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Mom Hilariously Roasts Mormon Mother After She Criticizes Grandson’s Hairstyle
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Mom Hilariously Roasts Mormon Mother After She Criticizes Grandson’s Hairstyle

Mom Hilariously Roasts Mormon Mother After She Criticizes Grandson’s Hairstyle“Take It Up With Your Lord And Savior Jesus Christ”: Woman Shuts Down Mormon Mom Over Son’s Hair“AITA For Using My Mom’s Religion Against Her After Insulting My Son’s Hair?”Mom Furious Daughter Made Fun Of Her Religion After Her Rude CommentsGrandma Thinks Grandson’s Hair Makes Him Look Like A Girl, Mom Insults Her By Bringing Up JesusWoman Makes Fun Of Mom Using Her Own Religion, Infuriates Her“Call John The Barber”: Mom Has Perfect Response For Mormon Mom Complaining About Her Son’s Hair“Ask [Jesus] To Get A Haircut”: Woman Roasts Mormon Mother After She Insults Her Son’s Long Hair“Take It Up With Your Lord”: Woman Snaps Back At Mormon Mom For Going In On Her Son’s Long Hair
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Grandparents interfering with parenting is nothing new. Many parents feel that they can still chime in on the decisions of their adult children. They can criticize everything from what the child is wearing to what they’re eating for dinner. And while being involved in your grandkid’s life is a sign of a healthy family, there are certain boundaries.

Sometimes, adult children are not afraid to stand up to their parents and draw the line. Some do it calmly and constructively. Others choose a less subtle way. Like this mom, who decided to roast her mother a little bit for criticizing her son’s long hair. Shortly after, however, she started wondering whether her response was too harsh, so she decided to check in with folks online.

Boys with long hair are still a novelty to some people, even in the year of our lord 2024

Image credits: TatyanaOt / Envato (not the actual photo)

Fed up with hearing insults about her son’s appearance from her Mormon mother, this woman decided to clap back using religion

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Image credits: YuriArcursPeopleimages / Envato (not the actual photo)

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Parents should allow children to make decisions about what their hair looks like

Kids can make questionable fashion choices. They might want to wear their wizard costume to bed. Others might want to watch their sibling’s theater performance in their hockey uniform. As hair is a big part of our identity, it’s natural for kids to want to express themselves through a haircut (or lack thereof).

When it comes to older kids and adolescents, parents should allow their children to express themselves this way. Clinical Psychologist Dr. Laura Kaster told Parents that encouraging children might be their best bet. “Parents control so much of their children’s lives that they should rejoice in having hair as a safe realm in which they can support body autonomy,” she explained.

Hair can be about many things: self-expression, gender exploration, and rebellion. Yet, at the end of the day, it’s just hair. It grows back if you cut it, and it can be cut if it’s overgrown. Ultimately, allowing children to have autonomy over their appearance is about creating a safe space where they can express themselves freely.

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“You, as a parent, are modeling your trust in your child’s choices, your unconditional acceptance of them, and encouragement of their individual expression of self, Therapist Dr. Courtney Glickman says. “Parenting beyond the binary provides [an] opportunity for children to explore who they are versus who society tells them they should be.”

People who are against kids looking out of the norm, like the grandmother in this story, often have internal biases and certain beliefs about gender. Glickman warns that trying to control or prohibit a child’s hairstyle can lead to gender dysphoria. “Try to reflect on how damaging it can be for a child to be pressured to bend toward conformity rather than feeling accepted as themselves,” she added.

Grandparents should question the methods they used as parents

Perhaps, as some commenters pointed out, it’s not about the grandma’s Mormonism, but it’s simply about her old-school views on gender, masculinity, and femininity. The advice blog for grandparents More Than Grand writes that instead of criticizing the parenting style of their adult children, they should support them.

According to a survey from the Pew Research Center, parenting today is objectively harder. Modern parents don’t only think about their child’s safety. They invest time and effort into their mental health as well. Parenting is also harder for women nowadays. Research shows that working women spend as much time with their children as mothers in the 1970s did.

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Grandparents should accept that, ultimately, they don’t know best. Their approaches to parenting might be going out of style or completely obsolete today. Experts now say different things about spanking, the clean plate club, or ignoring tantrums. Forced eating, for example, might result in a child developing an eating disorder later in life.

Most arguments between parents and grandparents stem from the fact that grandparents refuse to look up updated recommendations on modern parenting strategies. More Than Grand recommends grandparents learn more about modern parenting. “Talk to parents about what’s important to them, and be open minded about new trends like gender-neutral parenting.”

Some people gushed over the woman’s inventive wordplay

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Others thought her response was too judgmental

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And others called her out for being plain insensitive

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Kornelija Viečaitė

Kornelija Viečaitė

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Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Kornelija Viečaitė

Kornelija Viečaitė

Writer, BoredPanda staff

Hi there, fellow pandas! As a person (over)educated both in social sciences and literature, I'm most interested in how we connect and behave online (and sometimes in real life too.) The human experience is weird, so I try my best to put its peculiarities in writing. As a person who grew up chronically online, I now try to marry two sides of myself: the one who knows too much about MySpace, and the one who can't settle and needs to see every corner of the world.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

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I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Mindaugas Balčiauskas

Author, BoredPanda staff

I'm a visual editor at Bored Panda. I kickstart my day with a mug of coffee bigger than my head, ready to tackle Photoshop. I navigate through the digital jungle with finesse, fueled by bamboo breaks and caffeine kicks. When the workday winds down, you might catch me devouring bamboo snacks while binging on the latest TV show, gaming or I could be out in nature, soaking up the tranquility and communing with my inner panda.

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Michael Largey
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could have used Delilah for the name if her mother was at all familiar with the Bible. (She cut Sampson's hair.)

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Karen Bird
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4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Christian too but it seems like a dirty word or a sinister confession at times doesn't it? I like to mess with people's heads by acknowledgement of my Christianity then my flat out refusal to condemn people or hold negative opinions about sexuallity! Just go out, live your best life and be happy - god is infallible and thus doesn't make mistakes!

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Melissa anderson
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5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do religious freak believe that they can dictate what others do and how they live their lives? They sure wouldn’t like it if we try to do the same to them. Religious freaks are hypocrites with no integrity.

Alan Jay Weiner
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, religion may dictate their choices, but many non-religious people try to dictate what others should do, too. Even some of us atheists...

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Michael Largey
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She could have used Delilah for the name if her mother was at all familiar with the Bible. (She cut Sampson's hair.)

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Karen Bird
Community Member
4 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm Christian too but it seems like a dirty word or a sinister confession at times doesn't it? I like to mess with people's heads by acknowledgement of my Christianity then my flat out refusal to condemn people or hold negative opinions about sexuallity! Just go out, live your best life and be happy - god is infallible and thus doesn't make mistakes!

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Melissa anderson
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Why do religious freak believe that they can dictate what others do and how they live their lives? They sure wouldn’t like it if we try to do the same to them. Religious freaks are hypocrites with no integrity.

Alan Jay Weiner
Community Member
5 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be fair, religion may dictate their choices, but many non-religious people try to dictate what others should do, too. Even some of us atheists...

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