If the couples are all still married from the weddings she's attended then it's her lucky blue dress and couples should be begging her to rock it at their wedding!

Find the exact same dress, but in a very slightly different shade of blue. ;)

I'm sure I will sound like a terrible person, but in my late 20s/early 30s I stopped going to weddings. In ONE year I had over 7 weddings to attend. And it is not just the wedding it is all the showers you are expected to attend. It was costing me a huge amount of money because the brides insisted on 'special' requirements such as new dresses (I had a large group of friends). I was doing a graduate degree and had little money, always gave a nice gift, but just too much money. I did attend one wedding during this time period because both the groom and bride insisted on NO gifts, come dressed nicely but other then that they just wanted friends to be with them. The whole wedding cost was probably less than $5k - and it was a great wedding.

The more I see these articles the more I wish there was a filter to flush out the AITA posts. I swear, most of these people know very well they are not the AH but just post their story on the internet for validation!

People put too much emphasis on clothing and what someone's wearing, when the event should be the main focus. People have stupid f'd up ideas and ideology about how people are supposed to dress and present themselves, etc. I'm not saying wear pajamas to the store, because that's a different situation, but for her life and the one dress and that works for her, then that should be what works for her and no one else should get to say anything about it.

I'm in Canada, I have at least 8 dresses and 5 skirts. What she's saying is bs. If she didn't have the funds for a new dress then yeah I understand and her friend should treat her badly for that. But if it's just cuz "oh, it's cold" nah. It rly ain't. I live up north and I still wear dresses lmao. She can also go to Ardenes and buy a cheap summer dress, I've had an ardene dress for 6 years and it hasn't broke. Yes they're usually cheaper quality but some have thicker material and are only 20-30 dollars. Jjshouse also is an online store that ships dresses that literally look exactly like the pics, true to image and nice materials, you can get a dress from there starting at 20 for summer dresses and fancy night outs are minimum 60 CAD. Not bad prices at all.

If you have a whole group of friends in California, see if you can borrow a dress for this wedding, also, dresses aren't that expensive if you know how to shop. I never buy anything that isn't on a clearance rack.

Personally, I think it's rude that the person put that on the wedding invitation. If the choice of attire bothers the friend so much, then maybe they should either buy her a new dress or lend one to her.

Unless the bride, wedding party, and/or mothers are wearing blue, the bride is TA for telling her friend not to wear her blue dress (even then, I think any bride dictating specific colors for their wedding guests is TA). However, since the bride said not to wear it, I'd show up in the holiday dress (which I hope is either bright red sequins or covered in large gingerbread men and a huge lace collar) 😈. I'd also start to wonder if my friends are making fun of me behind my back. At the very least I'd cut this "friend" loose because this feels like mean girl mocking rather than good-natured teasing (if she was teasing, she would have followed with a "Kidding. It'll be great to see you no matter what you wear").

Screw 'em. Wear the dress again.

It really is obnoxious, sexist, and ridiculously shallow, to care that much about what women are wearing. Men get to wear the same suit, and old shoes, to everything, while women have to spend on specialized hygiene products, medication, hair products, lotions, soaps, makeup, jewelry, and new clothes, every year...Come on, how is this not a disgusting representation of over-consumption, and double standards? That said, it could be a joke. You really should ask. If she's serious, then I guess you aren't good enough friends after all.

I just don't understand when or how it became OK for brides to be so demanding. You certainly shouldn't expect to control anything you're not paying for, and it's bloody rude to comment even then.

If you have a washing machine, then wear the same clothes as much as you like, just wash them. Also, like someone said in the post, this may have been a joke.

Ya, like just buy a new dress, it doesn't have to be costly. Just make sure it's NOT white, or anything even close. Pink is always nice, red is too flashy. There ya go...a nice but simple pink dress that's inexpensive.

I don't understand why anyone would have a problem with someone wearing the same dress to multiple events.

Only asšhole I'm seeing is the sexist bride who thinks it's ok to tell someone what to wear. Men wear the same tuxes over and over, yet no one says boo. Although I will say, as a Canadian, I own plenty of dresses, living in Canada isnt an excuse to have only 3 dresses lol

I'm the opposite. I always wind up buying 3 different dresses for a wedding & flopping between them until the last minute. I always wear the other two for something else eventually. I get them from thrift shops so I'm not out much money. It gives me a reason to go dress shopping! I have found many great dresses & deals by doing this & starting my dress hunt early.

That's some real 1st world problems right there.

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I have a dress that I bought in 1988, that I've worn to weddings and social events that I've had pictures taken in those 32 years or more. It's black, however for my son's wedding, I did break down and got a dress of spring color, as I thought it was warranted not that I was told to. I do like the comment about the guys having one or two suits and no one judges them for it. Save the funds for something needed then because you got bullied into a new dress. Only if it was heinous or ill-fitting should you change your mind.

I didn't get the feeling that she has a money problem, what I felt was that she doesn't care much about clothes in general, and that she doesn't feel like buying a new one just for a day. But, if it was a special request, she could at least try to wear one of the 2 other she has or try to borrow one with another friend. Try being the key word, and talk to the friend too.

