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Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

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Night clubs and bars are good places to have fun and meet new people. But we all know that strangers, no matter how good of a first impression they make, can sometimes be up to no good. Sadly, this means that instead of enjoying your night, you also should be vigilant of red flags to keep yourself safe from the stranger danger. There’s a Tumblr post which can help check if the person who offered to buy you an alcoholic drink has any ulterior motives. (Facebook cover image: TrishN)

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Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

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After Jennifer Dziura shared her experience with men buying her drinks, one bartender backed her up by saying that he has seen things like that happening daily.

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

Dziura said that, in most cases, men don’t buy bar drinks for women out of courtesy, instead they do so to make them vulnerable and get their guard down.

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

For those who find it hard to believe, she offered a simple social experiment. Instead of accepting an alcoholic beverage, she said that a woman should agree to something else, for instance — food or a non-alcoholic drink. If he doesn’t accept her choice well, chances are his intentions were far from just being courteous.

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Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

The bartender shared a similar experience he noticed every night at his job, from 10 to 20 times per night to be exact. To help out, he offered some tips and dating rules on what to do when accepting a drink from someone and which drinks to choose to avoid getting drunk in a stranger’s company.

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

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Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

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Woman Explains Why Men Get Angry After She Orders A Non-Alcoholic Drink When They Offer To Buy Her One

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

This is a little beside the point, but anyway. One of the most important things to learn in life, and among the most important things to teach our children, is the ability to say "no", or "no, thank you" and that you have a right to make up your own mind. Women used to be brought up to do what the father said, and to some extent this still holds true, but that does not mean that we have to extend the courtesy to whatever man comes along and offers to buy a drink, regardless of intentions. If you are taught to stand up for your right to say "no" then it will be much easier to not bend for whatever type of peer pressure.

74points

Vicky Zar 5 years ago

And you have to teach your sons to ACCEPT said NO!

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Gin Marie 5 years ago

Women get killed for saying "no" to guys. Women have no problem saying "no", but men need to learn to accept it. Too many guys have no problem accepting "no" from another guy, but get angry or just refuse to accept "no" from women.

42points

Danielle Holder 5 years ago

Have you read the climbing stats of women raped/murdered for simply saying no to a male?!?

23points

Magpie 5 years ago

Saying a plain NO can be really , really hard. The thing of saying "No thank you, but I'd like (for example) chips" is a softer version. And may be easier to actually say. Think of it as saying No 101. With practice it should get easier..... I have often been scared to say No because I did not want to make a BIG man angry at me. ... and sometimes they were.

19points

Bored Llama 5 years ago

Well said. Good, solid point- saying no is OK.

19points

Daria B 5 years ago

I agree. But sometimes some people really do seem kinda nice, so you wanna give them a chance for a possible friendship, but you DO NOT WANT to "let your guard down", you wanna stay careful, in case it turns out to be an a-hole. And that's when you need those tips and tricks. To say "no", without appearing rude. Sure, there's many ways, sometimes the situation will allow you to just say "no, I'm not in the mood, but thank you anyway". Or something like that.

10points

Stille20 5 years ago

I agree that people need to learn to say no. Occasionally you might find yourself in a tricky situation, but generally you need to make smart choices and have an exit strategy. Even if our culture evolves, there will always be some creeps.

5points

anarkzie 5 years ago

I 100% agree with this, a society in which women say no(to something they don't want) and men can accept it is the gold standard. Everyone knows where they are and there's no misconceptions.

3points

WillemPenn 5 years ago

"No." Is a complete sentence.

3points

StrawberryParfait 5 years ago

It's not about peer pressure. It's about staying safe around men who get enraged when they hear the word "no". There are lots of them out there.

2points

Megan Obrien 5 years ago

No is a complete sentence!!!

1point

Brandy Grote 5 years ago

Man gets a woman drunk to "get licky", but then co.plain about how all his dates just lay there. Sober women ENJOY sex, dude.

45points

Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

Twelve points.

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Coco 5 years ago

26% is stil a LOT!

37points

Rama Llama 5 years ago

Those alcohol percentages are for the liquors used, not the actual drink with the mixer included.

