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Cohabitation has increased by nearly 900 percent over the last 50 years and has become the ultimate test drive for couples before walking down the aisle. However, moving in together comes with its fair share of revelations. Mostly, about your partner. Living in the same space may expose some of their pet peeves, ones that were impossible to spot just by spending a few evenings together each week. Or the two of you can defy all the non-believers and you might discover you love cuddling after waking up even if you're not a morning person.

Interested in how people are handling this relationship milestone, Redditor CrumbleNewman asked other users: "Couples who have moved in together, what surprised you most about living with a male/female?" And everyone quickly jumped to the comments. As of this article, the post has 22.5K comments to go along with its 55K upvotes.

Continue scrolling to check out some of the answers and the chat I had about cohabitation with dating coach and 2-million-views TEDx speaker, Hayley Quinn.

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Me and my fiancé moved in together about a year before she passed away in a car accident and the one thing I can truly remember being surprised about is how much more open we were with each other about anything. I have OCD and she never got to see how bad my panic attack could be until we moved in. She was so scared the first time that she called my Momma who I Love dearly and has always been my source and strength even today, and asked how she could help me. Having OCD sometimes you may feel something bad can happen if you tell what you are obsessing about. To this day I don't know what my mom told her but Momma then Kayla could always tell when an obsession was building and she got great about quelling the problem before it began. Spending all that time with her now we were moved in helped me become most aware and attuned to her needs and desires as a woman. I knew what upset her even if she didn't tell me. And all the little taboos when you first enter a relationship such as bathroom habits and personal problems became a thing of the past. It got to a point where I could talk to her about anything and everything. It's been almost 7 years since I lost her and I haven't had a relationship since her. I still mourn for her. I love you baby.

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Quinn, who empowers men and women to enjoy a more fulfilling dating life, with live coaching, hands-on tutorials and guidance for any age or sexual orientation, told Bored Panda that moving in with someone begins with getting the timing right. "If you've had a whirlwind romance of a few months, then avoid taking the plunge of moving in together quickly," Quinn advised. "This has actually been a huge dating trend during Covid 19, recent research from Match calls this dating trend 'turbocharging' where couples have accelerated moving in together, to avoid being separated by local lockdowns. Either way, whilst it's easy to get carried away with the honeymoon phase of a relationship, this is not a good indicator of whether your love will work in the long run."

Conversely, Quinn highlighted that "if you've been dating someone for a couple of years and they're still dragging their feet over moving in together, then this could also indicate that they have issues with commitment. If someone is wary of committing, take note of this and remember you shouldn't ever have to arm-twist anyone into this next important milestone."
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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together What an absolute master chef he is! I thought I was a great cook until we moved in together and he started making meals. Blew my f**king mind!

Now I think back to when we first started dating and he would eat my cooking and say it was the best he'd ever had, the little liar. Brings a smile to my face!

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I learned about just how good she looks first thing in the morning light, when she makes her toast, leans against the counter, and just crunches into it...also, how she can fill up an entire room with farts.

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It's a delicate balance, but the dating coach thinks people should look to move in together when they've already had a good enough amount of time to get to know one another and have road-tested plenty of long weekends at each other's houses, and holidays away together. "If you're finding that you're spending more time together than apart, feel really relaxed in each other's company, and the honeymoon phase is a distant memory, now could be the right time to take that next step."

However, does sharing the bills and a bed without getting married heighten the risk for divorce if the couple chooses to spend the rest of their lives together? According to a 2014 study from the nonpartisan Council on Contemporary Families, the short answer is no — moving in will not automatically make you a divorce statistic in the future. But choosing a partner too early might.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together Well this is obviously for straight people but I’ll answer anyways. Being part of a same sex couple of similar size means your wardrobes kinda morph into one.

“Are you wearing my boxers?!”

“Yeah but you’re wearing my favorite jeans right now so...”

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Straight relationship here, we had exactly the same (just minus the underwear sharing).

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together Apparently my cat — who I raised since she was a kitten and loved more than life itself — is more than willing to abandon me and love someone else far more in the blink of an eye.

