Woman Refuses To Contribute $500 To Fund Her Cousin’s Wedding, Family Drama Ensues

Family drama is something nobody is safe from. From discussing covid vaccines over Sunday barbecue to getting ready for your relative’s wedding, things can go wrong in a split second.

The latter has happened to a woman who had her wedding set for this year, but the engaged couple moved it to next year because of the pandemic. Meanwhile, her cousin has set her own wedding date scheduled just a day before the author’s, but “that’s a whole other story.”

The drama escalated when the cousin asked each family unit for $500 to finance her wedding. “I told her no because my fiancé and I are saving up,” wrote the author in a post on r/AITA. Everyone was left divided, and now the author wants to know if she was right to refuse to make the generous “donation.” Tell us your thoughts in the comment section below!

The author who’s saving for her own wedding refused to donate $500 to her cousin to finance her wedding, and now she’s not sure whether it was the right thing to do

Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

Here’s the full story of the incident which left members of the family divided

Woman Refuses To Contribute $500 To Fund Her Cousin's Wedding, Family Drama Ensues

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To find out what an expert had to say about this situation, Bored Panda reached out to Rhiann Janak, a professional wedding planner and the CEO of “Lucy Till French Weddings.” Rhiann told us that in her professional and personal opinion, “it’s tacky to outright ask for money from guests, even if they are family.”

“I’d advise this bride to downsize her guestlist and use the budget she’s saved or been gifted from her parents,” the wedding planner suggested. She also added that the couple may want to think of a destination wedding as a way to save money.

“Doing a destination wedding is often a way to save money on the venue costs as it is normal for guests to contribute to or pay for their own accommodation—if that accommodation is at the wedding venue itself, it can offset the cost for the couple. You wouldn’t expect someone to pay for your hotel on a vacation, and this is no different,” Rhiann concluded.

And this is what people had to comment on the whole situation

Woman Refuses To Contribute $500 To Fund Her Cousin's Wedding, Family Drama Ensues

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Pervinca 3 years ago

It seem to me that reddit users are surrounded by people with a great lack of common sense. Usually, at least where I live, the parents of the couple are the only ones that are expected to help financially for the wedding. All the other guests partecipate in the gifts ( usually you can choose the gifts from a list that is plenty of items with different prices, or you make a donations to help pay the honey moon) but they are not forced to pay a certain price (usually the more intimate the relations with the couple the more you spend, but it's not the rule). I find pretty offensive to ask the guest to pay a certain amount of money (especially a so great amount, not justified by the lunch you will attend). If someone make this premise, I will not attend the wedding.

29points

Dark.JuKo 3 years ago

No one should be EXPECTED to help pay for someone elses wedding. Not even the parents. If you can´t afford your own wedding, make it smaller or save money.

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Viviane 3 years ago

I can understand asking parents for help to pay for the wedding, but not other people.

5points

Gavin Johnson 3 years ago

Traditionally it was the parents of the bride that paid for the wedding, they were paying for their ownership of their daughter to be passed to her new husband. That’s why women traditionally take the name of their husband too, ownership. How very out-of-date eh? Personally I won’t attend any wedding which has any sort of financial or wedding gift related requirement. I’m attending because they (and I) want me to be at their special occasion, yes I’ll buy a gift but if it’s a ‘requirement’ then someone’s got their priorities wrong. I used to run weddings at a hotel, I can tell you that anything you can imagine is nowhere near as bad as some of the things I’ve witnessed, weddings occasionally rival WW3 for family disagreements and ridiculous requirements from brides and grooms despite what we may have advised them.

3points

InfectedVoice 3 years ago

Reddit has a terrible hive-mind problem, and most of the time it's being answered by teenagers who still live at home and have no real experience of the real world, just what they think they SHOULD say.

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labaguette🥖️‍🥖️‍ 3 years ago

I really want her to say “Here’s $500.”, hold out $500 and take it back, saying “oh right. This is your donation for MY wedding”

25points

Janelle Collard Premium 3 years ago

I love this! Hope OP can do it!

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Shelp 3 years ago

I was wondering if anyone would dare to say that they were, in fact, the arseholes, and most importantly what their reasons would be. But fortunately, no one did. How can some people be that entitled? Demanding $500 from each family member? That's beyond me.

24points

JessG 3 years ago

Lol, I also scrolled down to see if anyone was crazy enough to call the OP the A-hole. I was ready to shake my head and roll my eyes, luckily everyone agrees, and I honestly don't know why OP even had to ask this question. I guess it's because some of her family sided with the cousin, which is not only sad for OP, but certainly could leave her confused about her feelings here.

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Pervinca 3 years ago

29points

Dark.JuKo 3 years ago

No one should be EXPECTED to help pay for someone elses wedding. Not even the parents. If you can´t afford your own wedding, make it smaller or save money.

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Viviane 3 years ago

I can understand asking parents for help to pay for the wedding, but not other people.

5points

Gavin Johnson 3 years ago

3points

InfectedVoice 3 years ago

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labaguette🥖️‍🥖️‍ 3 years ago

I really want her to say “Here’s $500.”, hold out $500 and take it back, saying “oh right. This is your donation for MY wedding”

25points

Janelle Collard Premium 3 years ago

I love this! Hope OP can do it!

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Shelp 3 years ago

24points

JessG 3 years ago

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Woman Refuses To Contribute $500 To Fund Her Cousin’s Wedding, Family Drama Ensues

The author who’s saving for her own wedding refused to donate $500 to her cousin to finance her wedding, and now she’s not sure whether it was the right thing to do

Here’s the full story of the incident which left members of the family divided

And this is what people had to comment on the whole situation

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Woman Refuses To Contribute $500 To Fund Her Cousin’s Wedding, Family Drama Ensues

Share iconThe author who’s saving for her own wedding refused to donate $500 to her cousin to finance her wedding, and now she’s not sure whether it was the right thing to do

Here’s the full story of the incident which left members of the family divided

And this is what people had to comment on the whole situation

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The author who’s saving for her own wedding refused to donate $500 to her cousin to finance her wedding, and now she’s not sure whether it was the right thing to do