“Being Able To Fix Things Yourself”: 30 Things Young People Find Odd That Used To Be Normal
InterviewIt seems like social norms change annually, nowadays. It can be exhausting and confusing trying to keep track of how we’re supposed to behave in various situations, but for young people who haven’t been around to see these societal shifts, what they’ve observed is completely normal. We all have cell phones, we all should have social media accounts, and we should all be available 24/7.
Older generations, however, have a harder time accepting some of the changes that have come along, and recently, Redditors have been sharing some of the things they wish would become normalized again. Below, you’ll find some of their most insightful responses, so enjoy reading through and be sure to upvote all of the thoughts you agree with.
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The art of conversation. Just because I disagree with you on something doesn’t mean I don’t respect you.
Not being accessible all the time. Just because I have a cellphone doesnt mean I want to answer it at the supermarket, or while cooking dinner. Or while driving. Thats cool that my boss checks emails in his tesla driving 20 mins to work but I would rather not. I need a break
Before cell phones, if someone didn't answer the phone we'd just say, "Oh, they're not home," and that was normal. Nowadays, I wish it was just as normal to say, "Oh, they're not answering their phone," and just leave it at that.
Classes in high school like wood shop, home economics, culinary, machine shop, etc and just trade school training in general for those who don’t want to go to college.
US: standardized test scores are tied to funding, so no time for skill development (either manual or critical thinking). Kids learn that life is only about obedience to ham-fisted metrics analysis.
We reached out to the Reddit user who posed the question, "What things are seen as weird by the younger generation that we need to normalize again?" and lucky for us, u/Kvassalskaren55 was happy to have a chat with Bored Panda.
As far as what inspired him to start this conversation, he shared that he was just bored on a Saturday and decided to post something on Reddit. "I thought of a question to post in r/askreddit, but I had no idea that it would get this popular," the OP shared.
Can we re-normalize using headphones while listening to music or watching videos in public? Please? I should be able to study on campus without having to listen to someone else's s**t. I can't even go to the campus library without someone blasting their s**t.
Obviously not old enough to remember 'ghetto blasters' (yup, REALLY called that) These were extremely large radio cassettes with big speakers played at full volume everywhere from the 70s onwards until personal stereos became a thing. Before that it was 'portable wireless radios' These go back to the early 60s. Again, people have ALWAYS been a******s..
Being able to fix things yourself-sew hems and small holes, fix a toilet or garbage disposal, etc
We were also curious what Kvassalskaren55 would answer to his own question. "I think we should normalize talking to each other more," he shared. "I think today’s generation is missing out on getting to know people face to face. You never know who is behind the screen, it could be anyone."
On the other hand, the OP is appreciative that homophobia has become much less socially acceptable. "Everyone should be able to love whoever they want without facing backlash," he told Bored Panda.
Not having everything you do in public recorded.
Two random people arguing? Gotta record it.
Bad car wreck? Don't help. record.
Natural disaster? Don't run, stay and document it until someone has to rescue you, then get the rescue for maximum likes.
Same with concerts. I don't understand how people can't just watch a concert and enjoy it. Does anyone ever go back and watch their phone footage anyway?
Affordable housing.
Wall Street investors have been buying up housing all over the country just to make money on excessive rents and the tight housing market, which they contributed to making.
As far as his thoughts on the responses to his post, Kvassalskaren55 says he agreed with many of them. "There were a few that surprised me," he noted. "Those were the ones where people said that they were tired of people thinking that they are available at all times. That they need a break."
Having the decency and manners to verbally cancel plans or say you’ll be late in a timely fashion that’s respectful of the other person’s time and effort, instead of framing ghosting people as some kind cute personality quirk.
Being stood up or ditched on a date are as old as dating itself, but the RSVP was a contract that could only be violated at the peril of never receiving any future invitations
Actually owning the things you buy. Having the right to tinker with your devices.
Too damned many companies jumping on the product as a service bandwagon and it needs to stop. For instance, you pay (typically dearly) for a option on your new car, but you then need to pay a fee/subscription to use it? Not in this world, that's absurd.
Not having social media. Apparently now not being on whatever sites is a red flag.
You can quit when exercising self control and genuinely admitting to yourself how wasteful and harmful "social" media is to your life. People quit using hard drugs...you can quit diddling your phone, I know you have that much will power.
