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Being invited into a friend’s home can feel like a huge honor. They’re opening up their humble abode to you, and you have the opportunity to get an intimate peek into their life. They might have family photos on the walls, artwork from childhood on the fridge and dozens of books that mean the world to them lining the shelves.
But visiting someone else’s house can backfire when you start to notice things that terrify you. Redditors have recently been discussing some of the worst things that you could possibly find in someone else’s home, so we’ve gathered the biggest red flags below. Enjoy reading through, and be sure to upvote the things that would send you running for the hills!
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#1
If they have children, but you see no sign of a child in the home outside of their bedroom.
Edit: I do not mean the home is trashed. I mean you see no photos, no coats, shoes, toys anything indicating a child lives there too. For example I tidy up every night, but you’ll still see my toddlers shoes by the door and his little paw patrol table in the living room. & photos around the house of him of course
Another edit: I am not going back and fourth with you sad beige parents that live for aesthetics. If you don’t get it I’m not explaining it.
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#3
Large political flags on the wall. I don't care what your political affiliations are, if you are that obsessed with it that you feel the need to hang a huge flag in your living room to announce them, that's a no from me.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 2 months ago
*Nervously eyes her United Federation Of Planets flag*
#4
I did some real estate photography on a home.
It was a Mass State Trooper. It was disturbing: A nice neighborhood, a nice home, clean and well maintained. Kids and wife photos decorating the walls and end tables. But I started noticing holes punched into walls (some of them plastered and repaired, some of them "fresh". Doors that had been splintered at the bottom from being kicked in. A couple doors that had padlocks on them that had been ripped out. There were just signs of rage everywhere I looked. It was disturbing and I felt bad for the family.
Schmebulock 2 months ago
They need way better screening and treatment of police for mental health issues.
#5
No hand soap in the bathroom.
#6
I change the bathroom towels in our guest bathroom every Friday. One Friday I told my son to go wipe up the urine he left on the seat & floor and then watched this imposter of my DNA, wipe the urine with a hand towel and hang it back up, in front of me. I've never wanted to disown a relative more in my life.
Debbie 2 months ago
As a parent, this made me smile, not because of what he did ofcourse. But sometimes we forget that we never taught them how to do something. It kinda depends on his age though. At a certain age you could expect them to figure out to use toilet paper for that. But at other ages I am unfortunately not surprised that they do not think about what to use to wipe something up. My kids had the habit of taking a clean dishtowel (theedoek) from the cupboard to clean up spills. Instead of a rag (doekje) or a towel that was in use/more ready for a round of laundry. On one hand, ok, you are cleaning it up, but aaargh!
#8
This extreme beigeness. Especially if there are kids. I saw videos of parents painting colorful toys beige. It's just sad.
Child of the Stars 2 months ago
I don't understand this at all. It feels so impersonal. I dislike overly matched and perfectly decorated houses too. Being in someone's home should tell you who they are, but an overly-curated home always makes me feel like they're trying to hide themselves.
#9
I don’t know if I’d go as far as “red flag”, but people who have zero books in their home give me pause.
#10
Crosses / jesus s**t everywhere.
Donkey boi 2 months ago
For clarity, as this one seems to be dividing, I read this as; 'People with a LOT of religious iconography' I don't think they mean just a crucifix or two, but like, a cross in every room, or a shrine type setup.
David 2 months ago
Donkey, I agree. A person would have to be fairly anti-religion to be triggered by a modest cross / picture of Jesus / Buddha statue. But if they are plastered all over the home, it suggests a possible obsession.
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Perpetual Wedgie 2 months ago
I'm sadly shocked by some of these comments. There are religious icons everywhere in my home because of my culture (I'm a third generation Hoodoo.) If you come to my home, all you're going to get is good food and kindness with no discussion about my culture (because it's none of your business.) What happened to tolerance?
BarfyCat 2 months ago
Depends why they have it. My BIL the atheist is quite the connoisseur of tacky Catholic knicknacks, the uglier the better!
