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Man Purposely Keeps Getting Peanut Butter Even After Wife Has Allergy As He Doesn't Believe Her
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Allergies are a nasty thing to deal with, that’s no secret. Not only are they annoying with their itchiness and other vexing symptoms, but they can also be life-threatening. So, it’s expected that when a person deals with it, people around them strive to make their life as easy as possible, helping them to avoid allergens.
Sadly, some people are jerks, who purposefully put allergic folks in danger. Something like that happened to today’s author — after finding out about her allergy to peanut butter, she asked her husband to opt for butter from other nuts. But he refused to do so and pretty soon the situation got very ugly.
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A woman tried exposing her daughter to peanut butter and found out she’s allergic to it herself
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So, she asked her husband not to buy it, but he has continued doing so anyway, saying he “rediscovered his love for it”
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He also disregards her allergy and disgust for it by leaving used plates and cutlery to wash
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One day she made her disgust clear once again and he exploded, claiming she was being disrespectful to his food and imagining her allergy
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After this, the woman started doubting her relationship and the fact that there have been a few instances when he was physically intimidating to her adds even more fuel to the fire
A few months ago, the OP was exposing her daughter to peanut butter for the first time. Gently introducing a baby of around 4-6 months to common allergens, like peanut butter, is important to determine whether they can tolerate it.
During this process, the original poster found out that she herself was allergic to it, as her hands broke out in an itchy rash, which later turned into hives and swollen and itchy lips.
To find out more about allergies and their affect on people, Bored Panda interviewed GP with a Specialist Role in Allergy Dr. Helen Eve Evans-Howells, who, to start, gave us a list of common symptoms of peanut allergy. The ones mentioned by the OP were there, along with others like abdominal pain, vomiting, sneezing, and runny eyes.
To calm these symptoms down, the author took an antihistamine, which is one of the most common ways to fight allergies. Interestingly, typically they aren’t prescribed to prevent reactions to peanuts, but the original poster must have had them, as they are sold over the counter.
To be better safe than sorry, she asked her husband to not buy this product in the future. Dr. Helen Eve Evans-Howells explained if any family member is allergic to such a product, removing it from the home is a sensible thing to do.
She said “If reactions have occurred in the past to trace amounts, I would recommend a peanut-free home. Given that these allergies can be life-threatening, I think it is important to take into consideration the wishes of the person affected.”
Sadly, her husband completely disregarded her wishes and kept buying it. At first, he used to wash his used plates and cutlery. Our interviewee said that carefully washing surfaces that peanut butter touched is important in a house with an allergic person, but still, there should be some caution. Apparently, peanut protein is very sticky and transferable.
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She explained: “Even though people may feel that they are being cautious, only eating the peanuts in one place, we know that the peanut protein is likely to be in the dust everywhere. This does not necessarily mean it would trigger an allergic reaction for all with a peanut allergy, but some choose to keep it out of the household to minimize risk.”
Later, he stopped doing even that. So, one day the woman brought up how disgusted by the smell and butter itself she was and he flipped out. He said she was insulting his food and basically imagining her symptoms, as they never were that serious.
Dr. Helen Eve Evans-Howells said that even if a person hasn’t experienced anaphylaxis (a severe allergic reaction) before, it doesn’t mean they might not in the future.
She also indicated that there are some factors, like feeling unwell while ingesting, exercising before or after, having asthma, menstruation, or being fatigued, that can bring out anaphylaxis that was never experienced prior. So, by constantly exposing his wife to her allergen, the husband is basically risking his wife’s life.
Soon after this fight, things in their marriage started going downhill. For instance, he kept denying their conversation about her allergy even happened, while she insisted that it did. In later updates, the OP revealed that ever since she got pregnant, from time to time, he has been physically intimidating, which makes her feelings towards him even more tainted.
At least netizens agreed about this whole thing. They kept mentioning that being continually exposed to peanut butter might worsen the woman’s symptoms, so she should throw out the allergen. Also, seeing how badly the man mistreats his wife, it’s pretty clear that at least some of them thought that she should throw out her husband too. Well, we can’t say that it doesn’t seem like a reasonable alternative here, can we?
People online were flabbergasted by the husband’s carelessness and advised the woman to find a way to get rid of peanut butter from her home before her reaction gets worse
What do you think ?
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 17 hours ago
He hasn't "changed", he's finally showing his true self, and he's ABUSIVE. If he was willing to lay hands in her while she was pregnant with his child, he will do so much more in the future. She needs to run, now!
Lila Allen 17 hours ago
So much this. He thinks he has you trapped now that you have a child and feels safe to expose his true nature
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Mark Childers 12 hours ago
Pregnancy is often the most dangerous time for a woman. Now that she had the kid, she's trapped in her husband's mind. She sounds like a battered woman saying "but when it's good, it's so good!" The bad times should be the measuring stick. He's going to hurt her if not kill her, either from a reaction from the peanut butter or an escalation in violence. She needs to get herself and her daughter away from him. She should also call the police. His behavior is abusive.
Elladine DesIsles 12 hours ago
I'm shocked that none of the original quoted comments advised OP that she needs to take her daughter and get away ASAP. To a friend or family member who is safe, to an (allergy-accommodating) shelter, whatever. Her husband's actions are putting her life in danger; this is abuse. It also would have been a good idea for her to document anything possible without contact with peanuts - saving any written communication o the subject, photographing any peanut products brought into the home. And as was suggested, she of course needs to get allergy testing (it's common to have overlap between peanut and other allergies, so she may have additional risks she's not yet aware of) and to get an epipen/any other recommended treatments. But she and her child need to be in a safe place first.
LonelyLittleLeafSheep 17 hours ago
He hasn't "changed", he's finally showing his true self, and he's ABUSIVE. If he was willing to lay hands in her while she was pregnant with his child, he will do so much more in the future. She needs to run, now!
Lila Allen 17 hours ago
So much this. He thinks he has you trapped now that you have a child and feels safe to expose his true nature
Load More Replies... Mark Childers 12 hours ago
Pregnancy is often the most dangerous time for a woman. Now that she had the kid, she's trapped in her husband's mind. She sounds like a battered woman saying "but when it's good, it's so good!" The bad times should be the measuring stick. He's going to hurt her if not kill her, either from a reaction from the peanut butter or an escalation in violence. She needs to get herself and her daughter away from him. She should also call the police. His behavior is abusive.
Elladine DesIsles 12 hours ago
I'm shocked that none of the original quoted comments advised OP that she needs to take her daughter and get away ASAP. To a friend or family member who is safe, to an (allergy-accommodating) shelter, whatever. Her husband's actions are putting her life in danger; this is abuse. It also would have been a good idea for her to document anything possible without contact with peanuts - saving any written communication o the subject, photographing any peanut products brought into the home. And as was suggested, she of course needs to get allergy testing (it's common to have overlap between peanut and other allergies, so she may have additional risks she's not yet aware of) and to get an epipen/any other recommended treatments. But she and her child need to be in a safe place first.
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