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32 Things That Only Attractive People Can Get Away With, As Shared In This Viral Thread
In a 2005 experiment modeling the hiring process, would-be employers were ready to give 10.5% higher salaries to attractive candidates over unattractive ones.
Similarly, according to a paper on the 2018 congressional midterms, good-looking candidates are more likely to get elected.
Psychologists call it the "beauty premium." Essentially, the income gap between attractive and unattractive people is comparable to the gap between genders or ethnicities.
Interested in other ways this double standard manifests, Redditor u/Routine_Astronaut182 posted a question on r/AskReddit, saying: "What's something attractive people can do that ugly people can't?" and it blew up. Here are some of the most popular replies it has received.
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#1
Singer / artist. Even though looks have nothing to do with talent. Makes me wonder how many amazing voices are not being heard because the record company old fat dudes don't think the artist is hot
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#2
Playing the male role in romantic movie. If the guy from 50 shades of Gray was overweight and balding it would be a horror flick.
Natalie Cilla 1 year ago
It is a horror movie anyway. Both the story and the acting are giving me nightmares 🙈
#3
Be into weird s**t but it's still cool, like anime, if you're ugly and into anime you're a "weirdo freak". But if you're hot and into Anime "OMG you like anime? That's so cool, you're so artsy and edgy" lmfao
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
As cosplayer, this one always drives me nuts. I can spend hours literally getting every detail right, but as an unnattractive man, I will never be as popular as even a moderately attractive woman who shows a little skin. One of the self titled 'queens of cosplay' is only famous because she wore a 'cosplay' that was literally underwear with ears and a tail.
#4
When I was smaller, I:
- was called a bombshell
- male friends had crushes on me
- I got free drinks at the bar
- I was let off a stunting ticket without a warning
- got cat called
- worked as a waitress
- men came to me
When I gained 50 lbs, I:
- was told never to wear a certain pair of leggings again
- get screamed at/called fat by homeless people
- buy my own drinks
- have trouble finding a waitressing job
- was given a stunting ticket
- male friends became platonic and say “you’re pretty, you’ll find someone”
- get rejected constantly
Edit; forgot to add being skinnier you have a better “fashion sense”. My chonky self has an awesome sense of fashion but if I wore half the s**t I wanted to I would get laughed at!
François Bouzigues 1 year ago
Not getting compliments Buying your own drinks Never escaping tickets Platonic friendship (which i is something highly valuable) Frequent rejection That´s male life 101. I can see how it sucks somehow. Abuse from homeless and being told not to wear something is totally uncalled and not something i can relate to.
#5
I have a good-looking business partner. We are constantly delegating tasks based on whether we need Sasquatch or Captain America.
Take me to dinner first 1 year ago
I'm super interested in knowing what do you guys do for a living, because I cannot see a single environment that involves sasquatch and captain america
#6
Dressing bad. Attractive people can wear literal rags and look go. Ugly people have to dress to the 9 just to have a chance.
Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
Said to a friend - "I can't find anything to wear. I'm too fat" - She answered, "You look beautiful" I said " Thanks, but I didn't say I was ugly"
#7
Getting noticed quickly and hence promotions quickly- ive realized its easier to climb the corporate ladder being attractive and lazy than ugly and hardworking
#8
I dated an extremely attractive charismatic man once. It was genuinely scary what he could pull off, he could definitely be a cult leader. Now when I go on dates if I see their charisma manipulating situations it’s an instant no. Sh*ts scary
#9
get out of prison for a felony, immediately get a modeling contract and start dating an heiress
#10
I’ve had one of my friends get rejected because the girl found the best friend of that guy (me) to be too ugly.
My friend got rejected because IM UGLY.
María Hermida 1 year ago
No. Your friend was rejected because the girl was an imbecile. He dodged a bullet.
#11
Anyone can ask, but attractive people are so much more likely to get help from strangers. Just a sad little twisted fact of life.
Themoonprincess 1 year ago
There was a dog in our college bus stop looking starved and emaciated. People just ignored him or threw stones at him because he wasn't looking cute. I fed him and he began to look normal. Then everybody was nice to him.
