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Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments)

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Girls grow up thinking that pregnancy is going to be one of the biggest highpoints in their lives. The reality, however, can be quite different. Weird body changes. One Google search after another. Yes, bringing a baby into this world is really darn cool, but the experience is full of surprises too.

Earlier this month, Reddit user u/BonkBoi_TacoFace submitted a question to r/AskReddit: "Pregnant women of Reddit, what is something you wish you knew before you got pregnant?" And their call was heard. Women immediately started sending in their answers, and as of today, the post has over 14,700 comments, many of which provide eye-opening insights into gestation.

Bored Panda also spoke with Vicki Broadbent, a writer, director, broadcaster, and founder of the parenting blog Honest Mum, to learn more about pregnancy and the challenges that come with it.

"The pressures on pregnant women and mothers is utterly palpable so please be kind to yourself," Broadbent, who also shares parenting advice and candid family moments on her Instagram account, said.

Continue scrolling and check out the full interview in between the entries!

Image credits: Vicki Broadbent / Honest Mum

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#1

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Nobody talks enough about how difficult breastfeeding is. You’re told it’s the “best” for the baby but then people assume it’s always a choice when it doesn’t work out. It’s not as if baby or mother automatically know how to latch and it can cause so much stress, which affects milk supply as well. There are physiological things with baby and mom that can make it difficult... and it can be extremely painful. I bled and my first even gnawed off a piece of my nipple. It was more traumatic than childbirth for me but I felt guilty about quitting. Advice to my younger self or new moms: breast is not best, FED is best. Don’t beat yourself up and switch to formula if breastfeeding is too difficult.

TwoIcedCoffees , fancycrave1 Report

Final score:

178points

Irina Deneva-Slav 3 years ago

That's what propaganda does to you, even if it's for something as positive as breastfeeding. A girl in my hospital room was so stressed out because her baby didn't latch immediately, she cried for hours and by the time they got to go home she was a nervous wreck. Nothing should be done at all costs, even if it's "best for the baby". Fed is indeed best, not breastfed.

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"I'd personally hoped for the best but planned for the worst with my pregnancies, as I needed an emergency section with my first baby which was a world apart from the water birth I'd dreamed of," the author of The Working Mom: Your Guide to Surviving and Thriving at Work and at Home told Bored Panda.

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"Now that I practice meditation, I know I would have leaned on that throughout my pregnancies and beyond to help center and soothe me. Free apps such as Insight Timer are perfect as they have over 80,000 free meditation exercises available, some only a few minutes long."

#2

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) That no matter how much you planned and wanted your baby, postpartum depression can happen to you and it is very, very real.
It is not something you can control. Hormones are liars. Partners of new moms, please pay close attention. Get help. Do not try to tough it out.

Drumwife91 , Megadeth's Girl Report

Final score:

156points

로희 3 years ago

I always wonder if women with mental health issue are more likely to experience postpartum depression (and whether it can get more intense). I have bipolar type 2 disorder but would love to have a child someday.

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A quick Google search would reveal there's plenty of information on pregnancy. Maybe too much. Not to some media 'filters', set in place to make this content appealing to a wider audience. Navigating such mazes can become really tricky. "I think parents and parents-to-be are discussing pregnancy more candidly than ever now thanks to social media but there are still barriers to information and education depending on where you live in the world and how much access you have to medical professionals," Broadbent said.

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#3

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) You do not have to enjoy EVERY minute of parenthood. It's ok to have bad days and days when you think your kids are jerks. You're not f**king this up - it's just THAT hard.

Drumwife91 , neildodhia Report

Final score:

148points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Yup, exactly. I can definitely relate.

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#4

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Do. Not. Join. An. On-line. Mom. Group.

No.

Impius_Operandi , Nenad Stojkovic Report

Final score:

148points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

I am on two Facebook mum groups and they are actually very supportive. Rude and nasty comments are deleted and the person banned. They are quite regulated.

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The Honest Mum, for example, had suffered from a pregnancy liver condition called ICP in 2010 which some studies have shown can result in stillbirth, and struggled to find enough information about it at the time. "Research was limited and I received opposing information from health professionals. Very few were openly discussing PND and birth trauma a decade ago, (I suffered from the latter) either in parenting groups or online (for fear of failure as a parent and perhaps fear their baby might be taken from them)."

#5

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Miscarriage is ridiculously common.

I say this as someone currently carrying a dead baby waiting for the NHS to give me a surgical removal.

rexrat , Free-Photos Report

Final score:

137points

tuzdayschild 3 years ago

It's not a failure and I have never been taught to think that.

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#6

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Having a baby CAN destroy your body for many women. Forget the “women have been doing this for generations” bulls**t, which I think can dismiss the very real toll that pregnancy/childbirth can have on a body. Many women suffer long term incontinence after birth, much of the time this can be improved with therapy but maybe never fully healed—and some women it never heals for. Your stomach will never look the same. I had a small waist and flat stomach before kids and now I have an unbelievable fat sack on my stomach and so many deep red stretch marks that haven’t faded. I gained a lot of weight despite not eating much due to bad food aversions. I’m leaking poop after giving birth due to a third degree tear and pelvic floor issues, and I’m told that there’s a high chance that future pregnancies and births will only exacerbate my issue, especially if it doesn’t improve soon. And I’m a first time mom and only 27!! WTF!! I don’t hate my new baby, but I certainly don’t know if I would say it’s “worth it,” considering my body feels ravaged and will never be the same. I basically lost 9 months of my life due to being very sick most of my pregnancy, and now will lose many more months due to a difficult recovery.

