Parents Pay For Son While Charging Daughter $10k In “Back Rent”, She Gets Revenge On Thanksgiving
Interview With AuthorFavoritism in the family is one of the easiest ways to turn siblings against each other. After all, most of us want to be accepted and loved by our parents and that can be pretty hard if the rules are entirely different for someone else. What can make it worse is the fact that they often don’t even realize what they are doing.
A woman got tired from her parents’ constant, blatant favoritism towards her brother, so she decided to skip out on a Thanksgiving cruise without telling them. We got in touch with her and she was willing to answer some of our questions. Later, she also shared a sizable update.
Parental favoritism will drive a wedge between family members
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So one woman decided to skip a family Thanksgiving cruise because of how she was being treated
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The woman shared her thoughts on the story’s popularity
Bored Panda got in touch with the woman who shared the story and she was kind enough to answer some of our questions. The story ended up having over 15k upvotes and she later even posted an update, which can be found below, so we were curious to hear how she felt about the post’s popularity.
“I’m honestly surprised my post received so much attention! I guess it spoke to people because many others have also dealt with favoritism from their parents, and it’s a crushing feeling to know you will never matter as much as the golden child,” she shared.
We also wanted to hear her thoughts on the outpouring of support, as well as debates that raged in the comments section. “The comments that told me I did the right thing made me feel much better about my decision, and those posting their own similar stories made me feel much less alone!”
At the end of the day, it did at least help her get it out. “Making this post really opened my eyes to how this treatment is not normal. There is an update, which I am about to post. That should cover everything so I do not believe there is anything I’d like to add! I hope this message isn’t too late and that it was helpful,” she shared with Bored Panda.
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Being a parent’s favorite does come with its own downsides
While it might not look like it from the sidelines, even being crowned the “golden child” is ultimately not good for a person’s development. In this story we already know that the son appears to be less independent and has not progressed as far in his career. While we can’t say for certain, having everything handed to you has a way of stunting ambition and ability.
Children are very aware of injustice, which makes sense when they are dependent on others for everything they have. Even the smallest bit of favoritism is immediately visible and often internalized. Being the less-favorite child tends to come with a lot of psychological burdens, as these kids develop self-esteem issues, anxiety and are often at higher risk of depression.
While some parents might make excuses or even justify their actions, they are also harming the relationships of both siblings, which deprives two people (at minimum) of a possible close friend. It’s selfish and cruel and it’s particularly telling that the parents see the woman’s actions as being part of a “grudge” against her brother (as described in the update) and not the direct result of her own actions.
Fortunately for her, she does have an understanding and supportive partner, which is a key part of not feeling abandoned and isolated. Similarly, while we don’t have the details, one can hope that her parents take a good hard look at the situation and think about why she did what she did. In a perfect world, they will perhaps even understand why their actions were cruel and that they need to make amends.
Many thought her actions were reasonable
A few thought she could have handled it better
Later, she shared an update
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Sweetie here's the thing.... And I'm saying this not necessarily to OP as she's probably not on here but anyone who's got a similar situation... #1You didn't ruin your parents/brother's vacation. It's not like you were their ride to the cruise and with you not showing up they didn't get there on time. #2 maybe they realize maybe they don't but treating one child like The Golden child and another child like Cinderella really does no good. Your brother will be spoiled and have an unrealistic expectation about his greatness and you will always feel bitter / second best / unhappy. #3 your boyfriend and his family sound like wonderful people. You can't choose a family that you're born into but you can choose family. Keep doing what you're doing, and whatever happens with this fella, soak in the positive vibes from his parents and extended family because they sound very healthy and positive. Don't try to reconnect with those that makes you miserable. Embrace your new family and be happy
You weren't writing it to me but i needed this tonight and am now crying. Thank you <3
Load More Replies...OP's parents have showed her for years who they really are. If she goes NC + blocks their numbers, I say - good riddance. You *know* when they get older they'll harass OP for money for their "elder care" while James won't have to lift a finger. Block them now + be done with them.
Dealing with elderly parents is tough. If they're a$$holes (hi, Dad!), it's absolute hell.
Load More Replies...Cut ties, or at least set boundaries in regards to if they pay for James, they pay for you. They are enabling James by paying for everything. Why would he bother getting a job etc if his parents are giving him enough that he can afford to buy a $2000 dog? if I were her, I’d type out a huge email stating that I am cutting ties for these reasons - put in all the stuff like being charged back rent of $10k, the way she was treated compared to her brother, then email it to everyone - grandparents, aunts/uncles etc. That way there can be no twisting of the story
I thought about that, too. It's not like the contact information of OP's extended family is top secret. OP doesn't even necessarily need to bring up that and why they're going no/low contact with the parents, they can just stay in touch. Actions speak louder than words, and while the parents can spin the story to their liking, other relatives will start doubting it when they see that OP is not simply jealous, but deeply hurt.
Load More Replies...Sweetie here's the thing.... And I'm saying this not necessarily to OP as she's probably not on here but anyone who's got a similar situation... #1You didn't ruin your parents/brother's vacation. It's not like you were their ride to the cruise and with you not showing up they didn't get there on time. #2 maybe they realize maybe they don't but treating one child like The Golden child and another child like Cinderella really does no good. Your brother will be spoiled and have an unrealistic expectation about his greatness and you will always feel bitter / second best / unhappy. #3 your boyfriend and his family sound like wonderful people. You can't choose a family that you're born into but you can choose family. Keep doing what you're doing, and whatever happens with this fella, soak in the positive vibes from his parents and extended family because they sound very healthy and positive. Don't try to reconnect with those that makes you miserable. Embrace your new family and be happy
You weren't writing it to me but i needed this tonight and am now crying. Thank you <3
Load More Replies...OP's parents have showed her for years who they really are. If she goes NC + blocks their numbers, I say - good riddance. You *know* when they get older they'll harass OP for money for their "elder care" while James won't have to lift a finger. Block them now + be done with them.
Dealing with elderly parents is tough. If they're a$$holes (hi, Dad!), it's absolute hell.
Load More Replies...Cut ties, or at least set boundaries in regards to if they pay for James, they pay for you. They are enabling James by paying for everything. Why would he bother getting a job etc if his parents are giving him enough that he can afford to buy a $2000 dog? if I were her, I’d type out a huge email stating that I am cutting ties for these reasons - put in all the stuff like being charged back rent of $10k, the way she was treated compared to her brother, then email it to everyone - grandparents, aunts/uncles etc. That way there can be no twisting of the story
I thought about that, too. It's not like the contact information of OP's extended family is top secret. OP doesn't even necessarily need to bring up that and why they're going no/low contact with the parents, they can just stay in touch. Actions speak louder than words, and while the parents can spin the story to their liking, other relatives will start doubting it when they see that OP is not simply jealous, but deeply hurt.
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