Personally I think the way the text was worded comes across as an a$$hole. To expect someone to pay for a plane ticket, possibly hotel stay, accomodations and a gift and then ask them to wear a different dress - especially in that manner - is tacky. She's not in the wedding so it really shouldn't matter. However, if she chooses to go to the wedding and get a new dress then I would just go to a second hand shop. Our Goodwill here has a TON of dresses for like $7.00, I got a gorgeous one for my daughter a few weeks ago with the tags still on them. I definitely wouldn't buy a brand new one. Either way if you buy a new dress, regardless of the cost, don't buy a present.

If your opinion isn't requested mind your own business

I love that comment questioning if OP has ever heard a joke or what lmao, a lot of women are really sensitive with dreses. I remember back in school we would do traditional dances and they usually made chatrooms with all the girls to make sure no one is wearing the same dress variant as them, if the dress was pretty uniformed, they policed accessories instead. Worst part is that they gave no shits if they accidentally copied you instead (however if you did they'd lose their s**t) and in case both set the eyes in the same dress, they would never be the one searching for another option, YOU were expected to do so. I think OP's friend is dead serious.

Maybe she can't AFFORD a new dress especially since inflation is currently awful pretty much everywhere in North America. On top of that she had to spend a pretty penny on flying to the most expensive state in the US for the wedding. I have friends in Canada and I know s**t is skyhigh in Canada (one of my friends is about to have his first baby in June that lives up there and he has shown me that gas is high in Canada worse than Cali is on it)... What I would do is either tell her friend to deal with it or buy a dress for her instead or let her wear dress pants and a nice top instead or wear the blue dress anyways. Long as she is NOT a brides maid or a flower girl she doesn't need to spend a bunch of money on a dress that she would nvr wear again. If she is a brides maid then it supposed to be the brides job of getting her a suitable brides maid dress for her! I have went to a friend's wedding few years ago and I wore dress pants and a nice shirt to go with it that I bought @ Goodwill

Ok, even in jest, the "don't you dare..." sounds snotty and controlling. Other friends who have teased about the blue dress also need to learn some manners. A true friend would never do that. The post doesn't indicate best friend status; if I got an invite with a similar proviso I would respond that I and my tweed sport coat would be thinking of them on their special day.

I see several possible scenarios: 1) this bride wants bragging right for getting OP out of "that blue dress", 2) the cost might be beyond OP's means; 3) she may no longer like dresses as much as she used to; 4) as long as she's not a member of the wedding party and isn't choosing to wear a wedding dress herself, what's the big deal?

She's a civil engineer. That is a very well paid profession, even in Canada. And unless she is living in the arctic, Canada has very hot summers, so I'm thinking this whole post is fake. It sounds very much like an American who has NO idea about Canada. Fake fake fake

YTA for blaming the lack of dresses on where you live instead of just saying you don't want to buy more because you rarely wear them. That being said NTA for re wearing a dress for multiple weddings. Dresses are pricey as is the travel and lodging to attend friends weddings.

I can't imagine wearing the same dress to almost a dozen weddings. It doesn't sound like an a**hole move but it sounds like you are cheap. Go to a thrift store and buy another dress or don't wear a dress. You can wear a nice shirt and pants. Depending on how formal the wedding is you need to dress accordingly. If you are spending money to go to someone's wedding and can't pop $10 for something to wear them maybe you should make an excuse and sit this one out. You said your friends tease you about that same blue dress. It may be good natured ribbing and they are just hoping you get the hint. I think when you go to the thrift store you should donate that blue dress. Take a picture of you handing over the dress and send it to all your friends and attach the message that you finally got the hint and they will never see the blue dress on you again.

I don't get why she's trying to extrapolate what her friends do to an entire California culture thing. Those are your friends that you grew up with. That may be their thing, but it doesn't mean it's the whole state. You will find people like that anywhere as well as people who just don't care. There is no special California etiquette rule on how often you can wear an outfit. Most people here won't care, just as most people anywhere else in the US won't care. I can't speak to other cultures. I'm sure many also don't care.

She only has one damn dress and went to 12 or so weddings with it so far (12 she admitted so there might be more). it's ridiculous... that dress is probably already old, worn out and tacky too and it's definitely not in good shape. From the way she worded this, she definitely didn't buy some expensive well made dress that can withstand 12 washings without losing color or shape. I'm actually surprised it hasn't fallen apart yet (or it did and she keeps sewing it back together again, idk). I do rotate my dresses (definitely used them more than once) but not even I am this bad. Honestly this story makes me feel kind of good about myself the more I think about it. This is not a money issue so IMO it's some personal thing (some hang-up about dresses or spending or owning too much, whatever) that she has and it's her choice if she wants to face it or not... she knows the social norms of her country about weddings so she does know she goes against their norm.

Sounds to me like a banter comment ...

Bogus. Unless she lives in the very far north of Canada, near the Arctic Circle, it's ridiculous for her to say she has no warm-weather clothing. We do have summer in Canada, ffs.

Well...that wasn't the right way to address this dilemma, but in a way I understand! I've known ppl that wear same outfits to every festive occasion with the excuse that they spent to much $$$ on it! Well..."Why get it if u couldn't afford it??!!" I usually keep record of what I wear NOT to have same outfits on pics!!

I don't think this is about money, as a civil engineer she should be well paid. There is no need to buy a new dress if it won't get much use. Why not wear slacks and a nice blouse?