the last thing this world needs. Crawl back under your rock! And men, run while you can because it only gets worse with this kind.
rita rayman 6 years ago
these women should be ashamed of themselves. And the men should run while they can. It will only get worse.
Ileana Sky Aviles 6 years ago
Ex proposed with a 3ct Asscher cut center stone with 1ct side stones. 2 weeks later his best mate confessed he had been cheating on me with a colleague for about a year. I'd rather have a ring made of candy from a good man any day.
Jewels737 6 years ago
I have a lovely diamond ring. But my husband & I both wear camo silicone rings bought on groove. They stretch a bit if our hands swell & I can wear it at work with no problem. They cost $20 each.
Jewels737 6 years ago
Plus my husband proposed with no ring. We picked one out a few days later.
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Bill Taylor 6 years ago
Diamonds are the biggest rip off on the planet, they're not even a good investment where appreciation is concerned. That's why I bought my wife a tanzanite that she picked out when we got engaged 20 years ago.
Great Panda Mamu 6 years ago
When my husband and I started talking about getting married, I told him up front that if I was going to wear the ring for the rest of my life, I wanted to be involved in picking it out. We searched together and found rings we liked that were in our budget. My central stone is tanzanite with little tiny diamonds around it. It cost about $1300 for both my rings and his wedding band. He still made the proposal sweet and memorable for us without making a huge production out of it. I have a ring I love, a man I love, and we didn't have to break the bank. And, of course, I would have married him with a ring made out of spaghetti-o's.
The Dutches 6 years ago
She is missing the point. It's about love, not about the ring or a diamond. Unbelievable. Any ring should do. And besides, this is a beauty.
Dave J. Bailey 6 years ago
Not everyone can afford something big and luxurious- the love that's put into purchasing that item with the intent that it symbolizes the want of a shared life full of love, companionship and partnership is what that ring is worth and if that intent in genuine- it's worth THE WORLD. I hope she realizes that and disregards negative opinions. LOVE EACH OTHER. NOT THINGS.
Haniza Rahmat 6 years ago
i purposely told my then-boyfriend type of ring that i like, but the one he proposed to is totally different and not much to my liking..10 years later, i still wear it every day since the day he proposed me. it is not the ring that bind you, love is..Because our custom the groom to give the bride a jewellery for wedding gift, later we bought the wedding ring together so that i can choose the design that i like..
Kat Sotiriou 6 years ago
My husband proposed to me in a forest with a ring he made with twigs and flowers it was so beautiful and of course I said yes. He wanted to get me a real ring I said no I don't even wear Jewellery. I hope this woman is disgusted in her behaviour and quite frankly I hope he doesn't marry her
mistouko les 6 years ago
I didn't propose. I hate rings, she hates rings. We also didn't married. We're fine. Our daughter is beautiful.
Allison Kendrick 6 years ago
We didn't have much money but wanted to get married, so I bought the wedding and engagement rings at an artisan shop in Santa Cruz California where we were going to school. Why? I was the one with the student loan that time. Beautiful but plain gold rings. His was found by his sister in a movie theater, gold but a bit fancier. He got me a couple more rings over time, but when he had some extra money on our 35th wedding anniversary I said I wanted a wedding ring. I got it, a gorgeous tanzanite ring. Less expensive but tri color so it was just my style. I had had to cut off the original wedding ring but I still wear it wit the new one.
Jennifer Dann 6 years ago
Wow.. spoiled much? At least he wanted to propose to you.. my ex of eight years didn't want to even get on one knee for me before he was 30
Fernando Jones 6 years ago
My spouse's ring cost us like (I can't fully remember) $40 or something? It wasn't much. They didn't want something crazy. My ring cost me all of $30 and I've had to replace it to a size smaller (I lost about 70 lbs, causing the ring to slip off my finger numerous times and decided to just replace it). I still have the original wedding band for me in my dresser with other stuff. If I ever mentioned a desire to buy another ring for my spouse I would probably be met with a stern look and a solid "no" because that money could be put to better use like our house or our dog and cat. This is why I married them.
Ryo Bakura 6 years ago
I'll take it if you don't want it. The stones can be removed, and added to my Liberace costume for New Years'.
Michelle Juedes 6 years ago
My entire wedding set cost $300... All 3 rings. That was 18 years ago. I hope they don't get married.
Conni Kerr 6 years ago
My engagement ring was a chip diamond "promise" ring that cost $14, and I was thrilled with it. If the ring you get is more important than marrying the right person, then you need to walk away and let him find someone that will appreciate his efforts properly!
sunnyrei82 6 years ago
Mine is similar. I love it. Specially because a 3 diamond engagement ring means: you are his past, his present and his future.
Erik Granqvist 6 years ago
If you need a specific prize for your ring, you will become unhappy
Cherie 6 years ago
My (former) BF gave me a $20 ring. Not to propose, but cuz he wanted me to flash the fake stone around his favorite casino. I still don't know where I threw it or where it landed.
Cherie 6 years ago
I would have taken a cracker jack ring if it had really been for me. .. Bummer.
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Catherine West 6 years ago
I just would be happy to know that he loves me enough to buy the ring, Shameless woman !! Ungrateful woman!! Pray for forgiveness!!
TheDivineMs.M 6 years ago
She's assuming the bf bought it, how does she know it's not an heirloom or sentimental in some way. Superficial bitc*
LeilaOdinis 6 years ago
I currently don't have a man in my life. He could propose with a twist tie and I would be so happy. I don't care for such trinkets. The ring in the pic was gorgeous granted, I wouldn't want it. I would want just him.
