Upvote for "I made me strong". Brilliant.

For the longest time for me it was; "Stop being gay when grandma's over! it upsets her!" Like wow! Where is the off switch?

Piss off.

How anyone can compare divorce to death is beyond me. I looked this up on reddit and it was a few years ago, she is happily remarried.

I always found that insulting after my father died. I get people don't know what to say when one dies, but this was the biggest slap in the face for me.

Just reply: " you'll soon regret yours"... Oh you think that that's inappropriate?

If God supposedly never gives you more than you can handle, then please explain all the suicides, addicts, people with depression and other mental health issues etc.

I have had migraines my entire life. Once a doctor told me they were simply, "all in my head". Yes, yes they were. And that day it was right in my left temple. Some doctors are complete idiots with no empathy.

It is all code for "You are ultimately to blame for everything that happened to you." I even heard that the "power of attraction" means the Jews brought the Holocaust on themselves. No joke. It was in a book about positive thinking. WTF?!

I often invalidate my own experiences or pain by saying this. I think it's the guilt that I've been brought up with.

Yours maybe worse but this is the worst I have delt with. I hate it when people say that it is not a competition.

I'm so sorry you've had to endure this toxic comment. I've been waiting 15 years for a reason my healthy 26yo died.

My stepdad was an abusive alcoholic when I was little (in high school he was diagnosed with a chemical imbalance and it was treated, making him the most amazing dad ever). When I expressed the desire to divorce my first husband whom had been cheating on me for over a year with the same woman, and with other women in years prior, my mom asked, "are you sure that is bad enough for you to end your marriage??". Which made me stay for 5 more years. I guess in perspective, no, it wasn't as bad as what we had been through with my stepfather, but... really???

If you want children and can't have them then that's really sad and saying stupid stuff like that is cruel.

Why was that person in group therapy???

Her headache is in her head, no arguing with that

Perhaps there isn't someone for everyone but a lot of people have ridiculously high expectations. I have a permanently single friend who is not very handsome and will only date model-looking women (without much success). Gets offended when someone points it out to him and I know a lovely girl who fancies him but "he likes her but she's not his type looks-wise"...

Love isn't guaranted even if you date someone.

There is someone for everyone, but no one has time to travel the whole world to find that someone. A lot of people just don't meet that someone in their life.

Some people don't like romance

I beg to differ, if you look hard enough, you will find the perfect dogo for you. Sure it might not be a strong and strapping golden retriever or a slick looking doberman you have always dreamed about, but you never know. One day you might just be checking in at a local shelter, not really looking for anything series, no commitments, and then you find them, that shaggy terrier you can see yourself settling down with and will always be there to keep your feet warm. Never give up, the right dog...or cat (no judgement) is out there for you.

20 years single, I wish this was true

I do believe in the possibility of soul mates, but you can find love with more than one person, and you can have trouble finding love with even one person, i guess its partially how you view yourself and how you attract others, something as simple as saying loving words to yuorself can give you the confidence to see the beauty in yourself and may help to attract someone who will love you, if thats what you want, some people are happy alone

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Once on a bus after visiting my terminally ill mother in the hospital a woman turned the baby stroller around so that the baby faced away from me and said to her friend "I don't want anyone to look at my child like this". Bitch, I just visited my dying mother, I am NOT sorry that my sadness offended you.

"You're really stupid for a smart looking person"

Also on the internet. An opinion is ok, but you don't have to go out of your way to shout it out and hurt people by doing so. You can also have an opinion and not let the entire world know.

Why can’t you just acquire manners and a little decency?

That's a toxic family, especially the word "meant".

No. *acting* happy is a choice.

Tell me you're a sh1tty parent without saying you're a sh1tty parent.

You have the same amount of hours as Hitler and look what he achieved!

They meant well somewhat. Expectations can be bad, but that is meant totally different. Hard to explain for me in english, maybe someone could find better words? It’s like having the expectation to be loved coz you did something for someone. It’s the expectation you put on others to make you happy. That’s not how this works. You can only control yourself, your actions, your feelings (somewhat) But you can keep your expectations in check. Don’t confuse this with boundaries or rules, anticipation, or apathy. Sure you can expect your partner to be loyal, honest and so on, doesn‘t mean you can control them though. But you can control how much you trust them, and how far you wanna challenge this expectation or trust. Alot in life is about how WE handle it and less the actions put in front of us. We often confuse this actio/reactio as causality, neglect the control we ourselves have and put our life(happiness) in other people’s hands. That you might wanna prevent.

i never understood this one. if you can do it, then i can do it, because i am inherently better than you and so anything you can do is clearly within my superior grasp? is that what you're saying? or are you saying that everyone has exactly the same abilities?

"True. I'm a homicidal maniac."

Trust takes ages to build, actually, and seconds to get destroyed.

I'm okay with the body positivity thing. If it helps people let go of self-hatred, it's worth some annoyance.

Having depression and being a bit depressed as in temporarily down/upset, is not the same

I wish I could give this young woman a hug.

It's true but still shitty advice.

One of the most dumb ideas I've ever heard. I got group jumped by fellow managers when I told the lead manager I didn't know how to accomplish a certain task. They all gasped and looked at me like I'd took a dump on the breakfast table. One of the managers leans over and says you're not supposed to say that you don't know, you fake it till you make it. I went off on her and the rest of them. I was in the Marine Corps. That idea would get you killed or your team killed! It is best that you know each others strengths and weaknesses so that you can plan accordingly. If someone doesn't know how to do something that they should or need to in the circumstances then you provide the tools and education to raise them up, thus elevating the whole group. You don't leave them floundering in the dark, fearful of f'ing up because they're left to their own devices.

Ehm. No. There is stuff you can do. Seek help, collect evidence. Fight back. You often have choices, either you aren’t aware of them, or afraid, or afraid of consequences. There she should have helped you. I learned being silent is most often the wrong choice.

HR isn't there for the employees, they are there for the employer and for their own job security.

following that advice is the path to a eating disorder.

There's actually science behind this one. Studies conclusively proved that even a fake smile causes your brain to produce dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. I've used this to help me when I'm depressed, by seeking out things that will make me smile and laugh. And it does help me manage my depression.

I've learned that a LOT of people don't understand the difference between when someone needs a shoulder to cry on or an ear to vent to, and when they actually want advice or help. If you're not sure, ask. It's not helpful if you give shitty advice to someone who just needed to vent or maybe needed a "don't worry, you'll be OK" or whatever.

Actually that's true. If they have issues being with you or whatever, that really is theirs to deal with.