#12
Mess up at their job/ life in general. They will always not get blamed and get help from everybody. My friend got yelled at at her job for sending a shipment of mail to the wrong zip code. When she explained that it wasn't her, but her pretty coworker Vanessa that did it, the supervisor's mood immediately changed, and said "oh, she must have just not known". Infuriating.
Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
Sack Vanessa, and demote supervisor. Promote the poor guy working his guts off for years,, yet nobody even knows he exists.
#13
Always having dating options. Not actively seeking out potential partners. Potential partners seek them out.
David Wambold 1 year ago
I am an average looking person, but I couldn't bring my dates home because my brother was gorgeous. He could care less about them, but they would swoon.
#14
Receive the fastest service from bartenders. Cut lines. Have prospective employers "see potential" and attain jobs without being totally qualified.
Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
Is that why I work on my own delivering goods for Amazon, even thogh i have an engineering degree?
#15
People will go completely out of their way to do things for them. Moving? Something broke? Card declined? Someone will help them.
#16
Yeah, its called the halo effect. We tend to assume attractive people are nicer and smarter.
#17
Haggling for price reductions on anything. I seriously had a friend who got discounted gas at the gas station from the owners son. She was hot with annoying baby voice and played dumb even with her phd and it almost always worked.
Khall Khall 1 year ago
Having worked in a call center as a man...the number of ladies who turned their southern accent (US) up to 11 when they wanted to get extra help really surprised me. It probably shouldn't have but I understand and respect the hustle. ;)
Wondering Alice 1 year ago
I don't much mind people playing on their looks a little. I don't have a problem with hot clever people playing dumb to get stuff. But grown women using baby voices.... I find it hard to hide my instinct to play like a toddler too and stick my fingers in my ears.
Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
A pretty face is nothing if you have an ugly heart. When the pretty goes, then you are truly fu*ked.
Monday 1 year ago
Sure but that doesn't really apply here though, since pretty face has a PhD. Even if she sucked as a human that PhD will still get her far.
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#19
Flirt without cringe backlash
Doctor Strange 1 year ago
Speaking from experience, nothing hurts like asking someone out and having them respond with something along the lines of "ew!"
#20
My weight fluctuates due to depressive episodes and I 100% see a stark difference in social interactions. Lots of eye contact and casual touching when I am skinnier. When babies stare at me in public places like grocery stores I always smile and wave and when I am skinny parents tend to say things like "say hi to the nice man" or some such pleasantries and when I am larger people tend to need something in the other aisle immediately.
Karl der Große 1 year ago
I got to see it from both sides as well. I am a biggish guy, and it was a social liability in my home town. When I moved to Texas, being big was actually attractive. The way I was treated was dramatically different. I'm a guy, and I know that the difference in treatment is 10 - 80 times more extreme for women.
#21
Get good tips as a waitress/waiter without REALLY trying.
Moezzzz 1 year ago
My ex looks like Ben Affleck, and when we were younger, we both worked for a restaurant. He'd consistently make more in tips bc people would see him and think "omg! It's Ben Affleck!" Like that dude would ever be working as a server in Mississippi. We'd have bets to see who would make the most each night and damn if he didn't usually win
#22
Be broke, unemployed, or a criminal and people will still think you're a catch.
Tucker Cahooter 1 year ago
Look at all the fans that Ted Bundy had even after he had been convicted and was on death row
#23
Not get called a creep or weirdo for flirting or trying to chat to someone.
I give up on society 1 year ago
Weird most just say thank you, or run away screaming or try to hand me their purse or wallet. Not sure what going wrong.
#24
Get away with stuff. Cut line, talk their way out of a speeding ticket. Get hired.
#25
I’ve noticed that people are more patient with my stutter. My sisters boyfriend is… not conventionally attractive and he stutters too. Some people just outright ignore him. Pisses me off that double standard exists.
Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
So angry with this. A pretty face is destroyed by an ugly personality.
#26
Treating people poorly or just being generally unpleasant to be around but yet not be ostracized from social groups and having people put up with their s**t
#27
They can be a******s and get away with It. Oh and they are allowed to be stupid. Their pretty faces Will make up for that
#28
Get the benefit of the doubt. Been using it my whole life
#29
Get conversation without much effort.