Jus 6 years ago
I got an awesome ring, but didn't expect anything special, just wanted it to fit. Now I would rather choose myself. I'd like to hear: I want to marry you, let's go and pick something together, price up to... . It would be perfect. I don't like that girl's attitude, even though the ring is not great.
Morph 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost $25. It later had to be replaced by something thinner to work with the wedding band, so I got a small diamond, it cost $1k and I loved them both. The size and cost of the ring shouldn't be the important part. It's the person you're marrying, not the cold stone on your finger.
Meyer Weinstock 6 years ago
....And then, they wonder why we prefer to be single men, even as we age...
Kenny Kulbiski 6 years ago
I'm kinda sceptical about all these ring shaming posts. It seems to be a "top this" contest and there's no way of proving that it actually happened.
Kelly 6 years ago
This is only the usual copy-paste post, not posted by the author. Who knows the real story behind?
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troufaki13 6 years ago
When your objective is to "get married" and "have children" and not to find your person and have a happy family, then material stuff will always be more important than the substance.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
you do actually need money to have children, you know....
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Lara L. 6 years ago
I don't care (and I think neither is the roasting- girl) if it's a 3 Dollar or 3 Million dollar ring: this one looks like my great great grandmothers. I wouldn't want to wear it either. Daily. For ever. But usually something like "I love your proposal and you. But we need to exchange the ring, to one we both like" should work
rhyan lumilay 6 years ago
To be honest, I don't know if all men will relate to me, for me whatever you call it, whatever it looks like, whatever it was made of they are all pretty much the same and I think we guys see it as a ring and we can't understand why girls needs a fancy ring. Maybe guys love to see things plain and simple but girls see things in complicated ways. Hope that we don't base our love in the things that we can't have instead base it whether we will have or we will not have anything. Anyway that girl is stupid it's not for her fingers maybe it's a c*ckring so don't assume yet LOL.
Friedlander Rosenzweig 6 years ago
I’ve sold hundreds of engagement rings and unfortunately I’ve had to hold my tongue more times then I can count... then again, I’m Adult ADHD, so I’ve let a b***h bride have a word or two, now and then.
Nomadus Aureus 6 years ago
Ok, the attitude is s**t. The idea of putting it online is even more so. And maybe I'm being naive, but she's saying "different". Not "bigger" or "more expensive". Tbh, if I love someone enough for us to even discuss marriage, I'd be happy with a twist tie. But secretly, I'd be quite a bit disappointed if he bought me something like this, because it's really not my style. And no, I wouldn't wear it, because in my line of work, this (or pretty much anything other than a simple band) wouldn't work, provided he wants me to have a full set of fingers. Obviously, again, I wouldn't be a d**k about it, but come on. You're supposed to know your partner...
Si 6 years ago
So basically a man can rock up with any old thing to ask a woman to give her LIFE to him? And wear it on her finger till the day she dies? Washing him, feeding him, nursing him, carrying his children, wrecking her body? With a significant chance he’ll cheat on her and leave her at a later point? You all imagine he poured his soul into finding and buying this ring and is laying his heart out on a plate for her to stomp on. It’s just as likely that he’s a similar person to his fiancé, that he couldnt be bothered to find something she would like or spend much on it. Of course it’s even more likely that neither of them exist and this story was uploaded by an incel.
Petya 6 years ago
How do you know he didn't put any thought or effort into it? He may have spent hours choosing it and months to save up the money for it. If someone loves you enough to propose and you love him back, then you wouldn't be so stupid to judge the size of the diamond or the style of the ring, you would just appreciate the gesture.
Load More Replies... Saraisara 6 years ago
Very logical argument, I don't understand the reason for the down votes at all! But in my opinion in such cases between a couple, the intention behind the gesture is key.
Load More Replies... stellermatt 6 years ago
when I proposed to my wife, I was skint, I bought a ring for £15, but it wasn't the size or the cost of the ring that mattered I just felt that I needed that part of the proposal to do it properly. Spoiler: she said yes. In time I got a pay rise, things improved for me and I went out an bought a more expensive ring to replace the original one. She didn't ask me to, she didn't need me to, I just wanted to do it. couple of years later we got married, and next year is our 10 year wedding anniversary. we don't have much, but in a way, because we love each other, we have everything.
Anouk 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost £50 coz we were both broke but we've been together for 25 years. This new attitude of ring shaming is truly disgusting. Anyone who does this, and feels this way about something that a loving partner has bought for them, doesn't deserve to be with anyone. They deserve to spend their selfish nasty little lives alone, with a very large, cold, shiny rock to keep them company as they grow old.
Carly Kirn 6 years ago
I don't think this is a new attitude. We're just at a place, technologically speaking, where there are forums for it. As long as engagement rings have been a thing (and DeBeers dictating how much they should cost) I'm sure there have been girlfriends that get together to trash their engagement rings (or mothers of). It's a s****y attitude for sure, but probably not new.
Load More Replies... Hans 6 years ago
The depicable attitude notwithstanding, how could you be so dumb to put this on social media? Why not directly print pamphlets with this and hand them out in the neighbourhood...
danielw 6 years ago
I believe she probably said something like 'hold my appletini,' immediately prior.
Load More Replies... Sam Mandley 6 years ago
My fiancé proposed to me with his grandmothers ring, whom which had passed away recently. His mother, uncle, aunt and basically everyone else, had approved of him proposing with that ring. He got the ring resized and 2 tiny middle diamonds, out of the 4 tiny diamonds, taken out and replaced with green diamonds because he knows green is my favourite colour. I've never felt so lucky in my life to be presented by such an amazing form of love and I can't wait to marry the love of my life in 2020.