Load More Replies...Same. I think people who have multiple social media accounts are a bit weird
Load More Replies...I hear you! As someone who has ADHD and anxiety, Facebook was toxic. I was constantly comparing myself to other people who were married, having children, or going on fancy vacation. I felt like it was a constant competition and just got so burned out from it. I tried going off it for a couple of months and that couple of months turned into five years. I did really use to love Instagram as there were some amazing photographers that I followed, but now I feel like it is just a bunch of advertisements. If I'm not posting reels of every moment of my life, nobody seems to give a damn which is pretty sad...
Load More Replies...Neither me nor my husband has social media. We used to but it caused so much drama we both agreed to quit. Which all I had was Facebook anyways. I never could get into the other's.he had everything under the sun. Once we quit using them though 99% of our problems disappeared as well.
I can proudly say I haven't had social media accounts since MySpace. No FB, Insta, Snap....nada....and I love not having that self-created drama in my life.
I find social media stupid. I just stick to Gmail and google chat, then only people who have my gmail can contact me.
I guess I'm a huge red flag. I ditched ALL forms of "social media" 5 years ago. Then 3 years ago, I ditched my cell phone. I have an email address that I check twice a day and I have ZERO regrets. 🚩
I guess some Gen Zs and Millennials see it as weird to not be on social media? Whereas lots of us over 40 see it as unnecessary. Definitely a generational difference.
I'm a Millennial I am 41, 1981 is the year Millennial generation began. I don't have any social media accounts. I have 0 interest . I don't think it's a generational difference. My aunts are all over 60 years old and all our on facebook and ask me why I'm not on it. It's just a people difference not generational.
Load More Replies...I have been called weird many times when I have asked what certain websites were, I remember asking what Snapchat was and the other kids probably thought I was stupid
Or, they just thought it was a little odd since so many people know and they didn't think that someone their own age wouldn't know. Not that deep.
Load More Replies...I actually find social media a red flag now. It started off with good intentions, but as with anything else, people ruined it. Also, it ruined people.
I agree completely. Sometimes I am *very* wary when people describe their level of involvement in various social media platforms.
Load More Replies...It's easier to call it a "red flag" than admit there is something wrong with the people who document their entire lives on it. I record all my videod my myself and my family- never for social media. I have thousands, and I have maybe posted 5? But sure, I'm the abnormal one.
I have *never* had any social media (unless commenting on places like BP counts) and I don't intend to have any. Younger people (under 40) eye me with suspicion, and I don't care. If my entire life has to be searchable for you to trust me, you can just not be my friend. I value my privacy and I don't need "likes".
I only have Instagram for my school, and none of my (very limited - BP, Instagram, and I guess Discord counts.) social media accounts are linked to my real name anywhere. If you don't know me IRL, you're not gonna be able to find me.
Hmm, I worded that weirdly. If you don't know me well enough for me to tell you my online names, good luck contacting me on the internet.
Load More Replies...Try not watching commercial TV for over 30 years! No mind pollution and poisonous ads, bad language and being lied to. I don't own a phone for the same reasons. My brain is free of the evil of insecurity.
This is really the only social media I am on. I have Facebook, but am rarely on it. Never used Twitter, insta, tiktok, and I'm not interested
So relatable. I’m a teenager and when people ask for my snap I go ‘sorry i’m not allowed to have social media’ and i get the most judgemental stares from people. is it a crime to have strict parents????
I quit Twitter 8 or 10 months ago. The improvements to my mental health have been remarkable.
My biggest social media is reading google news and bored panda...dont have a facebook or X or whatever signups. At 64 I don't care about watching someone's escapades
I don't like social media, it's weird and annoying and too much social stuff
I only have Pinterest, YouTube, DeviantArt, and bored panda as my socials
More that people you know don't bother to call or email you; just post that they're having a party on whatever social media platform they're on. Then wonder why you don't show up.
I find it highly amusing when certain newspapers online run articles about how a certain social media site are doing X,Y, Z and it is wrong for them to do it only then to have a link on their page asking you to share or join them on the social media site the story is about!
My partner (44 F) has zero social media presence, her job used to be with children who were both very vulnerable and very destructive, it was easier to have no social media footprint and have no risk from families / people who may wish to find the children after they been removed from dangerous situations AND it meant those same children couldn’t find her / get information on her / her family. It has had zero negative impact on her life, she is not a fan of tech anyway so it’s no big deal. I on the other hand have multiple sm accounts 😂 opposites attract I guess 😀
The only social media I have anymore is Instagram and even then, I barely use it.
I only have Facebook and YouTube. I don't have the energy for Instagram or snapchat or whatever else there is. I can only keep up with so much.
