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Veronica Has Tried Everything To Find Her Mother. This Photo Documentary Is Her Last Hope
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Veronica Has Tried Everything To Find Her Mother. This Photo Documentary Is Her Last Hope

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When she entered the foster-care system, her case-workers though this bright-eyed, happy little girl would be adopted immediately.

Learn why her search has been surprisingly difficult, and how we can give Veronica hope again.

 

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    Veronica’s documentary was supposed to dispel myths and hesitations about adopting teenage girls

    Things didn’t go according to plan. Her story was so much more complex – and more heart-breaking, than they expected.

    Veronica turned out to be more than a cute little girl with a bubbly adoption profile

    In fact, Veronica wasn’t the collection of hair-bows and smiles at all. Veronica is a teenage girl who has been searching for a mother for six years. Veronica is human, and six years is a long time to wait for your life to begin.

    Less than a year before, Veronica had hope that her latest segment on Wednesday’s Child would finally connect with an adoptive family

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    They say the best way to break a person is to give them hope – and then crush it

    Not just once, but over, and over, and over. Do projects like this documentary – and the torturous silence that follows – are doing that very thing.

    When she was asked if she wanted to be featured, did she said yes because it was expected of her?

    We forget that children in foster care have zero control over what they eat, what they wear, where they live, and where they go – everything they do is run by a system. We forget about the pressure on girls and women to agree to things that make them uncomfortable, just to get through the day safely.

    What Veronica wants most in the world – after being adopted – is to find a place where she can be of service

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    She wants to work and contribute to the world in a way that makes her feel valuable. After living in a series of foster homes, repeatedly shifted aside to make room for the next kid, she’d love to be irreplaceable.

    There are gaps in her knowledge that only a mother can fill

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    There are obstacles ahead where she will be stuck, terrified, and humiliated. For a child who has already faced more than her fair share of these experiences, it’s painful to know the road ahead will be more of the same – unless we can find a mother to guide her.

    As Veronica recites a list of things she cannot do, her shoulders slump lower and she curls inward until she’s in a ball on the sofa

    She’s been set up to fail so many times that it’s become a part of her identity

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    Her opportunities to shine – volunteering, cleaning, cooking, gardening, have been taken away, and all that is left are obstacles she’s not equipped to handle on her own.

    Veronica says, “I’m a person who would be grateful for anything. Just to be thought of”

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    Ashia Ray

    Ashia Ray

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    Hi, I'm Ashia. I'm a photographer and children's literature dweeb, the founder of Books For Littles, and a storytelling family photographer. I use my powers of photography throughout the Boston area to inspire compassion and unite families of all types. Follow my do-goodery adventures at www.ashiaray.com and www.booksforlittles.com

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    Ashia Ray

    Ashia Ray

    Author, Community member

    Hi, I'm Ashia. I'm a photographer and children's literature dweeb, the founder of Books For Littles, and a storytelling family photographer. I use my powers of photography throughout the Boston area to inspire compassion and unite families of all types. Follow my do-goodery adventures at www.ashiaray.com and www.booksforlittles.com

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    Fuad Mohammed Ali
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    8 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you she finds a loving home, but even if it's not to be, I'm sure she'll grow up to be a fine, caring young woman. In time, I'm sure she'll recognize that although she had a relatively difficult time, other orphan children around the world face a much grimmer reality. All the best for her.

    Fuad Mohammed Ali
    Community Member
    8 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope you she finds a loving home, but even if it's not to be, I'm sure she'll grow up to be a fine, caring young woman. In time, I'm sure she'll recognize that although she had a relatively difficult time, other orphan children around the world face a much grimmer reality. All the best for her.

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