Skogsrået 2 months ago
Could be a cultural thing too, having a big crucifix on the wall is pretty common in hispanic homes.
Dilly Dally 2 months ago
I personally have quite a few pictures of Jesus in my home, but that doesn't mean I'm going to force that on anyone. It's just that the pictures make me happy and remind me of who I am and what I believe in. Sort of like how people can have a pride flag up to show what they believe in, same thing with the pictures.
Greenmantle 2 months ago
That's religion, a personal choice. It's not hurting anyone to have crosses in their home.
Michael Largey 2 months ago
The topic is red flags, and red flags are things that carry information, not necessarily causing actual harm.
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Ray Carrillo 2 months ago
I do not think it is unhinged to display your religion in your home. It maybe how they express their beliefs.
The Darkest Timeline 2 months ago
I am friends with an Orthodox priest and his family. They do have quite a few icons but they are confined to one space in the house. He is a priest, after all.
Sue User 2 months ago
I was raised episcopalian. We did have stained glass windows, but rest decorations were subdued. I went to Ireland, visited a protestant church , then a catholic. It was so colorful and ornate. While dome of it was pretty, i couldnt help but think about " do not worship graven images".
Mike Arclight 2 months ago
I get that; but that's Catholicism for you. Personally, I think it's more a thing of having to much time on their hands and they decided to decorate the house kinda thing. Do that for a couple centuries and you get some really resplendent houses of worship.
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Mrs Irish Mom 2 months ago
Dont come to Ireland so because they are in every single house espically down the country towns, dont have holy pics myself in my house but i do have some lourds holywater
Erika 2 months ago
But in a catholic household it’s for praying and protection to remind you of Jesus. It’s not like we attack others religions to have religious decorations everywhere.
Allison Hayre 2 months ago
Yet you would all be up in arms if someone said pride flags would be a red flag for them!
Alexandra Nara 2 months ago
simple whataboutism... If I enter the home of someone, intruding personal space, I have to live with his personal beliefs and expression.. If it makes me unconfortable I leave.
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R.A. Haley 2 months ago
This may be someone's choice, but I see it as "come into my parlor, said the spider to the fly." I don't need to be a checkmark on their recruitment quota.
Nikole 2 months ago
With the holidays though it almost even bothers me more because of how Christianity made up things that conveniently fell on the solstices.
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Michael Largey 2 months ago
You save your soul by being a good person, not by hanging up religious icons.
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#12
My bicycle that I reported stolen 2 weeks ago. Big Red Flag.
#13
Really gnarly aquarium. If you’re gonna trap fish in a box for your personal pleasure, keep that s**t pristine.
Papa 2 months ago
Pristine aquariums are not healthy environments for the fish. Much of that gunk is bacteria that takes the ammonia secreted by the fish and breaks it down into less toxic substances. One of the biggest mistakes new fish keepers make is to do regular deep cleaning. Regarding the picture here, that's just a buildup of algae on the glass. While it may be unsightly, it is not unhealthy for the fish.
#14
I was looking at an apartment to rent in a very liberal part of the USA. Place was great! I’d have a huge windowed area and lots of nice amenities like a fireplace. I went to the other part of the place where the landlord lived. Above *his* fireplace was a portrait. A portrait of Nathan Bedford Forrest. Founder of the KKK. I noped right the f**k out of there.
#15
Trashy neighbor's dog died in a kennel, probably from starvation.
They ignored the body until well after rigor set in, and then they couldn't get it out of the cage because the limbs wouldn't bend. So they just left it in there, in the house, surrounded by piles of garbage
Their 10-year-old eventually asked other neighborhood adults for help because the parents wouldn't do anything about it.
So... dead dog rotting in a cage is my red flag.
Smeghead Tribble Down Under 2 months ago
OMFG >.< I'd have had the cops, RSPCA, and anyone else I could think of on their fkn doorstep.
#16
When they let their pets poop and pee in the house. Bonus if they let their kid sleep in a room that is essentially a massive litter box.