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Naomi Armitage 6 years ago
I'm still trying to wrap my head around $16K-$20K engagement rings. That's a decent new car. That's a down payment on a house, or a year's worth of rent, if that's your thing. It's just SO MANY other things than a hunk of metal on your hand.
Anne 6 years ago
Plus the metal/diamonds value combined is never worth the price you pay for it.. (I mean it's not a good investment)
Load More Replies... Bob Beltcher 6 years ago
When all you think about are the things you want, you'll never be satisfied with what you have.
Jaguarundi 6 years ago
Actually, I bought my first wedding set myself, my husband had a crappy job and no money sense nor credit card. We picked them out together, they cost $259.00 for the set. The store was broken into that night and the safe was cleaned out completely. Fortunately, my rings had already been sent out to be sized. Needless to say, after all of that trauma and drama, we did get married. We had 5 wonderful years together, he passed away the week before our 6th Anniversary. I would give any amount of money or any gemstone in the world to have one day of those 5 years back again. That ungrateful b*tch complaining about "her" ring needs to get a soul!
John Lyttle 6 years ago
You just reduced me to tears. Sorry for your loss and thank you for your wisdom.
Load More Replies... Ashlee Rudolph 6 years ago
My engagement/wedding ring is a $500, small cute little diamond, that I picked out. My hubby begged me to pick something bigger but I didn't want to. I would have rather spent the money on a vacation. We've been married 8 years now and he still asks me once in awhile if I want a new ring. I always say no.
Abbey Impson 6 years ago
hells bells my Mom didn't get an engagement ring and bet their wedding bands didn't cost $100 combined and they are going to celebrate 50 years next year
Amber Edwards 6 years ago
I mean my husband proposed to me with ring pops 🤷♀️Don’t understand why people need to have giant a*s diamond rings. If your that materialistic that you’d rather worry about a damn rock then the sentimental value of the act a loved one is carrying out, then you probably aren’t ready for marriage.
Stille20 6 years ago
...It's a ring shaming group? How is this woman so horrifying. She is part of a group! So clearly she is not alone in her gripe, petty or not.
Tricia Evans 6 years ago
Anyone that is part of that group is horrifying.
Load More Replies... Enuya 6 years ago
Are these women real? WHO the hell acts like this? Shame on her that she even went through her boyfriend's pockets. Snooping through someone's things is one of the behaviors that I hate the most. And, I don't understand these "rings shaming groups". So, basically, your loved one wants to give you gift and you are all like: "f**k you, this diamond is too small, give me something better"? And other people approve this and even support you? God, this world is crazy...
Jenifer Cavanaugh McSwain 6 years ago
Her ring looks like my 10 year Anniversary ring. Ma'am. Be happy with what you are given. It's the thought that counts.
A Dyke From The Dreamworld 6 years ago
A girl could propose to me with a ring made of goddamn plastic and I would cherish it like it's my soul.
Jay 6 years ago
As a woman, this kind of attitude sickens me so much. I just proposed to my girlfriend with a ring & tbh I only did it because I knew she wanted to propose to me with a nice ring, but didn't have the money. I don't want to wait. I don't need an expensive ring. Actually, I don't need anything besides commitment. True commitment. She keeps trying to steel a ring she gave me a year ago, so she can "transform" it into an engagement ring. This sickens me because God knows the anxiety I went through to 1) deciding it's gonna happen 2) stress of looking for rings 3) stress after deciding on the ring (will she like it? will she say yes? SO many questions 4) the absolute STRESS of having the ring in the nightstand (I did the same as this guy, apparently) 5) Anxiety on deciding HOW and WHEN you're going to propose... If I saw anything similar to what this girl did... I can honestly tell you I'd throw the ****** ring at her stupid face and drag her out of the house stat. My heart breaks for him.
Naomi Armitage 6 years ago
Probably the same females who will go on to demand $500 gifts from their wedding guests and b*tch when the guests don't pay for her honeymoon (See: Past articles on BP about insane brides).
Load More Replies... ZombieGirl5591 6 years ago
She is in for a rude awakening when she finds out what marriage is really about! It is hard work but worth it. It is real life and good times and bad times and nothing about marriage is shallow and superficial like worrying about what ring you get proposed to with. I feel sorry for her marriage if she goes into it with that attitude because it will be hard to make it last. Unless that's what the guy loves about her, I guess.
Nubmaeme 6 years ago
When my now-ex proposed, we didn't have a lot of anything. He gave me a double heart friendship ring and I was very happy with it. I'm not graceful so I would have damaged a fancy diamond engagement ring. Even our wedding bands were plain gold. That marriage lasted nearly 36 years. We both changed after retirement from the military and grew very far apart, but at least we're still friends.
Taryn Wallace 6 years ago
My bf could literally propose to me with no ring lying next to me in bed and it would make me so happy I don't understand what the hell is wrong with these people who feel the need to shame the person they "love" into buying something more expensive for them.
Eliyahu Rooff 6 years ago
My wife helped me pick out her ring. It's a lovely white gold ring with a 1.5K stone that happens to be CZ and only cost a couple hundred dollars. No one can tell it from a real diamond, and we used the rest of the money it would have cost as down payment on a house. Thirteen years later, we're still happy together. feeling compelled to sink a fortune into a ring is part of the DeBeers marketing strategy; not something that intelligent people would do on their own.
Paul Mitchell 6 years ago
To the poor bloke .... RUN! You have a greedy, entitled psycho on your hands.
varwenea 6 years ago
Even if she doesn't like it, doesn't mean she has the right to be an a*s online. Hope he finds out and dumps her. On different note, I have a 3-stone ring in a classic carved platinum band which I absolutely love. He had great taste and she doesn't. 😜
bob 6 years ago
Well, at least you'll be able to pay for your divorce if you sell it.
