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Mom-Of-Six Explains Why “Men Cause 100% Of Unplanned Pregnancies” And Many Agree
An American mother of six has decided to share her opinion on a sensitive subject, and she’s not willing to compromise. Author Gabrielle Stanley Blair, 44, from Oakland, California, turned to Twitter to argue that unplanned pregnancy is always the man’s fault, no matter what the circumstances and her thread went viral.
“I’ve been working out the thoughts on unprotected sex and birth control I presented in the article over the last year,” Gabrielle told Bored Panda. “I actually wrote the thread about three months ago, and then hesitated to make it public — Twitter can be a harsh place, and I worried my family would be attacked.” Watching the Kavanaugh hearings, however, got her to hit publish.
Also, Blair is a Mormon, and she thinks that when it comes to abortion, her religious beliefs are on her side, too. “The Mormon church has guidelines that include abortion as an option for rape, the health of the mother, etc., and those exceptions can’t happen if abortion clinics are illegal,” she added. “My interpretation of the Mormon church’s take is that it is pro-legal abortion and contraception. Other church members may interpret things in favor of anti-abortion.
Generating nearly 185,000 likes and over 72,000 retweets, Gabrielle’s tweet reignited the ever-lasting debate and if you want to join it, tell us your thoughts in the comments.
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Author Gabrielle Blair from California turned to Twitter to argue that unplanned pregnancies are always the man’s fault
And her unapologetic thread has generated nearly 185,000 likes and over 72,000 retweets
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stellermatt 7 years ago
me and my wife have 2 kids, they were planned, they are beautiful, but the births were not great. but all is ok now. thankfully. now we don't want any more kids, so instead of her having to go through any more trauma (operations etc) I decided I couldn't let her go through anything as she'd been through enough, so I had 'the snip'. Best thing ever for us, no worries, no stress, just good ol' fashioned fun! It's not the answer for everyone, but it worked for us.
Monika Soffronow 7 years ago
Stellermatt, your wife and your children are enjoying a husband/father who actually does what the stereotype of a husband/father does: you shoulder responsibility. You are not alone, but I would be enormously pleased to see more of your kind to come forward and openly talk about their life choices on topics such as this one, or discussions between men about how thoroughly unacceptable it is to beat your wife/partner/girlfriend, etc. Other men and boys need good and real role models. Thank you for sharing.
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Kiahna 7 years ago
I don't even know what to say. That whole post just explained everything. When a teenage girl gets pregnant, everybody blames her. But nobody bats an eye at the guy who got her pregnant.
Dian Ella Lillie 7 years ago
Is it just me or are people wondering what role a woman apparently has in a sexual relationship as understood by Ms Blair? It seems to me that her approach removes agency from women as participating equal partners in sexual encounters and decisions.
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Alusair Alustriel 7 years ago
I stopped reading at "Men can't get women pregnant without an orgasm". I don't know where that lady took biologi lessons, but I was taught (and then witnessed it) that before orgasms men can produce droplets of substance that might contain spermatozoids. That also breaks apart the theory of pull-outs being effective. Heck, not even using pills & condoms is 100% sure. The only way NOT to get pregnant is not to have sex. Period. Oh two things more: woman can say NO (I refer to normal situations, not rape) and that thread was not a twitter one. Wall of text on twitter... Meh.
Dr. Cheri Hayes 7 years ago (edited)
Also, she was not accurate in her statement that women can get pregnant only about 2 days a month. A woman can realistically get pregnant about 6 days a month. Sperm can live approximately 48-72 hours after ejaculation inside a woman's body, which means that 2 - 3 days before and 2 - 3 days after ovulation, there is a possibility of pregnancy. And to validate Alusair's post, the pre-ejaculate does have some sperm in it. One of the biological processes they teach us in medical school, first year.
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Biljana Malesevic 7 years ago
Well, there is a simple solution... just don't be with a man who refuses to put on condom, because he "hates the feeling". He does not respect you, he puts you in danger and himself first, simple as that. That would just end this debate. I can't say that men are 100% guilty of unwanted pregnancies as long as there are so many many (many) women who would just tolerate men who find condoms "inconvenient". And it's not just pregnancy, it's disease protection too. Just, respect yourself and when such men are left alone for too long they will start to get it (hopefully). Also they are not in majority, you will find someone else.
rabbitsrabbit 7 years ago
Just like to point out that the posts said some men do 'stealthing'. By the time the woman realises that he isnt wearing a condom anymore, it was too late.