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Arielle Kuperberg was a graduate student at the University of Pennsylvania when she noticed something interesting in her sociology textbooks. Reading on marriage longevity, Kuperberg observed that the age a couple said 'I do' was among the strongest predictors of divorce. All of the literature made it super clear: the reason people who married younger were more likely to divorce was that they were not mature enough to pick appropriate partners.

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She told The Atlantic that was precisely when a lightbulb went off in her head. If younger married couples were more likely to divorce, did that mean that couples who moved in together at earlier ages were also at increased risk for broken marriages?

Using data from the U.S. government's 1995, 2002, and 2006 National Surveys of Family and Growth, Kuperberg analyzed over 7,000 individuals who had been married. Some of the people she looked at were still with their spouse. Others were divorced. She looked at how old each individual was when they made their first major commitment to a partner—whether that step was marriage or cohabitation.

Kuperberg found that the longer couples waited to make that first serious commitment, the better their chances for marital success were. The research revealed that at 23—the age when many people graduate from college, settle into adult life and begin becoming financially independent—the correlation with divorce dramatically drops off. The study showed that individuals who committed to cohabitation or marriage at the age of 18 saw a 60 percent rate of divorce, whereas individuals who waited until 23 saw that number drop to around 30 percent.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together It's actually really hard to effectively shower with another person.

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Been together 8 years. Living together for 7. My girlfriend is tiny. So at the two year mark when the occasional poot noises started happening it made sense. Oh she's finally comfortable farting around me and because she's so small it's so tiny. Mine are man farts. Loud, poorly timed, and questionable damp. Throughout the years she has become more and more comfortable. The farts got longer, louder, and more frequent. These days at any given time she can let out what can only be described as a rectal battle cry. The kind that instills fear in an enemy and pure bloodthirst in an ally. She farts so loud and so violently. I assume her butthole speaks some ancient Nordic language long forgotten. Where in that tiny little body can so much gas be stored. Where was she sneaking these farts out early on? And why....why do they smell so f**king bad.

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I cracked up (no pun intended) at the rectal battle cry description.

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"Cohabitation is a great road test for marriage," Hayley Quinn said. "There's a big difference between enjoying the highlight reel of fancy dates, versus the access all areas pass you get into someone's life when you live together. Living together has the potential to turbocharge your intimacy levels: yes, you'll know more about your partner's toilet habits, but you also have the potential to feel emotionally much closer. Sharing in the responsibility of paying bills on time and keeping on top of the washing is also a great road test for the more practical elements of being married."

That being said, Quinn added that plenty of couples will cohabit with no intention of ever getting married. "For some, they may see marriage as outdated, whilst others may be pushed into cohabiting as it slashes your living costs compared to being at home. So don't assume that just because you've hit the living together milestone that it automatically means you're heading for the altar."
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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I was told that we would start arguing and being miserable. It ended up feeling like a super awesome constant sleep over. Don't let people scare you into not moving in with a significant other if that is what you both want.

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I believe all couples should move in together before getting married, you learn so much about each other and their habits.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together After living with him for 4 years, I opened a drawer of "his" dresser... And it was empty. All of it. Apparently he thought it was my extra dresser.

He doesn't use a dresser. Clothes get washed and put into a "clean clothes" hamper. He puts socks and underwear in his bedside table.

Now I'm wondering what other furniture in our house is empty??

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I always knew women went through TP faster than men, but I never knew how much faster they did. It got to the point, I'd just grab a pack of TP whenever I went to the store for any reason. We may not be out at home, but we will be soon I reckoned, and I was never wrong about that.

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Father of two daughters here. I'm beginning to suspect they feed on that thing...

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together How different our versions of ‘clean’ are.

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A classic! But it's worse for the one with the "higher standards" of clean, since it's not always possible for the more "messy" one to see that it's not "clean", which can cause frustration. Sincerely, the more "messy" one.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together That your partner may follow you around the house, just because.

