Yup - that moment is gone. And now she will play the hero by "making it up to him." This is what abusers do... kicks and punches on one day - flowers and candy the next.

And even as someone with severe allergies I will go to any restaurant but one (Five Guys because the air has too much peanut in it that I get itchy walking too close to the door) and no restaurant has ever had an issue finding something safe for me. Sometimes it makes for a strange combo of items but I would never not go for someone important to me no matter where they wanted to go (besides of course Five Guys - but they also tell people with severe peanut allergies they cant make safe food for us as everything uses peanut oil).

I'M a picky eater and like, either make things difficult for the kitchen staff, order off the kids' menu, or eat the chips if it's that big a deal.

He may not get that moment back but people on the internet are way to quick to scream divorce because of stupidity. We ALL make mistakes and sometimes can not see how wrong we are until other people point it out. It's one of the reasons AITA exists! If she didn't think there was a chance she was wrong she would have never asked the internet for help. Sure she messed up, and in a pretty spectacular way, BUT this is definitely the kind of situation a marriage can survive. (I have been married since 2006, I swear im not talking out my rear!) She knows she messed up and is actively trying to fix it. As crappy as her actions were, they were not unforgivable.

Yes but even with my food allergies I can usually find some sort of work around.

Im allergic to chicken. Ive learned to eat around it so I can even eat at KFC.