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MIL Installs Secret Camera In Bedroom To Check If Her Daughter-In-Law Is Taking Care Of Her Son, Loses It When She Gets Found Out
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MIL Installs Secret Camera In Bedroom To Check If Her Daughter-In-Law Is Taking Care Of Her Son, Loses It When She Gets Found Out

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Boundaries—they’re very important. Let’s repeat that again, shall we? Boundaries are very important! Without them, someone else can start running your life the way they see fit, whether it’s your friend, partner, or even your own parents.

One redditor, u/throwraOP96657, shared how her mother-in-law completely violated her privacy by planting a camera in the bedroom. The MIL wanted to make sure that her son, who had been in an accident, was being properly taken care of. However, the price of this was getting banned from their home entirely.

Now the redditor has the entire family, including her husband, stacked against her. And she’s wondering whether she was a jerk. Read on for the full story and to see how the AITA community on Reddit reacted.

Most of us can agree that privacy and boundaries are vital in any relationship—whether romantic, professional, or familial

Image credits: Sanjay (not the actual photo)

One woman shared how her privacy was invaded after her controlling mother-in-law hid a camera in the bedroom

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The redditor’s 33-year-old husband was bedridden after he got into a car accident. Ever since then, the OP’s mother-in-law had been pressuring her non-stop with constant reminders to take care of her husband.

From practically forcing her to take time off work to take care of him to demanding that she send her hourly updates about his condition, this was a MIL who was out of control. Meanwhile, though the MIL visits her own son, she doesn’t actually lift a finger to help out, according to the redditor.

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Things came to a head when the MIL called the OP to complain that she didn’t change the sheets quickly enough. That’s when the redditor found out from her sister-in-law that the MIL had actually installed a camera in their bedroom!

Well, that was the last straw, the final drop in the bucket, and any other idiom that you particularly enjoy, dear Pandas. The author of the story confronted the MIL in a massive, massive argument and effectively banned her from their home. This was a huge violation of their privacy. And boundaries needed to be drawn.

However, there was a lot of fallout. The redditor was made out to be the villain by the family. What’s more, even her husband got upset, suggesting that he might move back in with his mom. Even though she stood up for herself (and her husband!), she still felt rattled by everyone’s reaction.

The AITA community, however, was pretty clear about who was totally wrong and completely right in this scenario. They thought that the redditor did what she had to do to protect her own interests. You simply can’t let someone install cameras in your home and not expect there to be consequences.

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Relationship expert Alex Scot stressed to Bored Panda during an earlier chat with us that boundaries are absolutely vital in any relationship.

“Without them, we live our lives at the expense of ourselves. The mindset for many when it comes to setting boundaries is that they feel selfish, or that they aren’t being a good partner when they implement them, so they avoid doing it altogether,” she said.

“Boundaries are there for us to be able to take care of and to protect ourselves so that we can show up and operate within our lives as successfully as possible.”

However, she noted that as a general rule, we have to be slightly more flexible with our boundaries when it comes to our loved ones, the people closest to us. Rigid boundaries are unsustainable with them, according to the relationship expert.

Here’s how people reacted to the story and what the author of the post had to add

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Storytelling, journalism, and art are a core part of who I am. I've been writing and drawing ever since I could walk—there is nothing else I'd rather do. My formal education, however, is focused on politics, philosophy, and economics because I've always been curious about the gap between the ideal and the real. At work, I'm a Senior Writer and I cover a broad range of topics that I'm passionate about: from psychology and changes in work culture to healthy living, relationships, and design. In my spare time, I'm an avid hiker and reader, enjoy writing short stories, and love to doodle. I thrive when I'm outdoors, going on small adventures in nature. However, you can also find me enjoying a big mug of coffee with a good book (or ten) and entertaining friends with fantasy tabletop games and sci-fi movies.

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Austėja is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Photography.

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WilvanderHeijden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simple solution to a simple problem: Let the husband move in with his mother and let him experience that her level of concern is not equal to the level of care she is willing to give to her precious baby-boy.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares what the husband's family thinks, let him run back to mommy. Throw the whole family out. I would be running to the cops because that camera s**t seems straight up predatory.

Eppe
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The husband just let his mother install the camera...?

CLG
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sure does seem that way. Does he expect his wife to believe the MIL installed it while he was asleep? The fact he'd allow his mom to put a camera on him to make sure he was being sufficiently pampered is totally insane.

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WilvanderHeijden
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Simple solution to a simple problem: Let the husband move in with his mother and let him experience that her level of concern is not equal to the level of care she is willing to give to her precious baby-boy.

lightbulb
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Who cares what the husband's family thinks, let him run back to mommy. Throw the whole family out. I would be running to the cops because that camera s**t seems straight up predatory.

Eppe
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The husband just let his mother install the camera...?

CLG
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It sure does seem that way. Does he expect his wife to believe the MIL installed it while he was asleep? The fact he'd allow his mom to put a camera on him to make sure he was being sufficiently pampered is totally insane.

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