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Cold truths are hard to swallow for a reason. They strip us of the illusion that everything’s in our control and that we know things best. But in reality, that’s not how things work, and who likes to be told that?!

What’s a truth no one wants to hear?” wondered Redditor u/grubbseuph11 on r/AskReddit and people shared some illuminating and brutally honest responses, like the hard-to-digest fact that “friends will come and go,” and that “no matter how likeable you may be, there are always going to be certain people who don't like you, sometimes for no particular reason.”

So let’s get ready to be hit by a cold shower that should make you rethink this whole perspective on our lives, and be sure to check out our previous post with more hard truths right here.

#1

People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You aren’t a hero or even a good person just because you’re in the military

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Natalia Shoemark
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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

American brain washing... "thank you for your service"... I mean, yes, thank you! But war needs to be feared not celebrated!

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    #3

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You are much closer to being poor and homeless than you are to being super rich

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    Serial pacifist
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Also, I am closer to being a long-term BP commentator than a long-term professional writer 🤷‍♀️

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    In order to find out why exactly it's so hard to swallow a hard truth, and how we should react to it, Bored Panda spoke with Susan Petang, a certified divorce coach and the creator of “The Quiet Zone Coaching,” who teaches women how to stop feeling overwhelmed and start waking up happy in the morning again.

    “When we develop close relationships, we expect those people to be gentle with us, not hurt us,” said Susan explaining why hard truths are not pleasant to hear. “When they offer up a hard truth, it violates the expectation that the person isn't going to cause us pain. We want them to love and encourage us—but we don't always realize that a hard truth is being given to us with love and encouragement, with our best interests in mind.”

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    #4

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Bad people don’t always “get what they deserve”.

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    #5

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Not all babies are cute.

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    #6

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them “I don't know” is a perfectly valid answer to many questions.

    TheBrassDancer , Andrew Neel Report

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    Tim Pillinger
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I have a professional qualification where you have to have said "sorry, I can't answer that question" to qualify. My boss primed the customer to ask something silly.

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    “Often, what someone else calls a ‘hard truth’ we call ‘criticism,’” she said. “If a criticism is true, we can agree and apologize, then work to make it right—or we can ignore and deflect it if it isn't true.”

    Moreover, Susan said that when someone we care about delivers a hard truth, we should take that opinion more seriously, because this is a person whose opinion we trust. “I advise my clients to think about the intention behind the message. If the intention is to help us, prevent us from making a mistake, or intervene before we get hurt, it's worthwhile to consider.”

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    #7

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness, that is life.

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    Lauren Caswell
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Mistakes are unavoidable. Failure is unavoidable. We cannot run from it and need to stop being so afraid, because it's ok to not get everything right all the time, and like this says, sometimes it's out if your control

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    #8

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Some people are bad parents.

    Being funny or smart doesn’t mean you’re ready to take care if a human being (maybe even multiple) for a good chunk of your life.

    Please don’t get kids to fix a relationship either, I’ve seen this too much and it doesn’t work.

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    Rick
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I don’t have kids and don’t want them and it’s simply because I don’t want to spend all of my adult life looking after and raising a child, I just want to live my own and not worry about that.

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    #9

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Most people genuinely do not care about you or your opinions, which is just fine

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    Rick
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Unfortunately, social media has made a lot of people forget this rule.

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    Susan advises asking yourself if the "hard truth" is really true. “Be brutally honest with yourself—remember why your loved one brought it up to you in the first place!”

    “It's beneficial to hear a hard truth when we're hurting someone else, hurting ourselves, or not being true to our values,” she explained and added: “So situations that look like that would be drug/alcohol abuse, spousal abuse, child abuse, bad financial or career decisions, or dating someone married if you're religious.”

    #10

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them No matter how likeable you may be, there are always going to be certain people who don't like you, sometimes for no particular reason.

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    troufaki13
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You don't like everyone, so don't expect everyone to like you.

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    #11

    Most people shouldn’t have kids.

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    Andy Acceber
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    When you look at the impact of 7 billion humans at a time on the surface of the planet, yeah. This is probably true.

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    #12

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Having a University degree doesn't guarantee you a job

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    #13

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Life will never be exactly like it was before the pandemic started.

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    Gelato Cat
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    After the 1918 influenza epidemic came the roaring 20's which was revolutionary for both the arts and society, a similar thing happened with the renaissance, so who knows, maybe it will never be the same again for the better ( for those who have lost jobs/loved ones to Covid i am not minimising ur suffering)

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    #14

    You can't run from yourself. Moving towns, cities or even countries won't automatically change who you are

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    JuJu
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This should be way higher. It's important to be at peace with yourself otherwise you will never be happy.

