After His Wife With Dementia Dies, Husband Writes a Letter to Hairdresser Saying Her Last Haircut Was The Last Best Thing That Happened In Her Life
Quarantine allowed us to take some time off from worrying about our appearances. However, to some people, it was a daunting task. Many even decided to protest the quarantine rules and demanded that salons open again, prompting a heated debate with those who prefer safety over haircuts. The only good thing that came out of this argument is that many people started to understand the value of such workers as hairdressers, nail technicians, masseurs, waiters, and so many others.
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Recently, a letter written by “a grateful customer” who thanked a hairdresser for the way she treated his wife during a haircut went viral
Let’s face it—way too often, people of these trades not only provide us services, but they also give us much-needed human contact. To some, chatting with a hairdresser is the only time they get to have an honest conversation with someone. So if someone says that a hairdresser or a nail technician has changed their lives, you’d better believe them.
Image credits: Sara Verkuilen
Recently, a heart-wrenching letter began circulating around the internet that proves how valuable hairdressers are. It was written the hairstylist from Illinois, Sara Verkuilen, its content has left many people online teary-eyed.
“June 27, 2020
Dear Sara,
This is a little bit awkward. But I’ve waited a really long time to pass this on to you.
My wife and I came in for haircuts shortly before Christmas of last year.
My wife was suffering from dementia, and you treated her as if you’d been working with dementia patients all your life. You let us sit next to each other, and when it came time for her cut you turned her chair towards me so I could watch her expression as you cut her hair.
It turned out even better than I thought it would.
Sadly, she died in March. And that haircut was one of the last, best moments of her life. She felt no pretty. She visited the mirror in her bathroom several times during the day and would come out beaming.
To see her so happy was priceless.
Looking back, it was likely one of dozens of haircuts you gave that day. But one which revitalized a woman’s sense of self and her singular beauty. I hope you always realize the power of your profession.
It’s so easy to take things like that for granted.
Sincerely,
A grateful customer”
The letter was written by a man who decided to express gratitude to his late wife’s hairdresser and explain what impact she had on the now-deceased woman’s life. “I cried when I recieved the letter, like mostly everyone else has. I had been struggling with my career, feeling uninspired so recieving that letter reminded me why I do what I do,” Sara told Bored Panda.
As it turns out, the man’s wife was living with dementia at the time she and her husband visited Sara. “I have no experience with dementia whatsoever. I just try to treat everyone that sits in my chair with basic human respect. My advice for other stylists would be to just treat them as you would any other client. Sometimes things take a little longer and it’s tough in our career because time is money but hairstylists are a special breed of people. We often do it for the passion more than the money,” she said.
The husband expressed admiration for the respect and care Sara showed during their visit and began to explain that the haircut she provided “has revitalized a woman’s sense of self and her singular beauty.”
Image credits: Sara Verkuilen
The couple has left a fond memory in Sara’s mind. “I remember just how sweet they were together. He was a very loving doting husband. They were adorable.”
The hairstylist said that she wished she had any contact information of the man so she could thank him for his kind words and express her condolences, sadly the man didn’t even leave his name.
The letter was a much-needed comfort during the tough time both for Sara and many other people who are struggling. “I was out of work due to covid for a few months and the company I work for went bankrupt and almost closed my salon forever so it was a wild rollercoaster of emotions. Luckily I had a family friend take me into her salon for a few weeks until my salon opened back up. I was also able to get unemployment before that,” she said. However, the woman tries to try positive. “Overall it hasn’t had too much of a negative effect on my life thus far.”
Here’s how people reacted
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Share on FacebookMy Grandma has Alzheimer's and this hits close to home. The fear they live in is so profound and just a tiny moment like that can mean so much not only to them but to the people taking care of them. She's up with my Aunt now but I looked after her and Grandpa for 3 years, I know the impact that event had on them. Gah I'm gonna cry if I keep writing.
We tend to forget that small gestures and kind words can have a profound effect on someone... something we do as a 'matter of course' could be a highlight in someone's day. Being kind and considerate costs nothing and can mean so much.
In regards to time travel, people always talk about how a tiny change in the past can change the present, but no one talks about how a tiny action today can change the future
That was a lovely note of thanks. My daughter and I love our hair stylist. I almost always text her after our cuts(different weeks) to tell her how great a job she did. We've also paid for a few cuts in advance during the pandemic. We appreciate her work and what a special woman she is.
Celebrate the little things in life because if you wait for the big things, it could be awhile.
PLEASE BJ, give us a report button to get rid of the sexbots and obvious trolls.
This: "To the world, you are just another person. But to one person ... you are the world..." To treat others with natural respect and normal decorum is a lovely art that is in sore need of revival. It does not cost anything, it may not give you any immediate gains but it can change the day for another person and if enough people feel better it may change the world!
The fact of her going to see herself in the mirror proves how well she felt.
A beautiful letter. It just confirms to me that we should be as quick to praise as we are to complain. The writer really gets his wife's joy across in his writing. If it were me I would be so touched, so please to get a letter like this. There are probably many more which are unwritten - please, tell people how you feel, it makes SUCH a difference..
