Restaurant Employee Alters Uniform To Comply With The Dress Code And Teach Her Misogynistic Manager A Lesson
Interview With AuthorDress codes and uniforms are usually a touchy subject, and they’ve caused a lot of issues at work, school, and even in gyms, as we’ve covered on Bored Panda before. Usually, there’s a handbook that lists the rules for how people ought to dress in minute detail. However, no rules are perfect. If you’re perceptive and imaginative enough, you can always find a loophole. And sometimes—to make things poetic—that loophole concerns belt loops.
Redditor u/Left0fcenterr shared an inspiring story with members of the r/MaliciousCompliance subreddit about a nice restaurant she used to work at when she was younger. A new male manager started giving the female employees a lot of trouble, criticizing them for things that were absolutely ridiculous. At one point, he started having a problem with the OP not wearing a belt.
The woman approached the situation creatively, following the restaurant’s own rules about uniforms to the letter, to teach the manager a lesson. Scroll down for the full story, dear Pandas! What do you think of the redditor’s approach? Have you ever had to wear a uniform at work or elsewhere? Have you ever dealt with a rude manager? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments.
We got in touch with the author of the post, redditor u/Left0fcenterr, and she was kind enough to share her thoughts on a few things. She told Bored Panda about how she came up with the maliciously compliant way to get back at her manager, why it’s absolutely essential to have boundaries at work, and how she feels about her story going viral on the internet. Read on for our full interview with her!
Dress codes at work can cause quite a headache. Especially if one of your superiors is very particular about tiny details
Image credits: Bastien Plu (not the actual photo)
A former restaurant worker shared how a new manager had written her up for not wearing a belt. She stood up to him by following the employee handbook to the letter
Image credits: Julia D. (not the actual photo)
Image credits: Left0fcenterr
Bored Panda was very curious to find out how u/Left0fcenterr came up with the idea to alter her uniform in the first place. “After work, I was in my apartment dwelling on the events that occurred that day,” she told us.
“The thought popped in my head and I just did it. I wasn’t nervous about doing it. I was a pretty confrontational person when I was younger. I had had enough of him [the manager] by this point.”
The author of the post said that boundaries are essential to having a good home/work balance. “It’s an important type of self-care, really. I learned long ago that extra work is only rewarded with more work when working at the bottom of a corporate hierarchy. So I don’t take on any more than my job requires,” she explained to Bored Panda.
“The most important boundary for me, however, is leaving work at work. I don’t answer work calls when I’m not at work. If I am not being paid for that time, I’m simply not doing it. Managers need to understand and respect that workers have their own identities and lives outside of the workplace,” she shared.
“I currently have a really good working relationship with my manager and the owners. They understand that respect is earned, and they earn respect from their employees by respecting their employees. They are not micromanagers, and expect the work to be done without being told. When you’re respected as a human being, it creates a much healthier workplace relationship with your managers.”
Unfortunately, the OP had to work for at least three misogynistic managers during her career. “I didn’t handle any of them well. Like I said, I can be confrontational, and will call it out instead of keeping it to myself. I found that job when I was looking, I can find another. I only made things harder for myself by pushing back.”
Redditor u/Left0fcenterr opened up to Bored Panda that the attention she got online “has been a little overwhelming.”
“I like to keep my anonymity on Reddit, so I was a little nervous about being identified. Otherwise, it’s been pretty cool to hear other people’s similar stories that were shared in the comments, and the solidarity from workers that are simply tired of their manager’s [bs].”
The woman’s tale about how she altered her work uniform to technically comply with the dress code was incredibly popular with the crowd on r/MaliciousCompliance. At the time of writing, her post had gotten a whopping 30.8k upvotes (and counting). It seriously impressed the internet… and even inspired some of them to make puns about loops and belts and buckles. (Fans of puns like us couldn’t be happier!)
The OP wrote on Reddit that she felt like a hero, standing up to her manager like that. What’s more, she did that following the rules to the letter. And, some of you Pandas might agree, there are few things in life than rules-lawyering someone who totally deserves it.
Dress codes are a topic that we cover here on Bored Panda time and time again. Problems tend to arise when someone with power and authority tries to shame others for now following the rules ‘properly.’ Publicity is actually a great antidote to this kind of unfairness: people quickly change their tune when they realize just how little empathy and common sense they had.
Another way to tackle these clothing issues is to put the dress code and all of the stipulations in the handbook under the microscope. Odds are, you’ll find way more than just one loophole there. Use the rules to your advantage if you feel that management is being unfair and creating problematic mountains out of non-issue molehills.
A while ago, Bored Panda interviewed workplace expert Lynn Taylor, the author of ‘Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant’ and the CEO of the fashion brand ‘Behind the Buckle.’ She shared her insights on work uniforms, how things have changed since the pandemic, and the importance of learning to ‘manage up.’
“The pandemic shifted priorities for many operations, with a greater focus on bottom-line productivity. Where people sit, work hours and apparel naturally became more trivial. Executives also realized that comfortable clothes worn during the pandemic made them more productive and comfortable, too,” the workplace expert said to us, earlier.
“20 years ago, wearing jeans to work was taboo in many larger corporations, except for a ‘casual day,’ largely an unfamiliar term today for most millennials and Gen Z. Now jeans have become more of the corporate uniform,” Taylor said.
“Jeans are often accompanied by proper, presentable shirts and tops. And because of their pervasiveness—more ancillary wardrobe items, such as blazers, accessories (shoes and belts), now assume greater importance in upgrading one’s professional appearance,” she explained how things have changed. However, this newfound sense of flexibility and freedom isn’t available in all parts of the job industry.
“The caveat is that when people congregate in the office or with clients, few companies will have an ‘anything goes,’ policy. While dress codes have become significantly more relaxed at all levels, those who push the limit will likely be admonished. Companies are still enforcing some level of dress code decorum,” Taylor told Bored Panda before.
Meanwhile, it’s essential to figure out why your boss might be so stressed about everyone following the rules. Try to see things from their perspective, get a sense for what they value and why. “Bosses may be concerned about their superiors and their own career… and what might occur if they don’t deploy certain rules and regulations. They may also have strong feelings on workplace issues and feel it is their prerogative to enforce them,” the expert said.
“Managing up is a skill that will never go out of style and always be a helpful career tool, as you move from one job to the next. Employees can be the voice of reason; show the pros and cons of a decision, and gather support from other colleagues. There is power in numbers when trying to shift a boss’s perspective, especially if the rationale is well documented and persuasive.”
Some internet users were interested to hear some more details
Some folks shared their personal experiences with dress codes at work
Here’s how some people reacted to the story
He went to seminary school. I hope he flunked out. This man should never be in a position of authority.
I really don't get this dress code thing. Are employees small children who have to be micromanaged about what to wear and how?
I really don't get this "write-up" thing either. American employment law and practice seems unreal to anyone used to working in Europe.
Load More Replies...Seminary school. Now there's a punchline. He'll have fun with the section on 'Judge not, lest you be judged.'
Au contraire, in my experience conservative clergy just love passing judgment on women.
Load More Replies...He went to seminary school. I hope he flunked out. This man should never be in a position of authority.
I really don't get this dress code thing. Are employees small children who have to be micromanaged about what to wear and how?
I really don't get this "write-up" thing either. American employment law and practice seems unreal to anyone used to working in Europe.
Load More Replies...Seminary school. Now there's a punchline. He'll have fun with the section on 'Judge not, lest you be judged.'
Au contraire, in my experience conservative clergy just love passing judgment on women.
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