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“Parents Of Identical Twins, How Did You Avoid Getting Them Confused As Babies?” (35 Answers)
Telling identical twins apart can prove to be quite a challenging task, especially when they’re babies. And while their parents might find it easier to do than others, even they need help sometimes distinguishing their little ones.
Members of the ‘Ask Reddit’ community who are parents to identical twins recently shared their methods for telling their kids apart after one user started a thread about it. Ranging from using color-coded socks to marking them with nail polish or a marker, some of their ways were as useful as they were amusing; so scroll down to find the parents’ honest answers on the list below and enjoy.
Below you will also find Bored Panda’s interviews with two experts, educational consultant and author of Twin Dilemmas: Changing Relationships Throughout the Lifespan, Dr. Barbara Klein, and Professor in the department of Psychiatry at The University Of British Columbia and an expert in twin research, Dr. Kerry Jang, who were kind enough to answer a few of our questions about twins.
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#1
One had slightly green eyes, brown hair and would always lay on the right side when asleep.. the other one had a p*nis.
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#2
So this would be 2011, they put a hat with Baby A on my first son and hat with Baby B on my second as well as bracelets. I was with them the whole time for the weighing and vitals check and they take foot prints right away. For my wifes sanity she put a little sharpie dot on Baby A's sole of his foot. Then within a day, you kind of just knew. They're identical, but family and all their friends can tell them apart pretty quickly even if you try and trick them. It's tough to explain unless you have friends that are twins you understand it.
I still call them the wrong name but all parents do that. I called one by the dogs name once. That cost me an apology and a Lego set.
AtMostAFabulist 6 months ago
I am not a twin and my mom calls me by her dogs name. Of course she calls the dog by my name. That doesn't really do anything for me. I think I want a Lego set.
#3
Back in the 90s, a tiny drop of nail polish on the toe (careful to be sure they can't put their foot in their mouth. Different color clothing. Most importantly, using their names with them individually is super important. Repetition of their names means they will start to look and respond to their own name early.
“Genetics determines whether twins are identical or not. Just like eye color or height are determined by the genetic pattern they are born with,” Dr. Barbara Klein, educational consultant and author of Twin Dilemmas: Changing Relationships Throughout the Lifespan, explained.
While having twins means double the trouble, they also bring double the joy; and in the case of identical twins, likely some confusion as well, as they typically look, well… identical. According to Dr. Klein—a twin herself—it can be difficult even for parents to distinguish between the two of their little ones.
#4
I'm an identical twin, my mum used to put different socks on my feet, stripey socks for me and plain socks for my brother. But as babies do, we kept taking them off so I have no idea if I am the correct baby.
#5
When our twins came along, we decided to assign each a color – one was always in blue, the other in green. It started off as a practical thing, but as they got older, they each developed a preference for their own color, it became part of their individual identity. As funny as it sounds, that color coding stuck with them and now as teenagers, their rooms are themed around their colors, their gadgets and even their bikes. It's hilarious looking back at baby pictures trying to figure out who's who, but now, we can tell them apart by the color aura they literally chose to live.
Hey! 6 months ago
We figured our youngest son loved the color green. By his first b-day, all his presents were in green. Even his older siblings had noticed. Everything he wore was green, his room became green too, as well as his furniture. He's older and married now and still wear lots of green.
However, Professor Kerry Jang of the department of Psychiatry at The University Of British Columbia, an expert in twin research, believes that parents are observant enough to notice certain differences in twins, no matter how minor.
“Parents can easily tell them apart. The key is in some small and subtle differences observed, which are often physical,” he told Bored Panda, adding that even identical twins are not always 100% identical, as certain differences can develop in the womb.
#6
Silly story: a long time ago, when I was 12, I think, I learned this really cute girl from my class who I had a crush on had a brother. I met the brother (a year or two younger than us), and started a friendship - in part because he was her brother, in part because he was actually a cool kid. And so, over weeks, we developed a cool friendship, chatting about random things on the courtyard every now and then. Until one day I see this kid… standing next to his identical twin brother. And both of them look at me, smile, and say “Hey, how’s it going, ?” TL;DR: for weeks, I’d developed a friendship and chatted with both of them, unaware there were two of them. But, because I knew they were related to my classmate, we never bothered with names.