Miserable_Painting12 , Vasile Cotovanu Report

Final score:

113points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

Sending hugs to this lady. X

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Broadbent is happy that when blogging and social media really exploded, many writers such as herself found the courage to share their own experiences. "My piece on birth trauma has helped many women and many other similar pieces online are helping parents to feel less alone, and vitally able to reach the help they need to heal," she said.

#7

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Miscarriages are not spoken about enough. No-one tells you how much it's going to hurt nor how long your hormones will take ages to go back to 'normal' and how much it affects your mental health.

traceyjanie21 , 1388843 Report

Final score:

98points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I totally relate. You feel very alone.

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#8

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) How difficult it is to raise a teenager.

mference123 , marcino Report

Final score:

98points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

So not looking forward to this, I remember me as a teen. My parents are saints, honestly it's a miracle I'm still here.

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One study confirmed that pregnant women and those with young children place a high value on the information and support they receive from using online sources and apps. "They are accustomed to ready and immediate access to information using digital technologies and want better access to that offered by professionals," professor Deborah Lupton, the author of the research, concluded, adding that recognizing and finding ways to meet these needs should be included in planning healthcare provision and support for soon-to-be-parents.

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#9

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) You stop being able to sleep way before the baby gets here.
Everyone loves to tell me to 'sleep now while I can' but pregnancy leads to unexplained insomnia and I’m a total wreck already.

tibbymoon , Eli Duke Report

Final score:

95points

NMN 3 years ago

Hello my friend estrogen creating havoc at night

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#10

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) No one ever told me about the 'third delivery,' aka your first poop.
The first delivery is the baby, second is the placenta, and the third is the poop. I was struggling for so long to poop.

omOfRPM31 , aarsvoln Report

Final score:

93points

Tara Brooks 3 years ago

Anything to do with post birth is “suspiciously” never talked about because it’s the third circle of hell

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But this topic is relevant nowadays too. "Being pregnant during this crisis, however, has meant women are experiencing scans, losses, labor, and early parenthood in scenarios they would never have imagined. It has been an isolating, difficult time for most," Broadbent said.

So what to do? Broadbent suggests that parents trust their gut. According to her, no one knows a mother's body or her baby as well as she does, so if you have any concerns, act on those. "I've never been wrong about any cause for concern with my own kids, now aged 8 and 11. I feel I have a special connection/maternal superpower when it comes to my children and many other mums say the same," she explained.

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"I've been known to wake from a deep sleep with the urge to check on my sleeping child in the other room, only to discover he is unwell or has a fever. Learn to trust yourself."

#11

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Lochia, it’s basically the biggest “period” ever as your body expels the leftovers from carrying a baby, and it can go on for weeks. I will never forget being told that I might pass clots as big as a tennis ball and that was normal. So gross.

Also, babies in the womb can have hiccups. Hiccups are weird enough when they’re your own, it’s bizarre to feel someone else’s.

Obi-rice-a-roni , Cparks Report

Final score:

91points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

At least you got told about the clots. I didn’t and when I produced a golf ball sized one, I freaked out and immediately called the hospital.

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#12

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) For some people, labor doesn't start with water breaking and 30 minutes later there's a baby. My water broke and 29 hours later the baby decided to show up.

ksozay , Matthew Paul Argall Report

Final score:

90points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

That was me too, my labour started at 9.30 am, waters broke at around 10pm, my baby eventually cut out at 11:30 pm the next day. Sounds horrible but I would do again it twice over for my baby.

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#13

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) That everyone has an opinion on what you do whilst pregnant and how you want to raise your child.

black_lilies , Pexels Report

Final score:

89points

Sofie 3 years ago

Yeah, you get blamed for it all. It's all your own fault no matter the issue. And people can come up with so, so many things and try to force it on you. I'm pregnant and have an exemple for earlier in my pregnancy. I felt so nauseous that I absolutely had to stay home for a week before getting medication for it (glad it was treatable for me). Well before I had to stay home for that week, I told a colleague at work about the problem, I was feeling very sick. In case I suddenly had to runt to the bathroom. I couldn't stand many smells. She told me to walk around sucking on a clove of garlic always then nausea will disappear. I understand people mean well with their remedies, but many times it just leads to unneccissary (sorry, english is second language if I spelt that wrong) suffering. Sometimes you just need to see your doctor and get proper treatment. I avoid medication if I can, but I'm not gonna feel horrible if I can treat it, that's dumb.

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#14

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) You can mess with them in utero.

When I was close to the end of both of my pregnancies one of my favorite things to do was, when he would push up against my rib cage I would pound back a glass of ice water or eat a bowl of ice cream and as soon as that coldness hit my stomach he would back down. Also, my first liked to push his butt up against the front wall of my stomach pretty hard, so that there was a tiny little bump that you couldn't see but I could feel, so I could sort of grab it and shake it around a little bit.

uh-oh_oh-no , futurestreet Report

Final score:

89points

AzKhaleesi 3 years ago

haha my son would push so hard I could see his toes, so I'd tickle them.

