For those trying to manipulate her into babysitting, they are the true AHs. They can shut up and babysit the kids themselves. No one willing to step up? Then the mom can step up and take care of her own kids. After all, she’s the one who decided to have them.

She doesn't talk to you any more? Fantastic. Problem solved. Enjoy your incredible number of newly freed days each year!

Gee with all the time and energy your family put into scolding you for not dropping your life to babysit,they can open their house up and use that same time and energy to babysit instead. You are not selfish or obligated to drop everything for Anna or anyone else. The " but family" guilt trip card being played here is something that doesn't work. I'm sick of ppl pulling this nonsense and ppl who don't take NO for an answer. Just because you are related to someone doesn't mean that you are a built in babysitter and constantly have to be their go to person. You have a life of your own. I don't want to hear her calling you selfish because she is the one being entitled and selfish. The nerve of her expecting someone to cancel a planned vacation to babysit! Entitled much? If someone says NO, you make other arrangements. You DON'T throw tantrums like a 5 yr old,call the very person you want to babysit selfish and unleash other ppl on them to harass them. I'd quit babysitting for her. I'm sick of these parents that say they " need a break" . You have kid! You are responsible for your kids! Quit pawning your kids off on your relatives! If they say NO, DON'T INSULT THEM OR CALL THEM SELFISH! THEY HAVE THEIR OWN LIVES AND WILL NOT DROP EVERYTHING TO BE AT YOUR BECK AND CALL" BECAUSE THEY ARE FAMILY" ! NOT MY KID= NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY! YOU SHOULD HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT BEFORE YOU CHOSE TO HAVE KIDS!

The MIL needs to be called out on her hypocrisy. She can't have the not my problem attitude and act like it's OP's problem. Her daughter is not OP's problem.

The mother in law has the mindset that "they are not my kids"... But she expects OP to look after them every time her mother "needs a break". Well, bad news. There are no breaks when you are a parent. Neither are they OP's kids. It's not OP's responsibility. It's partly her own fault, because she had let the problem grow out of control, accepting to babysit nearly every weekend for free. But it's high time she put her foot down.

Problem solved, MIL can eat her own words and stop being "selfish, because this is not how you treat family", nuff said.

Tell MIL to step up for her grandkids or STFU. And OP is not responsible for SIL's crotch goblins.

Paternity testing should be ordered by the Court at the time child support is set if there is any doubt to paternity.

MIL refuses to "raise" other people's kids out of one side of her mouth but tells you to do it out the other side of her mouth!?! She needs to STFU. The woman wants you to watch them every other day AND every weekend so she can get a break??? A break from what at that rate she is only dealing with her kids two days a week. Figures she wants free time to go out with her man of the week! Tell ex bro to get court ordered DNA. She can't refuse that. It might also get rid or at least lower child support. Not your monkeys not your circus! STOP BEING A DOORMAT!

The MIL has real cheek expecting her DIL (who *isn't* biologically related to the kids) to babysit the kids she doesn't want to babysit because they aren't hers.

I don't know what it is with so many parents not only wanting but feeling completely entitled to demand on demand free babysitting. My gfs brother and SIL dump their kids with his mom 4x a week or more so they can go out all the time. I know once she moves away in a couple of months the pressure will start on us. When you have kids you don't get to go out as much or you get to plan trips as a family. It's beyond infuriating and really makes it seem like the kids are merely cute accessories for people like this. I hope OP learns that no is a perfectly acceptable answer.

I had a cousin do this. Now we don't speak.

Anna doesn't have a husband and has 3 kids with different dads bc Anna makes poor choices. She has no one to watch her kids and can't afford to hire help bc Anna is not a good person. She thinks she goes through life and things just happen to her. Anna needs a hard reality check and she isn't going to get it from someone as easily manipulated as you are. Anna is miserable and wants you to be miserable with her bc Anna doesn't understand her misery is her own fault. Your MIL is also an ugly person, wanting you to do what she is unwilling to do. Everyone wants this to be someone else's problem, bottom line is its only Anna's. YTA if you enable Anna's or your MILs behavior and cave. You need a backbone.

My grandmother used to say that too much sympathy makes people look for excuses instead of answers...

Halt this immediately. No good deed goes unpunished. As you learned, doing your SIL favors is a bottomless pit. Only acknowledged when you want a break & it ticks her off. Step away NOW. Give her a hard cold boundary. Whatever is comfortable for you for long term, long, long, long term. Mon, Wed. Fri? Changeable according to your needs. Do a little contract, so there's no misunderstanding. Remember she's never going to appreciate you.

Adopt the MIL’s attitude. Not my kids, not my responsibility.

The sister in law is a surgeon and her estranged husband is paying child support, she can afford to get a Nanny until she’s back on her feet. There’s no reason she should be exploiting her kindly sister in law.

Had this situation with my cousin. She lashed out because I didn't want to babysit one time. 6 more kids and 20 years later and I have never baby sat for her again. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

What's SIL supposed to do if OP died, held up in hospital care, had to take care of family, had kids of her own, or divorced her husband? SIL needs a reality check. And MIL needs to get over herself and help out if she thinks it's okay for OP to solely watch the kids all the time. Not your monkeys, not your circus.

Tell mother in law mind her own business. She refuses to babysit.fordear daughter. Not daughter in law responsibility especially when celebrate anniversary!

If you think someone is doing something wrong, then you can step in & do the "right thing"

She needs to have a direct conversation with the SIL to create boundaries.

Hubby is supportive but he will have mommy on his side with her warped logic hubby spoke up but is in a corner also go for weekend and longer if possible let the bailiff do there job

Absurd! SIL is the selfish one, expecting everybody to arrange their lives around her.