#7
My parents just…gave up lol they just mash our names into one name and call us both that
30 yrs later we both still get called “JohnJoe” like it’s one name 😂.
#8
Drew a mustache on one with a magic marker.
According to the NHS, roughly one-third of all twins are identical and two-thirds are not. Since the former kind of pairing results from a single egg that’s fertilized and then divided in two, the kids not only look identical but always are of the same sex as well.
#9
Painted the big toe nail.
It doesn’t take long as a parent of identical to figure out who is who. We had the toe nail painted for maybe a week before it was easy to tell who was who.
#10
My mom had identical triplet boys. One had a little birthmark/soft spot on his head that was easily identifiable, so he was good. The other two look exactly the same. My mom says she always knew, which I’d believe. My dad didn’t know s**t though and wanted to tattoo their initials on to their heels. Obviously everyone vetoed that and settled to painting the big toenail of baby 1 and leaving baby 2 blank.
Alyssa Phillips 6 months ago
I read a story about a family that did put a tattoo at the base of the hairline of the baby. It looked almost like a freckle and was done with topical anesthesia by a doctor's office so I suppose it was safe?
#11
Identical twins stop looking identical when you know them.
Mom said as newborns she color coded my brother's but it wasn't for her benefit it was for everyone else.
My brother's don't even look alike to me anymore.
6 months ago
I have identical cousin who were born when I was 5. I only saw them every 6 or 8 weeks, but could tell them apart fairly soon. I still have no idea how. They looked exactly the same. My mom would ask me how and I never had an answer
Some studies suggest that the number of twins in the world has never been higher: since the 1980s, the global twinning rate has reportedly increased by a third. But even though quite a few people in the world have someone looking exactly alike walking beside them, they might be very different personality-wise.
Both of the experts second the idea that the personality in twins can be very different. According to Dr. Jang, these differences often stem from undergoing different experiences.
#12
Identical twin here, my mom gave us each a gold bracelet with our name engraved on it.
#13
I’ve known about five sets of twins closely while attending school & university, after you get to know their personalities it’s easy to tell them apart.
As babies i’d recommend temporary tattoos.
#14
It wasn't that hard; one was always just a bit chunkier than his brother. That one also had a scar on his chest from when liquid was removed from his lung. The freckles are different. They sound different, have different mannerisms.
For my own ease I did dress them in different colors, and I tried to keep bracelets made of embroidery floss on them. That didn't work entirely to plan; one would always rip his off but the other really liked his bracelet and I had to replace it when it got worn for the first four years of his life.
People have a hard time mentally handling twins, especially identical ones, but they're just two brothers who look very related.
Spittnimage 6 months ago
She should've quit putting a bracelet on the one that didn't like it and they'd have a bracelet baby is... and no-bracelet baby is... 🤷🏻♀️
Whether or not they like having a sibling looking just like them might differ from person to person, too, depending on their views and experiences. However, Dr. Jang pointed out that identical twins don’t report anything good or bad about looking like their sibling. “[For them], it is just a state of being.”
#15
Not the parent, but uncle who helped out a lot - color coding. One of them ONLY wore purple and the other one ONLY wore pink until they were old enough to be able to remember their own names. Parents were INCREDIBLY firm that NOBODY change their outfits EVER without express permission to ensure nobody screwed up their system.
#16
Got some baby toenail polish. Baby A was painted pink, Baby b was purple. After they got a little older I could look at their face and tell. When they learned their names they would let you know if you got them confused.
Also baby b's cry was a little more screechy than her sisters.
#17
One of mine had a birthmark on his head that his brother didn't have. Once they got enough hair it got harder to tell.
geezeronthehill 6 months ago
My cousins had hair swirls in opposite directions. Which only helped if I was standing behind them.
#18
Have twin nieces. As an infant, one had something I was told is referred to as a stork bite on her nose; essentially a couple of very small veins on her nose. So was easy to tell as long as she wasn’t screaming as the wrinkles from a screwed up angry baby face would hide the veins.
After a year or two it was easy to tell by their bearing. Had very different attitudes, stances, mannerisms, etc….