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#15

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Baby kicks don’t feel like butterflies. They feel like something crawled across your skin quickly but from the inside.

chrisP__bacon , Greyerbaby Report

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84points

Doggo Froggo 3 years ago

*shudder*

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#16

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) How hard it can be to get and stay pregnant. Everyone imagines it will happen easily and quickly and, unfortunately, it's not the case for so many women.
And for women who've dealt with infertility or loss, how much anxiety you'll have throughout the pregnancy.

travelcbn , Nate Grigg Report

Final score:

83points

Franc Esca 3 years ago

And it's always assumed the issue lies with the woman's body, not the man's sperm

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#17

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) From my mom: I paralyzed her from the waist down for a few hours because I decided to take a nap on her spinal cord in the third trimester. The doctor's response was "yeah you'll be able to move again once they wake up." Pregnancy is pure body horror.

AbsolXGuardian , Masahiko OHKUBO Report

Final score:

83points

OpalTheRainwing 3 years ago (edited)

Oof I can’t imagine being paralyzed and knowing it’s was because of my baby I would will for it to wake up Asap

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#18

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) That not all gynecologists are competent. And if you have a feeling yours isn't, find a new one.

Mine was very personable, did my d&c for my miscarriage before my first born, didn't really give me any red flags until after I was pregnant again.

Long story short, he forgot (I guess?) to have me tested for gestational diabetes, and I had it. There were OBVIOUS signs that he didn't catch, that I didn't even know were signs until my new doctor told me. My son ended up having to be in NICU for 3 days after he was born because he couldn't regulate his own blood sugar.

Every doctor and nurse I talked to along the way was appalled I hadn't gotten tested. He also didn't catch that I was anemic the whole pregnancy either.

Thank God we're all healthy and happy now but looking back I should've changed doctors

Ghostseverywhere , orzalaga Report

Final score:

80points

River Webb 3 years ago

that guy should've been fired, if he's that incompetent who knows what will happen next time

31points

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#19

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Your body does not magically go back to normal once the baby is out. You have weeks of healing.
You either had your vagina rip or your stomach cut open, your boobs are still on baby mode, and you have a whole new set of problems now. Pooping will be terrifying and depression risks are higher.

Davis1511 , Crystal_1979 Report

Final score:

79points

Tara Brooks 3 years ago

Oh the horror!! Episiotomy flashbacks

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#20

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) If you lose 10% or more of your body weight due to nausea and vomiting, it is a BIG deal and could put you and the baby's life in danger. If your OB acts like it isn't, find another doctor!

written by a two time Hyperemesis Gravidarium survivor. Lost 42 lbs during one pregnancy and 35 with the other. And that was WITH constant zofran and IV's and a PIC line and hospital bed rest.

Lets-B-Lets-B-Jolly , Holly Lay Report

Final score:

76points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

When I was in hospital there was a woman in my room that was vomiting (mostly dry) ALL bloody day/night. She could barely walk coz she was so weak, couldn’t sleep, couldn’t keep any food or fluids down and in constant pain. You could hear it. Couldn’t imagine having to deal with that.

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#21

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) You’re going to need to pee ALL the time. And only a drop will come out. Then you need to pee again 15 mins later. The most annoying time is during the night when you should be sleeping, but instead you’re just getting up to pee every few hours.

prettydarnfunny , Rusty Clark Report

Final score:

74points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

The toilet was my second home.

16points

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#22

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) That cravings aren't just food. I craved dirt, particularly beach sand. The smell of the beach was excruciating, I just wanted to shovel handfuls into my mouth. I never ate dirt or sand and the craving went away when baby was born.

A friend of a friend told me she craved freshly poured asphalt so in a way I'm glad my craving was just dirt.

DoxieBalls , Clément Chéné Report

Final score:

70points

Ozacoter 3 years ago

Pika?

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#23

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Currently pregnant and due to have my first kid in about a month. Wish I’d known I would end up doing everything by myself. And I wish I’d known how difficult the 3rd trimester would be without a partner to help me. Or that the baby’s father would show up at the ninth hour with a new girlfriend demanding shared custody. I’ve always been a believer of “everything happens for a reason” but it’s getting very difficult to see the good in all of this.

kfl2021 , Frank de Kleine Report

Final score:

70points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago (edited)

Wow, sounds like you got rid of bad rubbish. And yes you can do it. Just don't be a die hard mum, ask for help and take everything offered. There are people there to help you xxx No one will think worse of you, quite the opposite, they will think you are strong and being the best mum you can be.

47points

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#24

Seeing a pregnant woman makes strangers:

Want to touch her and touch her belly. Which they often do without even asking.