I really relate to this, my mum had Alzheimer's and loved the the treat of a hair cut, it made her feel so special. Unfortunately she had to go to have a stay in hospital and ended up contracting covid 19 and passed away in April from it, I'll never forget how she loved to have a hair-do and how it made her feel so fantastic when everything else felt like mayhem to her xx Sorry for the long post.
I just realized, people whose job is to make people beautiful also has the capacity to break or make that person's days. I remember when I went for a haircut and I really don't like what my hairdresser did, everyday I go to work is a suffering because I don't feel beautiful inside due to my wrong haircut. I have to endure that for a couple of months until my hair was long again. That gave me a bit of trauma and ever since, I go to youtube and watch how to cut your own hair with the style you want but if I really need my hair to be professionally cut, I go to a salon. A different salon.
Someone's job makes someone else so happy... it's the very ideal way to work like that.
My husband was diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia after he began to lose things. He would accuse someone of stealing, even in the night. He was on medication but his symptoms progressed to anger and short fuse over little things. This was a man who was soft spoken, slow to anger and gentle. It was such a change for us to try to manage a whole new way of living. He is 67, I'm 66 and I felt so stressed sometimes. I didn’t know what each day will start with. I retired in April that year and was with him 24/7. I have been researching for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Health herbs clinic Dementia HERBAL FORMULA (just google it). It is a smashing one of a kind product for reversing Dementia completely.4 months into treatment he has improved dramatically. the disease is totally under control. No case of dementia, particularly the hallucination, weakness, and his mood swings. visit their website healthherbsclinic .com I Just wanted to share for people
HI My name is Jonathan Demme, am from France i will brief you more oncei hear from you as soon as possible i will like to discuss with you,but not here in boredpanda email me to (dj76354641@gmail.com) With Regards Jonathan Demme
My Grandma has Alzheimer's and this hits close to home. The fear they live in is so profound and just a tiny moment like that can mean so much not only to them but to the people taking care of them. She's up with my Aunt now but I looked after her and Grandpa for 3 years, I know the impact that event had on them. Gah I'm gonna cry if I keep writing.
We tend to forget that small gestures and kind words can have a profound effect on someone... something we do as a 'matter of course' could be a highlight in someone's day. Being kind and considerate costs nothing and can mean so much.
In regards to time travel, people always talk about how a tiny change in the past can change the present, but no one talks about how a tiny action today can change the future
That was a lovely note of thanks. My daughter and I love our hair stylist. I almost always text her after our cuts(different weeks) to tell her how great a job she did. We've also paid for a few cuts in advance during the pandemic. We appreciate her work and what a special woman she is.
Celebrate the little things in life because if you wait for the big things, it could be awhile.
PLEASE BJ, give us a report button to get rid of the sexbots and obvious trolls.
This: "To the world, you are just another person. But to one person ... you are the world..." To treat others with natural respect and normal decorum is a lovely art that is in sore need of revival. It does not cost anything, it may not give you any immediate gains but it can change the day for another person and if enough people feel better it may change the world!
The fact of her going to see herself in the mirror proves how well she felt.
A beautiful letter. It just confirms to me that we should be as quick to praise as we are to complain. The writer really gets his wife's joy across in his writing. If it were me I would be so touched, so please to get a letter like this. There are probably many more which are unwritten - please, tell people how you feel, it makes SUCH a difference..
I really relate to this, my mum had Alzheimer's and loved the the treat of a hair cut, it made her feel so special. Unfortunately she had to go to have a stay in hospital and ended up contracting covid 19 and passed away in April from it, I'll never forget how she loved to have a hair-do and how it made her feel so fantastic when everything else felt like mayhem to her xx Sorry for the long post.
I just realized, people whose job is to make people beautiful also has the capacity to break or make that person's days. I remember when I went for a haircut and I really don't like what my hairdresser did, everyday I go to work is a suffering because I don't feel beautiful inside due to my wrong haircut. I have to endure that for a couple of months until my hair was long again. That gave me a bit of trauma and ever since, I go to youtube and watch how to cut your own hair with the style you want but if I really need my hair to be professionally cut, I go to a salon. A different salon.
Someone's job makes someone else so happy... it's the very ideal way to work like that.
My husband was diagnosed 3 years ago with dementia after he began to lose things. He would accuse someone of stealing, even in the night. He was on medication but his symptoms progressed to anger and short fuse over little things. This was a man who was soft spoken, slow to anger and gentle. It was such a change for us to try to manage a whole new way of living. He is 67, I'm 66 and I felt so stressed sometimes. I didn’t know what each day will start with. I retired in April that year and was with him 24/7. I have been researching for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across Health herbs clinic Dementia HERBAL FORMULA (just google it). It is a smashing one of a kind product for reversing Dementia completely.4 months into treatment he has improved dramatically. the disease is totally under control. No case of dementia, particularly the hallucination, weakness, and his mood swings. visit their website healthherbsclinic .com I Just wanted to share for people
HI My name is Jonathan Demme, am from France i will brief you more oncei hear from you as soon as possible i will like to discuss with you,but not here in boredpanda email me to (dj76354641@gmail.com) With Regards Jonathan Demme
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