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yep . my wife puts away the utensils , as i cook , even if i'm still using it , into the dish washer they go

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together How hard it is to get up in the morning when you have someone to snug

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together She's good at playing tetris and very organized

I was living with my parents since I traveled for work and only made it home one or two weekends a month. she moved in with me at my parent's house, we had one room to store stuff; my bedroom. we bought things we'd need when we moved out when we saw a deal too good to pass up and she stored them

I realized she was good when we had to make 4 trips to get all our stuff out. 4 trips. this girl had boxes inside boxes inside boxes. she utilized every inch available in our room to stack items.

we just bought a house and still have some boxes left to unpack. I will call her at work and say something like "hey, do you remember that blue paper clip I like to use? I can't find it." she will tell me which room, which box, what container, and what is beside it, just in case I still can't find it.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together For me, how subtle the need for alone time crept up on me. I wasn't unhappy in the slightest and moving in was natural. But over time I felt myself becoming irritable and it turned out that I tend to get that way when I don't have time to myself, because I went from being alone in my room after work in my parent's house to being around my SO pretty much every minute I'm not at work or driving, so I found myself with someone almost 24/7, and it took a toll. Thankfully once I recognized that, it was easier to manage

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

got to have ME time , don't matter where , just take an hour or so to yourself , my wife goes away with our daughters to London or something once a year just so we have a long weekend break from each other , 32 years married so doing some thing right

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the amount of time you spend shouting "WHAAT?" from different rooms in the house.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This drives me mad. My partner and her family all shout to each other across the house and I have to say "If you want to talk to each other GET UP AND MOVE TO THE OTHER ROOM!"

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together If you and your partner are in different rooms one of them will randomly decide to just "check in" by opening the door, smile and then going back to their separate room.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

last time i did that my wife was on the floor , collapsed , scared the s**t out of me , she was fine just over heated

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together How specific I have to be when giving instructions to do something. Like instead of saying “wash the sheets” I have to say “wash and dry the sheets and pillowcases and put new sheets on the bed”

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

yeah us men need the details , we're not stupid , just very , very lazy

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I once pulled Chewbacca out of the bathroom sink.

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once i left unintentionally my clump of hair by the sink (mind my hair is thick, therefore i shed like a dog). next thing i heard was unbelievable scare scream from the bathroom... uncle found it.... i didn't dare to ask what he thought it was :D

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together The audacity.

No but real answer is how LOUD he needs things to be. Every song/movie/whatever has to be heard from three rooms over.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Same here. I always put it the lowest possible and he loves it super loud. I dont like it but i realised that its because i can always add subtitles if the audio isnt clean but he is dislexic so he needs louder audio. I wish that movies were like videogames and you had the option of lowering the music without lowering the conversations

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together Learning that there’s a wrong way to fold towels apparently

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I had exactly two pillows in my entire house before my (now) wife moved in. She has four just on her side of the bed. There are pillows on the couch. Every chair has a pillow. We have a closet where the top shelf is more pillows.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together Definitely the food, I’d eat ramen and canned foods all the time when I was living alone. Now I get spoiled with home cooked food. the best part though is she’s been teaching me to cook, I love our cooking school sessions after work.

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Those hat things girls make with towels after a shower....their hair goes in the middle of it.....who knew?

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You mean towel “turbans”? They get our hair out of the way so we can dry our bodies without our hair dripping on us. They also kind of pre-dry our hair a bit before we actively dry it.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together My wife has really long beautiful hair. I was not prepared to find that all in my butt and crotch regions as often as I do. I could never be prepared to have one stuck in my a*s and have to pull it out like some mangy dog. I've never felt more violated or unclean than when I FELT those hairs basically floss my lower GI tract. Somehow I swallowed a few and passing them is a really disgusting feeling. She has told me that hasn't happened to her too which makes it weirder.

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He thinks it's weird that I give any house spiders a Hispanic sounding name.

So far I've used Hector, Ernesto, Ignacio... They've become my buddies. If they stay in their corners and leave me alone of course.

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While staying with a local family in Peru, my friends and I named a huge cockroach Ramon. He was chunky and when he walked on the wood floor, you could hear him coming. The family were shocked that we did this, but we felt he deserved a name.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together I thought if I ever moved in with a girl, I'd have to be way less of a slob. Turns out I'm the neat freak in this relationship.

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How much I actually talk to myself.

