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There are some things not to say on a first date that must be avoided at all costs. They could cost more than usual. Since the beginning phase of the relationship is the most important one, speaking bad words is one of the things not to do on a first date. Bad words can only ruin the newly formed relationship. A lot of things can go bad on a first date, especially when it comes to the magic that is words.

The first meeting is always important, especially when it comes to dates. Some people wonder what to say on a first date since the first impression is vital to both parties. Words leave a long-term impression on people. They are like birds — they are out of our control once released. So when it comes to what not to do on a first date, telling a bad joke or quote is probably first and second on the list of don'ts. 

The topic of what to talk about on a first date should take most of the time to prepare. Luckily, we have prepared a list below of what not to say. Since some words are worse than others, be sure to upvote the ones that could ruin it. On the other hand, if you have some of your own wisdom to share, be sure to share it in the comments below.

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    "I don't like dogs."

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    Jake VanWagoner
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I said "I like dogs but I don't think I'd want to own one." I then married a woman who had two dogs and became the "two weeks later, dad and the dog" meme.

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    #6

    "Are you seriously going to eat all of that?"

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    #9

    "So yeah, my apartment has two bedrooms. My mother lives in the second bedroom, but she won't mind hearing us."

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    El Howard
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I shared an apartment with my first girlfriend and her mother...

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    #10

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "You’re a lot bigger than you were in your photos..."

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    "My therapist tells me that I should really stop talking to my ex."

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    The President
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    ⭐ for getting therapy. It helps a lot yet people don't do it enough.

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    #14

    "I have an IQ of 167, which is, scientifically speaking, considered genius. Most people don't get my humor, or the mature books I read, like "To kill a Mockingbird," or my favorite books on theoretical physics. I'm sure half of everything I say would fly right over your head. Not that you aren't smart, It's just that I'm such a genius that I have a habit of accidentally humiliating people with my intellect and libertarian politics, so making others seem like they're drooling infants is pretty normal for me. Especially with liberals."

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    DennyS (denzoren)
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "No no, you're right, I'm not as smart as you so this definitely wouldn't work out, I'd just be a bore and a drag if we dated."

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    #15

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "Have you ever thought of losing a few pounds?"

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    #16

    "Is your friend from your profile picture single?"

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    #17

    “I’m only looking for someone who can financially support me.”

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    #18

    "You should never give her a hug and whisper 'Mother told me it would feel like this.'"

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    #19

    “I’ll be right back. I have to take the biggest dump.”

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    August
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wouldn’t bother me lol. As long as they aren’t graphically describing the process.

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    #20

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All “Oh, I just assumed you’d pay.”

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Bahahaha. Yeah I've had the "would you like to buy me a drink". Lol. Yeah nah if you need a guy to buy you a drink to telk to them youre basically a cheap escort but without the sex so nah ill pass thanks. Lol

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    #21

    "I haven't dated in a while but I'm getting really horny, so here we are!"

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    #22

    "Look, I'm all for gender equality, as long as women know their place."

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    Ekaterina Pavlova
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "Oh, they know. Their place is just not with you". And then straight up leave, lol.

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    #24

    "You're not one of those feminists are you?"

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    Alexander Smith
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I support feminism and equality for all but I don't believe I should be attacked or have people make assumptions just because I present male. And yes I have been attacked over these things.

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    #25

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All “My dad is my best friend. I’m looking for a partner that’s just like him.”

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    David Frey
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    How about I don’t want a mental picture of me doing it with my dad!

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    #26

    "I Googled you. Even if you totally did, don't say it. It's creepy."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I'd rather the say it and then we can talk about what they found as I ask how I can Google thier name. They'll either get hissy (some people have double standards so best to avoid them) or they'll love the idea. Plus let's be honest saying it means they can own thier sh.t which is a big plus

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    #27

    "I'm about to go on a trip for the next six months."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This is a way of saying the want a casual without saying it. Lol

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    #28

    "Can I look through your diary?"