#17
When they don't do basic preparation for a preplanned guest coming over. For example, there's no toilet paper, they don't offer you anything to drink, house is really messy.
The Doom Song 2 months ago
First thing I do when I know I'm having people over is clean the toilet and make sure there's enough TP
#20
Growing up my mom always told me if I saw a gun in someone's home to politely leave and call her and that she'd pick me up. How to tell in one quick story that someone was raised outside of the United States. I still get a jolt when I see a rifle in someone's house, I understand that there is responsible gun owners but I am not fond of being near weapons even when properly stored.
Fellfromthemoon 2 months ago
If you see it then it's probably not properly stored, in a closed cabinet.
#21
One major red flag is if their home feels too sterile or empty—like they don’t actually live there. Also, lots of signs of anger, like holes in the walls, can be concerning!
Jay Scales 2 months ago
Homes that are SO tidy & sterile that I feel I'm making a mess just by breathing!
#22
Dish rack was in the sink and had black mold on it, they put clean dishes on it to dry i was horrified they also just put water in the baby bottles and let them soak and used them. Never actually washing the bottles HORRIFIED.
#23
We were looking at a litter of German Shepherd puppies. Very large house, lots of land. Looked rather posh.
The mum and pups were in the kitchen. Dog poo, puddles of urine everywhere.
I managed to step in 💩
Owner said ‘oh sorry! Give me your boot and I’ll clean it’.
I assumed she had an outside tap? Oh no…she took it to the kitchen sink and washed it there.
We declined a cup of tea.
#24
Books on Dianetics
My phone kept changing that to diabetics.
#25
A collection of young women's ID cards.
#26
When they use the sofa as a changing table with no blanket or anything on it. I went to someone's house and the kid had a blow out. The mom just put the baby with poopy diaper on the sofa to change her and looked at me when my jaw hit the floor and said "What's the big deal? It's just poop!" I never went there again.
It also explains why they purchased a brown sofa. 🤢.
#27
They had only one kitchen cloth. Just that ONE. Used for wiping hands, wiping the counter, wiping the dishes, and wiping the microwave/stove after cooking.
Bat cat in a hat 2 months ago
I still have to colour code the kitchen cloths or my partner would use the same one for drying hands and face, the dishes, wiping floors, cleaning the cat litter box, alternative currency and summoning spirits
#30
There was a guy who posted on r/malelivingspace who has 3 ‘obey’ prints above his bed.
#31
Cr*ck pipe, cats but no litter box, liquor bottles are the only decoration you can find, barely any furniture.
#32
No furniture, black garbage bags as window curtains, and a box spring with no sheets just a dirty blanket..
#33
One of my best friends from middle school invited me to spend the night one weekend and their house was so unbelievably *nasty*. It was more than just trash and dirty clothes all over the place. My friend’s older sister had a baby and they even had dirty diapers and food scraps throughout their apartment. Aside from some odd behavior from their mom who was gone pretty much the whole time we were there. We went swimming in their apartment pool that same weekend and my friend told me that her mom actually had a d**g problem and she sometimes just wouldn’t see her for days at a time. So now I think any unusual amount of trash could indicate a serious issue someone there must really be going through something in order for their house to be looking like *that*.
#35
A dog with a shock collar.
#36
Roaches. My in laws place is full of roaches and they act like it's no big deal.
JD 2 months ago
It depends. You can do everything right and still have roaches. Especially if you live in an apartment building or close to others with a roach infestation. My dorm in college had roaches the second semester because they were building a sports complex 30 feet away. All the roaches living in the field came to the dorms.
#38
Toilet paper roll facing in the wrong direction.
Upstaged75 2 months ago
Any time my dad argues that there is no "right" way to hang toilet paper I show him a picture of the original patent for it. He's a patent attorney. :)
#39
Bare mattress on the floor. No duvet cover or pillow cases. Crusty hand towels that haven’t been changed in days or weeks.