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    #15

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Friends will come and go. You will have many friends who one day you will never see again.

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    K. Lange
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    and you will often learn it the hard way: when you would need them the most - they will disappear.

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    #16

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You are the main character in your life but you're just an extra in everone else's

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    #17

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them It's nice to be important but it's more important to be nice.

    RepresentativeWay734 , Brooke Cagle Report

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    Lauren Caswell
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Niceness, kindness, small random acts, these are one of the things I love about life. Even if they are few and far between. And doing them always feels good so it's a win win ^-^

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    #18

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Climate change is an exponential curve and we are entering the shoulder. Natural disasters are expected to increase 8x in the next couple decades. It gets worse after that.

    gandhikahn , Chris Gallagher Report

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    kristina law
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I live in Phoenix, where 200 people move to every single day. Also, where it will be uninhabitable within 20 years because of the rise in temperatures. Don't move here.

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    #19

    It just takes a second to destroy what has taken years or even centuries to make.

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    #20

    The world is 100% being run by corruption.

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    Andy Acceber
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I read this as "corporation," doubted it, then realized that was probably true too.

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    #21

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them War can come to your doorstep, everything can change. No country is immune. History clearly demonstrates this.

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    #22

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Not everything happens "for a reason" or because of something you have (or have not) done.

    Sometimes, things in life and the Universe go sideways and it's just your time to be caught in the crossfire.

    Emcee_Such_N_Such , Ryoji Iwata Report

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    Burs
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And please do not go to people in a bad situation and tell them that x “happened for a reason”. It doesn’t matter what you believe. Telling them that their mum just died, they lost they lost their job or they are severely ill “for a reason” is extremely invalidating and rude.

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    #23

    All your bones are wet right now

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    #24

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them If you don’t take care of your teeth when you’re young, you’ll regret it when you’re old. Brush twice a day, goddamnit.

    toothfixingfiend , Diana Polekhina Report

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    3 years ago

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    #25

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them If you’re chasing a romance or friendship… the other person doesn’t want to be with you.

    Magicman2444 , Toa Heftiba Report

    #26

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You’re not special… but that’s okay because everyone is not special together.

    BeechballMusic , Мария Волк Report

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    Kari Panda
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish we‘d teach that more. So many peope think they’re special and thus believe they’re entitled to something. You and your wishes/opinions/needs definitely matter, but so do those of everyone else.

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    #27

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them The odds that you die tomorrow is wayyy higher than winning on that lottery ticket.

    Swiftzword , Erik Mclean Report

    #28

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them There's no "health in every size". If you're over/under certain weight limit, you have a higher risk in getting sick. There's no "but-".

    cleanbroom , i yunmai Report

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    NsG
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I wish more people understood the concept of "risk". You can totally be 20lb over weight and still be healthy RIGHT NOW. All it means is that you are gambling that you will be healthy tomorrow or next week or next year. It is also not a guarantee. If there is a risk factor that one in ten overweight men will have a heart attack, and you gather nine of your overweight friends you cannot say with complete accuracy which one of you it will be. It is a gamble - some people are happy to gamble, and accept the fact they may lose. But there's a difference between knowing it's a possibility and being scared into thinking it's a certainty.

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    #29

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them People will hurt you

    vojili , Joshua Rawson-Harris Report

    #30

    You can't make someone love you if they don't

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    Scagsy
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a terrible movie trope. Keep pestering and chasing and eventually the other person will fall madly in love with you. Sorry, but it doesn't work like that. You will go to prison for stalking and may find yourself on the receiving end of somebody else's love. You don't want that. You really don't want that.

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    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them You won’t be young and beautiful forever.

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    K. Lange
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    that you are getting older doesn't automatically mean that you won't be beautyful anymore. The beauty just changes.

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    #32

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them That you need to stop procrastinating and get that thing you've been needing to do done already.

    PikaBirb44 , Annie Spratt Report

    #33

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Your boyfriend/husband is always going to find other women attractive.

    Milkie444 , Caleb George Report

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    Gelato Cat
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Ur partner will always find other people attractive ( weather they're bf/gf doesn't matter )

    Leah Williams
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    YES thank you, it's not like women don't have attraction the moment they're married!?

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    Foxxy (The Original)
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That goes for any gender. Nothing wrong with finding others attractive. What's wrong is when someone acts or tries to act on their attraction.

    Burs
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe it’s me but in my case there are two types of “finding attractive”. The “I want to look at you but nothing else” and the “I want you”. The first one is perfectly harmless but I feel that if you experience the second while in a relation you need to take a step back and think if you are good together. I have met a lot of attractive people the last years but none of them that interested me since I met my partner.