If that is a red flag to someone then THEY are the red flag. They want to have a means to spy on you, breach your privacy.
One of the best decisions I have ever made was to delete the Facebook, Twitter apps from my phone, only ones I had,. I didn't delete the accounts but I still have not posted or scrolled down feed since. I didn't notice until I stopped the affect it was having on my anxiety and depression.
I'm not connected to any social media platform and I don't want to. In my free time I can do lots of things, without being stuck in front of the cellphone learning about my friend's dog's farts.
I comment more in here than I do social media... (I consider this more humor)
If somebody think it's a red flag, then it's a red flag. I have a twitter that i never touch, and messaging apps where people can get in touch with me. If that's not enough, red flag. What are they going to do? Blow up your relationship problems whenever you guys have one? Or too busy taking pictures everytime you're bout to eat?? Red flag red flag red flag.
I have it, but it's private and my followers are under ten. It's for my non-local friends.
Blah. People. No one cares about what you are eating or where you are going.
Born in 91 and I've never had Facebook or Twitter or anything. I honestly don't care what my old classmates are doing and if their dog passed a kidney stone. It's just as fake as reality tv.
I check BP daily but check FB once a week or less. I communicate with friends and family through APPs... no other social media interaction.
Red flag me up! I meet a lot of older people that aren't on social media or gave it up. The younger generations seem to take longer to realize how toxic it is. Although there r plenty of older people that don't realize it too. I know. :)
I don't have Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat and whatever other apps there are.....I don't need the drama. My life is MUCH simpler without it! I'm a bored panda nerd! 😁😁😁🤣♥️
If someone doesn’t have Snapchat, I consider that the greenest green flag tbh
Oh cool, I'll keep the red flags over the likes of Facebook and twi-i mean "X" any day. I'm not even anti social media, but when they become toxic hellholes, ya gotta be able to leave.
I got off of social media about six years ago and I haven't missed it at all. I find I like people more when I don't know every curated detail of their lives, their beliefs and opinions. I don't want to see the scars from your back surgery. Don't care that you went to the gym. And you aren't the first person to visit a restaurant. Just eat your food. No one is that interesting. I know I'm not. Remember: When you are on social media you are a product. It's designed to learn as much about you so possible then you are sold to advertisers.
Damn, I must be such a huge Red Flag that I could easily work for the chinese government
I don't have any social media and I love it. I had Instagram to follow my kids and then one day I asked my youngest daughter, "I haven't seen you post anything lately." she said "that's because I blocked you two years ago." I'm 43 and free from all that bullsh*t. Social media is an addiction. Ask yourself, "does it really matter knowing what happened in that person's life? Did your lif really change that much now that you know whatever it was you needed to know?" the answer is always no.
I don't have social media anymore, for like 2 years now. I don't miss it at all
I only have YouTube and TikTok, (I only got TikTok to follow my mom's account, and it's all I watch there) and if Bored Panda counts, then voila.
Logged out years ago. At first it was difficult but then you see how it sucked up all of your time and how 99% of it was pointless. Plus you feel better about life and have time to go live it.
Tonight my husband and I worked on our little projects. I'm making a tiny bookstore, he's building a globe. (Ok, they're kits,) At no time, did we check our non existant cell phones, our invisible tik tok and instagram accounts and of course, made sure to check out our so secret we can't see them facebook pages. We read the paper, at least the parts the cat wasn't reading, worked in the garden, went to a nursery, and had a lovely day not worrying about what we cannot control. We stay off social media mostly because we have better things to do. And truth be told, we don't really see anyone all that happy ON social media. So we'll keep our lovely Luddite life and go back to counting all the bee's in the hive at Pooh Corner. OH, and we just picked the last of our raspberries!
Lots of people here acting like BoredPanda isn't a social media site
I deleted mine years ago. It has helped my mental stability tremendously! I didn't even feel stressed during the last election and i won't be on the next either.
I am happy to have that "red flag"........social media is a scourge upon everyone. I really do not care what happened to some self absorbed moron whilst in line at McDonald's......I have no problem with people videoing some forms of injustices as long as it is a complete portrait.
I have a facebook that I look at two or three times a year. That's it. I don't even know what else is out there, tbh.
New red flag for me - people who think it's an actual red flag for someone not to be on X, Y or Z social media platform.
Bored panda is the only thing I have that counts as social media, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
The jaw drops I get when I tell people I don't have Facebook, Twitter, tiktok, pintrist, Instagram, and whatever else there is. I'm completely off the grid when it comes to social media. It's amazing 😍
Christopher Nolan don't have social media,cmiiw. And he's still making those great movies.
