Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers)

Nobody’s perfect—nor should we be. Perfection is boring. We’re all about people embracing the heck out of their ‘flaws’ and being at peace with them. But that’s easier said than done. We all have small aspects of ourselves that we’d change if we could. Our partners, on the other hand, might not want us to!

The men of the r/AskReddit online community revealed what their partners dislike about themselves, but that they genuinely find attractive. From greying and wavy hair to slightly crooked teeth and silly laughs, there are lots of things that are endearing about people, making them unique. Read on for some uplifting answers.

Bored Panda reached out to the author of the viral thread, and she was happy to answer our questions about the "overwhelming positivity" of the discussion, as well as how to accept one's imperfections. The OP preferred to remain anonymous. You'll find our full interview with her as you read on.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her stretch marks and extra skin from her weight loss. Some of the larger marks are red but they look badass to me, like she fought someone or something. And the extra skin just makes her extra soft, like the parts with extra skin are some of my favourites. It's so f*****g soft.

Edit: forgot to mention she still wants to lose a bit of weight and eventually remove the loose skin, especially if she gets a breast reduction one day. Totally fine by me, it's her body, doesn't bother me. I'm gonna marry her one day anyway, hip dips, cellulite, stretch marks, extra skin, and all. She's drop dead gorgeous and nothing will change that for me. She's seriously the most beautiful thing I've ever looked at and she wants to date me??? Fine by me

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Xenon 11 months ago

You are one adorable smitten kitten. Best to you both.

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We asked the author of the viral thread about her thoughts on how people can come to terms with their imperfections. According to her, it's something that slowly comes about as we grow older and (hopefully) wiser... but having a supportive partner by your side can really help boost your confidence.

"I feel like a lot of acceptance of imperfections comes with age and time. As I entered my thirties, I gained a lot more confidence in who I am and what I look like," she opened up to Bored Panda.

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her hair is going grey and I think it’s just the best. She hates the idea of getting older. I love growing older with her.

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beth oswalt 11 months ago

You are so sweet, I wish my husband felt the same way.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My ole lady is concerned about her weighing quite a bit more than when we first got together.

To that point, her cooking is what made me fat again. So like, you made us both fat. Congratulations, we are in this together.

Happy fat.

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TheDarkestRaven 11 months ago

Happy fat. That’s adorable.

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"Having a supportive partner who celebrates both the good and the bad absolutely helps in this regard. I think that, for many people, the responses in this post showed us that things that are commonly considered flaws, such as a crooked smile, chubby belly, or a prominent nose, can attract the right person," the author said.

"This thread unintentionally normalized all of these things and hopefully helped some people feel good about themselves."

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) That she likes to talk a lot.. I actually enjoy listening to her talk because her voice is like something crafted from god himself

She always says "Are you even listening? I feel like I'm talking too much" and then when I recite everything she said for the past 20-30 mins she kind of blushes 😂

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

I love when someone enjoys my rambling's

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My wife talks about how she got kicked out of choir in high school bc she can’t sing. And she can’t carry a tune in a bucket to save her life. But I love hearing her sing her favorite songs. When she gets so excited that she can’t hold it back. I could listen to her sing all day.

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WindySwede 11 months ago

"... and I just can't hide it" ? 🙃👍

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She’s put on weight. I think she looks way more sexy and voluptuous. She’s tall so - yum! Come here amazing Amazonian. Death by snu snu

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

Haha

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We were curious how the author came up with the idea for the thread in the first place. She was kind enough to walk us through exactly how the idea for the question came about.

"My husband and I have recently restarted watching Modern Family. In an early episode, Gloria felt bad because people were teasing her for her accent and she became self-conscious. Jay patched it up by telling a story of how her voice and accent initially attracted him to her," she shared.

"That got my wheels turning, and I decided to ask the men of Reddit what they are attracted to that their wife/girlfriend might not necessarily love about themselves."

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her thighs. She was a volleyball player and doesn’t like how big her thighs got, then they got bigger when we got pregnant. But I f*****g love them. I think they’re so sexy and they compliment everything about her. She really is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever seen inside and out and she will never believe me. I pray everyday that she can see herself through my eyes, just once, to truly see just how beautiful she is and how much brighter she makes the world around her.