I never had any roommates, aside from one for like the first two weeks in college before I got moved to a single room, so I was used to just talking to myself out loud like nothing. After we moved in together and she kept asking "Who are you talking to?" and "Did you say something?" I realized that I actually talk to myself quite a bit.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together The true shock for me was the sheer amount of time my husband spends in the lavatory.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

God, YES. Me too. What on earth is he doing in there? How long can it take to poop?

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together Men are incredibly warm and sweaty while asleep, and will be sticky if they hug you as you sleep together.

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Having a HELPER... I'm always fixing or building something and as it turns out my GF is always ready to be a great helper!

She's like the kid I don't have. Pass me this, hold this, did you learn anything, think you could do that yourself in the future? It's more fun to share a project and teach than it is to accomplish by myself anyway. I think it's good for both of us.

But seeing tiny black rubber bands showing up all over the floor is a downside lol... I think she uses them for her hair.

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lol she does , i spend 10-15 mins a day looking for them for my wife

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How fast we both gained weight.

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How often I'd be helping her find her car keys.

Eventually, I put up a hook that I was able to get her in the habit of using.

Made me tear up a little at the time, but a couple weeks after we split I remember getting a text from her that said "I miss being able to find my keys."

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together His ability to be doing nothing. He can lay on the couch and stare at the ceiling and do nothing and think nothing. and he enjoys it. I would pull a muscle or pop something from the strain if i tried to do that

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I’m a woman, and I can do this—-because there are times I absolutely need to. So I generally scramble to get everything done, so I can carve out a block of time to just chill.

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That I can't just lay down and go to sleep when it's time. There absolutely must be 20 minutes worth of light and noises from the master bathroom while the wife "preps" for bed (taking makeup off, fixing hair, brushing teeth, etc.).

Oh, and when she does crawl into bed, turns the lights out, and says "I love you" I have to be awake enough to say it back.

Honestly, I may joke about it, but in the long run when one of us passes on before the other, those'll be things we miss, and absolutely cherish.

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Yeah, spot on man. My wife is dying of cancer and we've talked about this. Like when I get up, my cup is always ready with a teabag and sugar in it. We joke about it, but it's something she likes to do for me, an expression of love. And I know that the first time I get up to no cup waiting, well, I fear it will break me.. and there will be other things. While writing this is the first time I've cried. And I'd like to say thanks,Pandas, for making me smile during a dark time.

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I have never ONCE observed my wife put a bobby pin in her hair...yet I have found thousands of bobby pins in our house.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She doesn't use them for her hair, it's a treasure trail just for you.

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His brain doesn't work like my brain. I try daily to accept this. I've been working on it since 2006.

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I was surprised by the number of fights that could be prevented by just asking them to do the thing (instead of getting mad that it didn't get done). Oh, and requesting that the same be done for you.

Flip side: you really want to get to a point where you do stuff without being asked all the time (because, equality of emotional labor), but that part takes practice! haha

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

But do NOT ever expect me to read your mind—-especially if your wants and needs tend to be mercurial. Just f*****g tell me what you need or want, ffs!

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She works from home, but the television never leaves Bravo. I leave for work, Bravo. Come home, Bravo. Go on the elliptical, Bravo. 24 f**king hours of these catty women (and sometimes men) yelling at each other. Bravo always being on is like the only thing we fight about, which is probably a good thing, but Jesus Christ, always with the Bravo.

Even when I entertain her and say "What show is this?"

"Oh, Southern Charm. I don't really watch that show."

Well guess what, I've seen 50 episodes of Southern Charm passively when I come home and I know you've done 20x that. Goddamn it I hate Bravo, I'm getting a divorce.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hate having the TV on just for background noise, my mum always does that. Takes my focus away and irritates my ears. Noise cancelling headphones, hello!

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I don't think men understand how water works.

I grew up with a brother, lived with a good male friend for over a year and have currently lived with my partner for about 4 years.

Why is water (or indeed any liquid) such a difficult thing for them to understand?

Every single one of them has somehow managed to leave the bathroom soaking wet after showering. My boyfriend leaves the shower on for ages before he gets in and I thought it was so he could s**t at first but I'm pretty certain he's actually just hosing down the bathroom for a bit (probably to clean up all the piss he sprays around the room during the middle of the night).