    Christi Stewart
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This goes all ways no matter your gender, who you identify as, and/or sexual preference. There is always going to be someone the most loyal partner will see and think this, famous or common.

    Marina Bailey
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My mother would actually point out women to my dad whom she thought he'd find attractive. (They had a very strong marriage and my mom was never threatened by this.)

    Tabitha Martel
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    My husband of 11 years and I do this too! And he teases me about my "type" and I tease him back. It feeds into honesty and communication.

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    Kathryn Baylis
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And your girlfriend/wife will always find other men attractive. Please substitute the gender that’s appropriate to your lifestyle, as this is universal. But none of it is supposed to be more than acknowledging good looks. If you love someone, you keep yourself to them exclusively. Do not act on attraction to someone else. You’ll certainly sabotage the good thing you already have, plus you may find out that person you destroyed your life for is a f*****g nightmare to live with, and wish you were back with the person you left. The grass is not always greener on the other side of that fence. You have to think with the smart brain in your head, not the stupid brain further south.

    Octavia Hansen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Doesn't matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.

    Leigh C.
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Looks are just looks. You're partner is with you because he sees you as more than just a pretty face and body.

    birdhouse
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This makes it sound like when a woman finds a partner they will never look at another person again and that men are pigs constantly looking to trade up.

    Jennifer Norton
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You and your partner will find other people attractive. There is nothing wrong with that. It's natural. Acting on that attraction is the issue. My hubby tells me about attractive women and I tell him about attractive men.... BUT we both choose each other everyday so it's all good!

    Wistiti
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is true, accept it. Also, keep in mind that attraction does not equate cheating.

    BoredHuman
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your WIFE or GIRLFRIEND will ALWAYS find other men attractive.

    Rachael Sampson
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Not just them.... but your wife/girlfriend will always find other men attractive too. For many men that's a tough pill to swallow too.

    Rich Hart
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you are honest with yourself you also find others attractive. that does not mean they will be unfaithful to you.

    Shane S
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You can’t stop it. And you can’t stop fantasy or imagination. But you can trust that your partner is faithful and will respect your relationship.

    Nikki Sevven
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your wife/girlfriend is always going to find other men attractive too.

    Ray_gunn
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Your girlfriend/wife is always going to find others attractive. But she'll probably do it with a great deal more finesse than you!

    Vicky Z
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Happens with all genders! We are just in relationship we are not dead! We have eyes

    El muerto
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    is the same with girlfriends and wives. gay, straight or whatever there is people out there that will look more attractive that you to your partner. and most of the time it doesn't mean anything!! please stop the gender bias bullshit

    Happy_Pandalover
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that is totally fine :). I want my partner to be able to recognize beauty in everything. Even if it‘s another woman.

    Donkey boi
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I was going to point out that this applies to ALL partners... but then I realised that my wife doesn't find people visually attractive.

    Leo Domitrix
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you will find someone attractive. Doesn't mean you aren't committed, loving, etc. Just means they're good-looking in your opinion.

    TheBlackPanda (JustABlackBear)
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is normal. If your relationship is good and secure, it shouldn't be a problem. I and my partner admire other attractive people together. We don't hide it from each other

    Soleil SanMao
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    2 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And I find other men attractive. And people find me attractive. So don't trip.

    Wednesday
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    You see someone attractive? Okay, that's cool... are you staring at them or trying to get their attention (whether or not your partner is there)? Well, then you're an asshole...

    Margareta Hagman
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    well i have noticed a big difference here, there are some men that when they are with one women really dont care to look at other women and then there are all the others

    Celtic Pirate Queen
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Um, yeah - people are attractive. WTF? Are you so insecure that your mate can't appreciate another person's beauty? Hell, my husband points out guys like "Damn, he got some guns!" I point out beautiful women. Acknowledging God's glorious handiwork shouldn't lead to such nonsense.

    Cybele Spanjaard
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Most people find some others attractive..( i.e. movie and music star idolisation) does not mean anything wrong to look but not automatically desire!!! Some folks feel special when their other half can admire others but never stray.

    Riley Quinn
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As will your girlfriend/wife. Being in a loving relationship doesn't preclude an appreciation of beauty.

    backatya
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's when he starts banging them is when you should worry

    LuckyPineapple
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That’s why my husband and I talk about hott people we see together. Your eyes don’t magically find everyone ugly when you get in a relationship.

    Rebecca Surette
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    All that means is that your SO has the appropriate amount of hormones. It is what they DO with that attraction that measures the person that they are.

    JD Lee
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Which doesn’t give them the right to make a show of it in front of you. That’s soul deep ugly guys.

