30 Tips And Tricks “Your Mom Should Have Told You,” But If She Didn’t, This TikToker Has Your Back
When it comes to valuable life lessons or just simple life hacks, we often turn to our mothers. Although sometimes they can really get on our nerves, we can’t deny that they teach you pretty much everything you need to know: from good manners and common sense to the most simple things like shaving or washing your hair.
Unfortunately, not everyone has had the best relationship with their mom or maybe didn’t even have one to turn to at all. But there’s a TikTok user that creates videos about "stuff your mom should have told you" and more than 112K followers really appreciate it.
Bored Panda collected some of the most relatable self-care and self-love tips from this account, so upvote your favorites and share your thoughts in the comments below!
TikTok user Natalia creates a video series about "stuff your mom should have told you", and more than 112K followers find it very thoughtful and relatable
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Leave Clean Bathroom After Yourself
If there's more than one person living in the house, remember to flush the toilet, change the toilet paper if you used it up. Clean the shower drain after you use the shower, pick up your wet towel and hang it to dry. Wipe the sink after yourself.
The content that Natalie shares on TikTok seems to be really relevant to her followers. Her videos are full of advice that mothers usually pass on to their children. Whether it’s tips about a skincare routine, personal hygiene or just regular life things, she's got you covered.
Natalia herself lost her mother to cancer when she was 13 and misses her every day. Some people comment that they also lost their mothers when they were little and hearing what Natalia has to say really helps them to heal.
To find out more about grief and how sharing your experience with others can help you cope with the pain, we reached out to a licensed mental health counselor William Berry. He is a practicing psychotherapist who also teaches at Florida International University. According to him, there are a number of reasons why discussing grief is difficult.
Staying Clean
You need to change your socks every single day, your underwear, every single day, your bra two to three days at most, your sheets, once a week, your towels two to three days, your toothbrush every two months, your pads, every three to four hours, your tampons, three to four hours, and make sure to use the reminder.
"your bra two to three days at most" Ha! As if I have the time and money to buy so many bras and wash them!
“For one, there is a pressure in society to put on a strong facade, and along with that, there is a fear of being a burden to others,” he explains. “Often, others do not know how to handle someone’s expression of grief, and it feels awkward, often for everyone. As such, there is a tendency to avoid the possible awkwardness.”
Due to this reason, many feel the pressure to “fix” these feelings of sorrow, rather than just being there with the person experiencing it: “This can lead to overly positive statements that are inappropriately timed. The person grieving may fear this, and thereby never share their grief.”
Egg Carton Trick
Put it in the sink and spray it all with water. Let it sit there for a minute. Once that's done, carefully squish it all out and look, an amazing idea for the garbage.
Cheating
If you make a commitment of love to someone, and you break it, there are no excuses. You don't accidentally flirt with someone else, you don't accidentally end up in bed with someone else. What excuse could there possibly be?
However, sharing your experience and feelings with others has its benefits, and there’s a good amount of psychological evidence to support this. “In an evolutionary sense, it bonds us,” he says. “Just the other day, a student shared something she read, the gist of which was it is our pain that bonds us. I believe shared pain can be a powerful connection between individuals and groups.”
Sweaty Armpits
Pat your armpits with a clean tissue, then grab some hand sanitizer, put on your armpits and wait another 15 to 20 seconds. You're all good.
This does work if it's an emergency but you shouldn't do it often because it'll dry out your pits
Make Sure A Guy Always Use A Condom To Prevent Any Diseases
Tear open the foil of the condom on one side. Be careful with sharp nails and/or objects. Remove the condom from the foil and check the top of the condom carefully. Place the condom on the erect penis, squeeze the tip (also called the reservoir) closed with 2 fingers to prevent air from entering the condom. Unroll the condom carefully, avoiding the condom coming into contact with your nails, this can damage the condom and cause it to tear during sex. For the safety of the condom, you can use extra lubricant on the condom. Always use water-based or silicone-based lubricants. All lubricants can be used in combination with condoms. Never use oil or Vaseline, this will damage the condom. After the act, remove the condom from the penis and tie a knot. Always use a condom only once. Throw away a used condom in the waste bin, never flush it in the toilet as this can cause blockages.
William Berry thinks that any form of sharing grief can really help. However, doing it on the Internet can come with a risk of potential rudeness: “People sometimes target others.” And although this can also happen in real life, he says that we tend to be a little kinder in person. “But any way of expressing yourself, especially in a creative manner such as this [video series], is helpful.”
Using Public Bathroom
When you use a public bathroom, remember that everything is dirty. So touch stuff only with your pinky or a piece of paper especially when you turn on the sink.
When you want to sit down, line the toilet seat with toilet paper.
Wash your hands and turn off the water with your elbow.
When you leave, remember that the door handle was touched by all the people who didn't wash their hands.
Do not line the seat with toilet paper. Toilet seats are actually designed to stay clean. Their shape and the material they are made out of were chosen purposely for its ability to kill germs. Bacteria doesn't survive on a toilet seat. Seat liners and toilet paper, however, are another story. The soft, spongy material they’re made out of is a breeding ground for germs and bacteria. By sitting on them instead of the seat, you’re actually sitting on more bacteria than were on the seat itself!