If an unattractive person is at a venue and doesn't know anybody it can be a lonely experience. If you are attractive, people will try to make conversation with you all the time. I know plenty of attractive people who are not at all interesting but have tons of friends because everyone wants a good looking person around them.
Wysteria_Rose 1 year ago
I remember my first week at college, there were these guys at a frat table with signs that said "free hugs." I was shy, very withdrawn, but I was trying SO hard to be social and put myself out on the new college scene. Of course, all of these slim and really beautiful girls were getting hugs, being talked to all happily. I walked up, the guy looked me up and down, smirked, and said, 'how about a free handshake?' I was too stunned to do or say anything but that really bruised me. I wasn't ugly, but I wasn't "hot," so to some people it's the same thing. I hope that guy's receding hairline has reached his neck by now.
#30
Bold fashion choices.
Stephanie Barr 1 year ago
I totally love that BTS can wear anything and make it work. They are beautiful but they got a LOT of flack for several members not being handsome enough to be idols. I hope they laugh now. They are all beautiful, inside even more than outside.
#31
I was attractive once. I could get away with anything. Literally. I shoplifted from a store once and a lady officer saw me, followed me outside, questioned me, we bulls**ted for a while. I joked that I was terrible at crime. She laughed and let me go with a warning.
#32
I'd say I'm an 7/10. If I go out with friends that are 9s, they give the cheerleader effect where I suddenly get perceived as a 9 also. Works great for me. Get free entry, cheap or free drinks, etc.
This does not work the other way around. If I go out with a friend that's say 5/10,. my 7/10 isn't enough to bring the cheerleader effect, but their 5 doesn't seem to affect my 7... if that makes sense
What do you think ?
Lesley Christie 1 year ago
I have been fat and been subject to the most horrific treatment. I've lost weight recently and suddenly that treatment is completely different, on the whole. Most people don't know why I was fat, or the reason why I have lost weight and its not important. I was the same kind, friendly, genuine person at all my different weights but when I was fat I felt that nothing in my character could ever make up for how I looked. It's makes ne so sad.
fair_weather_rose (she/they) 1 year ago
I don't like these. I am definitely "plus sized," but I can look pretty attractive when I want to. A lot of "ugly people" just don't know how to dress for their body type, and end up looking bad because their clothes don't fit them correctly. I don't like how a lot of these posts seem to suggest that fat=ugly and skinny=attractive (which apparently also means your life will be a million times better and people will just give you stuff randomly?). I really hate this kind of stereotyping, and I don't understand why BP would have an article like this.
Salty.Hag 1 year ago
Yassss!!!! 100% agree!! Size doesn't matter if you know how to carry your weight you can enamore anyone! :)
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Tiny Dancer 1 year ago (edited)
I was a babe in my 20s. 59 now, I've since had a baby and spent the last 11 years caring for my cancer-stricken hubby. The weight I spent my life trying to lose has come back. At a local restaurant just yesterday with my autistic son. We didn't order anything weird or have any special requests. Burger, fries, and a pop for him, grilled cheese and water for me. I had to ask other waitresses to tell OUR waitress we needed attention, it was ridiculous! I watched every single table around us being catered to, while we drank warm drinks after the cubes melted and then our drinks were literally empty. As I paid the bill, I said, "I know I don't look like the rest of these folks and we're definitely not in the same tax bracket, but at the end of the day, I'm your customer and it would be nice to be treated as such." I'm tired of being treated like a nobody because I'm not a size zero! Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Diolla 1 year ago
SLightly OT but I have to say it. Many ppl who are very attractive don't do so well later in life. Because when they get older they lose their attractiveness and find out they lack many of the skills "normal" ppl needed to develop to go forward in life. If stuff is handed to you on a plate all the time that does not necessarily build a good character. This goes for very attractive ppl but also for very famous ppl. Not all of them of course, but there's a pattern.
whaaaaaaaaaa 1 year ago
I don't see how this post benefits anybody. It just seems like a new way of stereotyping people. I've seen and talked to many people who would be considered attractive to very attractive that went through some tough s**t and weren't treated so well. At the same time, I've met people who would not be considered "attractive" that have great lives and lots of friends and LOTS OF LUCK. This is called exactly stereotyping and it's funny how we started not to accept stereotyping on different matters but we let this one slide. Not okay. It can happen a lot, sure, but not always. Just because it happens, it doesn't mean you should be assuming. Do you know how sad it can be for an attractive person who's gone through so much to be told smth like "ah but you're attractive, you don't experience anything like that". Yes some do, yes they can. 100%. Stop doing this kind of things cause it's just wrong.