    Anke Dieken
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As long as he doesn't act on it.. okay. We say "Appetit holen darf man sich, gegessen wird zu Hause", meaning "you may get some appetite but you eat at home". :D

    Craig Reynolds
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Truth and that isn't important! What's important is how they act or don't act on that attraction...

    PixxelDust
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    not sure about this one... any other demiromantics out there?

    DC
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that is ok. Love is a lot more than being attractive, and may even survive any attractiveness altogether. That's why it is called love, not horniety - that don't survive longer than a boner may stand.

    meester sernnon
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    it's healthy to be attracted, getting annoyed at them for it may only force them away from you. i've seen it happen, just keep making sure you're both happy and it'll hopefully end well

    Emma Gee
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    N Vice versa..... lol. Gender has nothing to do with this! What do men think that woman are just like... madly in love with them n only them forever once they've committed n they never look at other men? Honey, we probably check our 10x as many men AND women as you do.... we're just better at not getting caught. Lol. Men really believe women exist solely to be in love with them don't they?

    Brian Bennett
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew that when he married me - he certainly did not marry me for my looks nor I he!

    MoMcB
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    An older saying where I come from is if you stop looking you're dead- that is you can always enjoy looking at an attractive person. It's doing something about it that's wrong.

    Suz66
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Just like women find other men attractive. It doesn't hurt unless he or you act on it.

    chrissy goodman
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    my husband always says that if a guy finds me attractive its a compliment to him. and if a girl finds him attractive its a compliment to me. all couples should think that way

    HorrorEyeArcade
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    i honestly think that's ok, as long as they dont go to be with others during your relationship without your consent

    Julianne Hannes
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    3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And you wife will start to close her eyes and pretend your Chris Evans

    Kayla Albert
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Oh god!!! Listen people just because your in a relationship and you agree not to see other people that does not mean you get to dictate what your significant other can find attractive. If your jealous because your other looks at another person that's on you!! Fix yourself before getting into a relationship. Looking at another person and having sex with another person is totally different! Look the difference!

    Daisy Delafontaine
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It’s a bit sad if you don’t find your partner attractive… And stop assuming that all people are like this. It’s you not everyone.

    NJWanderer
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes, but they should not dwell on it. Your wife will always say I should have married so and so

    Dre Mosley
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And that's totally fine. Others don't suddenly stop being attractive just because you have a GF or BF.

    Chris Zaydel
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And thats not a bad thing or "hard truth", it's perfectly normal.

    Terilee Bruyere
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd be more disturbed if a partner didn't find others attractive. They still have eyes and their own personal taste. I adore my dog and think one of my cats is just the most unique little beauty around but I still go all "OMG adorbs!" if I see a cute dog or cat.

    Daria Z
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yes and it's cool. We even draw each other's attention to people the other one might find pretty/handsome, and then admire them together lol

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    #34

    We’ll eventually be alone, so it’s either being comfortable with ourselves or being tormented by loneliness later in life

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    Caro Caro
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    A hard lesson to have to go through. Loneliness is tough but loneliness in old age is not only tough but detrimental for your health too.

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    #35

    Staying with someone who cheated on you is never a good idea

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    Andy Acceber
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Who hurt you, OP, that made you believe this was 100% true for 100% of people 100% of the time? People are complicated. Relationships are complicated. Absolutes about either rarely apply.

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    #36

    There are some people who just are NOT going to like you. And you will have done nothing to deserve, cause or warrant it. Its not your fault.

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    Luther von Wolfen
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    There will also be people who dislike you because your actions harmed them. You can apologize, but they are not obligated to forgive you.

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    #37

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Your belly button was your old mouth.

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    Serial pacifist
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ...and, in your pelvis, the coccyx is a small bone of four fused vertebrae that would make up the tail if humans had one.

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    #38

    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Life is as much unfair and unjust as it is possible for it to be

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    People Share 40 Things That Are True, But No One Wants To Hear Them Oxytocin, the “love hormone”, also increases animosity towards those you regard as “others”

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    XSpooky_Mint
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    It must be from all those dog-gone cocoa beans. By the way, did you guys know that chocolate releases a property which triggers the release of endorphins? Gives one the feeling of being in love.

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    #40

    It’s not gonna be okay unless you make it okay. I often hear people say: it’s gonna be okay. Well, it’s probably gonna be okay, if you actually put the effort to make it okay. And sometimes, you have to let go, even the big things.

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    Burs
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    3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No. Many things cannot be fixed and pretending that it’s the persons fault is very cruel. A woman whose son just died is not going to be ok, it’s not her fault.

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