Okay, I guess I'm a red flag then and I'm okay with that. Social media has become a cancer on society. I had a Facebook account but deleted it years ago when it became clear how bad it was becoming. I do still have a Twitter/X account, but I just use that for sites that require a social media login to access them; it's like a throwaway email account. Though with Elon floating the possibility of making it a paid subscription, I might not even use it for that much longer.
Being able to handle the slightest bit of social interaction. I’ve met some Gen Z who damn near have panic attacks when making a call for delivery, let alone speaking to people they don’t know in public. Some seem to think every interaction with a stranger is potentially life threatening. The anxiety levels in that generation are off the charts.
I find the introvert memes tendency horrifying and relatable at the same time. Being an introvert myself I understand the struggle, but it seems to me it's getting worse and worse, triggering anxiety if you just let it be your lifestyle.
Knowing how to cook, even if that knowledge exists so you don't starve.
Agree knowing how to cook is a learnable skill you don’t need to be a chef.
I feel like u can't just talk to random people anymore. No one seems approachable. My mum talks to anyone wether she knows them or not. I notice alotnof the older generations are much more open to random chit chat
Some people just don't want to be bothered when they're trying to go about their day.
The hustle culture needs to go. We need to normalize working while keeling in touch with family and friends, not working yourself to death. Also, how about lowering house price, eh? It’s a dwelling, not a money making machine.
A house used to be a home not an investment for profit. It annoys me when real estate agents talk about selling a home, it is the house not the home being sold.
Pensions. The ability for current and future generations to retire.
All that has happened is the companies have shifted the risk from them to you. If you can get such good returns, they can too. Of course in most plans you do not contribute. Just more evidence of poor money management on their part, and how criminal underfunding is.
Talking to people in-person, and asking people out, and not being a f*****g weirdo if they say no.
Apps and social media have caused so much headrot.
Holding your phone to your ear when talking.
Just working out in a gym without the need to record yourself
Again, it's not an abnormal thing to go and not record. Going to the gym without recording is normalised.
**Getting to know your neighbours and connecting with the local community.**
How many of us actually know or have talked to the people next door?? It used to be so common to introduce yourself at least, nowadays it’s just weird and considered off-putting, making it much harder to build a strong sense of community.
This generation tends to be very isolated generally, and considering how actively hostile modern urban design is, it tends to discourage people from going outside and meeting people. This is also coupled with the rise of social media and a general sense of paranoia about feeling constantly watched, since everyone basically has a miniature recording device in their pocket. It decentivizes people from striking up more friendly conversations, due to fear of being recorded being cringe or whatever and going viral. Honestly the pandemic has f****d social skills beyond belief, but let’s get real here, the loneliness epidemic predates Covid by a long shot, quarantine just put it into hyperdrive.
I think knowing your neighbours should make a comeback. Along with neighbourhood block parties and potlucks. And for gods sake, can we please make less suburbs and anti-homelessness benches, and more free/affordable public infrastructure while we’re at it??? It’s been said already, but look at the outside we built, no wonder kids don’t want to go outside anymore.
Again depends on country and background. Low income areas in my country have good social networks and high income areas have neighbours who barely interact and mostly hate each other.
Taking your clothes to a tailor instead of getting new clothes
That individuals matter, not what groups people can be pegged as belonging to.
This is only true of individualist (ie western) culture. In Africa our community is the most important thing.
Vulnerability. Sincerity. These things seem to get lumped in with "cringe" when they shouldn't be.
Texting back too quickly is apparently a thing to younger folk? Whereas I see it as the ultimate sign of respect and interest when you're having an engaging conversation. There's so much second guessing about presentation and interest levels that many forget that it's cool, fine, and normal to just be honest with feelings and pursue them as long as they're reciprocal.
What kills me is "punctuation is aggressive" and "ok means you're mad." WTF kids?!?
Telephone skills, not fearing making phone calls
Emails and texts are too easy to ignore. I feel it takes twice as long to communicate via email.
Go to the park and join a bunch of strangers in playing a game whether it be touch football, throwing the Frisbee, even a game of TAG.
Uhh no. I would never walk up to strangers playing a game and join them.
