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Many things are bothersome in life and many people make sure to let others know when they are. Some, however, are unable or unwilling to express what troubles them, consequently keeping all the emotions bubbling inside.

While anyone can belong to the latter group, it’s often men who find themselves in such a position. In a thread started on the ‘Ask Men’ subreddit, they shared their thoughts on the topic after one netizen asked them about things that secretly bother them but are rarely talked about. Ranging from emotions that they have to hide to having to follow a certain standard, among other things, their answers covered all sorts of aspects of everyday life. So if you want to learn more about what bothers them, scroll down to find their thoughts on the list below, where you will also find Bored Panda’s interview with the person who started the discussion, u/permanentburner89.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About This doesn't just bother me. I f****n' hate it...How TV commercials, shows and movies constantly portray men, especially husbands, as buffoons. The trope of the idiot, shlubby (fat) man-child husband with the slender, beautiful wife is pathetic. Do women like this sh*t? What does it say about women? They like marrying idiot man-children?

It is so bad that a man on Tik Tok posted that his freakin' 6-year old daughter asked him why all the dads in the movies never know anything. Even children see it. You rarely see men, husbands and/or dads portrayed as men of integrity with purpose who love & support their wives, children and community. G-d help all the sons of the women who grow up with moms that hate men and think we are all stupid.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I hate it too. I worked for a family forum website for 10 years and they are full of posts how men can't take care of themselves, which is bad enough. But the amount of women who basically found this cute 'teeheehee mine is the same that is just men for you' made me really angry. It's not your fault the guy acts like a toddler but ffs stop making excuses for him.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Not being listened to, then getting told that I'm yelling when I am just raising my voice to be heard. Repeating myself and getting frustrated resulting in the same situation.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I think one thing that really bothers a lot of men is the pressure to always be the 'strong' one. Society expects us to be tough and unfeeling, which can make it hard to express vulnerability or ask for help. It’s not like we don’t have feelings; we just feel like we can’t show them without being judged. I wish it was more accepted for guys to talk about their struggles openly.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is one of the ways patriarchy hurts men the most, we lose a lot of good men because of it.

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In an interview with Bored Panda, u/permanentburner89, the person who started the thread, admitted being quite surprised by what fellow netizens pointed out. “I am a man but I was actually quite surprised at the answers; I got them after hearing them but I still didn't expect them.”

He continued to share that the thing that secretly bothers him the most is how often society thinks they understand the male experience, both positive and negative, when they actually don’t. “I don't think they have any clue, and I don't think you can unless you're a man,” he said.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About How stupid people are. Like how can people go their whole lives not able to problem solve. I just know if an apocalypse happens I’d have to carry a lot of the people I care about because common sense just doesn’t make sense for them. At times tho it can be very funny.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What I find so weird is most people think this about others, and consider themselves the exception.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Stupid people should start learning to wear headphones instead of blasting obnoxious videos and music on their phones for everyone to hear.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I ride MARTA frequently, and I am sick and tired of hearing other people's music! You wanna listen to something, or watch a video, please wear some blooming earphones. (Meanwhile, I need earphones myself from time to time to drown out some obnoxious conspiracy theorist or train preacher!)

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The redditor is right saying that no one else can really understand the male experience, other than men; the same way they can’t experience exactly what women go through even if they have an idea.

The differences between how men and women see the world or interact are believed to be largely affected by upbringing and gender roles. According to an international trainer, key-note speaker, author, and consultant, Dr. Audrey Nelson, as kids, men and women are usually raised in the same environment, but they tend to be interacted with in very different ways.

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“Research indicates that girls and boys grow up in what appears to be identical environments; however, they are nurtured in totally different social-emotional climates,” the expert wrote for Psychology Today.
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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Sports. From rec, all the way up to pro. Small children watch their parents grossly abuse teenage refs that are just trying to ensure these kids get to play. Preteen kids play a sport, year round, with no time for their bodies to rest and recuperate. I knew a kid that had Tommy John surgery before he could drive. Teenagers that have practice until 10 pm, and still have to manage schoolwork. Time at practice and games, instead of family time at the dinner table. Kids can barely read and write, but make it all the way through school because they play a sport.