Load More Replies... Ruth Beaty 6 years ago
After almost 40 years of marriage I have no ring. We had to sell our wedding bands, that cost way too much, for very little just to feed us and two kids one time. I never felt like I needed a replacement, I knew I was married and loved and I loved him dearly (see almost 40 years above). He died this year and a ring just wouldn't mean anything to me now. It was a damn good almost 40 years.
Lilly 6 years ago (edited)
i know someone like this (a relative, actually). husband bought her an 'upgrade' to the ring she currently had (for Christmas, no less!). She didn't like it & made him get her something 'better' (bigger). they are still together (as far as i know) after more than 30 yrs, but i lost some respect for him for caving in. materialistic people are way down on my list of folks to include in my inner circle...
Donna Flynn 6 years ago
I don’st have any rings at all - but my husband is the best and kindest of men whose first wife’s cancer treatment left him in a real bind. I don’t care about c**p like jewelry but I completely understand the tradition is precious. Just that paying for rocks makes little sense to me.
Tammy Ralph 6 years ago
WTF is a ring shaming group? Seriously, stop the world I want to get off.
Peter Couse 6 years ago (edited)
Yep and it is not exactly Cartier... more gaming storefront trinket
Load More Replies... Jolijn Njamin-Geurts van Kessel 6 years ago
I didn't even get a ring at the proposal, we only got rings for the wedding (and they were something around 300 euro's, combined, not a piece) I really don't understand the need to spend thousands on a ring (unless you're rich, of course)
Charlotte Jarrett 6 years ago
The ring is beautiful it so it doesnt match your personality. I hate that shitass attitude
Wyndmere 6 years ago
Shame on her; picky lady. 1. You snooped. 2. You assumed alot. 3. You were ungrateful. 4. You posted your disapproval on a public forum. 5. You judged him. 6. You asked absolute strangers shame his gift of love on a public forum. 7. Its no one elses business, but now you know how the "world" sees and judges your attitude, judgment, and actions. 8. You showed Major disrespect for both the man you think you will marry, and his intended gift. Its a lovely ring, but it seems that you are clearly not ready to make a life-long comittment to This man. I hope he never places this ring on your finger until you have had a Major attitude adjustment, and sincerely apoloized to him; in person, and as publically as you have disrespected him and his gift.
Patty cake ;3 6 years ago
The ring isn't bad at all, but that shouldn't even matter. What matters is that they love each other, and that they are ready for a committed relationship. If that girl is asking people to shame the ring her boyfriend got her, then she is not worth his time, and he should find someone who is.
Saints of Sins 6 years ago
Excuse me? That guy went out and beyond to get you a damn ring, pretty expensive, and you act like a doosh when it might not be for you? You just say no like that because of a ring? My father gave my mother a $.50 ring, only 50 cents. Clearly my mother was more than happy. It isn't some damn ring that matters, it's your connection. I bet that guy worries because of you. So shut up and learn to be grateful. No one is made of money. We are made of love.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
I've never owned diamonds in my life and I don't have a boyfriend. I'm going to be in a bad mood for the rest of the day now.
Michèle Gyselinck 6 years ago
My mom got an engagement ring 10 years after my parents were married. My father couldn’t afford one when he proposed. Some women are too greedy for their own good.
Joseph Roberts 6 years ago
If you buy a sapphire ring, it’s cheaper but still a hunk of carbon, you can also get it in a variety of colors.
IWishIWasBob 6 years ago
God my ring was string...I loved it. Especially since he said that it symbolized the thing holding us so tightly together. He’s calls it “the string of love” and it’s the strongest thing out there :). Of course we did get real rings later. But I still love it.
Krásnoočko Zelené 6 years ago (edited)
Excuse me but f**k this jewellery obsessed culture. My partner and I got engaged by proposing to each other, mutually, spontaneously, honestly and with no rings or money involved. I'm marrying them - not buying them, and they are not buying me. I just don't understand why should one of the partners invest so much money (money they usually don't have!) just to make a "gesture" and why would their partners actually want them to do so and shame them for not complying with this wasteful custom. How is the relationship supposed to be fair and equal when it starts by one of the partners spending a fortune on a luxury item for the other one while they just sit on their butt and act like they are some kind of royalty who deserves grands-worth of gifts while giving nothing of similar value in return? What the hell? I just resent this culture and am really proud of my husband, myself and the circle of our friends not taking part in this b******t.
Mae 6 years ago
I'm not sure if I'm more disgusted by this woman or by the fact that a ring shaming group is a thing?! I hope that the ring isn't for her but shouldn't the guy already be aware that he's dating a total douche.... My boyfriend could propose without a ring, with a piece of string or a plastic and I'd be happy. Why are some people so materialistic. "I'm better than you, I have a bigger diamond" UGH!
Wina Alkerchief 6 years ago
Why she is so care about somerhing materialistic and doesnt care about the most important thing that she has already? Like a person that loves her and want to spend the rest of his life with her.. Isn't that worth more than the ring?
SykesDaMan 6 years ago
Are you alright title guy? No "And the Internet shut her down"? Do you need any kind of help? Are you going through a phase?
nano 3 years ago
Yea, its time to rethink the traditional diamond rings, as diamonds became very expensive and not practical to afford. Many are switching to diamond alternatives like Moissanites, which look like diamonds, however you can get a much bigger stone for 1/10 of a price and avoid embarrassing stories like above on both ends. One of the respectable brands is foreverwedbridal.com they have a great variety of moissanite gems and gorgeous rings.
