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There are certain things in life that should just go without saying: Don’t leave empty containers in the fridge. If you see someone trip while they’re walking, just avert your eyes and pretend you didn’t see a thing. Never comment on another person’s weight or say anything negative about their appearance. And please, say please and thank you!

There are plenty of rules that our parents instilled in us as children that we’ll never forget, but we didn’t all learn the same rules. So we’ve gone through a couple of Reddit threads where people shared the unwritten rules of life that they think everyone should be living by, to help you pandas, or anyone else out there, who might want to adopt some of these philosophies.

From social etiquette we should all know to phrases you’re obligated to say when you see an adorable dog, this list is all about life’s little silent rules. Be sure to upvote the rules you agree with, and let us know in the comments any others that you’d like to add to the list. Keep reading to also find an interview we were lucky enough to receive from Jeff Leitner, founder of Unwritten Labs, and then if you’re interested in checking out another Bored Panda article discussing unspoken rules everyone should know, look no further than right here!      

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#1

If a child waves, you wave back. If a child says hello, you say hello back. If a child calls you on an imaginary hand-telephone, you take the call on your imaginary hand-telephone.

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2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one is the best and most universal law. It may as well be written into governance.

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To gain more insight on the topic of life’s unspoken rules, we reached out to Jeff Leitner, founder of Unwritten Labs, which studied unwritten rules from 2018 to 2021. First, we were curious how Jeff defines unwritten rules and where his fascination for them came from. “There are two ways to explain what unwritten rules are — the technical, wonky way and the easy-to-understand way,” he told Bored Panda. “The wonky way is this: Unwritten rules are powerful, informal suggestions about how we should behave and what we should do to succeed in social environments.”

“The friendlier version is this: Unwritten rules are the ways we know we’re supposed to behave when we’re with other people, so they don’t give us dirty looks or stop being friends with us,” Jeff explained. “In families, unwritten rules are things like ‘Don’t air our personal business with outsiders’ or ‘Always defend your siblings.’ With friends, unwritten rules are things like ‘We don’t date each other’s exes’ or ‘We stop each other from doing stupid things.’ At work, unwritten rules are directives like ‘Don’t leave the office if your team is on a deadline’ or ‘Always defer to colleagues with more seniority.’”

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Be kind to people that are working. Food staff, medical staff, etc. Don’t take your bad day out on someone else.

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer That just because someone is family, doesn't mean they're a good person

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    Saggi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And stop giving people second chances. If they hurt you, and don’t give a f**k, stop seeking for their validation to feel your pain. “Giving second chances is like giving the shooter they bullet back because they missed the first time”

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    “I got interested in unwritten rules when a colleague and I were trying to figure out how to solve big social problems, like hunger and homelessness,” Jeff shared. “We saw that our society has everything it needs to solve those problems, but that social norms (which are unwritten rules at scale) were getting in the way. After that, I got interested in a few related ideas, like how all organizations actually run on unwritten rules.”

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    #4

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Never make fun of someone else's laugh, be it how they sound or how they look. Laughing is the most natural expression of joy and happiness and for someone to feel self-conscious about that because of other's comments is so brutal

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    Helena
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I apparently have a witch cackle. To that I say, I'll get you my pretty and your little dog too.

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    #5

    I live by this rule I made after thinking about things late at night.

    If someone does something that makes them happy and confident. If it doesn't hurt them or anyone else, animals included. Then leave them alone, let them do that thing. Let them be happy.

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    We were also curious if Jeff agrees with many unwritten rules or if he thinks we should view them critically and question them. “As weird as they can be, unwritten rules actually keep our organizations, families, and societies together,” he noted. “Think about it — when was the last time you read the employee handbook at work? Maybe when you first started, if your company even has an employee handbook? No, you know how to behave at work — who to be nice to, who to avoid, how to do your work — based on hundreds of unwritten rules you picked up by watching your colleagues.”

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    “Now that isn’t to say that there aren’t unwritten rules that get in our way," Jeff added. "We’ve all done stupid things because of peer pressure, which is essentially unwritten rules on steroids."