People treat other people like garbage because they like the wrong college. People won’t wear a certain color because of a loyalty to some college sports team, at a school they didn’t even attend. People make their schedules around football games, and miss out on family events like weddings, because of a college football game.

People have been knifed because they follow a professional sports team. People show up to work, where they make money to pay their bills, hungover because they were up late watching sports the night before. There are professional athletes that can barely speak coherently, because their education was secondary to a game. People will pay to watch a game, but are behind on child support. That is baffling to me. The amount of money spent on sporting events is astronomical.

I will never understand how some people worship at the altar of sports. I can enjoy watching soccer or baseball games, but I have a personality, independent of it. I can enjoy watching my children play their respective sports, without feeling the need to berate another human being for a missed call, or throw punches at some other kid’s parent for cheering an injury. It’s disturbing.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

totally. the rivalry between fans of certain soccer clubs here in Germany is downright ridiculous.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I wanna spill my guts. I wanna tell someone every dark thought, fear, failure, mistake. Every wish, hope, and desire. I wanna put it all out there.

I will never do that to anyone. I'll just sit here quietly, staring into my beer.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

If anyone else is feeling like this, keep searching for a partner who can and will shoulder that with you - if not, please seek some form of therapy to talk it all out, you can't keep smooshing it down for ever, it will start to leak, then overflow and eventually erupt.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About It not being socially acceptable to express that we feel unloved. To have grievances.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This one isn't entirely clear to me. Doesn't it depend on the social environment one is in? When I go to the supermarket – or any public place for that matter – I don't expect people to be considerate about my feelings or grievances. The closest circle of friends is something else.

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“Toddler boys may see that parents (particularly fathers) frown upon verbal play for them—it is not manly to talk to dolls or mimic mother’s speech, even though she is most frequently the adult speech model at home,” Dr. Nelson continued to point out. “Boys’ play centers around action rather than talk. What boy talks to his action figures? His toys (trucks, planes, cars, soldiers, Transformers) are for feats of bravery.”

It’s no surprise that after being taught to be brave and “manly” from an early age, men might find it difficult or even scary to show their softer side or be vulnerable.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About People who have kids that think they deserve special treatment. It was your choice to have kids and it is my choice to don’t give a s**t

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

And all that BS about People with families first. No! It should be first come, first served. If they want certain days off, they should have asked for it earlier.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About How little anyone realizes that men are compliment starved.

I can still vividly recall a complete stranger saying something flattering to me over 30 years ago - like it was yesterday.

Because of this I do make it a point to say nice things to other dudes when I'm public and the moment is right.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

The last comment I got was like five or six years ago when my company's CEO at the time complimented how my goatee and haircut looked. Was on Cloud 9 until my wife said I looked gross and needed to shave... XD

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Why can't we have modern cars with the old car designs?



Imagine a mustang 64 with the insides of a new Corvette.


I mean sure people will die but they are going to anyway.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Oh yes please, can I have a 50's Buick with the insides of a modern Toyota please?

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A survey of over 2000 males found that half of them feel pressured to act “manly”. An even larger number—eight-in-ten—of them believe that there is a societal pressure for men to behave a certain way.

According to the poll, men feel most pressured about knowing how to be handy around the house or having a certain type of body. Close to a third of them admit they would like to be able to embrace their feminine side more, and a similar percentage say that they feel misunderstood when it comes to their romantic relationships, sense of humor, or knowledge regarding finances.
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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I think a lot of men and women take media’s representation of relationships as what a a good relationship should be and it’s extremely damaging to their own happiness and contentment in a real relationship.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Social media and meme culture has turned a *lot* of people into antisocial a******s.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About The socialization loss that's happening right now. People need to talk and be around other people, especially when they're young. We are soon going to have a lot of young people that never got a chance to do that. I'm worried what that will do as people regress further inwards

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I teach university students and one thing I've noticed is how much young people talk to eachother. They'll be sitting on the bus and discuss how bad or good they feel, guys and girls all mixed. My impression is that younger people talk more and deeper to eachother now than they every did before, but could just be my bubble.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Why is having balance in one life literally one of the most important things but do we ever reward balance growing up or in society in general? Everything seems to be one way or the other and so black and white and so much extremism. You either losing or your either winning.  