#19
As a step-mom to fraternal twins and biological mom to identical twins and fraternal twins one thing i did with my identical twins is i always watched their eye color because though identical i was noticing how my identical twin daughters blue eye color would change so one of my twins has her left eye dark sapphire blue and her right eye light sky blue whereas her twin sister has her left eye light sky blue with her right eye being dark sapphire blue.
#20
I babysat identical twins. the parents dressed them the same and gave them names one letter different from each other. so name wise i couldn't. but visually i could. one twin was skinnier and smaller than the other. not by a dramatic amount but enough that you could see it. their father was clueless and just drew on the kids feet with something, so they were literally numbered. the thicker twin was 1 and the skinner twin was 2. also it was weird to see they had a favorite twin.
#21
Baby A had an internal fetal heart monitor, which caused a small scab on her scalp. Those first few days, that scab was our only reference - up until we did the one toe with nail polish trick.
#22
Fingerprint scan on iPhone.
#23
Color-coded socks - it's like giving each twin their own mini-fashion statement from day one.
#24
I was so afraid of mixing them up, when I brought them home they still had their hospital stickers tegadermed to their backs so that was helpful, lol but they were different weights so that also helped and it wasn't nearly the problem I thought it would be. Sometimes I can't tell them apart in baby pictures, and they definitely can't tell themselves apart, but I have no fears that they were mixed up.
#25
My father and his brother came home from the hospital at different times. Knowing my grandmother, she probably had a good handle on one twin’s mannerisms by the time the other came into the equation.
#26
I named my twins the same name, that way I don't have to tell them apart.
#27
You just look at them. They are not perfect copies of each other. The first thing I look for in twins is head shape. Often one will have a wider head and the other will have a narrow head.
#28
Spray paint one blue and the other red ...
Easy.
#29
My twins aren’t identical but you wouldn’t know it from looking at them. The big tell that they have is their hairline; baby A’s hair falls straight down his forehead while baby B’s swoops to the side naturally. Now that they’re getting more hair it’s tougher to use that to tell them apart using that but thankfully we can tell just by looking at them now.
#30
Girl identical twin dad here.
One girl had 2 identifying marks. She has a mole in the inside of her right leg, and a sugar vein on the bridge of her nose.
That made it super easy.
#31
Not identical, but close enough at birth that it was hard to tell them apart.
I did colors as someone else mentioned, but one has two scars from surgeries at 2 and 3 days old. When I was half asleep and delirious, I'd check for the scars. My cousin painted one of her twin's big toenails to distinguish.
#32
The hospital bracelets were invaluable to start, then we just painted one of their toenails. We had to really keep up with the repainting though, because if they were naked there was no way to tell them apart. Eventually we started dressing each in certain colours, and when they got old enough they got to pick their own colour. One had a freckle near an elbow we tracked as well.
I liked the idea of doing a Tomax and Xamot, permanent facial scar thing, but since they're girls my wife said that was a bad idea.
#33
I think dressing them in slightly different outfits or adding unique accessories like hats or socks works. Not only did it help you keep track of who's who, but it also will be a cute keepsake.
#34
Medical tattoos are a thing. They put a small. Dot or comma on the back size of one of the babies ears.
What do you think ?
Ali H M Salehuddin 6 months ago
Looking at the entries, I got the impression some identical babies are truly identical; some are not.
Dawn Bodtke 6 months ago (edited)
Had a neighbor down the street that had girl triplets. Parents had their ears pierced with different colors as soon as they came home, it was pretty common and I loved being able to visit and see if I could tell. Later in life I was best friends with a twin and hung out with other twin and her bestie. They looked totally different to us. In 7th grade they tried to trade place in school for a day. They got caught because one could jump rope and the other could not, lol.
Ali H M Salehuddin 6 months ago
Looking at the entries, I got the impression some identical babies are truly identical; some are not.
Dawn Bodtke 6 months ago (edited)
Had a neighbor down the street that had girl triplets. Parents had their ears pierced with different colors as soon as they came home, it was pretty common and I loved being able to visit and see if I could tell. Later in life I was best friends with a twin and hung out with other twin and her bestie. They looked totally different to us. In 7th grade they tried to trade place in school for a day. They got caught because one could jump rope and the other could not, lol.
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