    #6

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer If someone asks for a tampon/pad and you have one to give, you give it to them. Even to a stranger

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    #7

    If they will cheat *with* you, then they will cheat *on* you.

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    “As for questioning unwritten rules, good luck with that,” Jeff told Bored Panda. “Most of the time, we’re following them unconsciously. We’re so accustomed to watching everybody for social cues and then doing what they do that we’re generally unaware we’re doing it — hundreds of times a day. And research has shown that we don’t like the idea that we’re responding to social pressure and unwritten rules. We’d rather believe that we’re strong-minded individualists — even if we’re really not.”

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    #9

    You must say "oooo big stretch" when a dog starts stretching. It's the law

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    Helena
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Without fail, when my dog yawns I say "that's some big yawnin' tiny doggin'".

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    When it comes to unwritten rules Jeff considers beneficial, he shared that he likes rules that tell us not to “punch down”, or pick on people who have less power than us. “If you think about it, there aren’t really written rules that prohibit bullying. We count on unwritten rules to tell people not to do it,” he explained. 

    “I don’t like the unwritten rules that tell us to ‘stay in your lane’,” Jeff added. “I think we defer way too much to so-called experts, who just keep doing things the way they were taught to do them. If we could somehow get rid of those unwritten rules, I suspect we could spark a lot of new ideas and solve a bunch more problems.”

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Don’t have strong opinions about something you know nothing about

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    #11

    Don’t put your music on speakers when in a public space. It’s not like everyone wants the same genre or was in the mood for music. Get your headphones.

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    Firstname Lastname
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Dude was blasting from a bluetooth boombox down the street at 7am on a Saturday when everyone was trying to sleep. Found him to be the epitome of rude. Besides, it's cold out, so headphones are like magical earmuffs.

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Horrible people wont always be punished for hurting others and it sucks

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    censorshipsucks
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    the rich won't be punished. the powerful won't be punished. This is why we have assassinations in this world. Because there is only justice for the middle class. The poor will never see justice till inequality is eliminated.

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    Jeff also touched on how the unwritten rules in a workplace might not be clear to everyone. He noted that it’s common for, within a company, an employer to not know the unwritten rules of their employees. “There are a couple of reasons for that. One, the unwritten rules don’t really apply to them,” he explained. “Bosses tend not to be as vulnerable to having fellow employees irritated with them. Two, some of the unwritten rules actually function as tips on how to work around the boss — how to stay on their good side, how to get the best projects, or how to get promoted.”

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    #13

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer If you're borrowing it for a third time, you need one of your own.

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    Helena
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I've always thought that subdivisions or apartment complexes etc should have a place where you can check out 'occasional' items. When you don't need things on a regular basis (small kitchen appliances, tools, etc, you'd be able to check them out from a library of items. It would be a solution to needing more square footage for things you almost never use.

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    #14

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Your mental health isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, people with mental health issues aren't best equipped to deal with this responsibility.

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    Don’t leave your shopping cart in the middle of the grocery aisle!

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    So how much power do life’s unwritten rules wield? “In short, unwritten rules are crazy, crazy powerful,” Jeff says. “Unwritten rules — the ones we’re aware of and the many, many ones we’re not aware of — have much more to do with how we behave than anything else. They are more powerful than written rules, our individual instincts, and our horoscope.”

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    “We’ve been wired to process unwritten rules for at least 200,000 years, long before we invented language. And while getting kicked out of the tribe isn’t fatal like it was back then, our biology and psychology still take unwritten rules really, really seriously.”

    If you’d like to learn more about Jeff’s Unwritten Labs project, be sure to visit its website right here. And then if you’d like to learn more about Jeff's other work and read some of his writing, you can find his website right here.

    #16

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Not everybody is your friend, be careful who you vent to. Many people only want juicy gossip and don’t give a s**t about you or your problems

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yep, I thought I could vent to someone but they ended up turning back at me and now have everything I said to them

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer It never hurts to compliment somebody on the quality of their work, their hobbies and whatever field is most important to their self esteem. It always goes a long way.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES. I try my hardest to figure out what people like doing and compliment them on it because whenever someone says I'm good at what l do, it's a huge self esteem boost.