Toby Flenderson 1 year ago
No one has suggested nothing bad happens to good-looking people. It's not stereotyping to point out how beneficial being attractive is.
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 1 year ago
There is also a backlash to all this attractiveness culture. My wife is skinny and attractive... and not show-offy. Most of the other people she's worked with are obese. That's not their fault; the stress of her job could make anyone put away the pounds like crazy. But they are vicious towards her. She's like Nermal to their Garfield; it's thought that because they're fat, they're justified in no limit of cruelty. (Look up Nermal, if you're not familiar; the entirety of the humor is that it's funny that fat Garfield hates tiny Nermal.) And any admin thinks that she must be doing something to get them angry. It's not even jealousy; It's something deeper, like being small made it as if justice demand she be abused.
Scarlett 1 year ago
Yep. Before my ED started, I made my first ever TikTok video and had to take it down because of the horrible comments. People, including people’s whose profiles (yes, I looked) said they were body positive, were skinny-shaming me non-stop, telling me that I looked like a 2 by 4. And then my school nickname post ED was skeleton b***h. Now I’m a healthy weight (but still skinny) but I developed curves and a chest and boom, no more body-shaming. Funny how stuff like that works.
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Jessica SpeLangm 1 year ago
I think that the USA is worse about all this than most of the other countries on this planet. I think that MOST people in the USA are just way too vain and need to stop it.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
Meanwhile our food is piled with sugar and fat. The whole situation is so f****d. Lol
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Biljana Malesevic 1 year ago
I didn't even notice how privileged I was because of my looks until I turned 43 or 44. Suddenly, almost over night, people attitude towards me changed so much, and then I noticed it. They stopped being nice to me, 90% of times. People would look right through me and whatever I ask or say just reply with tired, flat voice and no smile, just empty stare "yes, madam", "sure, madam", "no, madam" and then ignored me. Basically most people stopped being polite to me and a lot of people totally ignored I exist even when I was talking to them. Also, a lot of them became extremely rude to me. I was sadly unaware that my looks gave me advantage when I was younger so I noticed the change when I got older. It was shocking! People totally treat you like c**p, at best, ignore you. Two days ago, some man yelled and screamed at me because I "dared" to feed stray cat and he found that obnoxious. I can't get away with anything anymore just because my looks faded.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
If that is you in your profile pic, you are not ugly.
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D. Pitbull 1 year ago
Try ... being female or female presenting - and yes, I mean from childhood to adulthood to being a senior... if you're not attractive, you're barely considered human. People walk away from you mid-sentence (even if you're answering a question THEY asked)... if others hurt you (physically or mentally), they shrug and say "oh yeah, my bad I guess" - even legally, bringing allegations of abuse or proof of wrongdoing - you have to do MILES more work to get a case, otherwise you're just brushed off as a non-person. Your entire humanity is null and void.
Squirrelly Panda 1 year ago
While looks help, charisma and confidence are also strong factors in how you're treated.
The Original Bruno 1 year ago (edited)
Confidence and charisma are not separate from looks. There are rare exceptions (Melissa McCarthy, Rush Limbaugh) of fat or not-conventionally attractive people, for instance, having charisma.* A welcome advance is "confidence," but an unwelcome advance is "creepy," and an advance from an attractive guy is always going to be more welcome than an advance from an unattractive guy. The hope for less objectively, conventionally attractive people is that there are people who find whatever makes them look different from the conventionally attractive person will be attractive to someone. But it's hard to be "confident" when an unwanted advance is treated with such scorn. (Turns out I could've erred way more on the confident side; I was a little shocked after I was "claimed" by my wife at who acted jealous towards her.)
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MushroomHead22 1 year ago
So not really 32 things, since like 75% of the things listed are all identical, but with a twist.