Makes them tell their worst pregnancy and delivery stories. If they had a hard delivery, they'll tell instead the story of their friend who was even worse. It makes childbirth into a one-upmanship contest of horror stories, which is probably about the last thing any pregnant woman wants to hear, let alone hear it every time she's out in public.

countingin Report

Final score:

69points

EHops 3 years ago

I slapped a woman's hand once and she looked so confused! Like she wasn't about to touch a stranger without saying a damn word let alone ask permission. Being pregnant is wild

36points

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#25

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Stuff stays with your body afterwards. I developed allergies after I had my second child, and my feet definitely got bigger. Hormones are no joke.

Shakenbake1811 , cenczi Report

Final score:

67points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

Randomly my big toe on my right foot is always cold and numb. It's been 8 years now.

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#26

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Everyone talks about pregnancy cravings.... no one tells you that the opposite can happen. During this pregnancy, my 2nd, I had aversions to most food until about 22/23 weeks. I’m 27.5 weeks now and finally starting to feel better about eating, but certainly don’t have cravings.

mrsctb , homejobsbymom Report

Final score:

67points

lenka 3 years ago

It's wierd isnt it. I went totally off chocolate during my first pregnancy - in fact it was my first pregnancy symptom. I went to a chocolate tasting event with a girlfriend and litterally could not stand to eat anything there. Bought pg test on the way home.

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#27

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Pregnancy brain is REAL. It's not a joke. It's not exaggerated.
When you start forgetting, misplacing, and outright losing things, you can start feeling like you're also losing your mind.

TheWritingNeverEnds , Miia Sample Report

Final score:

66points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Doesn’t get better once they are born.

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#28

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) How I'd get loads of random skin changes.

Skin tags, so many skin tags!

Moles growing into skin tags then dropping off, like WTF body

Sandpaper dry skin, which I still get from time to time, just this one patch on the back of my right hand

My facial skin changing from t-zone oily to t-zone flaky and never going back

My psoriasis on my scalp going away, this did come back but not as bad

Hair - so you stop shedding hair whilst pregnant and you get really thick lovely hair. A few weeks after birth you start to lose all that extra hair. Literally handfuls will come out in the shower and it's really freaky

DuckyMcQuackatron , Matthew Bellemare Report

Final score:

64points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

My hair went from blond to almost black while pregnant, it never went back.

23points

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#29

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) You can order one, but get two.

YourAverageTiredDad , Dion Hinchcliffe Report

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62points

River Webb 3 years ago

buy one get the other free!

23points

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#30

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Each pregnancy is different, even with the same person.
I have three kids. The first pregnancy was very typical and followed the normal timeline. The second pregnancy was awful. I was miserable and sick the entire time. The third pregnancy was easy peasy and I finally understood why some women liked being pregnant.

Tallerc , Tony Alter Report

Final score:

61points

A.J Milne 3 years ago

The last sentence...what?

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#31

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) How it and childbirth can still kill you despite modern medicine.

First_Rose_Princess , Bradley Gordon Report

Final score:

28points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

Yep, it is called labour for a reason and not all mums and children make it. 😢

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#32

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) During labor, the 'water breaking' is not one rush of liquid. It’s continuous and can occur for several hours.
It’s horrendous and messy. It feels like peeing but you have zero control over anything and if you tense up then everything is much more painful and weird feeling.

notgrass87 , Eddie Awad Report

Final score:

26points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

My waters broke as my daughter was about to start crowning. There was a “POP” sound and a sac flew across the room and hit the wall splattering everywhere. All gave us a good laugh. Second time the midwife had to break my waters with what looked like a crochet hook.

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#33

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) What HG is, how to recognize the symptoms, when to call the doctor and how to advocate for yourself.

Basically HG means you get extreme nausea. If you tell a doctor you're nauseated all the time and are vomiting excessively, they will dismiss it a common pregnancy symptoms. However, vomiting 20-30 times a day is not a normal pregnancy symptom. If you start to lose weight and can't keep down food or liquid, you need to get help ASAP. Ask them to check for ketones in your urine - if they think you're exagerrating, the ketones in your urine will tell them you are not.

Don't take HG lightly and think it will pass. Your body needs food and water, and the lack of nutrients can be very dangerous. It can lead to hart problems, kidney failure and coma. HG doesn't f**k about, before modern medicine women died from it.

The sooner you get help, the easier it is to manage. If you wait until you're dehydrated like crazy, they will have trouble putting an IV needle in and it will take longer to recover. Also, stop eating and drinking healthy. If you're vomiting a lot, make sure you eat/drink sugar and salt to retain more liquid. Isotonic energy drinks are your friend. You might not be able to keep it all down, but they will help you a lot.

Also, anyone with HG or wanting more information on HG, feel free to message me. I'm not a medical expert but I do have first hand experience...

Trania86 , Lauren Siegert Report

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26points

Pinkpanda 3 years ago

Maybe stop using HG as a common abbreviation... what is that?

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#34

This is mostly a 3rd trimester thing, but that when you are active and moving, it kinda rocks the baby to sleep.

But as soon as you lay down to go to sleep, baby wakes up and starts kicking and spinning.

Might not be super common (?), but I knew a lot of other mothers who complained about this, too.

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25points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

All the bloody time.

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#35

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) I wish someone had warned me about muscle cramps.
I had to learn a new way to pop my ankles because every night I would pop them and get massive charley horses in my legs that my fiancé had to massage out.