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    #18

    There is absolutely no shame in going to therapy or talking to someone about your mental health.

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    Sometimes, it feels like life would be so much simpler if everything was just spelled out for us. And while that might become incredibly boring over time, we can experience a little bit of it right here for the next few minutes, by reading through this collection of life’s unspoken rules. Keep upvoting the rules you agree with and try to abide by yourself, and feel free to share any more rules for a better life in the comments below. Then if you’d like to dive even deeper into life’s unspoken rules, you can find another Bored Panda article on the same topic right here!   

    #19

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Before you enter and elevator, LET OTHER PEOPLE OUT FIRST GODDAMNIT!

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Social media isn’t reality

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    Mihai Mara
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Social media brings out the worst in people. Such a fake place. Sadly many believe what they see on social media and to become as the "influencers" they follow

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer If you saw someone stealing formula, diapers or food, no you didn't

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    Mihai Mara
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Actually stealing is stealing. Motives might vary, but it is still stealing. Imagine you having a shop. I haven't eaten for 10 days. I come in and steal bread and cheese. Would you still say "I didn't see that'? What you can actually do if you see something like that happening is trying to help that person, because next time they steal things they might get caught and detained. How you can help? Offer to buy those products for them. Put them in touch with NGOs that help people in need. Put them in touch with social workers that can help them.

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Don’t ask for somebody else’s opinion and get mad when they tell it to you.

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    AutumnSong2009
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes I told my old friend I didn’t like Taylor Swift and she got mad and said ‘you don’t have to tell people you don’t like her, it doesn’t make you cooler’ like geez, I’m just saying my opinion, plus no one asks you to talk about how much you love her all the time There have been so many times when people ask me what I think then tell me my opinion is wrong or something and it makes me really mad

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Do not swipe left or right if someone shows you a photo on their phone.

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    Michelle M
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s my mom. I always hold the phone firmly while showing her something.

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    #24

    Don’t mess up an apology with an excuse.

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    When driving a car, don't be nice, be predictable. People being nice leads to a s**tload of accidents.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There should be something to help make it predictable when a driver wants to make a turn...some kind of signal, perhaps

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    Turn on your headlights when it's snowing. I'm talking to you asshole with the white truck.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But do not use fog lights under normal or rainy conditions, they're too dazzling and you'll blind people temporarily.

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    Powerful Katrinka
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    California has a law that makes it illegal to drive in inclement weather without your headlights on. And they really do enforce it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Really? I'm in California. Every time it rains or is foggy all these people are driving without lights on. I'd say about 1/2. Drives me crazy! Especially when it's a grey car. The lights are not so you can see! The lights are so other people can see you! I've never seen anyone pulled over for this. But I'm in Southern California. Maybe it's different. We rarely have inclement weather so no one knows what to do when it happens.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or raining. Or foggy. Or just dark. And if you have DRLs, you may have lights on the front of your car, but you need to turn your headlights on for the back ones to come on, and your back lights are often all that are between you and being rear ended on a fast road!

    Rick Seiden
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And brush off your f*****g car! You need to do everything in your power to make your snow covered car look like it just backed out of a garage!

    Khavrinen
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    But I thought the proper way to clear snow off your car was to get on the freeway and let it blow off into the face of the car behind you! At least, that seems to be the way most drivers I see do it.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and don't use super bright leds or halogen bulbs, oncoming traffic needs to be able to see too.

    Stephanie Hatton
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And turn off your fog lights in dry, clear weather! You're just blinding the rest of us.

    listv
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    In a Canada, all cars must be equipped with running lights.

    Stymied Egan
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Word of enlightenment, most new cars turn lights on for you. If you switch to an older car, remember they are manual.

    Marie-Stephane Art
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And don't use your fog light when there is no fog! Especially if it is raining at night (to 90 percent of people in my area)

    Mickie Shea
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'm a call'n you out, not for reminding me to turn me lights, but for hav'n to name call.

    Evelyn Haskins
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Luckily-- here no snow, no blizzards, but often stupid drivers overtaking you and splattering mud all move the windscreen :-( but they'll get ther come-uppance wghen they stall on the flooded bridge :-)

    Karen Scheltema
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One of the tricks from driving in TX downpours is to also put your hazards on so that you can be seen from behind. This is also absolutely crucial if you ever have to park on the shoulder.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same when it’s raining or foggy. It’s not so you can see it’s so you can be seen.