James Anthony 5 years ago
Laughed a lot after reading this article. I bought this diamond ring while proposing my lover. https://infinity-london.it/solitario-diamanti-fidanzamento-anello-18ct-oro-bianco-R300.html
Deborah Brett 6 years ago
TBH, I wouldn't want an engagement ring with a diamond, and I'd expect anyone proposing to me to know that about me. If someone went down on one knee with a ring box, I'd be shaking my head..... not because of the size of the diamond, but because that person doesn't know me well enough to commit to a life together. And I'm thinking, the guy whose ring this is, doesn't know this lady as well as he needs to.
Holly Hobby 6 years ago
A ring shaming group? I'm confused why these people are shaming her when they're all in the same group with the same goal- ring shaming. What did I miss? What ring qualifies for them all to agree to shame it?
JohnnyMary Thompson 6 years ago
I remember when my husband got my engagement ring and I showed it to my 2 best friends. They looked at it and jokingly said "where is it?". This was in the 60s and he was in the army and didn't make but about $149.00 a month. It looked just like this one only on a much smaller scale. I couldn't figure out what they meant. I was just 18 and thought it was beautiful. That was 50 1/2 years ago and we're still married. Just goes to show you don't need a huge diamond to be happy. Mary T.
John McHenry 6 years ago
3 reasons why Men are leaving the dating field. 1) Ring shaming groups 2) Divorce parties and 3) Family Courts raping their bank accounts and taking their children away from them.
John McHenry 6 years ago
And then they have the nerve to wonder why Men don't want to get married anymore.
Vinniegret 6 years ago
I think she is greedy and picky. She doesn't deserve a man who would pick out a nice ring to please her. Shame on her. If she was disappointed, she surely should have kept it to herself, not plastered it online. I hope he sees it and finds someone worthy of his care.
Raven Hayden Rudnik 8 months ago
If she wanted so much a certain design, why not just Show him what she likes? Not even hinting at the Engagement Ring, just rings in General. For example I hate Gold, so I would just say it to someone instead of just being angry they gave me the Gold Ring. People dont read minds
Fixit Mann 6 years ago
My wife of 15 years bought our wedding rings. When I proposed, it was online. She still has the "ring" (virtual) on her desktop that I proposed with. My cost: Zero Dollars. Her cost: I don't know. Neither of us wear the rings anyway-- hers due to not having it resized, mine due to work.
Jim Price 6 years ago
My father proposed to my mother with exactly that ring (I inherited it after they both passed, so I know). They lived happily ever after until death they did part, and by death were reunited. Shame on her for her material mindset. I hope she said no, and avoided the inevitable divorce in three or four years. Money issues are the number one reason for divorces, and this is just screaming that outcome.
Ellisa 6 years ago
I'm torn because "ring shaming" is rude, and going through your partner's drawers is completely unacceptable. SHE even acknowledges this and not liking the ring is going to draw negative comments, aka her comment "please roast" and asking for advice on how to ask for something different. Is it wrong that she doesn't like the ring? Is it bad that she wants advice on how to say she wants something different? Seriously. I wouldn't wear any piece of jewelry I don't like (I actually like the ring but to each their own). Isn't it better he spend the money on something she loves and wants to wear? I have no idea how to say it tactfully to someone, except the "Thank you so much, I love you, I am excited to spend the rest of my life with you...". When I've been given jewelry I don't like I graciously say thank you but then I never wear it or consign it. I don't think that's much better and I know, I know, y'all will say it's different because it's an engagement ring, but still.
Naima Ivansdóttir 6 years ago
my ex boyfriend and i were talking about getting married and he informally proposed. he saw how puzzled i was and said, do i need to get a ring before proposing it - sorry i didn't think about it. i was puzzled because i wasn't expecting him to ask me, and i was like DON'T YOU DARE BUYING A RING WE'LL BE GOING ON VACATION WITH THAT MONEY! :D (we split up, didn't get married)
Octavia Hansen 6 years ago
Maybe this gal thinks it's the last ring she'll ever get . . . with this attitude . . . she's RIGHT!
Ashari Caples 6 years ago
She dosen't have to like it, But saying "NO" because of the ring, that's twisted "newsflash find yourself a real WOMAN."
Squeaky Bear 6 years ago
Pretty ring. Ungrateful moo. Most couples I have ever known decide to get married then go out and choose a ring together. My first husband wasn't well off so we chose cheap rings, it didn't matter. We split up and I stopped wearing the rings. Then I got burgled, hope he found out how cheap the rings were! I have rings now which we designed with a Hatton Garden jeweller. They weren't that expensive but are what I want. That was 22 years ago, were still not married.
Just Carmen 6 years ago
What an ungrateful a*s. She should be happy she's even getting a diamond ring in the first place! My Mom never had a diamond wedding ring. When my husband proposed, he didn't even HAVE a ring (he shipped out to the Army the day after). Neither one of us had much money and I'd settled on a simple band with alternating small diamonds and sapphires. Would've cost about $300.00. But as fate would have it, I "found" a ring that I simply loved. I showed to him when he was home on leave over Christmas, told him I just wanted to show it to him as I knew he couldn't afford it. He looked at me and said, "I don't care what it costs. That's the ring I'll get for you." I couldn't believe it. I didn't demand it and was never expecting to get it. I would've been perfectly happy with the band because I loved it too. I found the right man and THAT was the most important thing, NOT the ring. 33 years later, he's still the right man for me.
