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Hey Pandas, WIBTA If I Involved My Head Guard’s Parents To Address His Condescending Behavior At Work?
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Hey Pandas, WIBTA If I Involved My Head Guard’s Parents To Address His Condescending Behavior At Work?

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I worked as a lifeguard at location B for several months. A husband and wife swam there often and saw me do my job. I didn’t think anything of it until I was moved to location C, where their son was my Head Guard.

From the get the Head Guard was condescending in his tone with me, using harsh words, like “I’m ostracizing people while I teach my class”

Image credits: Malaya Sadler (not the actual photo)

Or micromanaging how the cleaning supplies are organized. He even told me to do a job three days ago or yesterday, and I didn’t get it done to his liking.

We only work half shifts. I’m well aware of my duties, and when he asks me to do a task, he will interrupt me doing it to talk to me like I’m incompetent. And he has a parental tone, “What did I tell you? And this needs to be fixed.”

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I’m writing this because one of his parents is even going to our joint training, and it’s taken all of my self-control not to ask his parent to remind him that I know how to do my job

Image credits: Caleb Stokes (not the actual photo)

Here lies my question. Because I have received family advice, I’m much older than him and am well aware of my duties and how to complete them. How do I control my reaction? And what should it be? The position above him is rarely at our site.

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Hello Pandas! My name is Ieva, though it's often mistaken for the word 'Leva,' and in Lithuanian, it means 'loser' (insert the pain emoji). While I don't take offense if you accidentally call me a loser, I thought I'd share something interesting with you, which I also do professionally at work.Anywayyy, my favorite part here is introducing you to creative people who deserve just as much recognition as famous celebrities. Besides that, I also enjoy memes and funny, lighthearted posts, and occasionally, I find myself drawn to a bit of internet drama.

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Ieva Midveryte

Ieva Midveryte

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Hello Pandas! My name is Ieva, though it's often mistaken for the word 'Leva,' and in Lithuanian, it means 'loser' (insert the pain emoji). While I don't take offense if you accidentally call me a loser, I thought I'd share something interesting with you, which I also do professionally at work.Anywayyy, my favorite part here is introducing you to creative people who deserve just as much recognition as famous celebrities. Besides that, I also enjoy memes and funny, lighthearted posts, and occasionally, I find myself drawn to a bit of internet drama.

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Apatheist Account2
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing to do with his parents. Talk to his boss (or HR if there is one), it's a work issue. Talking to someone's parents about their work is treating them as children, which is what it sounds like he's doing to you.

HTakeover
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. Reverse the roles, would you want your employee to call your parents about the way you manage them?

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FreeTheUnicorn
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bringing anyone into a work situation who is not in the chain of command is unprofessional. Handle it through official channels if a frank discussion doesn't work. Any other approach makes you the AH.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you, I did not say anything to his parents or bring anyone else in, ie: patrons of the pool

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Ace
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this a child or an adult? I assume the latter, so what on earth has this got do do with their parents?

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3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is an adult half my age. The reason I considered his parents is because they have been at another pool I work at and seen me do my job. And I'm several years on his experience and he talks to me like I'm ignorant

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Apatheist Account2
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Nothing to do with his parents. Talk to his boss (or HR if there is one), it's a work issue. Talking to someone's parents about their work is treating them as children, which is what it sounds like he's doing to you.

HTakeover
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Yep. Reverse the roles, would you want your employee to call your parents about the way you manage them?

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FreeTheUnicorn
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Bringing anyone into a work situation who is not in the chain of command is unprofessional. Handle it through official channels if a frank discussion doesn't work. Any other approach makes you the AH.

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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Thank you, I did not say anything to his parents or bring anyone else in, ie: patrons of the pool

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Ace
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3 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Is this a child or an adult? I assume the latter, so what on earth has this got do do with their parents?

Community Member
3 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

It is an adult half my age. The reason I considered his parents is because they have been at another pool I work at and seen me do my job. And I'm several years on his experience and he talks to me like I'm ignorant

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