Many people will go above and beyond for the sake of love. Some will uproot their lives and move to be with their partner across the globe. Others will even switch religions to spend a lifetime with another person. 

Then, there are a few who would take things a step further. A man hesitatingly agreed to have a vasectomy because his wife didn’t want any more children. But after his spouse divorced him years after the procedure, he began to harbor regret and deep resentment toward her. 

The author has since chosen to stop communicating with his ex-wife and is asking the AITA subreddit if he was wrong for doing so. 

Vasectomies are significant, life-changing procedures for any adult male to go through

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This man agreed to go through the procedure because of his wife, who ended up divorcing him

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Filled with regret and resentment, the author cut all communications with his former spouse

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He has stood by his decision, but it made him wonder if he was in the wrong

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There are procedures to reverse vasectomies, and they have a high success rate

Vasectomies are reversible, contrary to what the author stated in his post. According to an article by Stanford Medicine, vasovasostomy procedures have a 90 to 95 percent success rate. 

These operations are rampant since six percent of men (around 30,000 each year) change their minds about their desire (or lack thereof) to have children again. 

There also is no specific timeline as to when you should have your vasectomy reversed after having it done. According to the article, patients have high success rates three decades after the procedure. 

The recovery process is likewise relatively hassle-free. Patients can return to their desk jobs after three days and strenuous activities after a month. However, it can take between a month to a year before signs of sperm presence can appear in their semen. 

The author could find a second opinion and have his vasectomy reversed, especially if he still has plans to have children with another woman. 

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The “no contact” rule is sometimes necessary after a breakup

While both parties are affected by their failed marriage, the husband carries more burden because of what he has to endure. It may take him a while to let go of the resentment he harbored. 

A “no contact” rule may help in this situation. As NYU Steinhardt’s Dr. Ernesto de la Rosa explained in an interview with Very Well Mind, breaking this agreement may only keep the intense, bitter emotions at an all-time high. 

Family therapist Leanna Stockard, LMFT, shared a similar sentiment in the same interview. According to her, having zero communication can help prevent a person from sliding back to their old relationship ways and bring them back to square one in their progress. 

In the husband’s case, being on speaking terms with his wife could make him feel like nothing happened. It could only cause him to hold onto his grudge and prolong his misery. 

He could eventually restart communication with his ex-wife, knowing his fixable situation could help him patch things up. But in the meantime, the author has the right to go without contact, especially if it helps him heal. 

What do you think, readers? Was he out of line for cutting communication with his ex-wife/the mother of his only son? 

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The author shared more details by answering some questions

People in the comments had mixed reactions, while a few of them shared some advice

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