Luisa Vasconcelos 6 years ago
Have a Facebook page for ring shaming !?!! What is wrong with people ?
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost $6, and it's perfect, because he's perfect.
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
Oh and what the f**k has the world come too, RING SHAMING, it's absolutely disgusting
Courtney Christoff-Tzazaroff 6 years ago
The three stone engagement ring actually has the most beautiful meaning. "Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow." But obviously this woman would be far to shallow to know that.
Donald Holder 6 years ago
This is why my gf and I went ring "wish shopping" before I even considered proposing. That way I had an idea of what she liked. There was no pressure to buy one or when/ifid propose but it was fun and romantic to do it beforehand. And in the end, she says she absolutely loves the one that I have given her(26 yrs ago).
Francesca Annoni 6 years ago
My husband proposed with only the diamond, he said that he knew my taste and could never make me wear a ring that I did not like, he said he wanted to marry me and that I would choose the ring later, proved to really know me and I realized that he was really the right man ..
J Martin Jones 6 years ago
Bought my first wife (5/7/1991-4/22/2002) a $1,000 ring from Helzberg. A month into our marriage, my Helzberg $1,200 diamond and sapphire ring goes missing. So does hers. She had pawned them for a measly $200. I was so furious. I never again bought her any REAL jewelry. I didn't redeem them back from the p**n shop, I was so angry. She wanted "mad money" because we were on such a tight budget, there wasn't a lot left over after paying the bills. Some, but not a lot. Bought my second wife's) ring at Walmart for about $300. She picked it out. Was a good thing she went cheap because a week after the wedding, she disappeared. Took her (three!) kids with her. Found her in Texas. Left her there.
Roxy 6 years ago
Sorry to say this, but you girl deserve being roasted than your bf. I am not going to blame you for going through his drawer cause just to give you the benefit of the doubt, I'll think you were looking for something or he told you to grab something from his drawer and he forgot that the ring was in there.... That being said, your attitude sucks a*s!! Why in hell would you want strangers to roast your bf for getting you a ring? How do you know its even an engagement ring? Maybe it was for another reason, and NOT FOR MARRIAGE! You're a sad person and he doesn't deserve your a*s. Change your thinking girl and life will be better hopefully for you. To the bf, you deserve someone better! If she is like this as your gf, imagine what she will be like a your wife. I hope you changed your mind of proposing her and dumped her instead!
Glynis Lailann 6 years ago
A ring, what ever size or cost, is a Token of Love and Promise. Too many people today have lost their way in putting materialism above all else. True love and good intentions have no price or label. This woman is wrong. Her love interest would do better to look for someone else.
Ann Abdelzaher 6 years ago
jeez that is a gorgeous ring I didn't get a ring like that for my proposal .. the first ring was a silver cz and I still said yes... a year later when he had more money he upgraded to a 1/7 carat diamond solitaire that cost $249 we were broke college kids.... 9 years later on the 10th anniversary of our engagement he decided to upgrade my ring to a 1 carat and I love all of those .. this lady is so ungrateful.
Ann Abdelzaher 6 years ago
for the record DH and I will be married 20 years in June and have been together 22 years in March :)
Load More Replies... sharron lynn parsons 6 years ago
How do you measure love, well ladies, I say you don't know the meaning of love if it's the size of a diamond !!!
SarcasticGamer 6 years ago
Her bloke is lucky to find out now rather than years later that she's this type of ungrateful person. When you sit down to eat Thanksgiving dinner, do you complain the turkey's too small or do you give thanks?
SarcasticGamer 6 years ago
Her bloke is lucky to find out now rather than years later that she's this type of ungrateful person
Richard 6 years ago
I absolutely can't comprehend this proposing-ring-thin in US. Here if 2 people love each other and it comes up to a marriage nobody has to knee down (only a few romantics does it nevertheless) and usually there is NO engagement ring. My husband (again: I'm a woman :D ) simply said one day: I think, we should marry. What do you think? And I answerd: Yes, honey, let's do. A month before ceremony we bought our wedding rings and I think they were about 1.200 $. Both together.
Zet 6 years ago
to me it's not the ring that matters but much more who gave it to me and what it means to us.. obviously there are ugly rings....i think if i'll ever have a boyfriend i'd want us to go look for a ring together after he proposed... so we are both happy and have a memory of how we got to find it together
Lisa Owens 6 years ago
When my hubby proposed, I had a dainty yellow gold ring with a heart shaped pink ice & 2 heart shaped cut into the ring & had used wedding bands that matched because that's what we could afford. We almost lost our house when hubby lost his job & pawned/sold out rings. We have simple plain good bands, mine almost broken so I'm using a silver ring with small sets & a created aquamarine ( both his & daughter's birthstone) claudagh ring as an engagement ring. We've been married almost 24 years & it's the person you marry & the life you make together that makes a marriage, not the rings, the wedding or any thing else. If anyone is so materialistic as to be upset about that ring ( which I think is pretty) or any other, it shows what s truly important to her & she is not good enough for him or any man.
Lynn Noyes 6 years ago
Gifts should never be judged this way, but the problem could be avoided if she had a say in the shopping. Normally I wouldn't advise that for a gift, but in this case it is the woman who will be wearing it. It would be courteous and thoughtful to let her opinion count. If, during the shopping trip, she is critical then that's when to dump her.
Maggie Collins 6 years ago
I'm with the grass and twist tie ladies. Love is wonderful, being a classless b***h, not so much!
