it's ridiculous how little this sort of thing is talked about. I wasn't pressured into it, it was 100% what I wanted to do and felt would be the best thing to do. When I discussed it with my Doctor he shook my hand and spoke of his respect for my choice. My wife was so grateful and even my mother spoke of her pride. It's just a shame the anesthetic didn't work and I had to have 3 injections and ended up feeling most of the op... still, onwards and upwards!

The Snip means Vasectomy.

None of which invalidates her point: men are irresponsible about sex because they don't have to carry the consequences!

Alusair and Cheri preempted my own thoughts. Men are potentially able to impregnate women soon after they achieve an erection, because penises secrete lubricating fluid that is pretty much the same as semen, with perhaps a little less sperm. And they secrete this throughout sexual activity, just as most aroused women secrete lubricating fluids. And yes, the window for potentially getting pregnant is up to 5-6 days per cycle.

The egg only lives 12-48 hours. So while sperm may hang around for most of a week, the egg is in and out in a day (on average)

none of this invalidates the author's point. number of days, and the difference between ejaculate vs. pre-ejaculate not withstanding, arousal is necessary in the human male for intromission, but arousal is not necessary in the human female. they teach you that in real life, in addition to medical (and veterinary, and nursing)school.

Dude, by highlighting that women can get pregnant by pre cum and not even ejaculating just furthers her point that men should be more responsible with their d***s, not lessens it. Knowledgable but not intelligent.

Correct! But she does have a point about a lot of the other stuff.

To clarify: 1) An egg lives an average of 24 hours. Some studies say up to 48 hours. 2) Sometimes women can release a 2nd egg. This is usually within 24 hours of the 1st. Hence, unidentical twins. Now, we have up to 3 days after the 1st ovulation. (Give the 2nd egg up to 48 hours of life.) 4) Sperm can live up to 5 days, but the average is ~3 days. The life of both egg and sperm are longer depending on the healthiness of both individuals. 5) The most fertile days for pregnancy are 2 days before and the day of ovulation. ***The window for coitus to cause pregnancy can be up to 5 to 8 days due to up to 5 days for sperm viability after coitus and possible release of a 2nd egg having up to 48 hours. That's 5 days for sperm before ovulation, day of 1st ovulation, and 2 days after if 2nd ovulation occurs and egg lives for 48 hours.

Dr. Cheri Hayes, You're trying to nit pick and be scientific about it. Do you have nothing more to add? You're a doctor and really believe that women can get pregnant 6 days a month? If you know anything about human biology, an egg does not live 6 days so it would not be possible for her to get pregnant for 6 days. Sperm floating around in her uterus can only cause a pregnancy in the presence of an egg which is present only 1-2 days per month. And we all know the odds are exponentially greater with a full ejaculation into the vaginae instead of a few drops of sperm on the labia. Go back and pull out your science books.

Has there ever been a confirmed pregnancy from pre-seminal fluid, though? I keep hearing that it's possible, but it's never been verified as having happened.

Thank you for saving me having to look these things up. I had thought the 2 day quoted sounded wrong, and I knew about the pre-ejaculate, of course. Alusair had some good points also. There is almost nothing in life, good or bad, that is 100 percent.

As if somehow those minor errors negate the facts of the article…. Girl bye

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Cheri, You're a doctor, you should know better than the s**t your spewing. There is no way a woman could get pregnant 2 or 3 days AFTER ovulation. An egg is only viable for up to 24 hours, usually 12. If sperm didn't fertilize the egg by then, it will not happen. And sperm living in a woman that long is under peak conditions and usually wayyyyy less for the bit that does stay up there. And to further point out your BS in validating Alusairs claim, precum contains NO sperm or dead sperm usually left over from the last ejaculate. Finding sperm in precum is super rare. Unless you ladies are throwing dudes a bone by calling premature ejaculation precum, you're wrong.

Well, if it turns into rape that easily it wasn't a normal situation to begin with.

actually, the core argument is pretty weak to begin with. While I will agree men do need to be held responsible and accountable for having sex, this post is just ridiculous. First off, excluding cases of rape (or sexual assault through condom removal, etc) the fact that the woman was consenting to acts which may lead to pregnancy implies at least some consent to the consequences involved. Secondly, sometimes things do happen, like the condom breaking. Thirdly, sometimes, pregnancy wasn't even considered by either party as a possible consequence. Fourth, I'm not even sure what the OP means by 'unwanted'. Does she men people (like my brother) that weren't trying but still having unprotected sex, and, whatever happens will (surprise! it did.)? or does she mean people who are more like 'absolutely no children', like my girlfriend and me? Finally, what about women who lie about being on contraceptives? is the guy still at fault, even if he would have otherwise used protection?

@Kaye You can have sex with yourself all day and no one’s getting pregnant until you bring a d**k into the picture and he can have sex with himself all day and no one’s getting pregnant until you bring your vag into the picture, BOTH parties play their roles. Stop blaming the whole country for your personnel choices.

So in real world application, what is the difference whether the pregnancy happens because the man fails at practicing a "perfect" pull out? She is just as pregnant. It still makes using pulling out an unreliable method.

When you didn't even read the article, I think you should sit down and shut up.