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Woman Breaks Off From A Friend Group She’s Been In For 7 Years Over An Unpleasant Event During Dinner At Chili’s

Woman Breaks Off From A Friend Group She’s Been In For 7 Years Over An Unpleasant Event During Dinner At Chili’s

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Not all friendships are meant to last. Some may naturally fizzle out when people drift apart, while others abruptly end because of differences in values. Today’s story is an example of the latter. 

Reddit user Litchlovers belonged to a small group of friends. One day at a restaurant, things came to a head when her two female pals asked a male companion to pick up the tab because “it’s a man’s role.” He refused. 

The author’s uncle ended up paying the bill, but she eventually cut ties with both women. Based on her written account on the True Off My Chest subreddit, she seems content with her decision.

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    A woman had been close with two other ladies when their relationship took a sour turn during one lunch with a male companion

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    The author’s uncle ended up paying for the bill

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    She then cut ties with both women she’d been close with for seven years

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    Image credits: Litchlovers

    Differences in values are a good enough reason to let go of a friendship

    The author’s decision to cut ties with her two friends may seem drastic. But according to experts, the differences in their values are a good enough reason to let go. 

    “If you begin to notice that your core values differ and you don’t have anything in common with your friend anymore, it may be time to reflect on the role this friendship has in your life,” licensed psychologist Dr. Roxy Zarrabi wrote in an article for Psychology Today

    The incident likely made the author feel bad about herself, especially after the other friend got mad at her for shouldering the bill. Dr. Zarrabi says this is another valid reason. 

    There is a healthy way to break up with a friend

    Image credits: Mental Health America (MHA) / pexels (not the actual photo)

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    Breaking up is always difficult, whether it’s a romantic relationship or a close platonic one. But if you must go down this road, there is a healthy way to do it. 

    Author and clinical psychology graduate Arlin Cuncic advises against hostility or seeking revenge. However, she is all for ending things immediately, like ripping off a band-aid. 

    As Cuncic wrote in an article for Very Well Mind, abruptly ending a friendship is usually for a friend you’ve known for a long time and who you feel deserves that respect of closure and a last goodbye. 

    But while it may involve an immediate severing of connections, Cuncic still recommends leaving a final note before parting ways. 

    “If it helps, write a little script that expresses what you are feeling.” 

    The author took a similar approach by simply cutting communication with her two former friends. It was quick and easy, with no exchange of hurtful words. It was an unfortunate end but a necessary one nonetheless. 

    What do you think, dear readers? Was the author within reason with her decision? 

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    The author answered some questions, but most commenters sided with her

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    Jihana
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad wants the poor boy go to jail? What the hell did I just read?

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, doesn't surprise me at all. Followers of Agent Orange are not known for their empathy towards those less fortunate than themselves.

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    StumblingThroughLife
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poor kid. Thankfully, the OP had ethics - and also blocked those entitled POS. The dad is as bad as those girls, expecting the boy to pay the full bill or get punished... what an a**e.

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thi g is rhey knew it was wrong if they started giggling then f*****g ran away. Childish bullying

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    Jihana
    Community Member
    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dad wants the poor boy go to jail? What the hell did I just read?

    Alexandra
    Community Member
    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually, doesn't surprise me at all. Followers of Agent Orange are not known for their empathy towards those less fortunate than themselves.

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    StumblingThroughLife
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    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Poor kid. Thankfully, the OP had ethics - and also blocked those entitled POS. The dad is as bad as those girls, expecting the boy to pay the full bill or get punished... what an a**e.

    Aroace tiger (she/they/he)
    Community Member
    5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The thi g is rhey knew it was wrong if they started giggling then f*****g ran away. Childish bullying

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