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    #29

    "You'll definitely have to smoke if you hang out with me."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I smoke cigarettes but I am up-front on this. I don't smoke anything else and I also say that upfront. This shouldn't be an issue if you've both been upfront before the date

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    #32

    "My boyfriend just broke up with me."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wow ok sorry to hear that. I can't do rebound relationships. They never work and.i tend to be the target of things an ex did and I am not responsible for. So unless this is a casual thing I'll haveto pass I'm sorry

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    #34

    "I have met up with two different people who have said, "I've never dated an Asian before..." within the first thirty minutes of sitting down together. Would not recommend mentioning race at all, frankly."

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    BakedKahuna
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Met a cute guy who was funny and all. The he dropped "I always wanted to do an Asian woman". Never looked back.

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    #35

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All “Who are you texting?”

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    #36

    “I have a bad habit of changing for every person I date.”

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    El Howard
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I knew a Mormon girl in college that dressed like a redneck to date my cowboy roommate but dressed like a businesswoman to date me..

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    #37

    “I’ve never dated someone less attractive than I am before.”

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    mark glass
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Damned hard to find anyone less attractive than a person who'd say that.

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    #38

    “How much money do you make?”

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Enough to hire someone who can have a better opening line than this. Lol

    #39

    “Would you mind if I live tweet this?”

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    #41

    "Like to see some pics of my taxidermy collection?"

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    #42

    "I need to marry you so I can stay in the country."

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    Gailmarie Cardinal
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean... Can we avoid being arrested and are you paying all the bills?

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    #44

    "They really need to build that wall.... anyways so you say you are from Nicaragua?"

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    #45

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "So, how long until you'll let me sleep with you?"

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    #46

    "You're kind of eating a lot."

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    Sisyphus
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I only ask because my fantasy to be the feeder, will you be my eater?

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    #47

    "Do you want to go to a strip club?"

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    #48

    “My exes say that I was too high-maintenance, but I think it’s just that they didn’t love me enough.”

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    #49

    “Ugh, I always end up dating girls like you.”

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    #50

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "I’ve got another date after this one…"

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    #51

    "No, I don't have a gun... I always carry a knife."

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    Pineapple
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would always carry my knife(it has a really cool dragon design on it)

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    #52

    "I have to get back to my home planet."

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    FlatEarf
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I would date a person like that 10000000% I want to see how crazy I can get

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    #54

    "I'm gonna take these leftovers to my wife."

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    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "Let's just say it's bigger than my dads."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Yeah my head (theb1 on my shoulders) is bigger than my dad's as well. It's an odd statement for you to make but hey you do you

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    #56

    "Let's take a selfie!"

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    #57

    "We should get a couple massage tomorrow!"

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    #58

    "So, are you bi? 'Cause those glasses are giving you away."

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    #59

    "Do you mind if my friend stops by?"

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    #60

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All “Why would I move out of my parents’ house? I love it there!”

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    Mike Robinson
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Wendy, your husband didn't say "Why would I move...", he was living there to help his mother, not because he needed their support. You did find a keeper

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    #61

    “If I don’t get married in the next year, I think I might die.”

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    #62

    "I don't like kids... when I have kids."

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    FlatEarf
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    "I have no kids related to me. I have 15 kids that live with me. I don't believe in adoption"

    #63

    "I had a guy tell me our first date: 'Just a heads up. My best friend is a girl. But I swear there is nothing going on there! Well, anymore.'"

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    August
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I’m of the opinion that people of different genders can be friends but it is a bit awkward if you used to date/sleep with said friend. No matter their gender, honestly. Like, you could be friendly with your ex but them being your best friend is a little sus. It’d probably take awhile for me to trust that particular relationship, not impossible tho.

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    #66

    "You'd make a beautiful mother."

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    #67

    "It's just ridiculous, the wage gap isn't even real."