Why dont school teach kids how to handle stress? And learn more about laws? Finance? And different paths if college isn't a future a kid wants? School is not for everyone else on top of that there's alot of bullying that goes on and ruins education and someones ability to trust and want to be social. 

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Because schools are supposed to handle the academic side of 'things you need to know'. They are not supposed to essentially raise kids. All the stuff mentioned should be taught by the parents or caregivers. Raising kids doesn't just mean food, clothes and a place to sleep.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Its hard to find guy friends after graduating school, most people only make new friends through their jobs, but most people in my job are in their 50s or 60s and have families w/ no time off.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I found a local D&D group on Meetup. There's a group of 15-20 of us who meet up at a local pub every week to play D&D, some people are regular, some come occasionally, new people join to try it almost weekly ☺️

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About It's very hard to find a woman who is content with a simple life.

I want to make something clear, I don't hate women. F**k all the Tate-stans with their misogyny. Women are deserving of inherent love and respect, and they deal with a lot of s**t that we as men will never understand.

With that out of the way, I'll say that I would love to meet a woman who isn't obsessed with travel, entrepreneurship, or Instagram. And this is just hard to find.

Not saying there's anything wrong with travel or business. But if that leaves little room for love, or when she can't relax and enjoy the present without thinking about the next trip, it's just not really great energy.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Something that a lot of men and women don't seem to understand, is that you'll find the people that do the things you like and are interested in... Now this is gonna blow your mind... They are usually doing those things. If you wanna find a girl that likes staying in playing computer games, you're not likely to find her hanging out in a bar, she's gonna be at home, playing computer games. Granted, this information is probably not gonna help you meet her, but maybe you'll stop looking in the wrong places.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I'm doing so much. I do a lot of chores, I work hard. I care for our daughters and I'm in constant fear to not be enough. Too less of a father or a worse father. Not earning enough money for my family. Not providing enough. I wake up and work earlier than my wife and I go to bed and sleep a lot less than my wife.

But I am never seen or heard. All along there is the narration that only women have mental workload or do care work. Though I feel that reality (not just my own lived reality, but the younger the people the more live like that) is much more than mine.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sounds like OP is a great Dad. Hope it's just because somehow the communication isn't good. Guys, tell us. And yes, we all need to appreciate our partners more, and all they do. Including the small, regular, or 'self-evident' things.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I don't think women like a******s per se BUT I do think a lot of women like to feel needed. And who are the some of neediest people? Well they tend to be a******s.

I saw it growing up with my mother who was always "trying to fix" my father instead of leaving him for being an a*s. I never liked how my father treated my mother so I always sought to be self-sufficient and helpful. I'd hear the same type of admissions from older divorced women when I used to work in a public-facing job in my early 20s. I'm 33 now and I've experienced that same type of dynamic so many times. I've been passed up over and over again only to have them reach out several years down that they made a huge mistake, that they had always loved me, that they're sorry, etc etc.

I'm not interested in being someone's silver medal. Life isn't a book or TV drama. We have to will ourselves to make the changes we want in our own lives. I'm proud of the progress I've made the last several years and I'd like to meet a woman that actually values my self-sufficiency rather than being her "Plan B".

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About How we use up 75% if our lives working to try to enjoy the rest.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Believe it or not, some of us manage to find enjoyment in life while we're still working.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Getting crazy, old man hair growing out of my ears. I need to find someone to wax my ears.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't mind the ones IN the ear, it's the random ones that appear on the helix of the ear! Why are you growing there?!?!?!