Chuck Lantz 6 years ago
The names of these groups should be changed from "Ring-shaming groups" to "Groups of people who have no clue what love is all about."
theresa williams 6 years ago
I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW THE REST OF THE STORY, I HOPE HE DUMPED HER. I WOULD LOVE ANY RING THAT CAME FROM A MAN THAT TRULY LOVED ME
Ruth Fichter 6 years ago
I had no engagement ring, and our wedding rings were very basic. Married 30 years. What kind of people care about such things except greedy, self-centered types no one should marry?
Christine M Quigley 6 years ago
I think some people need to get a grip on what's truly important in relationships and in life, in general. Personally I think the ring is beautiful. Her BF needs to dump her in a big hurry for 2 reasons- first, 'snooping' around in his stuff, and two, being so damn superficial and mean.
tuzdayschild 6 years ago
I absolutely love this! A man can't get a better sign that he's attached himself to a succubus. Disconnect and run for for your life sir.
Maria Bumbac 6 years ago
I think people are formatted to buy diamonds for engagement and this as a commercial manipulation. You don't need diamonds to be happy. Think of the poor indians or africans exploited in the mines. Don't buy diamonds any more, for God's sake!
madeline tansey bryson 6 years ago
Haha. My sister did the same. He got down on one knee in front of her friends i wasn't invited but that's another story. Held out the ring and she said i don't like the ring
James Grey 6 years ago
Loving those responses. That pathetic, petty b***h needs to go. I hope this guy found out what she did, and just how much of an ungrateful, materialistic piece of c**p she is and tells her to f**k off. Things happen for a reason. He might just have dodged that gigantic shitstorm of a life partner she would have been.
Anna Salerno 6 years ago
What an ungrateful b***h! That man is lucky that he found out before the wedding. He'll never be able to please her so he should tun as fast as he can away from her!
rita rayman 6 years ago
these women should all be ashamed of themselves for being so unbelievably shallow and materialistic at a time when it's the last thing this world needs. Crawl back under your rock! And men, run while you can because it only gets worse with this kind.
rita rayman 6 years ago
these women should be ashamed of themselves. And the men should run while they can. It will only get worse.
Ileana Sky Aviles 6 years ago
Ex proposed with a 3ct Asscher cut center stone with 1ct side stones. 2 weeks later his best mate confessed he had been cheating on me with a colleague for about a year. I'd rather have a ring made of candy from a good man any day.
Jewels737 6 years ago
I have a lovely diamond ring. But my husband & I both wear camo silicone rings bought on groove. They stretch a bit if our hands swell & I can wear it at work with no problem. They cost $20 each.
Jewels737 6 years ago
Plus my husband proposed with no ring. We picked one out a few days later.
Load More Replies... Bill Taylor 6 years ago
Diamonds are the biggest rip off on the planet, they're not even a good investment where appreciation is concerned. That's why I bought my wife a tanzanite that she picked out when we got engaged 20 years ago.
Great Panda Mamu 6 years ago
When my husband and I started talking about getting married, I told him up front that if I was going to wear the ring for the rest of my life, I wanted to be involved in picking it out. We searched together and found rings we liked that were in our budget. My central stone is tanzanite with little tiny diamonds around it. It cost about $1300 for both my rings and his wedding band. He still made the proposal sweet and memorable for us without making a huge production out of it. I have a ring I love, a man I love, and we didn't have to break the bank. And, of course, I would have married him with a ring made out of spaghetti-o's.
The Dutches 6 years ago
She is missing the point. It's about love, not about the ring or a diamond. Unbelievable. Any ring should do. And besides, this is a beauty.
Dave J. Bailey 6 years ago
Not everyone can afford something big and luxurious- the love that's put into purchasing that item with the intent that it symbolizes the want of a shared life full of love, companionship and partnership is what that ring is worth and if that intent in genuine- it's worth THE WORLD. I hope she realizes that and disregards negative opinions. LOVE EACH OTHER. NOT THINGS.
Haniza Rahmat 6 years ago
i purposely told my then-boyfriend type of ring that i like, but the one he proposed to is totally different and not much to my liking..10 years later, i still wear it every day since the day he proposed me. it is not the ring that bind you, love is..Because our custom the groom to give the bride a jewellery for wedding gift, later we bought the wedding ring together so that i can choose the design that i like..
Kat Sotiriou 6 years ago
My husband proposed to me in a forest with a ring he made with twigs and flowers it was so beautiful and of course I said yes. He wanted to get me a real ring I said no I don't even wear Jewellery. I hope this woman is disgusted in her behaviour and quite frankly I hope he doesn't marry her
mistouko les 6 years ago
I didn't propose. I hate rings, she hates rings. We also didn't married. We're fine. Our daughter is beautiful.
Allison Kendrick 6 years ago
We didn't have much money but wanted to get married, so I bought the wedding and engagement rings at an artisan shop in Santa Cruz California where we were going to school. Why? I was the one with the student loan that time. Beautiful but plain gold rings. His was found by his sister in a movie theater, gold but a bit fancier. He got me a couple more rings over time, but when he had some extra money on our 35th wedding anniversary I said I wanted a wedding ring. I got it, a gorgeous tanzanite ring. Less expensive but tri color so it was just my style. I had had to cut off the original wedding ring but I still wear it wit the new one.
Jennifer Dann 6 years ago
Wow.. spoiled much? At least he wanted to propose to you.. my ex of eight years didn't want to even get on one knee for me before he was 30
Fernando Jones 6 years ago
My spouse's ring cost us like (I can't fully remember) $40 or something? It wasn't much. They didn't want something crazy. My ring cost me all of $30 and I've had to replace it to a size smaller (I lost about 70 lbs, causing the ring to slip off my finger numerous times and decided to just replace it). I still have the original wedding band for me in my dresser with other stuff. If I ever mentioned a desire to buy another ring for my spouse I would probably be met with a stern look and a solid "no" because that money could be put to better use like our house or our dog and cat. This is why I married them.