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Nerenahd Dhaneren 11 months ago

My wife hates her calves, she thinks they're too thick compared to most woman. Not only I disagree, but I think it's super sexy, particularly on high heels. Funny how we see it deferently. And I think that because of me, she's in peace with it now.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) I dated a girl with a mild stutter, it was the thing she was most self conscience about. every single time she would stutter it would give me butterflies. I can’t explain why but I thought it was absolutely adorable

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11 months ago

My boyfriend has essential tremor, and i love the way it feels when he holds me.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My wife has a white streak in her hair from a birthmark. She hates it. It was the thing that made me stare at her the day we met. Last week was the 29th anniversary of our first date.

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

It's the little things that get us, I completely get it.

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The topic the redditor touched upon resonated very deeply with a lot of internet users. "I think people enjoyed the topic because everyone can relate to having flaws or certain traits that make us feel self-conscious," the OP told Bored Panda.

"I was impressed by the overwhelming positivity in the majority of the posts. As a woman, it was really nice to see."

#10

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My wife has coffee coloured skin..dark coffee if anything.

In her culture (China) paleness is considered desirable and healthy for women.

For me, I actually like her colour. She always worried about it but it was one of the things that attracted me to her.

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Aspiring Canuck 11 months ago

I hope a lot of East Asian women see this. Many of the world's people find dark skin attractive.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) her face. she thinks she is unattractive although she is the most beautiful woman on earth

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LaserBrain 11 months ago

Ok yes, this is a re-comment on a post above, but.... "That's wonderful. I had a gf before that most people considered unattractive, but in my eyes she was beautiful. When I told her that she was beautiful to me, she accused me of lying to her, and got angry. Can someone who understands this, maybe from a woman's perspective, explain?"

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#12

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My wife has slightly crooked front teeth. She hates it and constantly says she wants to get cosmetic dentistry to fix it the moment it becomes financially feasible. I, however, love it. It's one of the things I've always loved the most about her physical appearance because it's so unique to her, and I find it so adorable.

That being said, I would also have no issues paying for her to get it fixed in a heartbeat as well, because as much as I love it, I also want her to love herself and be happy with her own physical appearance.

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

That's sweet

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If your partner were to suddenly change some aspects of their physical appearance and behavior to be more ‘perfect,’ it would come as a complete shock. And many of these changes would be unnecessary: we love people for who they are right now, not just for their imaginary future potential.

A core aspect of loving and respecting someone is accepting them for who they are—warts and all. It’s one thing to want your partner to live a healthier life while you encourage them to pursue their dreams. It’s wanting them to be the best version of themselves. This is healthy.

It’s another thing entirely to want the other person to change their appearance and behavior almost entirely just so you can feel satisfied. This is unhealthy and suggests that there are deeper issues at work, from a desire to control everything to a lack of respect and initial attraction.

#13

Her crow's feet.

I love the lines on her eyes when she smiles. It's so genuine and beautiful that I fall in love all over again.

She can't help but smile because I look like some oaf that's seen a boob for the first time

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nomnomborkbork 11 months ago

I'd love to be the face that makes my husband look like he's just seen a boob for the first time!

22points

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My wife always complains that she is “dirty” or “sweaty” when I get close and I try to explain that I am extremely turned on by her scent and that sweaty lady parts send my pheromone sensors over the edge

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11 months ago

I totally get it. I love the scent of my boyfriend! He loves that I love it.

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Clingy. Makes me feel wanted.

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Mardie Mohamed 11 months ago

I think I'm clingy, and i try very hard to not be. Then i appear nonchalant or uncaring. And i got dump because of that. Haha

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Though most of us have probably heard about body positivity, it could be argued that it’s not the healthiest of approaches in life. Celebrating yourself all the time can be exhausting and, in some cases, it avoids tackling actual issues. Toxic positivity can be as bad as chronic negativity. Instead, body neutrality can be a better choice to lean into.

To put it simply, body neutrality is being at peace with your body. No hate. No love. Just peace. The philosophy is centered around judging oneself and others less for physical appearances and natural changes like aging. It’s more about how you feel, less about how you look, as The New York Times notes.

#16

My wife dogs on herself so much after having two kids. I think she looks amazing, plus the little baby pooch she has meaning for me, she gave me two amazing kiddos.

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My O My 11 months ago

I hate that too! I want to wear tight fitting tshirts again

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#17

freckles. She is the only one in her family with freckles, she never liked them. I find her face so beautiful specially her freckles

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Weird Panda 11 months ago

Freckles are gorgeous

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#18

Her height.

She's 5"10' and is self-concious. I absolutely love it (I'm the same height). She will wear heels and become 6"2 and it drives me wild. She's an absolute goddess. Tall, slim and blonde but constantly worries because of society. We have a couple of friends built similarly and they feel the same, and they shouldn't have to worry about that.

