I agree. But if you care about someone, you bottle that up until after the body is in the ground!! Unless you plan on getting divorced

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻Spot on!

You're making a heck of a lot of assumptions about someone who only has "She kinda passive aggressive" as a description of her past actions. To go from "she's kinda passive aggressive" to "She's been a petty b*tch to OP for years in a way that seems civil, her husband has probably not supported OP at all" is such a massive leap I'm just going to call BS and say you're projecting hard.

THIS!!! Narcissists are going to put you on a position to stand up for your boundaries at the worst of times. The MIL used the death of her husband to try to force her DIL submit to her control. That she’s using her own sons emotions as the p**n to put the DIL in her place, a backseat in her own marriage with mommy always taking precedence, is classic narcissist abuse. It often happens at funerals and family emergencies when they strike. I’m glad the OP stood up for herself no matter what. She wouldn’t have had to if her husband had historically had a backbone with his mother. If my mother did that to my spouse, I’d say goodbye to my father on my own terms, be that a different time or different flight. I sure as shît wouldn’t be letting mommy call the shots.

Same....I wouldn't have made it without him