What a darling woman. She's getting married and doesn't give a toss about what the girl should wear. I think that's kind and hope she doesn't fold.

NTA.Many teen girls like wearing gender-neutral clothes. Some of them grow to like dresses, others don't, and there is nothing wrong with either scenario. And seriously, it's a good reason to become a bridezilla and insist that everything should be done exactly how you want it, if it's about your guests' comfort.

The niece could be a tomboy or could be grappling with some more significant identity realizations. Both ways, the support and acceptance is an absolutely amazing thing, but if it's the second, the acceptance can literally be the difference between life and death (gender queer and trans individuals have extremely high suicide rates). Regardless, thank you for showing her that she is beautiful for however she chooses to present to the world.

Isn't anyone getting tired of the cookie cutter weddings by now? All the weird traditions and expenses are ridiculous. "You HAVE to have" and get a long list of very strange things that are expected because they are "traditional." I was Maid of Honor to my best friend. She finally ended up having to elope because her family AND the groom's were going bonkers with what they HAD to have at their wedding because of tradition.

This is OP's wedding, no? She isn't as concerned about appearances as she is about the meaning o the ceremony & caring about the people involved. OP isn't molly coddling & breast feeding these judgemental people...oh dear😱 They'll continue ta interfere in other areas o this couple's lives if she caves. And she's teaching this 15yr old how ta be more confident as an individual. Well played OP, Well played.

"I am a girl. I am dressed" 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

The girl is 15, let her live her life her way and make her own choices. Let her be comfortable. Just let her be herself. I can't stand dictators, if somebody tries to control me, and my life, they got 20 foul mouthed words coming at them with 2 middle fingers. F**K that being a puppet on a string b******t, the bride/aunt in law is NOT the a*****e. The mother and grandmother aren't assholes either, they're bitches. Well, anyway, I hope the wedding turns out good and everyone enjoys themselves, especially the bride and groom, and this 15 year old girl 🤞🏻🤞🏻

I dunno why people care so much about others personal choices. If you want to wear a dress wear one, if you don’t then wear pants, but let people decide for themselves. Holy hell why is that so hard?

Sweetest bride I have heard of in a loooong time! I was the same way as a teen and I wear dresses, now. They were just not practical for the type of activities I did when I was teen. I have a niece of the same age and of the same mindset. She's actually my husband's blood-niece and our family talks c**p to her the same way. I'm constantly sticking up for her over it and will continue to do so because I understand how it feels to be alone on something like that. My dad's side of the family embraced my style (mostly because I come from a ranching background & dresses were not ideal), but my mom's side had "ideas" on what was "proper" for a "lady" to wear. 🤦🏻‍♀️

My daughters wedding party had two “bridesmaids” that were gay and one was a close male friend so no one insisted on dresses but funny enough I have seen the awesome young man dressed like Marylyn Monroe once and he looked fabulous so he would have gladly worn a dress.

I did the same for my wedding I just asked that what they wore followed the theme/colors (it was dr. Who theme and Tartis blue and rose gold) everyone had a blast because it was fun and they were comfortable with what they wore

You are certainly NTA, you are the cool future aunt. Personally, I would love to be in a formal dress, but I know that not everyone feels that way. It is very kind of you to allow your bridal party to decide what they want to wear as long as it matches the wedding colors. The mom is mad because she thought that this would be an opportunity to force her daughter to be more feminine and you are trying to be more accommodating to the girl's feelings. Stick to your guns and don't let the sister in law change your mind.

NTA. Please do not back down! I was a tomboy in my younger days and although I wore dresses here and there for “special” occasions, I hated wearing them. As I got in my teens, I never wore a dress, heck, I even wore pants & a nice shirt for my cousins wedding. I’m sure your niece will forever appreciate this gesture more. Your in laws will eventually get over it. But saying things like “dress more like a girl” constantly will hurt her more in the future because she’s not “allowed” to be herself.

Bride is doing great. Groom needs to step in and tell his own family to back off.

If ever there was a legitimate reason to go full on bridezilla, this is it! You are an amazing woman for recognizing your soon to be nieces distress and not only soothing it, but full on embracing it!! I dont know you, but I love you for that! Lol, we got married last Halloween.. we had a blast.. Darth Vader married my husband dressed as the Mandalorian and myself dressed as a dark Jedi and had an RC Grogu as our ring bearer operated by my nephew. You absolutely, unapologetically do you and be proud of it, ALWAYS!!

Why do you think you overruled the girl's parents? It's the parents trying to overrule You. If they bring it up, tell them that they already had their wedding, it's Your turn now. Your bridesmaids will pick their own clothing.

It's your wedding, not theirs. You decide what your attendants wear.

NTA, but the Future Husband needs to step in. This BS of not wanting a fight between his sister and fiance on the wedding day can be easily avoided by the finance clearly stating, it's our wedding, our decisions, the end. I'm so over hearing about fiances that don't give a s**t so they end up not supporting their partner and that's no way to start a marriage.

Sounds like she is going to really need op. And they did say she is the only one.... So she is navigating sexuality and comfort, self worth, alone. She is going to really be happy to have someone to at least listen and care. She is lucky and she is going to if she doesn't already know it.