    Cathy Comfort
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Turn on your headlights at dawn or twilight - talking to ALL the doofusses in grey sedans.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My favorite is when it's raining and everything from the sky to the pavement to the median wall to the actual air around you is GREY and there's a tiny grey car weaving through traffic without headlights on.

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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Turn on your lights when it's foggy, esp. if you drive a light gray car.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And don't switch on ANY light in broad daylight, unless you're on a motorcycle. A car is visible by size. We're not. Taking that contrast away does little to nothing for the car driver, but rids us of our visibility. If your car does not have those weak, little daylight lights, don't try to replace them with lights meant for nighttime use. They're for nighttime use.

    Bella Sennei
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This goes to all drivers with silverish, black, white, ... cars. When it rains, you turn on your lights. Even wenn it's just dark clouds, you turn on your lights. When driving in twilight, you turn on your lights. BECAUSE OTHERS CANNOT SEE YOU (or notice you too late) OTHERWISE! Just turn on your lights, ffs!

    Happy Onion
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or raining.... Or in fog.... You need to be visible from BEHIND as much as from the front.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Turn on your headlights when driving. Most cars have automatic headlights these days. Leave them on auto. "you can see the road" =/= "everyone sees you". YMMV. I live in Washington state where it is often cloudy / rainy.

    Carol Emory
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And turn on your lights when it's raining....to everyone with a car that is anything but a bright annoying color. It is really hard for people in front of you to see you are there without headlights on. Not having your headlights on increases your chances of being taken out by a big rig.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Snowing, or raining, or DARK... And don't use your brights while tailgating, it screws up night vision for the driver in front of you who's getting all that glare in their mirrors.

    Justin Trouble
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yesterday some moron like this crashed into the back of a huge snow plow, I don't know if they got hurt but I fu¢king hope so. Stupidity like that needs sever punishment.

    Linda R Ryan
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Same for when it's foggy. But on newer cars with automatic headlights, they may not turn on automatically in some conditions, so glance down to see if on. If not, turn them on. It may save your life!

    Jesse
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and don't turn the headlights on when you're facing a cyclist in the middle of town. Blind flight isn't fun

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My new car has an “auto” choice on the headlight controls. Automatically turns on whatever lights are appropriate for the conditions. Love it.

    Jane Hower
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or raining or at dusk!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Dark cars on dark days can't be seen otherwise!!!

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    #27

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer The quicker you accept that life isn't fair, the better.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There is a major difference between "life is not fair" and "people are not fair". The first one is just a condition of how the world works, the second one is a consequense of someone's decitions. The issue with "life is not fair" is that people often abuse that sentence to justify their own crappy behaviour, when in fact they could do things differently and generate a more fair outcome. Though life is not fair, there are still a lot of measures we could take to compensate for the effect of this fact. E.g. though illnesses like cancer does not strike everbody equally, but involves huge element of luck, we can still do a lot to lessen the spread in the effect it has on people's lives through means like universal healthcare. We're not completely without influence on how our lives evolves -we can change a lot of things based on how we structure our own lives, or, on a greater level, the societies we build. Not using that option but just saying life is not fair, is not the best we can do.

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    #28

    You are the person you spend the most time with. Be someone you like.

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    #29

    That nothing will come from making someone feel horrible about themselves.

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    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Under promise and over deliver. People will think you are a genius.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Work out how long the task you need to do will take you, double it and add 50%, tell that to whoever needs to know. Complete the task in less than half the time you told them. Also allows for unforseen hiccups

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    #31

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Not pointing out flaws in someone’s physical appearance

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it can be fixed in ten minutes or less, mention it discretely - this covers spinach in teeth, open flies, or partially undone ponytail. Anything else, shut up.

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    #32

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Let go of what you can not control.

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    #33

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Give people their personal space. Not everyone wants to snuggle a stranger.