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About How there seriously is not a "perfect match" for every person, romantically. Maybe a majority of people can settle for something and declare it perfect, but there is always going to be a sub sect of people, men and women, that are fundamentally incapable of long term, enriching, true love. Whether it's due to circumstances those people can control, or otherwise.... Many assume that true love is out there, for everyone, but I'm saying statistically this doesn't hold true for some. And nobody gives a s**t, people just ignore them or sweep them under the rug like every other mildly disconcerting thing we are presented with today

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Imma say this one more time: True love is an active choice, not a passive result!!!

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About That everything is our fault.

Some men bad? All men are at fault. Some women are bad? All men are at fault. Environment? Society? All men bad. I’m sick of it.

I’ll never bring it up in public though because - you guessed it - even bringing that up is just another problem of men.

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Of course not all men are bad. Everyone knows this. The thing to remember here is: firstly, some men do harm women and these men don’t have a shiny light on their forehead to identify them as such. Meaning in some situations it’s hard for women to trust a man they don’t know (or do know, even). Obviously this happens the other way round too but not in nearly the same numbers. Secondly, the systems in place still favor men as the ‘superior’ gender (explicitly but also internalized in our culture). Men have been in power, making the decisions for ages. This has only been changing for the last 50 or so years. So how about we share the load: shared responsibility for both successes AND failures? Then it’ll be just humans to blame for everything ;)

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About Being compared to others in terms of success at my age and then when I started to succeed at a so called “young age”, people started telling me don’t take big decisions because you’re still young! It really bothers how some people can’t think out of a society frame, and btw im 24

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That's because by 34 you realize how stupid you were at 24.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About The way men prefer repressing emotions and shoving it back down, rather than exploring and understanding them. I have more and more of a hard time connecting with men because they usually do that, then act like they are reliable, problem solvers, more pragmatic and less sensitive than women etc., but men really can go their whole life not understanding a part of our world, society and relationships, just because of that.

Last month my friend who I went to the gym with said, after lifting a lot of weight "this is better than any form of b******t therapy", and I know this guy has repressed emotions and a difficult past.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

To be honest, lots of women repress their emotions too - just different ones. It's always bad news in the long run.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I’m a 42 year old introvert who has basically given up on finding the right woman. Or even someone on the right side of “right”.

I’m convinced that I’m going to spend the rest of my life alone just trying to stack enough money to have something meager to pass down to my son to try and help him survive the grim future I’ll eventually be leaving him alone in when I kick the bucket.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Not being snide but get a dog and you will find unconditional love. With the SO I agree that live close by visit often has worked for me. I like my me time and don't need anyone telling me how to live daily.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I think a lot of men don't have anything against a woman for wanting their SO to be a good provider but there's definitely a double standard because if men left women over them not maintaining their respective gender role, there'd be hell to raise.

If I told someone I'm leaving my spouse because he can't keep a job or because he can't provide for our family people would feel bad for me, but If my husband told me I'm leaving you because you can't cook or clean, he would be eaten alive.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think you are wrong on both counts here. Spend some time on reddit and see how many women get absolutely blasted for expressing that they want their partner to "provide". They are called gold diggers and told to get a job. And men do leave their wives for not 'fulfilling their roles'. More often than not this happens when the kids leave home because men wait until they no longer bear the risk of having to parent their children, or women hit menopause and sex drive drops and men leave their wives for not fulfilling his sexual needs or they accuse their wives of "letting themselves go". Middle aged women are the fastest growing poverty group for this reason, and I see it over and over and over again in my family law practice.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About The fact that my GF wants to spend time with ex BFs and dates, but if I tell her that it hurts me and pls consider not doing it... then I'm controlling?

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

That is not normal behavior. It's a reasonable question

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About The amount of name brand streaming services is ruining streaming. Where we use to just have two or whatever, now everybody has one. So, instead of all the money being funneled, it's spread across. And, since they're a bit expensive, people run one or two at a time, then cancel and pick another one or two to run for a month or two. 