BreannaMcAwesome , Quinn Dombrowski Report

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23points

Cynthia Bonville 3 years ago

Magnesium citrate at night (as your midwife).

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#36

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Your hormones are wild, literally making anything and everything that happens to your body a pregnancy symptom. Bloody nose? Pregnancy. Hands dry? Pregnancy. Itchy skin? Pregnancy.

ninten-dont , B Zedan Report

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23points

lenka 3 years ago

Soft fine hair growing across your tummy? Pregnancy. Light brown blotches on your face? Pregnancy. Random singular chin hair? Pregnancy.

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#37

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) My boobs hurt so bad. I hit one in my sleep and woke up in excruciating pain. I knew they would get bigger, but the pain was a surprise.

cat_romance , Jon Report

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23points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

Wait til they get full of milk or even worse, mastitis.

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#38

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Hair loss! After I had my kid I lost a ton of hair. I would pull fists full of hair during my showers. I thought there was something wrong with me because no one told me about this. Went to Google, totally normal and it happens to everyone. It grows back eventually and you’ll go through an awkward baby hair phase.

sm1020 , Wendy Burchfield Report

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23points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

Yeah, I was never told this one and I freaked when clumps and clumps of hair was falling out.

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#39

Sorry to be the Debbie downer but knowing things can go wrong in any situation. My first child was stillborn at 41 weeks after a healthy and normal pregnancy from a umbilical cord accident. Always trust your gut, count kicks, and advocate for you and your baby’s health

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22points

jen hadley 3 years ago

My heart breaks for you. I'm so terribly sorry for your loss

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#40

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) I had heard about sciatica pain but was 100% unprepared for how bad it could be.

photolly18 , in hiatus Report

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21points

Batwench Premium 3 years ago

I have sciatica and it is really bad. But the thought of having it and being pregnant! My heart goes out to this person, especially since they probably can’t take the pain killers for it.

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#41

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) That morning sickness isn't in the morning and that I would be puking the whole time, not just in the beginning.

daviana_roze4257 , MabelAmber Report

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20points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

30/40 times a day for 5 months. Not nice.

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#42

You can “do everything right” and have an “easy” pregnancy but baby is born prematurely. The kicker is you may never get a reason as to why

(Obligatory not pregnant but mom who had a baby in the NICU for over a month)

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20points

Memere 3 years ago

Both of mine were born a month early - I have a narrow pelvic girdle & there just wasn't any room so my body pushed them out!

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#43

Not every woman becomes a sex kitten and wants to have sex all the time. Some women literally want nothing to do with it. You’re tired, uncomfortable, and exhausted because hormones.

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20points

Pinkpanda 3 years ago

Is this in relation to pregnancy? Seems pretty general to me

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#44

Every pregnancy is different! This means some pregnant women can work out, hike, do their normal stuff just a little slower most of their pregnancy. Then there are some women who throw up the whole time, and they are weak and tired and just standing up takes time and effort. I was the latter, expecting at the same time as another in the former and I was constantly compared and judged. "working out is healthy for you and the baby, if so and so can do it so can you!"

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19points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I didn’t have terrible pregnancies but they weren’t enjoyable either. I never even got the glow that women are “supposed” to get when pregnant.

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#45

How being pregnant seems to make other people think they can make incredibly rude observations about your body that they’d never make otherwise!

Final score:

19points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago

I sometimes asked hubby and friends “Do I look fat, fat or do I look pregnant fat”.

6points

#46

If you have any underlying health conditions, they won’t be underlying anymore

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19points

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#47

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Your body produces a hormone called relaxin that helps loosen your pelvis in preparation for birth.
Some women get waayyy too much too soon and it loosens everything to the point you lose mobility and every day all day is painful.

Jen_Itals , lillie kate Report

Final score:

18points

AzKhaleesi 3 years ago

or you're like me and don't produce any of it, hello C sections.

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#48

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) Nosebleeds. Not currently pregnant, but when I was, I got nosebleeds every few days during the first and second trimesters.

creativeandwonderful , Mojpe Report

Final score:

18points

jen hadley 3 years ago

Nasal congestion from all the extra blood in your body! I couldn't breathe through my nose for months!

0points

#49

THAT IF YOU’RE NOT CAREFUL YOUR ORGANS CAN START PUSHING INTO, AND OUT OF, YOUR VAGINA.

It’s called a prolapse. It happens to an ALARMING number of post pregnant women, and it is completely disregarded by most idiot doctors who’ll just tell you it’s part of being a woman. It’ll probably hit you when you’re older, but if you’re unlucky like me you can have your bladder and rectum bulging into your vagina at the ripe old age of 25. Thankfully I don’t see it at the entrance (which would be a grade 3... grade 4 is when your vagina has turned inside out and dangling out of you) but I do feel like a tampon is falling out of me every moment of everyday.

If you are pregnant and reading this thread, go see a pelvic floor physiotherapist like, yesterday. And don’t listen to the doctor who will tell you to jump back into exercise 6weeks post partum. You can fast track yourself to fun prolapse issues if you dont know how to safety return to exercising. Or what exercises to avoid (I’m looking at you— sit ups and jumping jacks)

Oh, and don’t ever jump on a trampoline. Ever.