Following showers I've never seen any of them hang a towel up in any kind of situation where it can properly dry. This also goes for putting washing on the clothes horse. I have done research (asked my sister in law) and my brother is still incapable of doing this.

This last one is singular to my Boyfriend as far as I know; the washing up water goes EVERYWHERE. Not just a puddle next to the sink but there have been puddles meters away.

I just don't get it.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I usually only have to explain hanging up towels once. Lets them dry, makes them not get stinky, less laundry. Do it.

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Having to tell him to do EVERYTHING, pick up his rubbish, tidy up, feed the dog, do the dishes, shut the door when the heater is on, close the blinds at night. I'm not usually a nag and have tried 'letting it go' to see what happens and we end up living in a dump

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Explain to him WHY. Why close the blinds at night? Neighbors want to sleep, strangers can see in.. why shut the door? Heater is more efficient COSTING LESS MONEY. Is it his dog? It will die without food, it isn't a bachelor. Clean so bugs and gross stuff doesn't get in the house. If he say he knows, you need to decide....

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Having to time/gauge your hunger with theirs.

My husband unintentionally fasts like a 17 year old model trying out for the Victoria Secret fashion show. He never. eats. anything. I’m convinced his entire daily calorie intake is from beer. He goes all day without eating a thing, then announces “I’m starving!” at 3 pm- like yeah, no s**t!!

Meanwhile I’m a snacky mcgrazer hobbit eating little meals around the clock. I guarantee I consume more calories than he does. It’s maddening to try to keep up with him in terms of starving myself and then suddenly eating one meal for the day. Especially now that I’m pregnant, it has become a logistical nightmare to sync up our hunger and desire to eat. JUST EAT LIKE I DO DAMMIT!

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Hub is a 3 meal a day meat and potato guy, I'm a no breakfast, what do I want for dinner salad eater.

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30 Couples Share Things They Realized Only After Moving In Together For me it was that my boyfriend sheds leg hair. EVERYWHERE

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That one day they will eventually forget to flush a big dump not not check to see if a flushed one went down completely.

And that one day, you'll find it and things change forever.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I will never understand how someone could forget to flush.

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The male depth perception of a clothes basket is naturally skewed. The clothes in question therefore end up beside said clothes basket rather than in it.

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He peed in the sink. That’s all.

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The pet peeves you never knew were there. For example, he doesn't like when I leave egg shells in the sink without pushing it into the garbage disposable. I don't like when he keeps getting new glasses of water because he misplaced his glass from an hour ago. They're little things, but I was so surprised how passionate I was about glassware.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

coasters , i love coasters , saves the table from rings and me having to re-wax it , LONG LIVE COASTERS

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Everything has a decorative pillow on it. They are too small to be used for anything, and I'm not allowed to throw them on the floor or pile them all on one chair. The bed has a bunch, and a long tube thing. I'm not allowed to wack her with the tube thing.

Where did these come from? Why do we need them? If they're just in the way, can we put them in storage? No? Ok, babe - whatever you want.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I don’t like them either, so rest assured that not all women are like this. Especially once they have kids.

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Everything went extremely smooth with my girlfriend and I. I attest that to having almost equal levels of cleanliness standards. I see a lot of people commenting on that and I feel very blessed that hasn't been an issue in my life. Don't know how I got so lucky with that.

But what surprises me and what I fail to understand is the vast amount of time she spends getting ready. I try to understand, but I just don't. She looks beautiful all of the time, but spends an hour and a half to two hours before going out making herself look nice. She looks incredible when shes done of course! But the whole process stresses her out and she has quoted it as a reason why she doesn't want to go out sometimes.

Even during little outings with friends she spends the same amount of time getting ready. I'm a numbers type person. That would be just too many of my seconds spent on this Earth looking nice for other people I'm not trying to physically attract. I don't press her about it because she has said its just something she wants/needs to do.

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3 years ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Women face a lot of preassure to look a certain way so we are often forced to put much more effort than men into how we look. A man with a clean face, nice shirt and jeans is deemed presentable but a woman is expected to have perfect hair, makeup and fancier clothes. I know because as a woman I wear short hair no makeup and simple clothes (unless its a formal occassion) and people really judged me for it. Ironically that includes men who complained about their girlfriend taking too long to be ready.