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AnnieLaurie Burke 5 years ago

Why not suggest, if one must have an alcoholic drink, a glass of European wine? Many French wines, including the sparkling ones are 11-12.5% alcohol. Ditto for the German wines. Also, this would be a very sophisticated drink, so if the guy is thinking the woman is a "cheap lay", he might decide she is too classy for him.

5points

TRiMGamingDK 5 years ago (edited)

It's a lot yes, but the dosage isn't high, because it's mixed with high amounts of other stuff. Drink wine or beer, that's alcohol all the way through, drink a cocktail, that's only a small amount of alcohol and a lot of mixing stuff.

2points

This Is A Mans World 5 years ago

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Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

This is a little beside the point, but anyway. One of the most important things to learn in life, and among the most important things to teach our children, is the ability to say "no", or "no, thank you" and that you have a right to make up your own mind. Women used to be brought up to do what the father said, and to some extent this still holds true, but that does not mean that we have to extend the courtesy to whatever man comes along and offers to buy a drink, regardless of intentions. If you are taught to stand up for your right to say "no" then it will be much easier to not bend for whatever type of peer pressure.

74points

Vicky Zar 5 years ago

And you have to teach your sons to ACCEPT said NO!

101points

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Gin Marie 5 years ago

Women get killed for saying "no" to guys. Women have no problem saying "no", but men need to learn to accept it. Too many guys have no problem accepting "no" from another guy, but get angry or just refuse to accept "no" from women.

42points

Danielle Holder 5 years ago

Have you read the climbing stats of women raped/murdered for simply saying no to a male?!?

23points

Magpie 5 years ago

Saying a plain NO can be really , really hard. The thing of saying "No thank you, but I'd like (for example) chips" is a softer version. And may be easier to actually say. Think of it as saying No 101. With practice it should get easier..... I have often been scared to say No because I did not want to make a BIG man angry at me. ... and sometimes they were.

19points

Bored Llama 5 years ago

Well said. Good, solid point- saying no is OK.

19points

Daria B 5 years ago

I agree. But sometimes some people really do seem kinda nice, so you wanna give them a chance for a possible friendship, but you DO NOT WANT to "let your guard down", you wanna stay careful, in case it turns out to be an a-hole. And that's when you need those tips and tricks. To say "no", without appearing rude. Sure, there's many ways, sometimes the situation will allow you to just say "no, I'm not in the mood, but thank you anyway". Or something like that.

10points

Stille20 5 years ago

I agree that people need to learn to say no. Occasionally you might find yourself in a tricky situation, but generally you need to make smart choices and have an exit strategy. Even if our culture evolves, there will always be some creeps.

5points

anarkzie 5 years ago

I 100% agree with this, a society in which women say no(to something they don't want) and men can accept it is the gold standard. Everyone knows where they are and there's no misconceptions.

3points

WillemPenn 5 years ago

"No." Is a complete sentence.

3points

StrawberryParfait 5 years ago

It's not about peer pressure. It's about staying safe around men who get enraged when they hear the word "no". There are lots of them out there.

2points

Megan Obrien 5 years ago

No is a complete sentence!!!

1point

Brandy Grote 5 years ago

Man gets a woman drunk to "get licky", but then co.plain about how all his dates just lay there. Sober women ENJOY sex, dude.

45points

Monika Soffronow 5 years ago

Twelve points.

3points

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Coco 5 years ago

26% is stil a LOT!

37points

Rama Llama 5 years ago

Those alcohol percentages are for the liquors used, not the actual drink with the mixer included.

23points

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AnnieLaurie Burke 5 years ago

Why not suggest, if one must have an alcoholic drink, a glass of European wine? Many French wines, including the sparkling ones are 11-12.5% alcohol. Ditto for the German wines. Also, this would be a very sophisticated drink, so if the guy is thinking the woman is a "cheap lay", he might decide she is too classy for him.

5points

TRiMGamingDK 5 years ago (edited)

It's a lot yes, but the dosage isn't high, because it's mixed with high amounts of other stuff. Drink wine or beer, that's alcohol all the way through, drink a cocktail, that's only a small amount of alcohol and a lot of mixing stuff.

2points

This Is A Mans World 5 years ago

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