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“AITA For Uninviting My Mother From My Wedding After She Called My Wife Indecent For Having Plastic Surgery?”
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“AITA For Uninviting My Mother From My Wedding After She Called My Wife Indecent For Having Plastic Surgery?”

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It’s no big secret that family feuds are inevitable. No matter how big or trivial, every household will find a reason to bicker – however, it’s a matter of how unhealthy the said reason is. 

Redditor u/aitamumuninvited’s then-fiancée was involved in a car crash that left her with visible scars. The woman was pretty self-conscious and eventually decided to get cosmetic surgery to fade them out – but, for some ridiculous reason, her mother-in-law wasn’t happy, which ultimately led to a serious altercation. 

More info: Reddit

Future mother-in-law calls woman “indecent” for getting cosmetic surgery on scars she acquired from a car accident

Image credits: Dominika Kwiatkowska (not the actual photo)

Her son argues that if she’s going to speak to his fiancée like that, he’ll disinvite her from their wedding

Image credits: Victoria Strelka_ph (not the actual photo)

Image credits: Karolina Grabowska (not the actual photo)

Image credits: aitamumuninvited

AITA for uninviting my mother from my wedding after she called my wife indecent for having plastic surgery?” – this internet user took to one of Reddit’s most philosophical and judgmental communities, asking its members whether it was a jerk move to disinvite his mother from his wedding after she degraded his then-fiancée for getting cosmetic surgery to fade out scars she got in a car crash. The post managed to garner nearly 17K upvotes as well as 828 comments discussing the situation.

Do you ever wish that everybody would just mind their own business? I bet the star of today’s article and his wife definitely do. 

Now, we all know that people are cruel, and some are more than others – however, we’d still like to believe that these characteristics don’t fall under the description of our close ones. But unfortunately for u/aitamumuninvited, he happened to learn exactly that about his mother.  

The thing is, the couple had been together for quite some time, and a few years back, “Sarah,” the author’s wife, got in a car crash that left her with visible scars. The woman had been hiding them with makeup, but she still felt pretty self-conscious and even postponed their wedding due to them. 

Forwarding to Christmas 2019, the guy received an unexpected bonus from work, and since the two already had a decent amount saved up for the ceremony, he suggested they use the money for Sarah’s cosmetic procedure that’d help to fade out the scars. 

Everything turned out perfectly, and Sarah was overjoyed with her new look. The scars were still pink, but they were supposed to become less visible with time.

The rest of the family sided with her and blasted the man for upsetting and uninviting his own mother

Image credits:  cottonbro studio (not the actual photo)

Life continued, and the couple was planning their wedding. Sarah then went dress shopping with the author’s mother, her mother, and her sister when the guy’s mom noticed the pinkish scars and wondered why they looked so different. Sarah explained that she recently underwent cosmetic surgery, and it seemed like everyone had moved on.

But this wasn’t actually the case. The post’s creator went around to his parents’ place to talk business with his dad when suddenly his mother chimed in, telling him that it was “immoral” to marry someone as “indecent” as Sarah and that it was “disgusting” that she’d had plastic surgery.

A massive fight ensued, and the man told his mother that if she was going to trash-talk his own fiancée, he’d have to disinvite her from their wedding. The woman broke down, and the man then left.

The rest of the family totally sided with the guy’s mother and slammed him for uninviting and upsetting her.

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Saulė is a photo editor at Bored Panda with bachelor's degree in Multimedia and Computer Design. The thing that relaxes her the best is going into YouTube rabbit hole. In her free time she loves painting, embroidering and taking walks in nature.

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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not plastic surgery, that's reconstructive surgery. And even if it was, who cares? People have been changing how they look for millennia, it's not a new thing.

Zedrapazia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That POS mom will be furious when she finds out that even make-up alters a persons appearance temporary

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Well-Dressed Wolf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a pretty bad and ugly scar on my shoulder from removal of a cancerous mole when I was a kid. It was lumpy, uneven, and huge. Had reconstructive plastic surgery on it years later, and while it’s still a noticeable scar (I’m prone to keloids), it’s so much less noticeable. Am I immoral too, according to OP’s mom? XD

Marcos Valencia
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're probably immoral, indecent, wicked, unprincipled, dishonourable, iniquitous, impure, dissolute and licentious. Nicest people are.

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xolitaire
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I - WHAT? Sorry but to me this feels as if a huge chunk of the story is missing here. Mom goes nuts about future DIL going through with reconstructive surgery? Why? Did no one ever tell her that that is not the same as cosmetic surgery? Is she overly religious? Super conservative? Or just nuts? Oy.

Leo Domitrix
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of the above. People like this equate all plastic/reconstructive surgery with Holllyweird (read: vanity, all seven sins, etc.). it never occurs to them that post-cancer, post-surgery (for injuries) that reconstructing scars reduces pain both physical and mental, to say nothing of emotional. The MIL-to-be is truly blessed in life to be that free of the need for such surgeries.... or screaming jealous she never got to have it.

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V
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's not plastic surgery, that's reconstructive surgery. And even if it was, who cares? People have been changing how they look for millennia, it's not a new thing.

Zedrapazia
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That POS mom will be furious when she finds out that even make-up alters a persons appearance temporary

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Well-Dressed Wolf
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1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I had a pretty bad and ugly scar on my shoulder from removal of a cancerous mole when I was a kid. It was lumpy, uneven, and huge. Had reconstructive plastic surgery on it years later, and while it’s still a noticeable scar (I’m prone to keloids), it’s so much less noticeable. Am I immoral too, according to OP’s mom? XD

Marcos Valencia
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You're probably immoral, indecent, wicked, unprincipled, dishonourable, iniquitous, impure, dissolute and licentious. Nicest people are.

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xolitaire
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1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I - WHAT? Sorry but to me this feels as if a huge chunk of the story is missing here. Mom goes nuts about future DIL going through with reconstructive surgery? Why? Did no one ever tell her that that is not the same as cosmetic surgery? Is she overly religious? Super conservative? Or just nuts? Oy.

Leo Domitrix
Community Member
1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

All of the above. People like this equate all plastic/reconstructive surgery with Holllyweird (read: vanity, all seven sins, etc.). it never occurs to them that post-cancer, post-surgery (for injuries) that reconstructing scars reduces pain both physical and mental, to say nothing of emotional. The MIL-to-be is truly blessed in life to be that free of the need for such surgeries.... or screaming jealous she never got to have it.

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