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Agnes Jekyll 7 years ago
Look. She is trying to point out the inanity that is the agenda of certain men in society that believe women should not have easy access to birth control by demonstrating men's responsibility. Let's remember too that she is American, writing about the situation there, and she is the mother of 6 who clearly loves her husband but is tired of women being the focus on birth control when clearly, it should be men's concern too.
Moises Hernandez Jr 7 years ago
Give me a break. Bored Panda should stick to funny pictures or amazing photographs. This rant is beyond ridiculous. I am married and father of two. I had a vasectomy a month after my second child was born so that my wife would not have to be on birth control for the next twenty five years. Responsibility in an individual acts first. Still women can say no to a man, women can choose their partner and sexual activities as you say to remain celibate during those 24 annual days you mentioned. Women have a right to choose correct, then make the right choices. If my teenage daughter gets pregnant it won't be simply because a boy could not keep it in his pant (I would make sure he paid for his share of poor decisions) but it would ultimately be because she gave into her own sexual impulses and willingly participant. Every one is responsible for taking responsibilities for heir actions
Monika Soffronow 7 years ago
You did the right thing. You shouldered responsibility. Great. You wrote about it here, and thus became a sound role model for boys and men reading this. Well done! - - - There is no need for you to become defensive, you have already made sure you will not cause any unwanted pregnancies. You are in fact showing the very same commendable male behaviour she is hoping for. - - - But she is still right on target. No woman gets pregnant without male sperm, and since you seem like a thoroughly decent guy your own decency is probably what gets in your way to understanding how way too many men treat women.
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Random Panda 7 years ago
There are a few flaws in her argument. For one birth control is not 100% effective, not even the pill and for another the fertile window for women is longer than 2 days, since sperm can live up to 5 days in the vagina. I do think she is on point that more needs to be done to hold men responsible for unplanned pregnancies.
Tessa Milks 7 years ago
While sperm lives up to 5 days in the fallopian tubes (not the vagina) the egg is only goof for up to 48 hours.
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Josie Jones 7 years ago
Good lord I stopped half ways and scrolled and thought who da f**k has the time to read this s**t from a Mormon no less who thinks god is a magician from outer space? Eh I'll stick to my life's work in science and say you know how pregnancy work just look after yourself. So much of what she wrote is total nonsense but I don't have the energy to even start. The stuff she said about men pill is not strictly true. Several men on the medical trial committed suicide which shuts down any trial not just things for men. But what do I know I only work in pharmaceuticals and spent 9 years studying it?! Dip s**t!
Jennifer Hunter 7 years ago
Mormons don't believe that God is a magician from outer space; that's Scientology. And based on what I read, she isn't broaching the subject from a Mormon perspective, but rather sharing an extreme viewpoint as a way to draw attention to the fact that reproductive laws are geared toward the systematic principles of policing and controlling women, their bodies, and their right to make choices for themselves. Most Mormons (or any religion, really) would agree with reversing Roe-v-Wade, restricting birth control, etc; I think her mentioning that she's a Mormon is more for effect; basically stating "yea I'm Mormon but even *I* am more socially liberal than these other a-holes trying to take away our reproductive rights." While I agree that a lot of the "facts" she uses are nonsense, I get the overall point she's trying to make. Too bad some people are too short sighted to see past her religion and resort to name calling instead.
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Leo Domitrix 7 years ago
For all those insisting the Male Pill was "worse", etc.? Use of the female pill can lead to *CANCER* risks. I'd say that's a pretty bad side effect (and infertility from cancer treatment, btw, is a real thing)... For thsoe thinking "unless a woman was raped"... Um, I'm a "pill baby". My parents thought I wasn't going to happen. I did anyway! (And then my mom said, "condom or vasectomy" and my dad actually went vasectomy lest he have to use a *gasp* condom). TMI? How many *MEN* die in childbirth or of pregnancy-related complications? How many MEN lose jobs b/c they got a woman pregnant and bosses decided it just wasn't worth that family-leave impaired-employee thing? Oh, and for the record? Women are much more likely to acquire an STD from a male than other way around after *one* sexual encounter. Look it up. BTW, it only takes ONE person to make a baby --- once the sperm is in, the man's *done*. The woman? Has to risk permanent damage to her own health to gestate a fetus to term.
