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Mom Sets Up Fundraiser For Daughter’s Trip To Africa, Gets Agitated Over Lack Of Donations
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Mom Sets Up Fundraiser For Daughter’s Trip To Africa, Gets Agitated Over Lack Of Donations

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We want to get along with our colleagues. After all, few things drain you as much as unnecessary drama.

However, a person who goes by Ved on the forum Mumsnet fears they have no choice but to confront one of their co-workers. The issue? Relentless begging for donations to a fundraiser.

A woman that Ved works with wants to send her daughter on a trip to Africa, but since it costs a lot of money, the mom is asking others to contribute. And as the deadline approaches, she’s getting increasingly pushy.

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    Especially when they want others to contribute to their child’s success

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    Rejection is part of raising funds

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    It sounds like the woman might think her cause is compelling enough to warrant repeated requests for donations, even at the risk of annoying other people.

    But Judith Martin, aka Miss Manners, who was awarded the United States National Humanities Medal for her contributions to society as America’s foremost etiquette columnist and author, does not believe that a noble goal excuses rude behavior.

    “It is indeed a common fundraising technique to work the embarrassment that people might feel when refusing friends and colleagues, among whom they live and work (and who are likely familiar with their financial capabilities),” she writes.

    “Even generous philanthropists do not enjoy social pressure. And at what cost, financially? Those who contribute only as a favor to you, rather than from genuine interest, might then reasonably expect you to contribute equally to their favorite charities.”

    She is not alone.

    Neon One is a company that provides software solutions tailored for nonprofits to help them manage fundraising, donor relationships, events, and other administrative tasks.

    According to their experts, not every request results in a donation, and people trying to raise funds should understand that rejection is a natural part of the process, as well as an opportunity to learn.

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    If someone declines to give, they say, you should respond graciously and thank them for considering your request, not continue bombarding them with messages, trying to change their mind.

    As the story went viral, its author provided more information in the comments

    People who have read the story believe the mom is out of line

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    Bowtechie
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    20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly OP's gotta stop letting this woman live in her head rent-free. Mute her on FB, ignore the messages if you're not comfortable shutting them down directly, and move on. It's her problem, don't let her make it yours too.

    Noflipstogive
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    19 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anywhere I've ever worked (from 16-60), there are definite rules about asking for any kind of donation. When I say rules, I mean NO asking for donations. This is why.

    Pencil McGovern
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    6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just donations, but selling things, too. Like kids selling candy bars to raise money for a team or whatnot. It's totally inappropriate in the workplace. And, like you said, this is why.

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    Did I say that out loud? (he/him)cis/het
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    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter will be going to South Africa next year on a trip from college. £2200 + vaccines + other expenses. There is absolutely no way we would ever consider asking other people to contribute towards paying for it. If we couldn't afford it, she wouldn't be going. It really is that simple. Someone needs to tell this person to fűck right off.

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    6 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It cost me £1000 + flights + personal expenses (I've spent about £200). Some of the vaccines are free if she can prove that she will be working in certain conditions. Hep ABC, for instance, was free for me via the NHS because we were going to be living and working in sub-optimal conditions, and I have been registered with a serious chronic illness.

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    Bowtechie
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    20 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly OP's gotta stop letting this woman live in her head rent-free. Mute her on FB, ignore the messages if you're not comfortable shutting them down directly, and move on. It's her problem, don't let her make it yours too.

    Noflipstogive
    Community Member
    19 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Anywhere I've ever worked (from 16-60), there are definite rules about asking for any kind of donation. When I say rules, I mean NO asking for donations. This is why.

    Pencil McGovern
    Community Member
    6 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just donations, but selling things, too. Like kids selling candy bars to raise money for a team or whatnot. It's totally inappropriate in the workplace. And, like you said, this is why.

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    Did I say that out loud? (he/him)cis/het
    Community Member
    11 hours ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My daughter will be going to South Africa next year on a trip from college. £2200 + vaccines + other expenses. There is absolutely no way we would ever consider asking other people to contribute towards paying for it. If we couldn't afford it, she wouldn't be going. It really is that simple. Someone needs to tell this person to fűck right off.

    UpupaEpops
    Community Member
    6 hours ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It cost me £1000 + flights + personal expenses (I've spent about £200). Some of the vaccines are free if she can prove that she will be working in certain conditions. Hep ABC, for instance, was free for me via the NHS because we were going to be living and working in sub-optimal conditions, and I have been registered with a serious chronic illness.

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