"Disembodied voice" 2 months ago
Duvet cover is too much of a pain, I have a sheet between me and the blanket anyway
#40
Crushed prescription pills lying all over the living room coffee table.
What do you think ?
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 2 months ago
Some on this list are just really funny but some are just really snobby. No evidence of hobbies or books! That's not a red flag some people don't like reading and don't have hobbies.
Donald 2 months ago
I'm dyslexic, the books are just a decoration lol. I don't feel like struggling for a week to finish a few chapters, audiobooks all day.
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The Doom Song 2 months ago
For me it's a dirty kitchen. I can't deal with it. I'm talking like piles of dirty dishes in the sink, food scraps, nothing has been wiped down. Even down to the cloth used.
All profits to charity 2 months ago
Don’t judge the bath towels! I don’t know where my kids haul them off to but I’m TRYINg!!! 😩
Marissa Voleta 2 months ago
This is on the more superficial side, but I don't enjoy going to people's homes when they don't know how to use chill, entertainment lighting...like no warm lamps or even some candles or string lights. They just have on all the overheads with bright/flourescent lights...AND when it's cold in their house. Both of those things don't make me feel comfy or welcome..it makes me feel like I'm in my office, where I spend 40 hrs a week already. How bout no music?! Like how do you entertain and it's cold, brightly lit, and nothing in the background?
Trista JW 1 month ago (edited)
HAHA not only superficial, but borderline self-entitled. Not everyone can afford to light their house in a manner to please you specifically. It should not make you "uncomfortable" if they have normal lighting and do not buy a specific kind of bulb to please your delicate sensibilities. Not having random music playing means, I dunno, they might be interested in talking with whoever might be visiting?! Makes me glad I can use my heathen "cold" normal Walmart lightbulbs and don't have to worry about breaking out "the good lights" for anyone that visits.
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T'Mar of Vulcan 2 months ago
Went to visit some family friends who live in England. Their entire house was covered in stuff. All over every table, counter, seat, couch. They had two young kids who had to snake their way through a tiny path in the back yard because the grass was taller than they were. It's not that the house was dirty, there was just stuff everywhere. When we ate supper, I couldn't even fit my plate on the table because of everything piled up. Friend moved the stuff when he saw I didn't have space. But who doesn't neaten up their house for guests?
Daya Meyer 2 months ago
After reading this, I am so glad that I've cleaned my bathroom this morning. Including changing the towels and the bathmat like every week.
talliloo 2 months ago
nice guy lived in the building that i was in. eventually, he asked me to come by for dinner. so, sure - why not? knocked on his door and when he opened it the first thing i saw was that pretty much every place on the walls were cut outs of women from men's magazines. i mean they were everywhere. so, i quickly came up with an excuse as to why i couldn't stay for dinner and left. it was just so creepy. he still asked me over a few more times until i told him that i had entered into a relationship with someone and i was very happy with the situation. the new love of my life: a doberman puppy.
Trista JW 1 month ago (edited)
A lot of sh!t on this list is just people being low-income. Not having a fvckload of money isn't a red flag, it's just the way life is for a good majority of people around the world. You make due with what you have and do the best you can, regardless of what anyone else might think or say.
Breadcrumb. 2 months ago
I love a clean house. It's easy to get motivated now if I have a podcast or audio book to listen to awhile I work on it.
Kelly Scott 2 months ago
I can't stand people who can't keep their pets clean. You go over to their house and petting their dogs is like petting a greasy Towel. Plus in those kids of houses, there's pet hair stacked up in the corners of the room and so thick on the furniture you don't want to sit on it.
Binny Tutera 2 months ago
Went to pick up a coworker and they had an engine block on the floor in the kitchen. AND a hole in the floor big enough to fall into the basement.
Debbie 2 months ago
I commented on these posts way too seriously. Red flags is often a culmination of things. And somethings shouldn't be called red flags if they are THAT obvious or if they're criminal/abuse. Abuse is not a red flag, it's abuse. A red flag to me is an indication of someone possible being bad/not sane. If there is clear evidence... skip the flags and leave.
