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Husband Of 2 Years Asks If He’s A Jerk For Not Telling His Wife He’s “Fixed” While She Has Baby Fever
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Husband Of 2 Years Asks If He’s A Jerk For Not Telling His Wife He’s “Fixed” While She Has Baby Fever

“AITA For Not Telling My Wife I Had A Vasectomy?”Husband Of 2 Years Asks If He’s A Jerk For Not Telling His Wife He’s “Fixed” While She Has Baby FeverMan Asks If He’s A Jerk For Keeping Quiet About His Vasectomy While Actively “Trying” For A BabyHusband Of 2 Years Never Told His Child-Wanting Wife He’s “Fixed”, Wonders If He’s Being A JerkMan Wonders If He’s A Jerk For Hiding His Vasectomy From Wife While Actively “Trying” For A BabyMan Wonders If He’s A Bad Guy For Not Telling His Wife He Had A Vasectomy, Gets Called A Jerk By Online UsersHusband Thinks He’s Being A “Little Dishonest” After Revealing That He Never Mentioned His Vasectomy To Wife Who Has Baby FeverHusband Wants To Know if He’s A Bad Guy For Keeping His Vasectomy A Secret From His Child-Wanting WifeMan Told He’s Being A Massive Jerk For Hiding His Vasectomy From Partner After Seeking Advice OnlineHusband Of 2 Years Asks If He’s A Jerk For Not Telling His Wife He’s “Fixed” While She Has Baby Fever
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“AITA for not telling my wife I had a vasectomy?” – this online user took it to one of Reddit’s beloved communities to find out whether he’s indeed a jerk for lying about his vasectomy while still trying for a baby with his partner. The post has managed to receive nearly 17K upvotes and 2K worth of comments discussing the man’s cruel secret.

Husband wonders if he’s a jerk for hiding his vasectomy from child-wanting wife for over two years

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The author began his post by revealing that he’s been married to his wife for over two years and that she’s always wanted to have a child with him; moreover, he mentioned that they’ve been “trying” for some time, though the catch is that he had a vasectomy and never bothered to tell her.

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The OP is a father to 3 children that he had with his ex. His former spouse is now pregnant from her current partner and when she came over to drop the kids off, his wife was asking all sorts of questions about the baby and whether she knew the gender. The man then mentioned that his ex-wife knows everything about his vasectomy, as he did it after their youngest was born.

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Naturally, the author’s beloved partner did mention how excited she is to be pregnant – however, she revealed that they’ve been having no luck conceiving. The ex gave the woman a smile and instantly shifted her eyes to the author, piercing him with a concerned look.

She later texted the man expressing her disappointment and demanded that he reveal the truth to his poor wife who has been holding onto a false hope for several years.

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The author understands that revealing the truth will absolutely break his wife’s heart – yet, describing this huge secret as being “a little dishonest” seems suspicious, at the minimum; him purposely messing with his partner’s emotions and withholding this vital information since the beginning of their relationship simply can’t be justified by anything.

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Fellow Redditors collectively agreed that the man is indeed the bad guy in this situation







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Zoe's Mom
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. A whole new level of cruelty. I can't put in words how angry this makes me.

T5n
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. I think one of the proper responses to his actions would be to separate the organs(all external parts) but using a dull hedge trimmer.

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Zophra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plot twist - she does get pregnant (you know, miraculously because God willed it, /s). And then the YTA husband can't say anything to protect the lie.

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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read of something like this years ago: husband had a vasectomy, found wife's diaphragm, poked holes in a blind rage. Soon after, wife was thrilled by the "miracle" pregnancy and husband was wondering if he should 'fess up.

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Deborah B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't "a little dishonest" this is a relationship-ending betrayal. The first time she talked about wanting kids with OP, he needed to say "I've had a vasectomy, I don't want another baby". To let her 'try' for a child is unbelievably cruel.

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Zoe's Mom
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2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Wow. A whole new level of cruelty. I can't put in words how angry this makes me.

T5n
Community Member
2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Agreed. I think one of the proper responses to his actions would be to separate the organs(all external parts) but using a dull hedge trimmer.

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Zophra
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Plot twist - she does get pregnant (you know, miraculously because God willed it, /s). And then the YTA husband can't say anything to protect the lie.

-
Community Member
2 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I read of something like this years ago: husband had a vasectomy, found wife's diaphragm, poked holes in a blind rage. Soon after, wife was thrilled by the "miracle" pregnancy and husband was wondering if he should 'fess up.

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Deborah B
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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This isn't "a little dishonest" this is a relationship-ending betrayal. The first time she talked about wanting kids with OP, he needed to say "I've had a vasectomy, I don't want another baby". To let her 'try' for a child is unbelievably cruel.

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