Nia Loves Art 7 years ago
Except that condoms sometimes break. Also a woman can refuse to have sex without a condom. Both partners are equally responsible for any conception that occurs during consensual sex without birth control sabotage.
Lucinda Overhoussen 7 years ago
Women should not ever have to be in a position where they ask their partner to put a condom on and she has to insist or "refuse to have sex" because her partner refuses to wear on. The fact that women have to insist or refuse is what's wrong. The fact that another woman thinks that women should have to insist is what's wrong.
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stellermatt 7 years ago
me and my wife have 2 kids, they were planned, they are beautiful, but the births were not great. but all is ok now. thankfully. now we don't want any more kids, so instead of her having to go through any more trauma (operations etc) I decided I couldn't let her go through anything as she'd been through enough, so I had 'the snip'. Best thing ever for us, no worries, no stress, just good ol' fashioned fun! It's not the answer for everyone, but it worked for us.
Monika Soffronow 7 years ago
Stellermatt, your wife and your children are enjoying a husband/father who actually does what the stereotype of a husband/father does: you shoulder responsibility. You are not alone, but I would be enormously pleased to see more of your kind to come forward and openly talk about their life choices on topics such as this one, or discussions between men about how thoroughly unacceptable it is to beat your wife/partner/girlfriend, etc. Other men and boys need good and real role models. Thank you for sharing.
Load More Replies... Kiahna 7 years ago
I don't even know what to say. That whole post just explained everything. When a teenage girl gets pregnant, everybody blames her. But nobody bats an eye at the guy who got her pregnant.
Dian Ella Lillie 7 years ago
Is it just me or are people wondering what role a woman apparently has in a sexual relationship as understood by Ms Blair? It seems to me that her approach removes agency from women as participating equal partners in sexual encounters and decisions.
Load More Replies... Alusair Alustriel 7 years ago
I stopped reading at "Men can't get women pregnant without an orgasm". I don't know where that lady took biologi lessons, but I was taught (and then witnessed it) that before orgasms men can produce droplets of substance that might contain spermatozoids. That also breaks apart the theory of pull-outs being effective. Heck, not even using pills & condoms is 100% sure. The only way NOT to get pregnant is not to have sex. Period. Oh two things more: woman can say NO (I refer to normal situations, not rape) and that thread was not a twitter one. Wall of text on twitter... Meh.
Dr. Cheri Hayes 7 years ago (edited)
Also, she was not accurate in her statement that women can get pregnant only about 2 days a month. A woman can realistically get pregnant about 6 days a month. Sperm can live approximately 48-72 hours after ejaculation inside a woman's body, which means that 2 - 3 days before and 2 - 3 days after ovulation, there is a possibility of pregnancy. And to validate Alusair's post, the pre-ejaculate does have some sperm in it. One of the biological processes they teach us in medical school, first year.
Load More Replies... Biljana Malesevic 7 years ago
Well, there is a simple solution... just don't be with a man who refuses to put on condom, because he "hates the feeling". He does not respect you, he puts you in danger and himself first, simple as that. That would just end this debate. I can't say that men are 100% guilty of unwanted pregnancies as long as there are so many many (many) women who would just tolerate men who find condoms "inconvenient". And it's not just pregnancy, it's disease protection too. Just, respect yourself and when such men are left alone for too long they will start to get it (hopefully). Also they are not in majority, you will find someone else.
rabbitsrabbit 7 years ago
Just like to point out that the posts said some men do 'stealthing'. By the time the woman realises that he isnt wearing a condom anymore, it was too late.
Load More Replies... Agnes Jekyll 7 years ago
Look. She is trying to point out the inanity that is the agenda of certain men in society that believe women should not have easy access to birth control by demonstrating men's responsibility. Let's remember too that she is American, writing about the situation there, and she is the mother of 6 who clearly loves her husband but is tired of women being the focus on birth control when clearly, it should be men's concern too.