Avoid constipation, being blocked up and purple pushing your poop out can also lead to prolapse if you’re doing it too often.

And when they say don’t lift heavy things, don’t lift heavy things. If your breathing technique is out, this could push your weak vagina into collapsed vagina territory. Most women in POP groups (pelvic organ prolapse) comment how they did a certain movement and felt a “drop” and that’s when the nightmare began for them. Don’t wait for that drop.

Anyway I’m 36 weeks with my third and feeling pretty good and asymptomatic (aside from being cumbersome and huge) because I’ve been working on my pelvic floor health. It’s not entirely reversible (unless you’re a grade 1 prolapse) but further damage is preventable.

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Final score:

18points

Kaisa 3 years ago

This is scary. I'm in my early 30s with no kids and reading this makes me think that maybe i should stay without kids.

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#50

Women Are Sharing Things They Wish They Knew Before They Got Pregnant (30 Comments) I had a C-section and the gas pain was no joke. Had to sleep on an incline for days.

photolly18 , Shannon Report

Final score:

17points

ComfyPanda 3 years ago

Gas pains...this one gets me right in the feels.

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#51

I battled with anxiety a lot in my teens but managed to kick it through my 20s. Little did I know it would come back full force during my pregnancy. My anxiety caused severe depression for about a month in my first trimester before I realized it was NOT supposed to be like that. I was able to start on Zoloft and it made a world of difference. If you're planning on getting pregnant/in the early stages of pregnancy, I recommend speaking to a therapist regularly. If you feel your anxiety going bonkers or sense depression coming in, talk to your OB asap!

ninten-dont Report

Final score:

17points

#52

That current parents lie about what a joy it is to be a parent. Once you have a kid they are then willing to share how kids are a constant battle about everything. Yes they have their moments of awe and love, but the cute baby/toddler phase last 2 years, the whinging about what to wear, eat, going to bed, waking up, brushing teeth, doing homework last 18+ years with a scattering on aww moments to prevent you from going Homer Simpson on them.

coracat13 Report

Final score:

16points

Erin E 3 years ago (edited)

I tell people constantly. My husband and our youngest child get very offended. Edit: obviously I love my family. But I’m not going to play into the “oh it’s worth it” when my husband didn’t ruin his body for two kids. And my husband and kids benefit from me turning my life upside down to keep everyone else’s on track. There are plenty of things that are worth it, and plenty that aren’t.

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#53

The kicks are sooo unnerving. I never got used to them. I felt like I was in that movie Alien.

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16points

#54

That after you give birth, the blood that comes out for weeks will stink like a dead body.

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Final score:

16points

Natalie Kudryashova 3 years ago

So true. I was embarrassed during the nurse visits because even though she does it everyday it was still horrible. I felt like a fish market.

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#55

My wife's currently pregnant, and in the middle of the night my great dane gets up, and licks me in the face to wake me up about two minutes before my wife wakes up feeling ill. Every time. And the dog has never done this before in the 9 years we have had her. It's actually really helpful, but at 2 A.M. the first time it happened I was very confused.

Final score:

16points

#56

That your rib cage and hips literally pull apart from each other to make room for the freeloading being inside of you.

That there are WAY more symptoms than food cravings, morning sickness, and swollen feet.

There are some women that love being pregnant and there are some women that hate it. When you are pregnant you will automatically be surrounded by women who feel the opposite about it than you.

Final score:

16points

Katerina Huskova 3 years ago

Yes. I'm nearly 35, have two kids and people keep asking me about another one (like "what about a boy finally this time" 🤬 No, thanks 3 pregnancies almost ruined my health and sanity...

2points

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#57

Speaking as the husband, my wife was very annoyed when she learned later in her pregnancy the borderline miracle properties of ginger as regards morning sickness. Wished she'd known it from the git-go.

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15points

Cynthia Bonville 3 years ago

Candied ginger was a Godsend for me, totally got rid of nausea.

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#58

My first pregnancy was smooth sailing other than some bleeding in the first trimester. Went into labour and was doing great but the kid went into distress, decided to try breathing his own poop and had to be taken out the sunroof very suddenly. Hypoxic brain injury, two collapsed lungs, two weeks in the NICU, very sick baby. Nothing I could possibly have done to change that, apparently it just happens sometimes. Funny enough it gave me an IDGAF attitude for my second pregnancy because I realized I couldn't control the outcome no matter how much I microwaved my lunch meat.

(He's obnoxiously healthy, smart and active now and seems to have avoided the worst case scenarios. He has nothing but a speech delay to show for it at age 3.)

two__sheds Report

Final score:

15points

NMN 3 years ago

Ppl still think microwaving food is bad for some reason? Crazies. It will alter texture and you won't have the desired maillard reaction (browning), but doesn't puts nor remove anything from the food... it just heats up water molecules...

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#59

That you can get a horrible full-body rash. It's a rare condition called PUPPP. PUPPP occurs in about 1 in every 200 pregnancies and 70% of sufferers give birth to boys.

