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Man Promises To Forgive Wife’s Affair If She Tells Their Daughter Everything, It Quickly Backfires
Infidelity is like that one coworker who steals your sandwich from the office fridge – sneaky, selfish, and guaranteed to ruin your day. But, unlike a stolen lunch, the aftermath of cheating is messier than that family group chat argument.
And, if you think affairs only mess with the people directly involved, oh no, my friend. Families, kids, even the goldfish – no one is safe when someone decides to color outside the marital lines. Just ask our Redditor; he learned this the hard way when he forced his wife to tell their teenage daughter all about her “coloring session.”
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One man ruined his wife’s relationship with their teen daughter by forcing her to tell her the truth about her affair
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The wife has a one-night stand while husband is on a business trip and she confesses everything to her husband, damaging their relationship
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The man asks his wife to tell everything to their daughter if she ever wants to reconcile, but the teen ends up resenting the mom, barely speaking to her
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The man asks if he’s a jerk for giving his wife an ultimatum, forcing her to confess to their daughter about her affair
The OP (original poster) thought his life was going pretty well. He’d been with his wife for 20 years, married for 16, and together they have a 15-year-old daughter who absolutely adored her mom. Sounds solid, right? Not so fast.
Turns out, during a business trip, his wife took a one-way ticket to bad-decision town and came back confessing that she’d had a one-night stand. Yikes.
Our guy was absolutely wrecked. His wife begged for forgiveness, vowing to do anything, and I mean anything, to save the marriage. But the OP wasn’t about to make any rash moves.
For 3 weeks, he was deep in the emotional trenches, trying to figure out if reconciliation was even on the table. Finally, he decided he’d give it a shot but with one colossal catch: his wife had to confess the affair to their teenage daughter. Ouch!
Now, let’s pause for a second. Imagine you’re the wife here – horrified, right? She was too. But eventually, she caved and sat their daughter down for what can only be described as the mother of all awkward conversations.
At first, the daughter seemed okay-ish. No dramatic door slams, no “I’ll never speak to you again!” moments. But, over time, things got…weird. Frosty, even. The once-tight mother-daughter bond was now hanging on by a thread.
The OP didn’t see this coming. He thought he was teaching a valuable lesson about transparency and honesty. Instead, he got a crash course in unintended consequences. So, what’s a guy to do when things go sideways? Turn to Reddit, obviously, and ask the internet: Was he the jerk for making this demand?
Most Redditors? Yeah, they weren’t having it. They were firmly in the “Dude, too far” camp. They argued that dragging the daughter into their marital mess was unnecessary and, honestly, kind of cruel. And you know what? I’m with them on this one.
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Kids might not always know the details, but they’re like emotional sponges—they soak up everything, whether you spell it out or not. Studies even back this up: Parental infidelity can leave kids feeling betrayed, confused, and totally insecure.
And teenagers? Oh boy, they’re walking emotional rollercoasters as it is. Learning about a parent’s infidelity can mess with their trust and give them a pretty cynical view of relationships. Translation: When parents mess up, it’s like throwing a pebble into a pond—the ripple effect is real, and it goes way beyond just the parents.
Infidelity is one of the leading causes of divorce, and even for couples who stay together, rebuilding trust is like trying to glue a broken vase—it takes time, effort, and probably more therapy than anyone wants to admit.
Experts say that the betrayed partner often feels a cocktail of anger, insecurity, and self-doubt, while the cheater is busy grappling with guilt and defensiveness. Add bad communication to the mix, and it’s a recipe for sleepless nights and constant tension.
So, what’s your take on this story? Was our poster justified in asking his wife to confess, or did he majorly overstep? Drop your thoughts in the comments below – I’m curious to know if you’d side with Reddit or give the poster a pass on this one.
Netizens think the man was wrong by involving their daughter in his marriage and only made the situation worse by ruining her relationship with her mom
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Weasel Wise 4 days ago
Who would have thought that forcing a 15yo child into the loop about her mother's affair would backfire? The husband wasn't making OP confess for reconciliation purposes, he was punishing her via embarrassment and humiliation. What he lacks enough basic foresight in is that 15yo's have a moral compass, she probably wasn't going to be pleased with her mother's actions, and now this confession has caused unnecessary, irreplaceable damage to their relationship. LEAVE CHILDREN OUT OF ADULT DRAMA!!!
FreeTheUnicorn 4 days ago
Don't give details, but she's already going to know there's n issue, kids always know and you don't want her to believe the tension is her fault. And better to find out from mom than through some other means. These things always get out. Better to have an uncomfortable spell than deal with the cheating and the lying down the road.
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Bookworm 4 days ago
Here's my prediction: daughter reconciles with mom. Goes low to no contact with dad. Because she learns what a manipulative, vindictive person he is and this makes her realize why mom cheated. This is how I've seen it play out before when the partner who was cheated on insists the child must know what happened. Shame on OP for involving her.
WonderWoman 4 days ago
ESH him for making a selfish cruel condition for his wife, and the wife for following the condition. SHAME on BOTH of them. The child should NEVER EVER have been privy to the inner workings or not workings of the parents relationship. That is disgusting. Both these selfish AHs damaged their child FOR THEIR OWN SELFISH WANTS
Weasel Wise 4 days ago
Who would have thought that forcing a 15yo child into the loop about her mother's affair would backfire? The husband wasn't making OP confess for reconciliation purposes, he was punishing her via embarrassment and humiliation. What he lacks enough basic foresight in is that 15yo's have a moral compass, she probably wasn't going to be pleased with her mother's actions, and now this confession has caused unnecessary, irreplaceable damage to their relationship. LEAVE CHILDREN OUT OF ADULT DRAMA!!!
FreeTheUnicorn 4 days ago
Don't give details, but she's already going to know there's n issue, kids always know and you don't want her to believe the tension is her fault. And better to find out from mom than through some other means. These things always get out. Better to have an uncomfortable spell than deal with the cheating and the lying down the road.
Load More Replies... Bookworm 4 days ago
Here's my prediction: daughter reconciles with mom. Goes low to no contact with dad. Because she learns what a manipulative, vindictive person he is and this makes her realize why mom cheated. This is how I've seen it play out before when the partner who was cheated on insists the child must know what happened. Shame on OP for involving her.
WonderWoman 4 days ago
ESH him for making a selfish cruel condition for his wife, and the wife for following the condition. SHAME on BOTH of them. The child should NEVER EVER have been privy to the inner workings or not workings of the parents relationship. That is disgusting. Both these selfish AHs damaged their child FOR THEIR OWN SELFISH WANTS
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