Internet privacy
I am so sick of all of this "generational divide" b******t. "The boomers are this!" "The Millennials are that" "Gen Z is blah blah blah" can we all just please stop and reflect and realize there there and bad Apples in every single bunch and that doesn't mean the whole barrel is bad? I know PLENTY of "boomers" who are some of the kindest more understanding people around and I e met some Gen Z who would soon slit your throat than give you a kind look. It has nothing to do with what year you were born! It's how you're raised. And truthfully I will never consider myself a Gen Z. I am simply a younger person who will hopefully live to become an old person some day. That's it
Once again Generation X is forgotten. That one is true.
Load More Replies...SO much of this is really Boomers reminiscing about their childhood and not realising it seemed better because they were a child. Then there's the inherent criticism of the 'youth of today' I'm Gen X but even I can see that the current generation are the very best of us. Who saw us all through the pandemic doing all the frontline jobs? Not my generation, that's for sure. Who is more accepting of people for who they are? Again it's the 'young people of today' Good on them, nostalgia is a lie..
I hate to tell you this, but where I live, it was both the middle-aged and young transport drivers, supermarket cashiers, chemists, street cleaners, rubbish collectors, and above all health workers who got us through it. The less experienced younger people need the older workers' experience and stamina, or do you think that a whole bunch of 20-somethings just rolled up one day and took over? Enough with the generational labels, every workplace needs a mix of younger, creative, energetic people, trained and supported by more experienced staff.
Load More Replies...Listen, y’all, the economy is shot, corona ruined our social skills, and you can’t be anywhere without spending money, we would way rather be doing things in the world but we’re broke and many of us are disabled
I used to think our species would die from pollution and global warming, but reading these comments makes me think, the the extinction will come from nobody daring to get to know anyone, så no children will come to take over. I am a bit sarcastic here maybe.
Working on my own computer. Before windows, I could ask Doss what was wrong and it would tell me and I would fix it. After windows I could go to Microsoft help and always get trained answers. Now, I go to Microsoft help and they let any idiot on the Internet provide answers. One has the weed the actual help out from the junk.
Better title would be old people complain and suggest what they think young people must find odd because it's no longer the only acceptable option.
Yeah yeah yeah, the kids these days. Have a Werther's Original and shut up.
Sorry but gen z and alpha rule nothing. Most can't even make a phone call without experiencing crippling anxiety.
I am so sick of all of this "generational divide" b******t. "The boomers are this!" "The Millennials are that" "Gen Z is blah blah blah" can we all just please stop and reflect and realize there there and bad Apples in every single bunch and that doesn't mean the whole barrel is bad? I know PLENTY of "boomers" who are some of the kindest more understanding people around and I e met some Gen Z who would soon slit your throat than give you a kind look. It has nothing to do with what year you were born! It's how you're raised. And truthfully I will never consider myself a Gen Z. I am simply a younger person who will hopefully live to become an old person some day. That's it
Once again Generation X is forgotten. That one is true.
Load More Replies...SO much of this is really Boomers reminiscing about their childhood and not realising it seemed better because they were a child. Then there's the inherent criticism of the 'youth of today' I'm Gen X but even I can see that the current generation are the very best of us. Who saw us all through the pandemic doing all the frontline jobs? Not my generation, that's for sure. Who is more accepting of people for who they are? Again it's the 'young people of today' Good on them, nostalgia is a lie..
I hate to tell you this, but where I live, it was both the middle-aged and young transport drivers, supermarket cashiers, chemists, street cleaners, rubbish collectors, and above all health workers who got us through it. The less experienced younger people need the older workers' experience and stamina, or do you think that a whole bunch of 20-somethings just rolled up one day and took over? Enough with the generational labels, every workplace needs a mix of younger, creative, energetic people, trained and supported by more experienced staff.
Load More Replies...Listen, y’all, the economy is shot, corona ruined our social skills, and you can’t be anywhere without spending money, we would way rather be doing things in the world but we’re broke and many of us are disabled
I used to think our species would die from pollution and global warming, but reading these comments makes me think, the the extinction will come from nobody daring to get to know anyone, så no children will come to take over. I am a bit sarcastic here maybe.
Working on my own computer. Before windows, I could ask Doss what was wrong and it would tell me and I would fix it. After windows I could go to Microsoft help and always get trained answers. Now, I go to Microsoft help and they let any idiot on the Internet provide answers. One has the weed the actual help out from the junk.
Better title would be old people complain and suggest what they think young people must find odd because it's no longer the only acceptable option.
Yeah yeah yeah, the kids these days. Have a Werther's Original and shut up.
Sorry but gen z and alpha rule nothing. Most can't even make a phone call without experiencing crippling anxiety.