Rosie 1 year ago
Stereotypes are forever & people like what they like, I can live w/it as a fact of life. That said, I've had people (including doctors) congratulate me on losing 10-15 lbs, not one thought on asking me why it had happened. All knew I'm a cancer patient & at the time was going through bouts of anxiety. Be as fatphobic as you want, but please remember losing weight is not necessarily a good thing!
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
This is so true. I always hold back on complimenting people when I notice they've lost weight, even if they appear healthier.... You really have no clue. Thank you for sharing, and I hope you're doing alright. ❤️
Load More Replies... Salty.Hag 1 year ago
Pros - Get better seats in airplanes, people treat you a lot nicer, get help faster, convince people about almost anything, the list goes on. Cons - creeps, too much unwanted attention, rude men when you don't react to their advances, stalkers, people automatically think you got it made. It's nice being attractive but it also sucks.
Amelia 1 year ago
I never know what to feel or take away from these posts, I hear people saying this all the time. I'm not the most attractive person in the room but I fit a few beauty standards that have been set by the world, and I feel bad about being happy with the way I look. Surely that's not the message I should be taking away from this saying, so what is? My boyfriend often says life is more difficult for him because he doesn't meet a lot of the delusional beauty standards met for men, but it doesn't make me love him any less. And to me he's always the most attractive man in the world. My sad and maybe unnecessary secret confession is that I know I'm not always the most physically attractive woman in the room to him, but he says he's allowed to look, just not touch. It's not that he flirts with others, he says it's just the way a man's brains work. I don't always know how to feel about that but I try and be understanding. Oh geez this comment got away from me, sorry, ending it now @_@
whaaaaaaaaaa 1 year ago
Saying he's allowed to "look just not touch" sounds out of place to tell your girlfriend if it doesn't make her feel comfortable. It is okay to be said if it's a joke between the two of you but otherwise that sounds terrible and I'm referring to his phrasing on this one.
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Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
This page is awful as it is an invitation for many hurtful insults and derrogatory comments. True beauty is 'holistic'. Bored Panda deletes many comments, so if they abide by their own standards, they should delete this page.
Kevin J. Henning 1 year ago
Nothing new here. It's all been done before and will continue as long as people have good eyesight and poor judgement.
Mr.Kris 1 year ago
My ex was a professional model, a beautiful guy & a genuinely nice guy too. I noticed very early on how things just came to him so easily- little or no effort on his part- simply because people are attracted to attractive people and often are over-willing to provide things (whatever you can think of) just to be in their sphere. He was completely unaware too because he'd always been treated like this because he had always been super good looking. An example: No clue what it was like to wait in line at a club or concert or not just be handed tickets to whatever event was the 'it' event to be at, etc. Super caring, sweet guy though!
amanda goss 1 year ago
Same! Two different ones, actually. First was dumb as a rock, but had no idea bc of the way he was treated. He was a super-duper sweetheart, though. Even with his job, he never seemed to realize that he was the most gorgeous man in any room. 2nd was super aware and manipulated any situation bc of it. He picked me up by sniffing me up my torso to my neck and telling me how wonderful I smelled (it was deodorant) and then getting me a (free for him) coffee. He was an adventure and a lesson learned. Way preferred the first!
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Snow_White 1 year ago
I'm not convinced it's just about being attractive and I think it's about being charismatic more than anything.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
Not sure of your specific situation, but I think the only way one can tell for sure is if they've been on both ends of the stick. For some people, like myself, being charismatic takes a whole lot of effort....I am a hardcore introvert so that doesn't come easy. (Not saying there is no such thing as a charismatic introvert, but I definitely think it takes a lot more out of us in general) But being slimmer I have definitely noticed that I do not have to put in near as much of an effort, or even open my mouth really, to feel seen and heard. It's f****d up.
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 1 year ago (edited)
Let's be blunt: Get laid. Our entire society is built now on one principal: everybody should be able to have sex with any type of person. Not ready for a child? No reason to quit having sex! But here's the problem: This applies only to attractive people. And the wierd thing is that instead of, "well, this poor loser HAS to be a little more pushy," we attack them as despicable "incels." We tell them, "you just have to give someone a chance to like you," and then treat it like some horrible deception when a guy tries to befriend a woman first. And then we treat inexperience itself like it's leprosy. For all the hatred of "nice-guy" incels, you think that handsome stud isn't ALSO trying to get into your pants? Those literally nice guys who are single and NOT simply after sex, have you thought of picking one of them out and busting a move on THEM? (My wife DID this, so no, I am not an incel, but I do have empathy for them and she's so attractive, you'd think I'm a hypocrite.)