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My ex used a freakin planet worth of earbuds (Q-tips). Like seriously, I would clean the bathroom, the next day, 6 of them are sitting out having been used. GOD FORBID I forgot about them because the next day its 15 sitting out. Im pretty sure she is living happy somewhere with her lovely BF single handedly killing the planet with her f**king ear gunk on those little wooly bastards. She needs reusable ones for any chance of our survival.

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That eventually they stop listening to you and you possibly stop listening to them. You get comfortable, too comfortable and forget that this person, your person, needs you to not be checked out even if they are just spouting random internet stories. That is what surprises me. You think living together = being closer... it doesn't.

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Clothes cover our bedroom floor. Clean, Dirty, in between, all of her clothes are everywhere as she prefers to use the "pile system" in favour of the "drawer system" I prefer

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

My girl washes and dries laundry like a champ, but hates folding and putting away (prefers her chairdrobe). I hate doing laundry but don't mind putting it away. So she does the laundry, then plunks it in front of me and I put it away. Pretty good system.

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No matter how long you've been together, or have known each other, you truly don't know the person. I still love my husband dearly, but I wish he knew what the laundry hamper is.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Right? Mine is a extremely smart programmer and yet he cant seem to grasp that the dirty clothes belong in the laundry basket.

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Just how much where a woman is in her menstrual cycle affects her mood. I honestly thought PMS was kind of a myth before moving in with the first woman I lived with. Like I didn't think it was completely made up, but I thought the degree of the effect was overblown. Not really though. They can blow up at you for literally nothing, realize they're being irrational and still do it anyway with conviction. If you're lucky they might apologize like a week later, but that's more the exception. And it's not just like it's just one sort of mood it causes at this one specific point either. There are a whole range of emotional effects, positive and negative (but mostly negative), and they occur before, during and after her period. The quick to anger one is just the most unpleasant and well known. I can't imagine having to live like that though. I thank my lucky stars every day I don't have a vagina.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

I am a woman and this doesn't sound like me or any woman I ever lived or worked with. So I don't know if that woman (or even more than one woman?) should go to any doctor asap or if someone is being quite misogynistic. I mean, if all women are irritated when they live with you, maybe it's you. (First time is bad luck, second time is super bad luck but starting to get suspicious, third time it's you, not the others.)

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The different definitions of "Decorated". I thought a couple pictures and a plant or two was decorated. She wants like 3 things per wall with all kinds of trinkets, souvenirs, and more that all have to "match" some "style" we're going for...

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

dust magnets i call them , and yes we have a house full , of dust and dust magnets

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How many cups accumulate in our bedroom. It's extremely gross.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

They don't accumulate, both of you just do not take them to kitchen when you're done with them.

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He doesn't take the initiative to kill the creepy crawlies that waywardly stray into our apartment. If he sees a house centipede he looks at it, then promptly turns tail and walks away. Won't even tell me the damn thing is there.

I'm a girl who grew up having to call dad to kill spiders and bugs and s**t so it's weird that I now have to be the one to viciously murder every insect who comes inside.

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I always thought of women as tidy and organized. That was until I moved in with one. I swear I spend 20 minutes a day helping SO tidy up the mess she creates in the first hour every morning. Then another 10 minutes every day searching for brushes, hairbands, make-up, clothes etc.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

She’ll get more organized, especially once she advances in her career, and/or you have kids. Because she will have to.

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I had always left the seat up. For years. She fell in the toilet our first week living together. The fight was pretty good. She insisted that I put the seat down, I insisted that she look at the toilet before sitting on it.

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3 years ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

lift to pee the close to flush , pretty standard

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A lot of it’s been mentioned. Bobby pins everywhere. Hair everywhere. She was not a clean person. I did the cleaning.

But one thing that hasn’t been mentioned is just the sheer amount accessories that she had! Tons of makeup and beauty products. A vanity full of of it. Plus more. Lots of clothes. Tons of clothes she didn’t wear.

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