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Mark 11 months ago

Stupid non American male, is 5 10 considered short or tall for women?

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WebMD points out that body positivity isn’t without its critics. According to them, it’s not realistic or healthy to love your body unconditionally, at all times. This sort of over-the-top positivity can also mask your authentic feelings about who you are, what you look like, and what your body is capable of.

If you’re constantly in awe of yourself, every single moment of the day, are you being genuine? Similarly, if all you do is focus on your ‘flaws,’ are you being realistic or overly judgmental? Body neutrality is a peaceful sort of acceptance that centers on simply existing.

#19

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her hair. She has natural curly hair it turns me on. She hates it I LOVE it

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Zoey Rayne 11 months ago

I also have curly hair; I am fine with how it looks, but maintenance can be a pain. Plus, if someone plays with it the wrong way, it can be a snarled mess. If she is just worried about how it looks, I hope you can change her mind, if she dislikes it for those other reasons, it will be harder to help her love her hair.

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#20

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her boobs it causes her back problems. I love them but for the sake of her health I wouldn't be upset if she had a breast reduction.

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David Paterson 11 months ago

A very common situation.

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#21

My partner feels that her breasts are uneven or misaligned. Next Tuesday will be my sixth year of staring at them whenever I have the chance. Her visual issues are what worry me the most.

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Clown fish 11 months ago

Again normal! One boob is always bigger. Same as one hand will be bigger, one foot, and for men one ball

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#22

She thinks her boobs are too small but I disagree. When I tell her she has fantastic boobs it's like the light of heaven enters her eyes. God bless

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11 months ago

I think mine are too small too, but i never get any complaints.

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#23

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her ears stick out. She covers them with her hair. But I think they are adorable

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nomnomborkbork 11 months ago

I think prominent ears are cute too, but then look at my pic...

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#24

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) My ex had literally perfect 10/10 lips, then got lip filler surgery. They got worse. Don’t mess with perfection.

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Aspiring Canuck 11 months ago

Lip killers are an incomprehensible fad. I've never seen a woman who looked more attractive with artificially enlarged lips. Some just look like ducks.

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#25

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her sneeze. She's not like super self conscious about it but she acknowledges its a bit weird.

I think its cute. She does a normal splutter and about half a second later this little feminine "choo" that's totally not part of the sneezy chaos.

Its kinda like "haaa...spssst....choo"

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

I'm loud and I hate it. The second sneeze, if I have another, is louder yet. I get embarrassed

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her nose. She's asian and likes my high bridged "white" nose. But I think her little round nose is adorable

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Kristal 11 months ago (edited)

Wait, round? I'm not Asian by any stretch of the imagination biologically, but I've also have had guys like my 'little round' nose. Is it an Asian trait?

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) She’s always complaining about her butt, I think it’s amazing though.

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GlassHalfWay 11 months ago

Is this you, husband?

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#28

Her weight. In college she was 110lbs, now she's.... more. We've had 2 kids and getting older. I think she looks better now but she doesn't believe me

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Bouche and Audi and Shyla, Oh My! 11 months ago

It's the toxicity of the media. From infancy, we're bombarded with the message that to be attractive, we have to be skeletons. Me? I'd want someone I could hug without breaking them.

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#29

Her smile, when she smiles (her real genuine smile) she sticks her teeth out. She calls it her “horse face”, but I can’t help but love how adorable she looks. Especially when she tries to hide it.

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#30

Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) A slight belly bulge

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Clown fish 11 months ago

I wish people would realise it's normal

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#31

My girlfriend has terrible eyesight and always has to wear glasses. I find them super sexy

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Dani M 11 months ago

Glasses can be so annoying. Not about the looks as much as fogging up, getting streaks on them... Contacts dry the eyes out. I think good eyesight just makes life easier.

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My ex was 4'11" and she was super self conscious about it. I loved her height though, I really enjoyed the awkward kisses and hugs.

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Doctor Strange 11 months ago

You really gotta hand it to short people. Usually because they can't reach it themselves. But seriously though, tall, short, it doesn't matter. There are pros and cons to each. What matters most is if we connect, anything else is just details.

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#33

My ex had a big bum, which I love anyway, and she had little stretch marks around her hips and on her actual bum. She hated them, but it was the first time I’d actually ever saw them on a woman, and they drove me nuts.

I actively look for them now. Big booty for the win.

