I had to live an "extra" 20 years of my life with my mother, who has been physically, emotionally, verbally, and mentally abusive to me since I was 5-6 years old. My older sister is a mini version of my mother (and in some ways is worse; my sister is more physically abusive.) Why, you ask? Because my dad, who was a good father and whom I loved, had an accident when I was 18. He was catastrophically brain damaged and needed 24/7 care. We took care of him at home. I never moved out. I stayed for my dad, whom I would never have left in the care of my mother and sister alone (my mom was abusive towards my dad through my whole life, too). My dad died last year and I gtfo that house as fast as I could - and I took my dad with me (his ashes.) :) My mom didn't want them. She still lies that my dad is alive so she can get "oh you poor thing" pity-points!

Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups.

I disagree. I got a bully to stop harrasing certain youtubers. I got a woman to admit she was a racist. And I've had a few "age doesn't matter" channels taken down. Sometimes arguing is fine.

Treating people fairly should not be done so you get anything back. Treat people not based on how they are, treat people the way YOU are. You're a good person. You're a fair person. Show it.

I’m gonna use this post as a PSA: I’m not sure who is new here to BP, but downvoting is for inappropriate comments, NOT differences of opinion or unpopular comments. That’s what discourse is for. When you downvote people you’re saying they were inappropriate not disagreeable. BP is a user-regulated site. Ten downvotes is an automatic temporary suspension. Three temp bans or 30 downvotes causes a permanent ban. Please use your voice to discuss & debate comments you disagree with. Only downvote for users who are being inappropriate and/or offensive to most.

My wife and I both love art and go to many galleries through out the year. We may like the same painting or piece of art, but odds are we will like it for different reasons. I am slightly colour blind and so do not see the colours in a painting the same way she does. But we then discuss the reasons we each like or dislike a particular piece of art.

Take for example the famous dress that was blue/black, that other people saw white/golden

That happens to me when I'm by myself all the time

"The only thing more difficult than getting someone to fall for a scam is convincing someone that they've fallen for one."

It's just difficult when the people who don't like you and always think you did something wrong are your closest family members. I'd love to just relax, but it's gonna take a lot more therapy to get to that point ;p

The trouble is when your very best is not even good enough for you.

I was told from a young age that I was a "genius"; my mom had my IQ tested when I was a small child and it was something like 142. She pushed me into "gifted and talented education" classes and programs in school and made me take the GED test when I was 14. I started college at 14. I burned out BIG-TIME after two years, dropped out, etc. Never got a BA; the best I have is an AA degree. I also am horrible at communicating/making friends as I did not have a normal upbringing/school experience. I've also probably got some form of ADHD and/or autism, judging by my behaviors/habits/lack of ability to focus/etc. But no, my mom wanted to be able to tell people her daughter was a "genius" and didn't care one bit about how all of that affected me.

Life's unfair and then we die.

I’d specifically add “my personal decisions,” as part of healthy relationships is accountability, communication and understanding. The decisions I make that affect only me are nobody’s business and I owe no one justification. When my choices affect or influence others, I often times owe them some reasoning.

I did not say it was your fault, I said I was going to blame you.

That’s because they don’t actually do any of the daily work of the people they are managing.

Bloody outrageous to suggest otherwise.

::yells across her house:: "HEY MOM, SOMEONE POSTED ON THE INTERNET TALKING ABOUT YOU!"

Getting angry about something, depending on what that thing is, is fine by itself. How one handles anger in a given situation may or may not be.

Well, you can plan for them and hopefully create a desired outcome. Just because I can’t control Mother Nature doesn’t mean I don’t worry about specific, very likely natural disasters or destructive weather. I worry a little and use a fair amount of energy to plan a lot. - If it’s something that I cannot influence change or outcome, only then do I not give it my time and energy.

🤣 In mathematics classes they would tell my kids "show your work, you're not going to have a calculator in your pocket all the time" 🤣

A lot of people pretend to be, on the other hand.

no one should weigh themselves every day except wight class athletes. It is counter intuitive. Weekly is best from all the research I have done. I wait longer. I DO share a food journal with two other friends.

It depends!

Same. I still try though... I know I shouldn't.

However, no matter how you look at it, there is one...

The ONLY one that has to be happy with me is ME 🌻

time is what you spend working for money

Most folks....

Yeah, I live away now. Had a call from my Mum today, berating me for not calling (I've been ill). Then someone else can to her door when she was on the phone and she hung up. I've never been important.

But remember ... stealing is a crime 😎

What if the type of way they make me feel is a good type of way?