I'm willing to bet the people voting YTA are brides about to have a wedding. Also an Unplugged reception is obnoxious. Ceremony for sure, no one wants phones waving around in their photos, but the whole day? What if I wanna take a selfie with someone or check train times or whatever? Also the bride needs to take a breath and relax.

how are people even saying YTA????? its so obviously NTA. Shouldn't even be a question imo.

We can only hope that the people who respond YTA go to a phones-free wedding, turn their phones off, and miss an important notice such as their home burning to the ground.

If I, for some reason, felt the need for an unplugged wedding, I can't imagine not stipulating 'Emergency situations, ie family members hurt, child sitter has to leave, or any other 'urgent'(can't do italics on phone) situation are exempt from the ban. We do ask in this situation you attempt to be descrete if at all possible during the ceremony' That's poorly worded but you catch my drift. What a narcissistic person to say that she can't meet face to face, lest OP have another injured family member and *take attention away from the staaaaar*

People are in our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some friends grow up, others grow tiresome. Move on.

I’m curious. Had OP’s mother passed away in the accident, would the bride still not care? What kind of emergency would be acceptable for the princess?

Unplugged means unplugged. But be real with yourself. Not everyone cares. And those who's don't need to be respectful of one thing: open usage of the phone. That's it. Go to a bathroom or outside and make a quick call, nbd. If you think you're going to completely sever ties to the outside world you're delusional. And while we know her mom is okay *now* I doubt her sister knew *then*. And if she died? What, she's just going to wait around because it's someone else's special day? Get over yourself.

Anyone who thinks that normal human interactions are taking away their ‘shine’ at their wedding needs to take a long hard look at themselves in the mirror. Yes it’s ’your day’ but it’s a gathering of loved ones who are all there to enjoy each others company and as such you are helping to make their day too. It is supposed to be a day for all, a day to be focussed on the marriage and the families who are also being connected. Stop being such selfish and dictatorial individuals. Want to spoil everyone’s day? Make crazy rules that just make you look insecure and self centred.

OMG. Unplugged ceremony, absolutely, and I would have my phone on silent and put away regardless (and throughout the wedding breakfast and speeches, though I would check for missed calls during the travelling between). Basic courtesy. If they want the whole thing unplugged, that's cool, but if they haven't organised a point-of-call to receive emergencies then my phone will be on vibrate, and if it goes crazy I'm leaving the main area and answering - and I'm not apologising for doing so. And I'd be shocked if I'm attending the wedding of someone who'd be anything other than concerned for me/my situation were that to happen.

I cannot imagine a single friend of mine otherwise than saying, go go, you've only got one mother, and let us know how she is

"I might just up and leave if another one of my family members gets hurt" - well... OBVIOUSLY! THAT WOULD BE THE THING TO DO. What heartless person tries to use that as an insult? Also, The ESH/YTA people are unhinged. "Yes, your mother was in an accident, but..." - but *nothing*.

The people voting ESH/YSA are delusional. Yes, it was relatively minor--but the fact remains it could have been so much worse. It was an emergency. If your main-character syndrome is so severe that you would berate someone for having a family emergency warranting a trip to the hospital, you deserve to be alone.

It seems that there are a whole bunch of people who think that not caring about parents is normal, and that weddings and the Most Sacred Thing In The World. I would guess that these same people also believe that, if somebody is hurt during the wedding, nobody should call an ambulance until after the ceremony. "HEY!! Jenny, I said NO PHONES!!! I don't care if Sam is "bleeding out"! Sam and his blood are taking attention away from me, so drag him somewhere else and be quiet until after the ceremony! You BOTH are terrible people and have ruined my wedding!"

OP doesn't need to just remove the "best" part, she needs to remove the entire "friend" part.

Good on OP for kicking bestie's narcissistic @$$ to the curb!

Those saying either ESH or YTA to the OP must be those former it's all about me brides. First off this happened during the reception and the OP went away to look at the calls. Also from another story relayed this 'BFF' is not really a friend. OP needs to cut this 'friend' out cause she is supremely selfish and has that 'all about me' energy.

Sorry, but OP knows what kind of s****y person the bride is. Says so several times. Yet, makes the choice to maintain the friendship and participate. This like punching yourself in the face and blaming your hand for giving you a bloody nose. Friendships are fluid and we outgrow or overcome many of them throughout our lives. Why can’t some people get this? Is it an esteem issue? Misplaced guilt? I don’t have a single friend who I could describe as “this isn’t the first time she was s****y.” I’ve a few ex-friends who may fit that bill, but I have too much self-respect and self-care to continue relationships with people like this.

How did we survive whole day in someones wedding or anywhere time before cell phones? We were literally unplugged every second we left home and, yep, here we still are now. If her mother was dying, they would've found a way to contact her, but 70 calls for minor accident is overreacting badly. Imo both are idiots, bride ending their friendship over this and she taking her phone with her and checking it over the unplugged day.

Going out on a limb here....the Bride's name is Karen, isn't it?

"AN unplugged." "AN" precedecing vowels, FFS. We're getting less literate by the minute.

If no-one is using their phone, are they taking any pictures? These days it's rare to see someone with an actual camera. Also, if the phone is turned off, how did the OP know there were messages?

Definitely the ash sole. Or is she not smart enough to TURN OFF THE PHONE? No phones for an hour during a wedding ceremony IS NOT A HARDSHIP. If you can't respect a simple request and go without your phone, don't go. Cripes, the idiots defending the one with the phone probably blamed the zombies in "World War Z", not the wife calling or Pitt's character for leaving it on.

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The brides reaction is awful but as a general point, if the wedding is unplugged I would have thought this means phones off completely, so she shouldn’t have been aware that her sister had called. The phone should have been off and in an emergency the sister could have called the venue and asked a staff member to track her down (like you would have before mobiles were a thing).