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Hamster 11 months ago

“Big booty for the win” 😂

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#34

Her hair. She grew up in a super white environment and anything that doesn't match traditional white woman beauty standards is hard for her to see as beautiful on herself. Hair is a big one. Meanwhile I think her hair is absolutely gorgeous, like pretty much everything else about her.

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nomnomborkbork 11 months ago (edited)

I wish there weren't such a thing as "beauty standards"! (edit typo)

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her big butt, i like big butts

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Daniel Atkins 11 months ago

You cannot lie .

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#36

Her accent when she speaks her second language.

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Beth H 11 months ago

I'm impressed with anyone speaking a second language!!

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#37

My ex hated her “small breasts.” They were a pretty nice size… they just weren’t porn star HUGE.

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Papa 11 months ago

Not all men like porn star huge.

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#38

Her legs.

According to her, they "get in the way" and are unpleasant on aircraft, cars, and public transit. Additionally, she finds it a little difficult to get trousers to fit. Still, I adore them.

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Xenon 11 months ago

Guessing she's on the tall side. I feel the pain.

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#39

Pretty much my entire wife... she hates that part.

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Xenon 11 months ago

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Men Are Sharing Things Their GFs Dislike About Themselves, But They Find Attractive (40 Answers) Her calves.

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Nerenahd Dhaneren 11 months ago

My wife hates her calves, she thinks they're too thick compared to most woman. Not only I disagree, but I think it's super sexy, particularly on high heels.

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What do you think ?

Tempest 11 months ago

Reading these made me happy cry. I’ve always had low self esteem and I’ve never considered myself as a pretty person (which I’m okay with). While my ex was courting me and then when we were together, I got all the positive compliments from him, even on parts of my body which I particularly hate (e.g.: my big eyes which my sister once said makes me look like a squid -_-). I actually started liking myself and turned to taking better care of myself. Then he discarded me (he’s a narcissist) and although he’s still in the picture his utter ignorance of me makes me believe that all those compliments were just lies (in addition to everything else). And now I’m back to not liking myself and not caring about myself but it’s worse that ever. I hate where I’m at. Hopefully I’ll have a better future.

VonBlade 11 months ago

Whilst a strangers comment is unlikely to help, big eyes are considered so attractive that ALL animated media, where they can do what they like, has people with big eyes. Western or Eastern. Big eyes rule the day. You're a human version of that ideal. Fantastic.

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Gonna give you a bit of science here. You are more attractive than you think. Most people are. Because we tend to judge ourselves based on pictures. We see pictures of ourselves and think 'I look horrible'. But here is where the science part comes in. You are more attractive than what pictures of you show. Because pictures are 2d representations of 3d objects. That means the suffer from what are called flattening errors, as well as lens distortions, and other things that make the features subtly 'off'. Not enough to go 'that's wrong', but enough to make us think we look unnatractive. Further, people are living things. Our subconcious minds are programmed to expect them to move. So a still image sets off a vague sense of 'something is wrong here'. And lastly, the only time we see ourselves is in a mirror. So looking at a picture of yourself you see it as 'backwards', which further adds to that sense of 'wrong'. All combined, it makes you judge yourself much more harshly.

Nerenahd Dhaneren 11 months ago (edited)

I'm a guy, so not sure if it's much help to say something like this, but... Try not to rely on other people's opinions (specially guys) to compose the picture that you have of yourself. Your value as a person should come from the inside. As for appearance, even though we can't choose our biological traits, we definitely can improve things up, like working out, staying in shape, having a nice haircut, attractive clothing, etc. To be honest, as a guy, clothes make a HUGE difference. Even so called unattractive women can improve a LOT their overall attractiveness. Lastly, but not least, being an interesting, enjoyable, fun person also goes a long way.

Jostanquecla 11 months ago

Awe. You shouldn't base your value on other people's opinions. Big eyes are wonderful. I have big eyes and I'm super proud of them. Be proud of your awesome eyes!!!

Dane 11 months ago

I (WM, 63Y), have always felt that the woman I am involved with is the most beautiful woman in the room! Sure, I recognize the beauty of >insert model, actress, influencer, etc<, but for my heart and soul, they are little different than a piece of art to be admired. The woman I am with however, is the penultimate female, the one I desire, the one I dream about. Her perceived "flaws" are merely the facets that make her unique. And this is the way every man (or woman) sees their mate when they are truly in love.

6points

Daft Mosquito 11 months ago

Just remember the age-old "beauty is in the eye of the beholder."

Its also in the eye of the beerholder

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