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    El Dee
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Everyone's personal space is different. If you're struggling mentally it'll likely get larger and if you're like my friend it's tiny. When we talk at a function I end up backing away gradually so we end up at the other side of the room..

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    #34

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Buy a plunger before you need a plunger

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    #35

    If someone does something unintentionally embarrassing or awkward you pretend it didn't happen and if they look at you you just smile and look away.

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    Saggi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Honestly, if this happened, it would make me more embarrassed, because people are horrible actors, and instead of having a slight hope that no one notices, now i am sure that everyone noticed and both of us are making this embarrassing.

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    #36

    If someone has headphones in public do not go talk to them. Unless someone is dying and you need their help, LEAVE THEM

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    Firstname Lastname
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As the person wearing headphones, this. I have to be nice and make small talk all day as part of my job. Headphone time is me time, and you making me miss the chorus to make more small talk is not helping.

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    #37

    Don't look through the f***ing gap of bathroom stalls

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    #38

    Life Is Complicated, Here're 30 "Unwritten Rules" That People Shared To Make It A Bit Clearer Surround yourself with people who will mention your name in a room full of opportunities.

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    #39

    If you borrow someone's car... fill up the tank before you return it.

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    Beeps
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And if you borrow an item of clothing or a wig wash the item before you return it!!! I have stopped lending costumes and wigs to my theatre group because I have had them returned unwashed too many times.

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    #40

    Single ply toilet paper isn’t worth the savings

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    #41

    Never cheap out on something between you and the ground. Never cheap out on a bed and shoes.

    You spend 1/3 of your life sleeping, a good quality sleep is everything. Good shoes can mean the difference between an 8hr shift vs a 12hr shift.

    I’m old.

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    #42

    Don't be rude to people who prepare/ deliver your food.

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    #43

    Admit when you've done something wrong.

    Trust your gut.

    Nobody thinks as much about you as yourself.

    Be kind. Don't be an a*****e.

    If you need help and it is available, ask for it, take it.

    Just because you apologize doesn't mean the other party has to forgive and forget.

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    Minath
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Parents can and should apologise to their children. My parents would never say sorry even if they were in the wrong,.

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    #44

    Always leave an area better than you found it

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    #45

    If you're on public transport and you see a pregnant woman or elderly person standing you give them your seat

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    Minath
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Or anyone with a walking aid. I stopped using the bus after no one would give up their seat for me. I walk with a stick and can't balance on a moving bus.

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    #46

    If you don't understand something someone is telling you, say so instead of pulling an "opinion" on the topic out of your a*s. There is no shame in not knowing or understanding something. Refusing to admit you don't know and by extension refusing to learn something new because your ego is hurt is gravely misguided, however.

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    Jon Steensen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It is a delicate balance though. There are such things as "you should have known by now" and e.g. exposing that you have failed to learn how to tie you shoes in first grade and have never cought up on the skill since, says alot about either your abilities to learn or your attitude and efforts. It may end up costing you a lot on the respect front and your relationship with other people may suffer as a consequense. However in most cases owning up to you lacking abilities and taking the actions to correct a wrong, can be the best thing you can do for "future you".

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    #48

    Your best friend may not consider you their best friend

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The concept of a "best friend" is very primary-school. Friends come and go according to geography and circumstances. Enjoy the ones you are with.

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    #49

    Life is too hard to be anyone except yourself. If you're not sure who you really are, try to find out as early as you can on your own terms because otherwise you'll still find out, just probably in some really tough times

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    Jon Steensen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    life constantly changes and you have to adapt to it. That means that you will discover sides of yourself at the different stages of life, that you can have a hard time imagining before you get some concrete experiences to hang them on. E.g. most people that end up divorsing their spouse probably did not see that one comming when they said yes at the church, and thought that the feelings they had at that time would last forever. But things happens and people change with time.

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    #50

    Life isn’t a TV show or a movie. Things won’t happen because “they’re meant to happen”. Sometimes you’ve got to create your own luck.

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    #51

    You can be wrong. It isn't a bad thing, either. And when you are wrong, acknowledge it, and learn from it, you don't need to dig down in your beliefs to try and comfort yourself because you can't handle not being right all the time.