Moises Hernandez Jr 7 years ago
Give me a break. Bored Panda should stick to funny pictures or amazing photographs. This rant is beyond ridiculous. I am married and father of two. I had a vasectomy a month after my second child was born so that my wife would not have to be on birth control for the next twenty five years. Responsibility in an individual acts first. Still women can say no to a man, women can choose their partner and sexual activities as you say to remain celibate during those 24 annual days you mentioned. Women have a right to choose correct, then make the right choices. If my teenage daughter gets pregnant it won't be simply because a boy could not keep it in his pant (I would make sure he paid for his share of poor decisions) but it would ultimately be because she gave into her own sexual impulses and willingly participant. Every one is responsible for taking responsibilities for heir actions
Monika Soffronow 7 years ago
You did the right thing. You shouldered responsibility. Great. You wrote about it here, and thus became a sound role model for boys and men reading this. Well done! - - - There is no need for you to become defensive, you have already made sure you will not cause any unwanted pregnancies. You are in fact showing the very same commendable male behaviour she is hoping for. - - - But she is still right on target. No woman gets pregnant without male sperm, and since you seem like a thoroughly decent guy your own decency is probably what gets in your way to understanding how way too many men treat women.
Load More Replies... Random Panda 7 years ago
There are a few flaws in her argument. For one birth control is not 100% effective, not even the pill and for another the fertile window for women is longer than 2 days, since sperm can live up to 5 days in the vagina. I do think she is on point that more needs to be done to hold men responsible for unplanned pregnancies.
Tessa Milks 7 years ago
While sperm lives up to 5 days in the fallopian tubes (not the vagina) the egg is only goof for up to 48 hours.
Load More Replies... Josie Jones 7 years ago
Good lord I stopped half ways and scrolled and thought who da f**k has the time to read this s**t from a Mormon no less who thinks god is a magician from outer space? Eh I'll stick to my life's work in science and say you know how pregnancy work just look after yourself. So much of what she wrote is total nonsense but I don't have the energy to even start. The stuff she said about men pill is not strictly true. Several men on the medical trial committed suicide which shuts down any trial not just things for men. But what do I know I only work in pharmaceuticals and spent 9 years studying it?! Dip s**t!
Jennifer Hunter 7 years ago
Mormons don't believe that God is a magician from outer space; that's Scientology. And based on what I read, she isn't broaching the subject from a Mormon perspective, but rather sharing an extreme viewpoint as a way to draw attention to the fact that reproductive laws are geared toward the systematic principles of policing and controlling women, their bodies, and their right to make choices for themselves. Most Mormons (or any religion, really) would agree with reversing Roe-v-Wade, restricting birth control, etc; I think her mentioning that she's a Mormon is more for effect; basically stating "yea I'm Mormon but even *I* am more socially liberal than these other a-holes trying to take away our reproductive rights." While I agree that a lot of the "facts" she uses are nonsense, I get the overall point she's trying to make. Too bad some people are too short sighted to see past her religion and resort to name calling instead.
Load More Replies... Leo Domitrix 7 years ago
For all those insisting the Male Pill was "worse", etc.? Use of the female pill can lead to *CANCER* risks. I'd say that's a pretty bad side effect (and infertility from cancer treatment, btw, is a real thing)... For thsoe thinking "unless a woman was raped"... Um, I'm a "pill baby". My parents thought I wasn't going to happen. I did anyway! (And then my mom said, "condom or vasectomy" and my dad actually went vasectomy lest he have to use a *gasp* condom). TMI? How many *MEN* die in childbirth or of pregnancy-related complications? How many MEN lose jobs b/c they got a woman pregnant and bosses decided it just wasn't worth that family-leave impaired-employee thing? Oh, and for the record? Women are much more likely to acquire an STD from a male than other way around after *one* sexual encounter. Look it up. BTW, it only takes ONE person to make a baby --- once the sperm is in, the man's *done*. The woman? Has to risk permanent damage to her own health to gestate a fetus to term.
Nia Loves Art 7 years ago
Except that condoms sometimes break. Also a woman can refuse to have sex without a condom. Both partners are equally responsible for any conception that occurs during consensual sex without birth control sabotage.
Lucinda Overhoussen 7 years ago
Women should not ever have to be in a position where they ask their partner to put a condom on and she has to insist or "refuse to have sex" because her partner refuses to wear on. The fact that women have to insist or refuse is what's wrong. The fact that another woman thinks that women should have to insist is what's wrong.
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