Why not just have the boys' night on a different night so the men can watch the children when it's girls' night and vice-versa?

That's rather as if the friends hired a limo to get to the restaurant and expected the one who walked to the venue to chip in. No.

I would also point out that this is a lot like the non-drinkers who don't want to split restaurant bills with other people's expensive alcoholic drinks. If you don't use it, you shouldn't have to pay for it, be it alcohol, food or babysitting. This is why I pay my tab and only my tab. No splitting of bills.

I have another question. The dad's have boys night on the same night. Are they contributing to babysitting costs? Sounds like only the moms pay for babysitting. Doesn't that sound unfair? But as for the childless woman, she is not incurring babysitting costs and therefore is exempt. End of discussion.

This is a new level of delulu

Nope. Not paying for someone else's babysitting needs. If the moms don't want to pay for babysitting, the boys night out needs to be a different night so the dads can watch their kids.

How are they so narrow minded to first think one person pays the whole sitting cost? They're already eating out "free" how is $25 each for the night's babysitting being seen as such a huge imposition? OP didn't hire the sitter... This is stupid. If she has to pay to see her friends I think she needs to find less expensive friends.

No kids means no responsibility to the babysitter

Find some new friends. I have a kid. I would never dream of pulling that sh*t.

"Sorry, your crotch goblins are not my responsibility. And I don't think I want the "pleasure" of your entitled company anymore."

Mommies are some of the most entitled people alive and I hope OP doesn’t fall for this 🐍 behavior.

I didn't see where anyone asked why the boyfriends/spouses weren't chipping in for babysitting? They should be taking turns themselves

I bet when it's one of the other's turn to pay for dinner and a babysitter all 4 of them pay the sitter for their kid(s), but they thought they'd scam the childless one into paying for all of them.

Paying for the pleasure of someone else's company is called prostitution.

OP, your breeder friends are being entitled. Find better ones.

"They do boys night/girls night on the same night to take maximum advantage of hiring a sitter." OK, but - and stick with me on this - if you do boys/girls on separate nights, then you don't have to hire a sitter at all...

What a bunch of entitled pricks! Stop hanging out with them ASAP. Those are not nice people!

"Please pay 100 $ for our exalted child-free company"

Wait, you want to get PAID for the *pleasure* of your company? There's a word for that, you know.

Everything about this arrangement feels wrong. Why stop at food, or babysitters? Split the whole event! Split cost of food, babysitters, transportation, clothes for the evening, and anything else necessary for the evening..... Seriously why can't each adult pay for their own expenses? I wouldn't have agreed to split the food bill. Someone is bound to take advantage.

I read all the comments on the OP and most of them here. I can't find a single person who thinks the OP is on the hook for the sitter, so how in the world did she wind up with 4 friends who all think she is (I smell a ring leader here but that's a rabbit hole full of speculation). Someone did say that this was a conversation that should have been had beforehand, but seriously, why would you think of it? If the OP WANTED (and only IF) to pay once in a year, I think that would be incredibly generous, but I'd be leary of that now. The five should continue to take turns paying for the meal and the parents can kick in $25 each time. Easy peasy. No way I'd start this.

"Guys night is now on the same night because the babysitter has been hired, to explain why the dads aren't around." Say what? So you're subsidizing your GF's night out AND their husband's night out? Are the dads paying anything for the sitter? I've got a better idea. Have the dads' night out on a DIFFERENT night than the moms' night out, and you can save the entire cost of babysitting. Or are the dads refusing to sit when the moms are not at home?

Were you there during conception or birth? Then it's their kid and their responsibility.

Tell the dingle berries you need them to pitch in on your dog kenneling because they are receiving the benefit as well.

If the dads are out on the same night, why aren't they chipping in for half the cost? The cost should be split between all of the parents, not dropped on only the moms, and definitely not on the one childfree person in the group.

Am I the only person snickering at the typo “fiends” instead of “friends” in one of the comments? How accidentally apropos is that?