I gave birth to a girl. So I was in the 0.15% of women who get this horrible, itchy, mind numbing rash that I suffered with for over two months. I couldn't sleep, I sat half of my day in oatmeal baths. I cried A LOT. The only thing that stopped the itching for a few hours was Grandpa's Tar Soap because it left a coating on my skin that soothed or protected it somehow.

I NEVER want to go through that again.

QuidditchSnitchB_word Report

Final score:

15points

Katchen 3 years ago

I had PUPPP and also found some relief from Grandpa’s Pine Tar soap. That stuff stinks though. It’s like taking a shower inside a campfire.

0points

#60

I wish someone would have warned me about the constipation. Corollary: I wish someone would have warned me that "fiber supplement" does not equal "stool softener."

Today, we're at 26 weeks gestation.

InfernalWedgie Report

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14points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

Just wait until the hemorrhoids.

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#61

How comfortable maternity pants are. I was stubborn the first time around and didn't want to switch over from my regular clothes. Once I had to I regretted those extra weeks of discomfort all because of vanity

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14points

Erin E 3 years ago

😬 I wore maternity pants for far too long AFTER my pregnancies

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#62

That it's not uncommon to have thyroid problems or lose your gallbladder or both because of hormones etc. That feeling like the bottom dropped out of you weeks after giving birth is not normal and might require therapy. That it's not a good idea to have an OB who LOVES being pregnant and thinks it's easy because she will have zero sympathy when you struggle. That giving birth later in life can actually kick you into early menopause. Maternal care and aftercare is s**t in the U.S.

PlumSome3101 Report

Final score:

14points

#63

Not a woman, but i wish i knew the warning signs of preeclampsia, Girlfriend was 7 months pregnant at the time, and had been complaining of generally not feeling good with a constant headache that would occasionally break for a bit, i came home from work(i work overnights) to her sleeping on the floor and i eventually got to bed but i woke up 3 hours later to hear a thud and she was having a seizure, turns out she went eclamptic, she ended up having a c section, daughter was in the nicu for a bit but both are doing great now. What really put things into how close my girlfriend was to dying was the doctors and nurses saying how few people they've seen go eclamptic and one of the nurses said shes only seen 3 cases in like 10 years and 2 of them died.

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14points

Lily 3 years ago

:O

2points

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#64

I wish I'd heard the term 'mother's apron' before I had one. Like, there's warnings all over,"Your body's going to change!" and some specifics on how, but everything I read and heard was reassuring me about how it would all mostly go back eventually. I'm still pretty bitter.

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13points

Erin E 3 years ago

Yep.

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#65

The attention. I'm an introvert and I mostly try to keep to myself at work but that's impossible now. I was pretty small before I got pregnant and I'm now 30 lbs heavier so I'm really showing. People from other departments come and ask me how I'm doing, how far along I am, when the baby is due, what the gender is, if I've picked out a name, etc. It's exhausting.

xTIGERxCUBx Report

Final score:

12points

Maddie Star ⭐ 3 years ago

It's also none of their business. X hugs.

8points

#66

it may seem obvious but you will not sleep like you used to. i’m a belly sleeper and have had the worst time sleeping since like 15 weeks. pregnancy pillow doesn’t help! currently 36 weeks organs and i’m so happy there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. this is my first and i’m debating if I want to do it again. i’m sure it’ll all be worth it when I meet the sweet babe but we’ll see!

ninten-dont Report

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11points

Erin E 3 years ago

I still don’t sleep the same as I did before (15&17 years...)

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#67

That having a child over 40 is something like Bella in Twilight having that vampire baby. My poor body, I was sick and sore the whole time.

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11points

Cynthia Bonville 3 years ago

Not for everyone hon, maybe you would have experienced it before too. For me it was just a pregnancy like the rest.

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#68

That you don’t actually have 9 months to get ready. By the time you’ve missed your first period, you’re likely already four or five weeks along.

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11points

NMN 3 years ago

9 months from conception is different than the pregnancy or gestational age. The embryo is about 2 weeks less than the pregnancy age. If you discover at the 4th week, that means you still have 8months and a half to go. Considering birth at th 40th week - 9 months from conception. But it usually varies between 38 to 42 weeks (pregnancy age)

1point

#69

I wish I'd known to go to a pelvic floor physical therapist sooner! Better to prevent issues than fix them later

junkyardcorndog Report

Final score:

10points

Zenozenobee 3 years ago

In France, you get to see this kind of therapist and get the perineal rehabilitation done before you can go to sport. (and it's paid by the Sécurité Sociale because it's a medical prescription for everyone who gave birth).

3points

#70

Not currently pregnant, but I wish I was told about the constant swelling of my ankles & feet. I swelled to the point of needing to buy shoes a size & a half bigger.

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10points

Foxxy (The Original) 3 years ago (edited)

I actually went up half a shoe size when I was pregnant with my son, and it still is.

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#71

Not currently pregnant, but I didn’t realize just how exhausting being pregnant is.

Also if you like alcohol, there are alcohol removed drinks so you can still enjoy the tastes of wine and other cocktails! FRE is a good brand!

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10points

#72

That a baby can wedge it’s tiny feet under your rib and break it. Oh and they don’t necessarily drop later in the pregnancy. My wolverine baby clung to my womb until the last possible second.

