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Man Finds A Hack To Make Picky Baby Eat Food, Mom Loses It
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Man Finds A Hack To Make Picky Baby Eat Food, Mom Loses It

Man Finds A Hack To Make Picky Baby Eat Food, Mom Loses It“It Wasn’t Safe”: Mom Freaks Out At Husband For Having Zero Parenting InstinctsMan Finds A Hack To Make Picky Baby Eat Food, Wife Furious He Didn’t Ask Her Permission“Plain Mashed Sweet Potatoes And Carrots Are Gross”: Dad Seasons Baby’s Food, Mom Loses ItDad Upset Mom Won’t Let Him Share His Dinner With Their Baby As Her “Instincts” Say It’s Not SafeWife Is Livid Husband Changed Baby’s Diet Without Her PermissionMom Claims She Knows Best When It Comes To Baby’s Food, Chews Dad Out For Using Seasoning“Mother’s Instincts Are More Important”: Dad Under Fire For Giving Baby Spices Without PermissionMan Asks If He’s A Bad Father For Seasoning His Baby’s Dinner After Wife Calls Him Out
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First-time parents might fuss about many different things. Is the crib comfortable? Are the toys helping them learn and develop? Are they eating enough? And are they eating the right stuff? Moms and dads might disagree on these topics, and that’s when drama is bound to ensue.

One dad shared a story of how he helped his 6-month-old get used to solid foods by putting some mild spices in them. However, when the mom found out, she was furious. According to her, cinnamon isn’t safe for babies. Frustrated and bummed out, the dad decided to ask others whether he was wrong in this situation.

A dad turned to the Internet for advice after his wife reprimanded him for seasoning their baby’s food

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Cinnamon, according to the mom, wasn’t safe for a baby, so she got mad the husband didn’t consult her

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The dad clarified that he used the spices because otherwise, he found the food inedible

There are several foods parents should never give their babies

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The dad mentioned in his post how he did research before putting cinnamon, garlic powder, and pepper in his baby’s food. He also mentions how he found out honey isn’t a suitable food for six-month-olds. And that’s true.

In fact, babies under the age of one year shouldn’t eat honey. That’s because it contains bacteria (Clostridium) that can cause infant botulism. Its effects are muscle weakness, decreased muscle tone, constipation, a weak cry, and poor sucking.

While the baby is younger than 12 months, parents should be aware of other foods that can be dangerous. Foods that are high in sodium and sugar are among them. Experts say added sugar in desserts fills up an infant, and they don’t get the nutrients necessary for growth and development. And too much salt increases a baby’s risk of chronic disease.

When it comes to breastmilk substitutes, cow’s milk or rice drinks are off the table. Rice often contains more arsenic than other grains, as it absorbs it from water, where the compound is found naturally. The CDC also recommends limiting the amount of rice or rice cereals parents give to a baby.

They ask parents not to give cow’s milk and any dairy products made from unpasteurized milk to babies under the age of 12 months. In fact, it may put a baby at risk of intestinal bleeding. Cow’s milk has too many proteins and minerals for a baby’s kidneys to handle, which is why parents can only start introducing their kid to it after the first 12 months.

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Paternal instinct does exist and is not trumped by maternal instinct

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The mom also threw a pretty hurtful remark at the dad, saying that she has maternal instincts and the dad doesn’t “have any.” That’s a strange thing to say, given that the whole myth of women being innately maternal has been debunked by scientists.

“Maternal instinct and abilities, along with paternal abilities, may be social constructs based on how parents interact with their children in most societies,” Child Psychiatrist Christine B. L. Adams, MD, writes.

The reality is that parents bond with babies when oxytocin is released in their brains. It happens equally to men and women. Research suggests that fathers who get truly invested in caregiving experience similar brain activity to mothers.

As Adams writes, the personality of a parent plays a much more important role than their gender. “A parent of either sex can nurture children. Nurturing is not tied to the gender of a parent.”

