Yup! Lesson learnt years ago. 🤣

Same situation with my wife and I. It's easy to do for adults that talk about things lol

With me and my husband, we have separate accounts because he's a spender, and I'm a saver. Plus he's retired and takes care of our son, and I work full time. So I pay most of our bills out of my account (which he did, before he retired, while I took care of our son-we just switched roles, really, lol). But he still carries my card sometimes, for grocery trips (if I'm at work) or whatever. He takes money from my account occasionally, if he needs a little running money. We file a joint return, too. And every financial decision we make, we make together. But physically having the money in my own account helps me keep better control over the budget. So that's why we do it. And it works just fine for us.

My step father was forced to take an early retirement but he still takes care of all the expences... mind you there hasn't been a mortgage payment in over 7 years so their bills are minimal but they also lived well under their budget. My mom, who died just one month ago, hated giving her money away to the big companies, so she would pay in cash, no interest charges, no late fees due, no gifting their hard earned money to the mega rich. If I was as controlled as her, I would've paid off my home years ago. 😅

IT'S COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF. AND I DEFINITELY NEVER THOUGHT THAT HE WAS GOING TO BETRAY ME. SO KEEP YOUR FIANCES SAFE IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH TRUST.

OMG STFU already. You literally just came on here to "try" and correct people's grammar within their comments, like wtf? The fact that this is the only reason you are here is pathetic in itself, but what's worse is that your grammar/spelling is incorrect even though you are attempting to correct other people. Gtfoh.

Who the hell are you referring to?

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I need you to get in better relationships, buddy. You can be fully committed and not share a bank account. Women typically want to keep finances separate because they've been in a relationship where the man had all the control and they had none. When the relationship ended they were left to rebuild while he rode off with all she owns.

With me and my husband, it's because he's a spender, and I'm a saver. Plus he's retired and takes care of our son, and I work full time. So I pay most of our bills out of my account. But he still carries my card sometimes, for grocery trips (if I'm at work) or whatever. He takes money from my account occasionally, if he needs a little running money. But having it in my own account helps me keep better control over the budget. So that's why we do it. And it works just fine for us.

Talk about bad relationships, if you have to keep your finances separate because fear of being controlled you are in a bad relationship. Again, the only way a woman wants to keep finances separate is because she makes a significant amount and her husband makes less. In marriages where hubby makes more, accounts are joint and both have full access to $$$ are usually more stable, happy relationships. Also in divorce there is something called financial discovery. You don't get away with emptying accounts - and it's not like women don't do it too when it happens.

I don't think it matters which spouse makes more money, really I've always made more than my husband, but our money all goes into one joint account. We've been married for almost 30 years. We don't fight over money. It's just not that important to either of us.

Married childhood boyfriend, shared everything including joint account where everything went in and out. Except he had a "private" account from where he hid the costs of his infidelities. My entire salary went on the family, some of his. He also liked "booking up to account" expensive items for his sole benefit but questioned my simple expenses like a haircut. I would always have to find the "joint $" to foot his purchases bill. So no, its not only women there are lots 9f juvenile, spoilt and entitled men as well.

No, pretty much an idjit.

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IT'S SEPARATE FROM EACH OTHER. YOU BOTH TOXIC.

You seem to be a very jaded person. I literally say that we make about the same. He isn't a child, he is my equal partner and I have no desire or need to "monitor" him. We both pay shared expenses equally, we both contribute to a savings account equally, so why shouldn't we both be able to do what we want with what is left over? If we ever need access to each other's finances (which we do sometimes, as we have shared loans and things) we have no problem doing that. We just honestly don't care after the necessities are taken care of. We trust each other. And furthermore, if either of us ever needs money we have no problem helping each other out because at the end of the day we are a team. It's really not that complicated. Thank you for assuming I am a fool, but I assure you neither my husband or I are fools. It makes me sad your view is so bleak.

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So you won't keep a joint account because you make as much as he does. The idea of him having free access to "your" money rankles you. If he doubled his income your view would change. You would want access to that money. Funny because marital law sees all money as co-owned and separate accounts are a relationship power play. You see separate accounts as adult autonomy. Men don't think in those terms. Autonomy is intrinsic. We are expected to provide. Sharing with our wives is an expression of love, duty and devotion. I guarantee you are the one demanding separate finances and your husband would agree happily if you changed your mind and wanted joint accounts.

Boy it must be exhausting to be you, thinking everything in a relationship is some diabolical power play, and that you must always be playing defense against the person you chose to build a life with. The last thing I will say is that we have never one time argued about money, and we are both very happy in our marriage. You seem to think very poorly of women, in particular, as all of your comments have made clear. I hope for your sake that changes one day.

Having been bitten over a lengthy marriage by an entitled and spoilt man I can guarantee I will never share an account with anyone ever again and I would advise same to anyone. Not all men are devoted to their wife and family. Some turn out to be spoilt, entitled little boys who think it is their right to everything: my monies ours and his is his.

Thats a huge generalisation

I'm a broke ass woamn and absolutely keep separate finances from my husband. Calm down.

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Are you both broke? My mother kept a separate account too, but my father paid all the bills. That account was her spending money. Oh and she full access to his accounts too just in case. If your husband makes good money and you are broke yet you have separate accounts and equally share bills then your husband has some concerns or is not acting in good faith. Could be the marriage is a little new. Then it's understandable. Takes a little time to grow into some trust. When you have kids the husband and father has to take on the provider role, especially if he has the means to do so. Expecting a very pregnant or new mom to share financial responsibility is poor form. You should not tolerate that. If no kids then it doesn't matter because you are just playing house. Separate finances is a reflection of the lack of commitment inherent in childless marriages.

Count your blessings; many have had joint accounts cleaned out without their knowledge. A friend's daughter had one with a long term boyfriend to, among other things, finance their future wedding. One weekend she meets a friend who asked her why she wasn't at the said boyfriend's wedding. Needless to say, he had cleaned out the account

Aw, so sad for her. Double betrayal. Lost the fiance AND the money. That's hard to come back from. I hope she's recovered and finds true happiness.

We have always kept our money separate. He does the grocery shopping. I would give him my debit card and tell him to stay within $100/wk. No arguing, just a budget.