Your such a nice woman to let your bridesmaids where whatever they want as long it matches the color i know a lot of people who wont do this stick to your guns and don't back down what your doing is giving me hope for humanity.

OMG I would nearly croak lmao if you went Bridezilla on that mom and told all bridesmaids (as an inside joke, just to get that side of the family's goat) to ALL wear suit/pant outfits and that dresses were ABSOLUTELY FORBIDDEN! I bet they would be entirely mortified, but the niece would just be laughing like crazy inside her head. I don't think I'd be able to hold in my laughter I'd have to leave. Now me personally, I'm a tomboy through and through. I'll go jump in the middle of a brawl and break that up real quick by putting everyone one on the ground while taking a few to the face in the process, or I'll go wrestle with the guys and come out laughing with a black eye. But I'm willing to wear a dress on special occasions just to please others cause I used to wear them when I was younger and they don't bother me.

Your wedding, your rules, and as little as possibe fashion rules always rings a bell with me I do like to hear. Seriously, I'll eventually show up at work dressed with no detail left behind, with the same purple for tie and hair, a solid, unmovable sidepart (... other than sidepart, I can't after 20 years with little to no attention, also fits my head shape pretty good), but ... but, on purpose, and also so over the top for an office job with little to no interaction with customers, ... Your wedding, your rules, and if you decide to not have rules, well, they can marry someone and set up their rules and see if their daughter shows up, can't they? I was at my parents' wedding.

My choice for "maid of honor" never wore dresses, so we changed the title to "maid at arms" and she got to wear a saber instead of a dress!

Kudos to this bride, this is how we become more accepting and make changes, and hopefully make people think about how they may be hurting others by enforcing their own tastes and rules. This girl needs an ally like this bride/family-to-be. She's making a profound difference in the young woman's life with her kind decision. The most important thing for weddings is that they're about love and unions of two, and having a fun time. If I had a wedding I would do the same, especially if my bridesmaids were covering the cost of what they wear. Let them be comfortable and hopefully get something they will be able to, or want to, wear again. And if the mom will only buy a dress, if I were this bride, I'd do all I could to buy it her chosen outfit myself and take her shopping for it, just the two of us, so she would feel zero pressure and could choose what makes her feel great.

“Overruling her parents“? The girl is 15. She can and should be wearing what she wants at that age.

NTA! You are one of a kind. For defending your niece. It is hard enough that when we're teenagers we are going thru puberty. Plus, everything else. I really hope that you develop an awesome relationship with her. Apparently, you are the only one in her corner.

When my son got married recently, I was asked to be the officiant. I wore nice slacks, pretty sweater, and new shoes. I was comfortable and looked good in my slacks. Leave the kid alone. She's fine.

Please, Please stick with the stands you took with the people who are trying to force that you girli nto a dress. She is just finding what she like and dislikes at that age. Yes it maybe only one day but it's a day she'll be comfortable and remember you stuck up for her. It sounds like she hasn't had that in her life. I been to weddings where the brides maids wore pants suits it was gorgeous.

Umm it's their wedding and it's up to them to decide how they want their wedding! If that means that their attendants can wear whatever they are comfortable in, so long as it is the right colour, then that's up to them NOT up to other members of the family. This young girl will love the support that she's getting from her new aunt.

In these times of hyper awareness due to information/media overload, it's hard to believe the parents didn't know exactly how their daughter would interpret their remarks. Kudos to bride for her informal request of just matching the wedding colors. She might also tell the girl's parents to butt out. Sometimes, despite all attempts to play nice, you and your SO have to recognize you are marrying each other, not the whole family. Adults understand this.

Definitely NTA, more like an angel of a person for standing up for basic human rights. As a kid and teenager I used to get the same remarks about dressing more feminine from my family, especially my mom and my grandma from her side, and I still don't feel all that comfortable in dresses though I love them visually and would like to wear them. Also that comment about starting to dress androgynous at an age when sexual harassment usually starts... yeah, definitely agree. Maybe I would've had other choices to make and probably would've grown up to be woman who feels comfortable no matter what she wear, instead of feeling almost naked when wearing a skirt or dress, if it weren't for guys pawing at me in public transport. So yeah, it might not be healthy psychologically speaking to carry such issues and limit myself, but it is what it is. People saying you are responsible for your own life as if it's oh so easy to do... donno what's with them.

NTA Who gives a **** what she's wearing on your wedding day? Silly people with their silly expectations. Everyone needs to fit in a neat little box. Many girls start wearing boys clothes when they start getting boobs. It's more comfortable and you don't get so much weird attention for it. Or maybe she has an entirely different reason for it. I was a tomboy as well as a preteen. My brother's friends thought that he had a little brother instead of a sister. In later teens I started doing more girly things. Then I went back to more androgenous clothing, wearing a tie and shirt etc. Now I wear whatever I feel like that day. Bottom point is: who cares?

Wish I knew how it turned out. I would love to imagine the bridesmaids all looking great in their chosen outfits!

Damn, what a great couple and she definitely gonna be the cool aunty. Yes, go full bridezilla! If both the bride and groom allow their niece, then so be it🤧