Organizing Your Underwear
Get a little box and put all your underwear in it. You need to change your underwear every single day. And for that, you need anywhere between 10 to 14 pairs of underwear.
And no matter what people say about granny panties being comfortable, hear me out - maternity underwear is better.
If you are experiencing grief yourself, just remember that it is a process and everyone experiences it in their own way. Berry advises to focus on accepting the experience rather than judging oneself for it: “All types of emotional responses to grief are normal: sadness, anger, despair, self-reproach, even relief in some cases. Try to have the experience and go through the process without negative judgment in yourself.”
When Taking A Shower
Remember to wash your hairline. Scrub your ears and behind them. Don't forget the back of your neck, your elbows, between your fingers, belly button and the back of your knees and don't forget to wash between your toes.
She forgot to tell you that you need to take your clothes of before showering.
Don't Share These Things With Anyone
Hairbrush, toothbrush, lipstick, your water bottle, underwear, razor, straws, spoons or forks, and a mask. These are the things that you should never, ever, ever share with anybody because of diseases.
Bag Of Essentials
Add to it: a hair tie, a deodorant, dental floss, a chapstick, sunscreen, hand cream, small scissors, hand sanitizer, super glue, a couple of pads, a hair brush, some baby wipes, and a couple of band-aids. This is going to be your essential bag for any emergencies and you can easily transfer it from one bag to another.
A Medicine Box
It should contain: Ibuprofen, aspirin (yes, have two types of painkillers), Pepto-Bismol, laxatives and some cold medication. Put it somewhere high away from your children.
You are better to have either aspirin or ibuprofen and paracetamol. Aspirin and ibuprofen are both anti-inflammatory, but not the same, meaning you can't mix them and it isn't good to have them within 8 hours of each other. Whereas paracetamol can be taken with aspirin or ibuprofen as it is a different type of pain killer, or within a shorter window of taking the others.
Staying Safe
If you're at home by yourself at night and you hear a baby cry outside, no matter what, do not go outside to explore, this is a common tactic by burglars to get you to come outside and attack you and they're going to get access to your home.
Everybody wants to help a baby. But in this case, the best thing is to call the police. Be safe.
How is that a common tactic? Never heard of that before. Probably an urban legend. Burglars don't usually want the homeowners around nor want to maim them. It puts them at risk of getting hurt, killed and caught.
Shaving
Put some baking soda in your palm. Add some bodywash. Apply on your armpit. Rub it, pat dry with a clean towel. Apply shaving cream. Very gently. Start shaving in small sections. No hurry. Rinse once you're done.
Don´t do this! Baking soda can cause rashes, irritation, and burning! Combine that with any tiny nick you can get whilst shaving and you´re not in for a good time.
Cutting Your Toenails
After a shower, grab some toilet paper and twist it. Put it between your toes. With a toenail clipper, start cutting at the base. Then use a straight nail clipper to get the corners of the toenails. Apply some moisturizer and you're good to go.
Never had to use toilet paper between my toes to cut the nails... nail varnish application, yes.
Taking The Shower
When you take a shower, do a quick cleanse to wet your hair and your skin. Apply shampoo, and then wash it off. Apply conditioner, get a loofa, apply some body wash and scrub your entire body. Yes, even your feet. Rinse off the conditioner and the body wash. Get the loofa, apply some body wash and go over your body one more time. Then rinse that off again. Before you get out of the shower, do a quick body squeegee, so you don't make a a puddle on the floor. Get a towel, pat yourself dry, wipe your feet. Then go to the sink and wash your face.
Washing Your Avocados
Once a month in the shower, you need to take care of your chest. You start all the way at the top and do little circular motions. Keep going down, cleaning every little part. Once you go all around, you need to check the middle too. If you feel any lumps, make sure to talk to your doctor.
Start in the armpit and then go all the way around the breast (avocados 🙄)
Brushing Your Teeth
These are the three most important moves. When you brush your teeth.
From gum go down and do the circular motion. Do it on the base of your teeth aswell. You need to do this on all the surfaces of your teeth, top and bottom and all the way in the back and the back of the teeth.
You also need to brush the inside of your cheeks and your tongue.
Grab a long piece of floss, roll it on your index fingers. Each time you move to new tooth, you just roll it a little bit and use a clean piece of floss.
My dentist told me and another dentist told my daughter to put toothpaste on the floss and floss before you brush, so when you brush you're removing the access and between your teeth can be cleaned better.
Brushing Your Hair
When you brush your hair, start with a detangling solution. Apply it all over your hair. Grab your hair, a little above your ends, and start brushing, not from roots but from the ends. Once you're done with that, go a little bit higher and keep brushing gently. Keep going higher and higher until you get to your roots. Now style your hair however you want, and remember you're beautiful.
