I’ve never understood why some brides expect bridesmaids etc to pay so much of their own money (for dresses, gifts, venues, transport etc). It’s your wedding, if you want these people to be part of your wedding, you should pay for it. Why should they be out of pocket?

Warning - I'm about to be judgey - if someone having a tattoo that doesn't match your wedding theme is something you find devasting - you've lived a charmed life.

No! First off, black moor and fantail goldfish wouldn't be cheaper than flowers in most instances. Feeder goldfish are cheap as hell but fancier varieties are at least a few bucks a piece...and they definitely aren't meant to stay in a vase. Goldfish need well aerated, cold, filtered water as they breathe from their gills and produce a ton of waste. You'd literally be killing those fish over the course of the event and even if you gave them away and/or kept them, it's highly unlikely most would survive. Goldfish will grow as big as their environment will allow and keeping them confined like that is bad for them and will leave them swimming in & breathing their own filth.

I'll say it again: it is the people that are important, not the show.

Why didn’t you just cut them both out of your life at the time rather than waiting for some kind of cruel, petty revenge at her wedding. I know she did a terrible thing and hurt you greatly, but move on.

I would NEVER pay to be at a wedding. Here in the UK I’ve never heard of anyone having to pay for their plate or simply to attend. A gift is not mandatory either….yes it’s polite to bring a gift for the couple but you get them what you can afford. If you want to get married, you pay for the wedding. It’s that simple. If you can’t afford a big wedding, have a smaller, more intimate day. So much attention is payed to the wedding day when it’s how you go forward as a married couple that’s more important.

So, are we to imply the dress is white and that's the issue? In a grey scale photo, it could easily be a pale blue or grey. Not a good example if you're wanting sympathy/support in judgement.

Well but also why would you use someone else's celebration/event to propose??

This one made me laugh out loud, looks like something just offscreen is sucking out their souls!

Why do women keep doing this crazy c**p?!

MIL's cake is just flat-out weird. Soccer balls? Green? *blech*

This is a case of 'heart in the right place, head in wrong place'. It's a great idea, but I would suggest discreetly asking his family what/if any traditions normally take place, then see about having them incorporated in your wedding.

Sure, I'd take the products for free. Just don't expect ME to pay for them - I want absolutely no part of those financial scams.

A little bit creepy to be honest

I didn't have one but I think the MOH is the one that orchestrates the Bridal shower not the Bride.

Yes, because the hair on the left is so natural...

Wow, these absolute bastards wanted them to be safe and live to see their wedding day, how very judgemental of them.

Let me get this right…..You want your family to not only pay (a small fortune) for your wedding, but organise it all too? and when your MIL tries to help you with some of the organisation (which you’ve stated you are too busy to do) she’s in the wrong? I’m lost for words on this one….