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10points

Dippin Dot 3 years ago

Yep! My son broke my ribcage. I also puked to the point where I was popping blood vessels in my eye. They say babies stop kicking before birth, but not my kid- oh no, he kept kicking and they had to double-strap the monitors to me so they wouldn't slide off.

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#73

YOU CANT POOP GOOD.

I dunno if it’s iron in the prenatal vitamins, or hormones, or a combination. But I haven’t pooped as usual for months now. Prunes & prune juice are part of my every day diet and still won’t go back to normal.

Also: not every woman gets morning illness. Not every woman gets mad cravings 24/7. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong.

Finally, a couple of now-babied friends tell me you really should get some exercise while you can. It will make a difference in months 7 to 9. Yet to get there but definitely working out as I go.

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9points

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#74

Bread causes heartburn. During the later stages I lived off boiled potatoes and fruit only

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8points

Lj 3 years ago

Heartburn is real. For me it was more oily food etc. I also had to raise the head of my bed and fall asleep on my left side.

2points

#75

Been pregnant before, no one explains morning sickness. There is a difference between feeling sick and you know when you feel really sick like just before you vomit you can feel it at the bottom of your neck about to projectile sick. Had that for 5 weeks straight.

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8points

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

And despite all these problems it is almost impossible to be a childfree woman. Nobody respects you and sometimes they even prioritise your fertility over your health. I was denied three times a hysterectomy that I need for medical reasons "in case that I change my mind". My hypothetical children have more rights then me.

32points

Erin E 3 years ago

Ugh. That is incredibly awful. Not even in the same ballpark (as it wasn’t for medical reasons) but after my second c section I was told I was too young (22) for a tubal and we “might change [our] minds” (husband was 21). 15 years later, still two kids and definitely did not “change our minds” 🙄

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Anon Anon 3 years ago

I have a friend who has endometriosis, and doctors absolutely refuse to give her a hysterectomy because "she might want kids," which is total bullshit. She doesn't want kids at all. The poor thing might have to live the rest of her life in perpetual agony :(

3points

Medousa Fourchild 3 years ago

I've been told the same thing. I've hit 40 now and am hoping that childless thing will now be less of an issue and I can have a hysterectomy and regain my life.

1point

Tabitha L 3 years ago

Yep. I wanted to get an endometrial ablation due to horrid periods. Nope. "I may change my mind". My womb is more important than me.

1point

Maris Kurm 2 years ago

"you don`t deserve love,cause you`re childfree or infertile" was what I got told.

0points

Doggo Froggo 3 years ago

I regret reading this now..... at least it has enabled me to appreciate what pregnant women go through a bit more.

14points

Hanni 3 years ago

Just plan for a baby like you plan for other things in life...there are risks, and be informed just in case. No need to panic, most pregancies go smooth.

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jen hadley 3 years ago

PLEASE add this to the upper list... pregnancy can cause your retina to detach! I started seeing "bugs" flying in front of my face. Once we figured out they weren't really there I called the eye doctor and he told me to come in IMMEDIATELY. It turned out well for me, but if you're pregnant and start having visual hallucinations (flashes of light, dark spots) call your eye doctor RIGHT AWAY so they can intervene.

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Ozacoter 3 years ago

And despite all these problems it is almost impossible to be a childfree woman. Nobody respects you and sometimes they even prioritise your fertility over your health. I was denied three times a hysterectomy that I need for medical reasons "in case that I change my mind". My hypothetical children have more rights then me.

32points

Erin E 3 years ago

Ugh. That is incredibly awful. Not even in the same ballpark (as it wasn’t for medical reasons) but after my second c section I was told I was too young (22) for a tubal and we “might change [our] minds” (husband was 21). 15 years later, still two kids and definitely did not “change our minds” 🙄

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Anon Anon 3 years ago

I have a friend who has endometriosis, and doctors absolutely refuse to give her a hysterectomy because "she might want kids," which is total bullshit. She doesn't want kids at all. The poor thing might have to live the rest of her life in perpetual agony :(

3points

Medousa Fourchild 3 years ago

I've been told the same thing. I've hit 40 now and am hoping that childless thing will now be less of an issue and I can have a hysterectomy and regain my life.

1point

Tabitha L 3 years ago

Yep. I wanted to get an endometrial ablation due to horrid periods. Nope. "I may change my mind". My womb is more important than me.

1point

Maris Kurm 2 years ago

"you don`t deserve love,cause you`re childfree or infertile" was what I got told.

0points

Doggo Froggo 3 years ago

I regret reading this now..... at least it has enabled me to appreciate what pregnant women go through a bit more.

14points

Hanni 3 years ago

Just plan for a baby like you plan for other things in life...there are risks, and be informed just in case. No need to panic, most pregancies go smooth.

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jen hadley 3 years ago

PLEASE add this to the upper list... pregnancy can cause your retina to detach! I started seeing "bugs" flying in front of my face. Once we figured out they weren't really there I called the eye doctor and he told me to come in IMMEDIATELY. It turned out well for me, but if you're pregnant and start having visual hallucinations (flashes of light, dark spots) call your eye doctor RIGHT AWAY so they can intervene.

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