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    JB
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I always told my customers there are no stupid questions unless you're asking them a third time.

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    #52

    DON’T USE THE URINAL IN YOUR DREAM! You’ll thank me later.

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    Saggi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean, I would rather not, seeing as I don’t have a d**k and whatnot, but i can give it a try.

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    #53

    1:
    Just because someone is of a higher status than you doesn’t mean that you’re below them as a human being. Stand your ground even when you think you’re wrong or if you think your opinion might be worth less.

    2:
    Fighting as an adult doesn’t make you look cool, it makes you look stupid.

    3:
    Don’t desperately look for love, but also don’t ignore it.

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    Alan Morgan
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You need to specify that you mean fist fighting. I have been fighting my local council for years over their rotten decisions. And where would the world be if Ukraine did not fight Russia, or if the Allies had backed down from fighting Hitler? Sometimes fighting is the right thing to do.

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    #54

    If you have to cancel on a friend, it should be your responsibility to reschedule

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unless it is a chronic issue, let someone cancelling slide. An introvert may not have the energy to cope with the world today, a mother can just be too exhausted, or the barista at the coffee house finally got the courage to ask out their favorite customer. We are friends for who we are not for what we do. However, someone who chronically flakes and doesn't say why shows the friendship is one sided.

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    #55

    Leave it in a better condition than you found it.

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    Kathryn Baylis
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And return it right away when you’re done with it. Don’t make the person you borrowed it from have to go on a scavenger hunt to get their stuff back.

    #56

    Don't ask for something if the person only has one left.(Gum, cigarette, piece of cake etc.)

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    The best answer to "have you got a spare x" is "I don't know I'm not dead yet". (Obv not in the case of food for the hungry and similar)

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    #57

    Arrive together, leave together

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    #58

    Think before you speak

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    #59

    Life actually sucks a lot of the time. If you expect to be happy all the time, you will be sorely disappointed and lost. Instead, work up a resilience to the hard times and take your time to enjoy the good times.

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    Saggi
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    See guys. This is why you have ✨low expectations✨. A lot of people are going to hate me for this, but imo, having low standards and surprising yourself is a lot better than being disappointed

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    #60

    Never trust anyone who proclaims to have answers to unanswerable questions. ie: what happens after you die.

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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your muscles relax. Your muscles loosen immediately after death, releasing any strain on your bowel and bladder. As a result, most people poop and pee at death. Your skin may also sag, making it easier to see your bone structure beneath. Your temperature drops Your blood gets pulled downward Your body stiffens. A few days after death, your body’s tissue breaks down, causing the stiff parts to relax again. There is always room for facts.

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    #61

    Escalators - right side is for riding, left side is for walking.

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    #62

    If you lack confidence, fake it. Constantly. After a while you won't have to fake anymore.

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    Jon Steensen
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah, some of the most dangerous people are the idiots with a huge level of confidence. Know your skill level and your limits, and say it if you don't think you can manage a task and get the help needed. That will result in a much better outcome than just confidently start doing something you simple cannot, and paying the price of failing (this price can in some cases be you life). Most people are tired of those fake persons they run into (consultants, salespeople etc.) who project that they can do anything and promises the world, only to be trapped and discover too late that the overpromised and underdelivered. Being honest about what you can do, and what you cannot, can be vertue. It makes you relatable and people tend to trust someone who knows that they are flawed, and works around it and learn, more than those who send out a signal that they think they are the best person in the world at everything (no one can do this, the world is simply too big for you to have enough time).

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    #63

    If someone asks you a question, finish what you’re saying with, “what about you?”

    Enjoy noticing how many people actually don’t do this.

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    #64

    What someone thinks about you isn’t your business.

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    Helena
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If it affects my income or my quality of life, it is my business.

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    #65

    You have a choice at every instance of your life. Sure each choice has its own consequence but again it is a choice. Whether you take a decision or not, it is also a choice.

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    Alan Morgan
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    One thing I have learned in a long business career is that doing nothing is always an option. And just occasionally it's actually the best option.

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    #66

    Never talk about how easy something was to get done whether it be a school assignment, task at work, or just something like a hobby of yours. You never know who you’re putting down around you.

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