Greenmantle 1 year ago
If we all worked on our "b******t deflectors" as much as the people pictured worked on their image... we'd be a wise, and psychologically rich bunch of humans.
Yoyo 1 year ago
There's a difference between looking really ugly and trying to look good anyways. Seriously people, no one would watch Ten Shades if everyone looked like trolls. Stop being a victim and blame everyone else.
Lesley Christie 1 year ago
I have been fat and been subject to the most horrific treatment. I've lost weight recently and suddenly that treatment is completely different, on the whole. Most people don't know why I was fat, or the reason why I have lost weight and its not important. I was the same kind, friendly, genuine person at all my different weights but when I was fat I felt that nothing in my character could ever make up for how I looked. It's makes ne so sad.
fair_weather_rose (she/they) 1 year ago
I don't like these. I am definitely "plus sized," but I can look pretty attractive when I want to. A lot of "ugly people" just don't know how to dress for their body type, and end up looking bad because their clothes don't fit them correctly. I don't like how a lot of these posts seem to suggest that fat=ugly and skinny=attractive (which apparently also means your life will be a million times better and people will just give you stuff randomly?). I really hate this kind of stereotyping, and I don't understand why BP would have an article like this.
Salty.Hag 1 year ago
Yassss!!!! 100% agree!! Size doesn't matter if you know how to carry your weight you can enamore anyone! :)
Load More Replies... Tiny Dancer 1 year ago (edited)
I was a babe in my 20s. 59 now, I've since had a baby and spent the last 11 years caring for my cancer-stricken hubby. The weight I spent my life trying to lose has come back. At a local restaurant just yesterday with my autistic son. We didn't order anything weird or have any special requests. Burger, fries, and a pop for him, grilled cheese and water for me. I had to ask other waitresses to tell OUR waitress we needed attention, it was ridiculous! I watched every single table around us being catered to, while we drank warm drinks after the cubes melted and then our drinks were literally empty. As I paid the bill, I said, "I know I don't look like the rest of these folks and we're definitely not in the same tax bracket, but at the end of the day, I'm your customer and it would be nice to be treated as such." I'm tired of being treated like a nobody because I'm not a size zero! Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
Diolla 1 year ago
SLightly OT but I have to say it. Many ppl who are very attractive don't do so well later in life. Because when they get older they lose their attractiveness and find out they lack many of the skills "normal" ppl needed to develop to go forward in life. If stuff is handed to you on a plate all the time that does not necessarily build a good character. This goes for very attractive ppl but also for very famous ppl. Not all of them of course, but there's a pattern.
whaaaaaaaaaa 1 year ago
I don't see how this post benefits anybody. It just seems like a new way of stereotyping people. I've seen and talked to many people who would be considered attractive to very attractive that went through some tough s**t and weren't treated so well. At the same time, I've met people who would not be considered "attractive" that have great lives and lots of friends and LOTS OF LUCK. This is called exactly stereotyping and it's funny how we started not to accept stereotyping on different matters but we let this one slide. Not okay. It can happen a lot, sure, but not always. Just because it happens, it doesn't mean you should be assuming. Do you know how sad it can be for an attractive person who's gone through so much to be told smth like "ah but you're attractive, you don't experience anything like that". Yes some do, yes they can. 100%. Stop doing this kind of things cause it's just wrong.
Toby Flenderson 1 year ago
No one has suggested nothing bad happens to good-looking people. It's not stereotyping to point out how beneficial being attractive is.
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 1 year ago
There is also a backlash to all this attractiveness culture. My wife is skinny and attractive... and not show-offy. Most of the other people she's worked with are obese. That's not their fault; the stress of her job could make anyone put away the pounds like crazy. But they are vicious towards her. She's like Nermal to their Garfield; it's thought that because they're fat, they're justified in no limit of cruelty. (Look up Nermal, if you're not familiar; the entirety of the humor is that it's funny that fat Garfield hates tiny Nermal.) And any admin thinks that she must be doing something to get them angry. It's not even jealousy; It's something deeper, like being small made it as if justice demand she be abused.