EmAdoresHerKats🇮🇪🇩🇿🇵🇸 2 months ago
Some on this list are just really funny but some are just really snobby. No evidence of hobbies or books! That's not a red flag some people don't like reading and don't have hobbies.
Donald 2 months ago
I'm dyslexic, the books are just a decoration lol. I don't feel like struggling for a week to finish a few chapters, audiobooks all day.
Load More Replies... The Doom Song 2 months ago
For me it's a dirty kitchen. I can't deal with it. I'm talking like piles of dirty dishes in the sink, food scraps, nothing has been wiped down. Even down to the cloth used.
All profits to charity 2 months ago
Don’t judge the bath towels! I don’t know where my kids haul them off to but I’m TRYINg!!! 😩
Marissa Voleta 2 months ago
This is on the more superficial side, but I don't enjoy going to people's homes when they don't know how to use chill, entertainment lighting...like no warm lamps or even some candles or string lights. They just have on all the overheads with bright/flourescent lights...AND when it's cold in their house. Both of those things don't make me feel comfy or welcome..it makes me feel like I'm in my office, where I spend 40 hrs a week already. How bout no music?! Like how do you entertain and it's cold, brightly lit, and nothing in the background?
Trista JW 1 month ago (edited)
HAHA not only superficial, but borderline self-entitled. Not everyone can afford to light their house in a manner to please you specifically. It should not make you "uncomfortable" if they have normal lighting and do not buy a specific kind of bulb to please your delicate sensibilities. Not having random music playing means, I dunno, they might be interested in talking with whoever might be visiting?! Makes me glad I can use my heathen "cold" normal Walmart lightbulbs and don't have to worry about breaking out "the good lights" for anyone that visits.
Load More Replies... T'Mar of Vulcan 2 months ago
Went to visit some family friends who live in England. Their entire house was covered in stuff. All over every table, counter, seat, couch. They had two young kids who had to snake their way through a tiny path in the back yard because the grass was taller than they were. It's not that the house was dirty, there was just stuff everywhere. When we ate supper, I couldn't even fit my plate on the table because of everything piled up. Friend moved the stuff when he saw I didn't have space. But who doesn't neaten up their house for guests?
Daya Meyer 2 months ago
After reading this, I am so glad that I've cleaned my bathroom this morning. Including changing the towels and the bathmat like every week.
talliloo 2 months ago
nice guy lived in the building that i was in. eventually, he asked me to come by for dinner. so, sure - why not? knocked on his door and when he opened it the first thing i saw was that pretty much every place on the walls were cut outs of women from men's magazines. i mean they were everywhere. so, i quickly came up with an excuse as to why i couldn't stay for dinner and left. it was just so creepy. he still asked me over a few more times until i told him that i had entered into a relationship with someone and i was very happy with the situation. the new love of my life: a doberman puppy.
Trista JW 1 month ago (edited)
A lot of sh!t on this list is just people being low-income. Not having a fvckload of money isn't a red flag, it's just the way life is for a good majority of people around the world. You make due with what you have and do the best you can, regardless of what anyone else might think or say.
Breadcrumb. 2 months ago
I love a clean house. It's easy to get motivated now if I have a podcast or audio book to listen to awhile I work on it.
Kelly Scott 2 months ago
I can't stand people who can't keep their pets clean. You go over to their house and petting their dogs is like petting a greasy Towel. Plus in those kids of houses, there's pet hair stacked up in the corners of the room and so thick on the furniture you don't want to sit on it.
Binny Tutera 2 months ago
Went to pick up a coworker and they had an engine block on the floor in the kitchen. AND a hole in the floor big enough to fall into the basement.
Debbie 2 months ago
I commented on these posts way too seriously. Red flags is often a culmination of things. And somethings shouldn't be called red flags if they are THAT obvious or if they're criminal/abuse. Abuse is not a red flag, it's abuse. A red flag to me is an indication of someone possible being bad/not sane. If there is clear evidence... skip the flags and leave.
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