Putting On A Pad
Wash your hands. Stick your pad to your underwear. Take the paper off your wings. Stick your wings to the bottom of your underwear. Three hours later, grab the top of the pad and remove. Fold it couple of times, put it in the packaging of the new pad and throw it in the garbage. Then wash your hands.
wow this is like COMMON SENSE for every women who ever used pads! what else should we do with pads? women who don't do it like thihs, don't do it because they're lazy, not because they don't know. what next? explain how to use a tampon?? is tiktok only for girls the age before their first periode?
Shaving Your Legs
Grab baking soda, put your wash, mix, apply to your legs and gently scrub, rinse, and let it dry. Then apply your shaving cream. With your clean razor and gently holding it by the tip, shave in small sections. When shaving knees, go sideways. When you get to your ankle, lift your foot so you don't cut yourself. Remember to shave your toes. When done, wash your leg and apply moisturizer.
Washing Your Hair
Put shampoo in your hand, lather it all out, apply to your hair, start scrubbing with your fingers all over your scalp. You can even use a shampoo brush for that. You should have a thick foam all over your hair. Spread your foam to the rest of your hair.
Rinse with warm water. Apply conditioner all over the length of your hair and rinse.
Applying Nail Polish
Base coat first, dry it off. Apply nail polish, dry it off. Once it's dry, apply a second layer and dry it off again. Apply top coat. Use an ear stick with acetone to remone any remaining polish.
Oh hell no! Drying nail lacquer with a hair drier only does the top layer and not the bottom, thus making easy to mess up. A thin brush works better than an "ear stick", and you can use acetone-free nail lacquer remover.
Putting On A Bra
Your band needs to come right at the base of your avocados. Try a strap on and adjust it so it stays firm on your shoulder. Turn the bra around, bend over and move the bra up so it fits the base of your avocados. Put your hand in, scoop them in so it fits perfectly, and still holding it on, put your strap on. Do it on the other side and you're good to go.
Taking Care Of Your Nails
After you wash your hands, scrub under your nails with a toothbrush, dry your hands, grab a large or a small nail clipper. When you cut your nail, leave just a little bit of space of your nail bed. Grab a nail file, file from the edge to the center in one direction. Cut all extra skin with a cuticle cutter. Moisturize for 10 minutes and you're good to go.
Nails on hands should NEVER be clipped with clippers, or even scissors. File them down with a glass nail file and always in one direction instead of back and forth. Oh, and NEVER cut them after a shower/bath, as they are weakened.
Leftovers
For the leftovers that have been in your fridge for 3-4 days, put it in the freezer to preserve any smell and when its fully frozen, throw it into the trash.
Shaving Any Area Of Your Body
If you want to shave any area of your body you need to apply body scrub on it first. Wash that off and apply some foam or gel. Lather everything up. When you use your razor, don't apply any pressure. Hold it gently from the tip and go in the direction of the hair growth. If the hair is long, go in smaller sections and remember to rinse often. Even if it doesn't look perfect, that's ok. Apply foam one more time and this time you go against the growth of the hair. Apply some moisturizer and you're done.
Using Toilet Paper
When you use toilet paper, make sure you use the inside of the toilet paper. Always wipe front to back.
Repeat that until dry and clean. Then get baby wipes and wipe again, front to back, give it a second to dry and you're good to go.
Toothbrush
If you're keeping your toothbrush by your sink, it's got fecal matter on it. Put it in the cabinet or plastic bag.
Taking Care Of Your Acne
Wash your face and hands. Grab a cotton pad, apply alcohol and rub your finger tips with it. Grab another cotton pad, rip it apart and put it on your fingers. This is how you squeeze any blackheads on your face.
And give yourself wrinkles and scars, and possible infections. Great job! /s
This is a woman who can afford to waste body wash, water, baking, buy multiples of towels and bras and insists on calling her breasts "avocados"....are we sure we want to follow her for advice?
by all means! I am washing my avocados with soda and mouthwash now.
Load More Replies...and again a tiktok article as useful as a snowman in summer... almost all of these are super obv or even just wrong! can we please stop the tiktok articles? and why did my mum have to teach me all this s**t and not my father? gosch
Didn't enjoy this article. Much of it is commonsensical, redundant (the egg carton and freezing food trick - just clear your trash) and ofc, why r they things 'mum' should have taught? Shouldn't it just be 'things adults should know'?
This is aimed at young girls who weren't taught any better. And sadly I think there are many who will really benefit from seeing this.
Load More Replies...This is a woman who can afford to waste body wash, water, baking, buy multiples of towels and bras and insists on calling her breasts "avocados"....are we sure we want to follow her for advice?
by all means! I am washing my avocados with soda and mouthwash now.
Load More Replies...and again a tiktok article as useful as a snowman in summer... almost all of these are super obv or even just wrong! can we please stop the tiktok articles? and why did my mum have to teach me all this s**t and not my father? gosch
Didn't enjoy this article. Much of it is commonsensical, redundant (the egg carton and freezing food trick - just clear your trash) and ofc, why r they things 'mum' should have taught? Shouldn't it just be 'things adults should know'?
This is aimed at young girls who weren't taught any better. And sadly I think there are many who will really benefit from seeing this.
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