Scarlett 1 year ago
Yep. Before my ED started, I made my first ever TikTok video and had to take it down because of the horrible comments. People, including people’s whose profiles (yes, I looked) said they were body positive, were skinny-shaming me non-stop, telling me that I looked like a 2 by 4. And then my school nickname post ED was skeleton b***h. Now I’m a healthy weight (but still skinny) but I developed curves and a chest and boom, no more body-shaming. Funny how stuff like that works.
Load More Replies... Jessica SpeLangm 1 year ago
I think that the USA is worse about all this than most of the other countries on this planet. I think that MOST people in the USA are just way too vain and need to stop it.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
Meanwhile our food is piled with sugar and fat. The whole situation is so f****d. Lol
Load More Replies... Biljana Malesevic 1 year ago
I didn't even notice how privileged I was because of my looks until I turned 43 or 44. Suddenly, almost over night, people attitude towards me changed so much, and then I noticed it. They stopped being nice to me, 90% of times. People would look right through me and whatever I ask or say just reply with tired, flat voice and no smile, just empty stare "yes, madam", "sure, madam", "no, madam" and then ignored me. Basically most people stopped being polite to me and a lot of people totally ignored I exist even when I was talking to them. Also, a lot of them became extremely rude to me. I was sadly unaware that my looks gave me advantage when I was younger so I noticed the change when I got older. It was shocking! People totally treat you like c**p, at best, ignore you. Two days ago, some man yelled and screamed at me because I "dared" to feed stray cat and he found that obnoxious. I can't get away with anything anymore just because my looks faded.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago
If that is you in your profile pic, you are not ugly.
Load More Replies... D. Pitbull 1 year ago
Try ... being female or female presenting - and yes, I mean from childhood to adulthood to being a senior... if you're not attractive, you're barely considered human. People walk away from you mid-sentence (even if you're answering a question THEY asked)... if others hurt you (physically or mentally), they shrug and say "oh yeah, my bad I guess" - even legally, bringing allegations of abuse or proof of wrongdoing - you have to do MILES more work to get a case, otherwise you're just brushed off as a non-person. Your entire humanity is null and void.
Squirrelly Panda 1 year ago
While looks help, charisma and confidence are also strong factors in how you're treated.
The Original Bruno 1 year ago (edited)
Confidence and charisma are not separate from looks. There are rare exceptions (Melissa McCarthy, Rush Limbaugh) of fat or not-conventionally attractive people, for instance, having charisma.* A welcome advance is "confidence," but an unwelcome advance is "creepy," and an advance from an attractive guy is always going to be more welcome than an advance from an unattractive guy. The hope for less objectively, conventionally attractive people is that there are people who find whatever makes them look different from the conventionally attractive person will be attractive to someone. But it's hard to be "confident" when an unwanted advance is treated with such scorn. (Turns out I could've erred way more on the confident side; I was a little shocked after I was "claimed" by my wife at who acted jealous towards her.)
Load More Replies... MushroomHead22 1 year ago
So not really 32 things, since like 75% of the things listed are all identical, but with a twist.
Rosie 1 year ago
Stereotypes are forever & people like what they like, I can live w/it as a fact of life. That said, I've had people (including doctors) congratulate me on losing 10-15 lbs, not one thought on asking me why it had happened. All knew I'm a cancer patient & at the time was going through bouts of anxiety. Be as fatphobic as you want, but please remember losing weight is not necessarily a good thing!
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
This is so true. I always hold back on complimenting people when I notice they've lost weight, even if they appear healthier.... You really have no clue. Thank you for sharing, and I hope you're doing alright. ❤️
Load More Replies... Salty.Hag 1 year ago
Pros - Get better seats in airplanes, people treat you a lot nicer, get help faster, convince people about almost anything, the list goes on. Cons - creeps, too much unwanted attention, rude men when you don't react to their advances, stalkers, people automatically think you got it made. It's nice being attractive but it also sucks.