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    #68

    “Your exes rate you an average of 2.38 out of 5 stars, trending more towards the median at the beginning but varying wildly more recently. Based on your work annual evaluations, I’m reasonably confident that I’ll find you in the upper 3s or lower 4s, but your browser history exposes some trends that could either be extremely spicy or distressing, I guess we’ll find out...”

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    #69

    "Do you have a sister?"

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    Tyranamar Seuss
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you think they're cute or you like them and you're asking to set up a friend this may not be horrible.

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    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "We should definitely travel together."

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    #72

    "So was I an accidental right swipe?"

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    If you're acting disinterested etc I'd say this is a very valid question and makes the point you noticed they're behavior

    #73

    "So, you just don't have any hobbies?"

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    MrsFettesVette
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    This seems reasonable, I wouldn't want to date someone who doesn't have hobbies or interests besides working, eating, and sleeping.

    #74

    "So, are you smart?"

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    #75

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "I guess I can be kind of a jerk sometimes."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well again they're honest to admit it. We all can be so I'd rather this than a person who thinks they're a treat (avoid the person who doesn't admit thier faults because they'll only even find fault in others and never accept blame for anything)

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    #76

    "We would make beautiful children."

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    #77

    “I don’t think people are funny.”

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    #78

    “I just want to fall in love with someone, right now.”

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    #79

    “I’m sorry. I just need to take this call for one second. I swear.”

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    #80

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "You remind me so much of my dad!"

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    Gailmarie Cardinal
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I actually don't see the problem if she has a positive dad relationship. This is a natural way of selecting a partner. that positive experience with your dad makes you seek out partner similar. Now if they have bad daddy issues on the other hand probably run

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    #81

    "I don't really know how to watch my tone."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    No that's fine. I can come across as abrupt at times as well. It's all about learning

    #82

    "It sounds like you don't really have fun."

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    #83

    "I'm thinking of moving. I just can't sit still."

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    #84

    "I just feel a lot, I don't know."

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    #85

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "Are you going to kill me? I'm not into internet murder."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Nah too lazy to go through trying to organise and cover it up etc.

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    #86

    "I want to love you."

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    #87

    "You look just like my cousin Jethro."

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    #88

    "So, how do you think that went?"

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    R. W.
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I think that's a reasonable question unless the answer is a foregone conclusion (either really well or really awful.)

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    #89

    "I just had a burrito."

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    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "I met my last girlfriend while I was hanging out in the undergraduate library trying to meet girls."

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    And? We all do things to meet people we might find attractive when we're s8ngle.

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    #91

    "So, do you go on a lot of dates?"

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    #92

    "So, how long have you been single for?"

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    Mark
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    That's actually perfectly acceptable. I'd rather avoid a person whi broke u9 with someone recently so as to avoid being thier rebound

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    #93

    "You seem nervous."

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    #94

    "Wow, this is so weird."

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    #95

    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All “People say I’m conceited, but I just love myself.”

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    #96

    “My friends say I’m too clingy, but I just like to throw all of myself in a relationship.”

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    #97

    "'My favorite restaurants are McDonald's and Subway.' After he told me that, I blinked slowly and said... okay."

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    #99

    "How long you have been single."

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    Danalalala
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I see nothing wrong with this. I've met several guys who just got out of long term relationships like a week before. I know you're lonely but I'm not babysitting you till yall get back together or listening to a lot of complaining about the ex they're clearly not over.

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    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "Sorry I'm late, I just came from this cool art thing. You probably haven't heard of it."

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    #101

    "This wasn't a good idea. I think I'm just going to go."

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    #102

    "What's the worst thing you've ever done?"

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    #103

    "We're going Dutch tonight!"

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    Aaron Matye
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    1 year ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    As a first date, you shouldn't have to say that, because it should be a given, unless one person chooses to pay for both.

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    104 Things Not To Say On A First Date To Not Ruin It All "Wow, you have a good appetite."

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    T.
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    1 year ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Would this be acceptable if the person just ate a plate for two? Because it reminds me of that rather skinny girl I saw eating a meat platter for two people alone in one sitting. edit: spelling