“Nurturing is mediated by both oxytocin and testosterone. It is better to evaluate parents not by maternal or paternal labels but by their personality makeup and its effect on their child-rearing capabilities.”

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Most netizens backed the dad, saying that the mother overreacted

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Others called both parents out for not communicating properly and being on the same page about the baby’s diet

Others said the father was at fault, as he should’ve talked it out with the mom first

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Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kornelija Viečaitė

Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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Kotryna Br

Kotryna Br

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Kotryna is a Photo Editor at Bored Panda with a BA in Graphic Design. Before Bored Panda, she worked as a freelance graphic designer and illiustrator. When not editing, she enjoys working with clay, drawing, playing board games and drinking good tea.

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Guy-Incognito
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely agree with comment that the ESH and YTA would have a completely different view if genders are reversed. Being a woman doesn't automatically make you a better parent. Seems crazy the wife wants worse outcomes for her baby just so she can maintain control over husband and bub.

Parmeisan
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he probably should have mentioned it to her, because it's good for BOTH parents to be aware of stuff like that. If the other parent is uninterested in parenting then whatever, but if they're both active & interested then discussions are always good. But he's not an AH just for that, and he's *certainly* not an AH for doing it, and her "mother's instinct" thing is just crazy.

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Doctor Strange
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The moment she claimed 'motherly instinct' trumps research, and that as a man he has no instincts, she became the sexist Ahole. I'm betting even if he had talked to her about it, she would still have done the same. The guy did research, he started with small amounts of flavoring. Yes, the child could have had a reaction, but the child could have had a reaction to Anything they fed the kid. There have been people alergic to freaking WATER.

Jane
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And, as a mother, I can assure you that our instincts don't trump research. I did a lot of research, but was still just winging it. I would have given anything to have a partner who did research on those topics!

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justagirl
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to go full NTA just because the mom claimed "Motherly instincts are more important". Uh, what?

Vinnie
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was emotional thinking on her part: "I worry, therefore it's fact." Worrying is normal, but letting that override facts can lead to poor decisions. I've learned to talk to my anxieties ("Just check it out and *then* decide" or "It's 2am, you can't solve it now"). On the other hand, I don't reason with worries if someone seems to be following me down a dark street. Buh-bye, don't give a rat's @ss if running away looks stupid!

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Guy-Incognito
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Absolutely agree with comment that the ESH and YTA would have a completely different view if genders are reversed. Being a woman doesn't automatically make you a better parent. Seems crazy the wife wants worse outcomes for her baby just so she can maintain control over husband and bub.

Parmeisan
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think he probably should have mentioned it to her, because it's good for BOTH parents to be aware of stuff like that. If the other parent is uninterested in parenting then whatever, but if they're both active & interested then discussions are always good. But he's not an AH just for that, and he's *certainly* not an AH for doing it, and her "mother's instinct" thing is just crazy.

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Doctor Strange
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The moment she claimed 'motherly instinct' trumps research, and that as a man he has no instincts, she became the sexist Ahole. I'm betting even if he had talked to her about it, she would still have done the same. The guy did research, he started with small amounts of flavoring. Yes, the child could have had a reaction, but the child could have had a reaction to Anything they fed the kid. There have been people alergic to freaking WATER.

Jane
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And, as a mother, I can assure you that our instincts don't trump research. I did a lot of research, but was still just winging it. I would have given anything to have a partner who did research on those topics!

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justagirl
Community Member
3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm going to go full NTA just because the mom claimed "Motherly instincts are more important". Uh, what?

Vinnie
Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That was emotional thinking on her part: "I worry, therefore it's fact." Worrying is normal, but letting that override facts can lead to poor decisions. I've learned to talk to my anxieties ("Just check it out and *then* decide" or "It's 2am, you can't solve it now"). On the other hand, I don't reason with worries if someone seems to be following me down a dark street. Buh-bye, don't give a rat's @ss if running away looks stupid!

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