Amelia 1 year ago
I never know what to feel or take away from these posts, I hear people saying this all the time. I'm not the most attractive person in the room but I fit a few beauty standards that have been set by the world, and I feel bad about being happy with the way I look. Surely that's not the message I should be taking away from this saying, so what is? My boyfriend often says life is more difficult for him because he doesn't meet a lot of the delusional beauty standards met for men, but it doesn't make me love him any less. And to me he's always the most attractive man in the world. My sad and maybe unnecessary secret confession is that I know I'm not always the most physically attractive woman in the room to him, but he says he's allowed to look, just not touch. It's not that he flirts with others, he says it's just the way a man's brains work. I don't always know how to feel about that but I try and be understanding. Oh geez this comment got away from me, sorry, ending it now @_@
whaaaaaaaaaa 1 year ago
Saying he's allowed to "look just not touch" sounds out of place to tell your girlfriend if it doesn't make her feel comfortable. It is okay to be said if it's a joke between the two of you but otherwise that sounds terrible and I'm referring to his phrasing on this one.
Load More Replies... Seamus Crumley 1 year ago
This page is awful as it is an invitation for many hurtful insults and derrogatory comments. True beauty is 'holistic'. Bored Panda deletes many comments, so if they abide by their own standards, they should delete this page.
Kevin J. Henning 1 year ago
Nothing new here. It's all been done before and will continue as long as people have good eyesight and poor judgement.
Mr.Kris 1 year ago
My ex was a professional model, a beautiful guy & a genuinely nice guy too. I noticed very early on how things just came to him so easily- little or no effort on his part- simply because people are attracted to attractive people and often are over-willing to provide things (whatever you can think of) just to be in their sphere. He was completely unaware too because he'd always been treated like this because he had always been super good looking. An example: No clue what it was like to wait in line at a club or concert or not just be handed tickets to whatever event was the 'it' event to be at, etc. Super caring, sweet guy though!
amanda goss 1 year ago
Same! Two different ones, actually. First was dumb as a rock, but had no idea bc of the way he was treated. He was a super-duper sweetheart, though. Even with his job, he never seemed to realize that he was the most gorgeous man in any room. 2nd was super aware and manipulated any situation bc of it. He picked me up by sniffing me up my torso to my neck and telling me how wonderful I smelled (it was deodorant) and then getting me a (free for him) coffee. He was an adventure and a lesson learned. Way preferred the first!
Load More Replies... Snow_White 1 year ago
I'm not convinced it's just about being attractive and I think it's about being charismatic more than anything.
Lana Lana Banana 1 year ago (edited)
Not sure of your specific situation, but I think the only way one can tell for sure is if they've been on both ends of the stick. For some people, like myself, being charismatic takes a whole lot of effort....I am a hardcore introvert so that doesn't come easy. (Not saying there is no such thing as a charismatic introvert, but I definitely think it takes a lot more out of us in general) But being slimmer I have definitely noticed that I do not have to put in near as much of an effort, or even open my mouth really, to feel seen and heard. It's f****d up.
Load More Replies... The Original Bruno 1 year ago (edited)
Let's be blunt: Get laid. Our entire society is built now on one principal: everybody should be able to have sex with any type of person. Not ready for a child? No reason to quit having sex! But here's the problem: This applies only to attractive people. And the wierd thing is that instead of, "well, this poor loser HAS to be a little more pushy," we attack them as despicable "incels." We tell them, "you just have to give someone a chance to like you," and then treat it like some horrible deception when a guy tries to befriend a woman first. And then we treat inexperience itself like it's leprosy. For all the hatred of "nice-guy" incels, you think that handsome stud isn't ALSO trying to get into your pants? Those literally nice guys who are single and NOT simply after sex, have you thought of picking one of them out and busting a move on THEM? (My wife DID this, so no, I am not an incel, but I do have empathy for them and she's so attractive, you'd think I'm a hypocrite.)
Greenmantle 1 year ago
If we all worked on our "b******t deflectors" as much as the people pictured worked on their image... we'd be a wise, and psychologically rich bunch of humans.
Yoyo 1 year ago
There's a difference between looking really ugly and trying to look good anyways. Seriously people, no one would watch Ten Shades if everyone looked like trolls. Stop being a victim and blame everyone else.
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