This is negatively effecting the shows. There's less money available, so these companies are canceling really wonderful series' because they don't see great initial numbers. 

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

What happened to movies? 1985…. Now that was a how movies should be made What a year.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About I’m 27 now but I remember when I left home at 17 just because I was a guy everyone especially girls treated me like I was supposed to have everything and know everything like a 50 year old man

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There's a faux war between men and women being waged in social media. It really grosses me out. Most men and women could care less but if you watch tiktok we just pure straight hate each other.

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Honestly, it’s the fact that I can never find a good pair of socks. I mean, how hard can it be? I’ll buy a pack, and somehow within a week, I’m down to a single sock that’s seen better days. It’s like they have a secret society where they disappear together. Next thing you know, I’m wearing mismatched socks and pretending it's a fashion statement. Really, all I want is a reliable sock buddy!

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This is why I buy all socks in the same style. Do whatever swinger parties they want, won't matter to me.

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About That relationships aren't really valued in our society as equal partnerships with the purpose of mutual fulfillment, they're just about what you can get/take from someone else

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30 Men Come Vent To This Thread About Things That Bother Them But They Don’t Talk About It’s no secret I guess, but as a male musician who performs live, the fact that female performers get gigs far more easily than I do.

I play guitar and sing in a 3-piece cover band, and I have to work twice as hard to land a gig as an atonal female singer just because she’s attractive.

Most of them don’t even play an instrument, they’re just “blessed” to have a voice, which (as a music teacher myself) is not a talent; it’s a skillset. Anyone can sing, given the proper lessons.

But the bands with a cute chick on stage will always get the gig over the guys who have dedicated part of their life to their craft.

Rant over.

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

So the female singer is chosen only for her looks and not her skills, which means she doesn't get taken seriously, and you think she has it better?

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My neighbour beats his wife and kids. I'm in an apartment and I hear things from time to time. The police know about him but nothing ever happens...

I think about "being a hero" (interpret that how you want. It's a violent thought) basically every hour. But I'm most likely never going to do anything about it because I have too much going for me right now.

So that sucks.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Keep badgering the police. If they don't attend the scene, badger the police commissioner (or whatever you have there). If you fear for their safety, call social services. And then write to your local MP to say that the law is not being protected by the police - which is literally their job.

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How women say they want an ambitious man but don't realise she could overwork him and put so much stress on him, he can't be emotionally present and potentially lead him to an early death.

If she isn't self aware enough this is a massive red flag in a woman

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

'I want a man with ambition!' soon becomes, 'He's never home! He's always working.'

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Dry skin

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I’m still pretty young but I constantly think about my future “what if it doesn’t….’’

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I think this is an individual thing that applies to anyone. I for example, never think about the future. I take each day as it comes. Heck, I haven't even thought about this weekend. My wife, always worrying about what might or might not happen. She's probably got a list of things she wants us to achieve this weekend, and next, and the one after that...

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The complete over fixation that women have on social media.

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Cowardice. So many men are just cowards these days. In emergencies everyone just stands around and watches.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

People usually stand and watch due to being confused and not knowing what to do (+worried they could make things worse by doing the wrong thing), rather than due to being cowards.

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Cashiers picking up my drinks by the cap/lid to scan or bag them. It’s just common courtesy to not touch the place where people put their mouths.


Sorry to any of you have not noticed this before because you will now, forever and soon you shall join me in my angst.

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You take off the cap/lid before drinking, don't you? Anyway I am very glad to live in a country where we bag our own groceries. It would drive me crazy to have someone shove my stuff into a million bags.

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The fact that everyone wants to work in the bedroom then go to bed and do the same thing again the next day.

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Feminism, the old one was ok, but today's is a F**K, I hate this militancy, if God allows me, I was 38 in general

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1 month ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I'm okay with feminism, as long as it doesn't blame men for everything (including the bad weather).

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The debasement of the US currency via increasing the M2 money supply with new funds.

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The way single, older men are ignored in church

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1 month ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don't know..... jesus is pretty popular and he's a single older man....

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