Ryo Bakura 6 years ago
I'll take it if you don't want it. The stones can be removed, and added to my Liberace costume for New Years'.
Michelle Juedes 6 years ago
My entire wedding set cost $300... All 3 rings. That was 18 years ago. I hope they don't get married.
Conni Kerr 6 years ago
My engagement ring was a chip diamond "promise" ring that cost $14, and I was thrilled with it. If the ring you get is more important than marrying the right person, then you need to walk away and let him find someone that will appreciate his efforts properly!
sunnyrei82 6 years ago
Mine is similar. I love it. Specially because a 3 diamond engagement ring means: you are his past, his present and his future.
Erik Granqvist 6 years ago
If you need a specific prize for your ring, you will become unhappy
Cherie 6 years ago
My (former) BF gave me a $20 ring. Not to propose, but cuz he wanted me to flash the fake stone around his favorite casino. I still don't know where I threw it or where it landed.
Cherie 6 years ago
I would have taken a cracker jack ring if it had really been for me. .. Bummer.
Load More Replies... Catherine West 6 years ago
I just would be happy to know that he loves me enough to buy the ring, Shameless woman !! Ungrateful woman!! Pray for forgiveness!!
TheDivineMs.M 6 years ago
She's assuming the bf bought it, how does she know it's not an heirloom or sentimental in some way. Superficial bitc*
LeilaOdinis 6 years ago
I currently don't have a man in my life. He could propose with a twist tie and I would be so happy. I don't care for such trinkets. The ring in the pic was gorgeous granted, I wouldn't want it. I would want just him.
Jus 6 years ago
I got an awesome ring, but didn't expect anything special, just wanted it to fit. Now I would rather choose myself. I'd like to hear: I want to marry you, let's go and pick something together, price up to... . It would be perfect. I don't like that girl's attitude, even though the ring is not great.
Morph 6 years ago
My engagement ring cost $25. It later had to be replaced by something thinner to work with the wedding band, so I got a small diamond, it cost $1k and I loved them both. The size and cost of the ring shouldn't be the important part. It's the person you're marrying, not the cold stone on your finger.
Meyer Weinstock 6 years ago
....And then, they wonder why we prefer to be single men, even as we age...
Kenny Kulbiski 6 years ago
I'm kinda sceptical about all these ring shaming posts. It seems to be a "top this" contest and there's no way of proving that it actually happened.
Kelly 6 years ago
This is only the usual copy-paste post, not posted by the author. Who knows the real story behind?
Load More Replies... troufaki13 6 years ago
When your objective is to "get married" and "have children" and not to find your person and have a happy family, then material stuff will always be more important than the substance.
Crouching_Penn_Hidden_Teller@yahoo.com 6 years ago
you do actually need money to have children, you know....
Load More Replies... Lara L. 6 years ago
I don't care (and I think neither is the roasting- girl) if it's a 3 Dollar or 3 Million dollar ring: this one looks like my great great grandmothers. I wouldn't want to wear it either. Daily. For ever. But usually something like "I love your proposal and you. But we need to exchange the ring, to one we both like" should work
rhyan lumilay 6 years ago
To be honest, I don't know if all men will relate to me, for me whatever you call it, whatever it looks like, whatever it was made of they are all pretty much the same and I think we guys see it as a ring and we can't understand why girls needs a fancy ring. Maybe guys love to see things plain and simple but girls see things in complicated ways. Hope that we don't base our love in the things that we can't have instead base it whether we will have or we will not have anything. Anyway that girl is stupid it's not for her fingers maybe it's a c*ckring so don't assume yet LOL.
Friedlander Rosenzweig 6 years ago
I’ve sold hundreds of engagement rings and unfortunately I’ve had to hold my tongue more times then I can count... then again, I’m Adult ADHD, so I’ve let a b***h bride have a word or two, now and then.
Nomadus Aureus 6 years ago
Ok, the attitude is s**t. The idea of putting it online is even more so. And maybe I'm being naive, but she's saying "different". Not "bigger" or "more expensive". Tbh, if I love someone enough for us to even discuss marriage, I'd be happy with a twist tie. But secretly, I'd be quite a bit disappointed if he bought me something like this, because it's really not my style. And no, I wouldn't wear it, because in my line of work, this (or pretty much anything other than a simple band) wouldn't work, provided he wants me to have a full set of fingers. Obviously, again, I wouldn't be a d**k about it, but come on. You're supposed to know your partner...
Si 6 years ago
So basically a man can rock up with any old thing to ask a woman to give her LIFE to him? And wear it on her finger till the day she dies? Washing him, feeding him, nursing him, carrying his children, wrecking her body? With a significant chance he’ll cheat on her and leave her at a later point? You all imagine he poured his soul into finding and buying this ring and is laying his heart out on a plate for her to stomp on. It’s just as likely that he’s a similar person to his fiancé, that he couldnt be bothered to find something she would like or spend much on it. Of course it’s even more likely that neither of them exist and this story was uploaded by an incel.
Petya 6 years ago
How do you know he didn't put any thought or effort into it? He may have spent hours choosing it and months to save up the money for it. If someone loves you enough to propose and you love him back, then you wouldn't be so stupid to judge the size of the diamond or the style of the ring, you would just appreciate the gesture.
Load More Replies... Saraisara 6 years ago
Very logical argument, I don't understand the reason for the down votes at all! But in my opinion in such cases between a couple, the intention behind the gesture is key.
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